The document outlines 5 steps for having difficult conversations: 1) Prepare by considering different perspectives; 2) Check your purpose and decide if the issue needs to be raised; 3) Start from a place of understanding different perspectives; 4) Explore all stories and perspectives; 5) Problem-solve by considering all options and standards. It provides guidance for each step, such as inquiring with open-ended questions, acknowledging feelings, and inventing options for resolution. The overall aim is to have authentic conversations that understand multiple perspectives and jointly solve problems.
Whether they take place at work or at home, with your neighbors or co-founder, crucial conversations can have a profound impact on your career, your happiness, and your future. You will learn how to: Prepare for high-impact situations, Make it safe to talk about almost anything, Be persuasive, not abrasive, Keep listening when others blow up or clam up, Turn crucial conversations into the action and results you want
Dealing with difficult conversations at work Richard Riche
Difficult conversations can be challenging in the workplace and can lead to conflict if handled poorly. Tips on how to prepare for these conversations, get the right mindset and build an Engaged workforce using Emotional Intelligence and the Neuroscience of the brain.
Whether they take place at work or at home, with your neighbors or co-founder, crucial conversations can have a profound impact on your career, your happiness, and your future. You will learn how to: Prepare for high-impact situations, Make it safe to talk about almost anything, Be persuasive, not abrasive, Keep listening when others blow up or clam up, Turn crucial conversations into the action and results you want
Dealing with difficult conversations at work Richard Riche
Difficult conversations can be challenging in the workplace and can lead to conflict if handled poorly. Tips on how to prepare for these conversations, get the right mindset and build an Engaged workforce using Emotional Intelligence and the Neuroscience of the brain.
These are the slides from a workshop I am running, it definitely doesn't quite translate to self paced online, but you get an idea of some of the stuff. Please provide comments if you have any feedback!
Managing Difficult Conversations:9 Questions to Ask YourselfBarbara Greene
Do you avoid difficult conversations? There is no need to avoid them if you focus on the constructive possibilities. Start by asking yourself these 9 critical questions.
We all have difficult conversations in our lives that we have a natural tendency to avoid. However, effective organizations and effective individuals know how and when to hold these conversations.
We attempt or avoid difficult conversations every day-whether dealing with an underperforming employee, disagreeing with a spouse, or negotiating with a client. From the Harvard Negotiation Project, the organization that brought you Getting to Yes, Difficult Conversations provides a step-by-step approach to having those tough conversations with less stress and more success. you’ll learn how to:
· Decipher the underlying structure of every difficult conversation
· Start a conversation without defensiveness
· Listen for the meaning of what is not said
· Stay balanced in the face of attacks and accusations
· Move from emotion to productive problem solving
Training Slide Deck
Tips on Difficult Conversations
-What to think about when preparing for difficult conversations
-Things to remember during difficult conversations
- Top 6 mistakes that can turn difficult conversations into disasters.
The objective of this module is to
Identify difficult interpersonal situations
Learn how to initiate and close conversations in difficult situations
Minimize destructive conversations
Develop precise questions to conduct a skillful conversation.
Engage in open and productive conversations
Workplace Conflict & Strategies for ManagementJharna Jagtiani
Conflict is a normal and natural part of any workplace. When it occurs, there is a tendency for morale to be lowered, an increase in absenteeism and decreased productivity. It has been estimated that managers spend at least 25 percent of their time resolving workplace conflicts – causing lowered office performance.
These are the slides from a workshop I am running, it definitely doesn't quite translate to self paced online, but you get an idea of some of the stuff. Please provide comments if you have any feedback!
Managing Difficult Conversations:9 Questions to Ask YourselfBarbara Greene
Do you avoid difficult conversations? There is no need to avoid them if you focus on the constructive possibilities. Start by asking yourself these 9 critical questions.
We all have difficult conversations in our lives that we have a natural tendency to avoid. However, effective organizations and effective individuals know how and when to hold these conversations.
We attempt or avoid difficult conversations every day-whether dealing with an underperforming employee, disagreeing with a spouse, or negotiating with a client. From the Harvard Negotiation Project, the organization that brought you Getting to Yes, Difficult Conversations provides a step-by-step approach to having those tough conversations with less stress and more success. you’ll learn how to:
· Decipher the underlying structure of every difficult conversation
· Start a conversation without defensiveness
· Listen for the meaning of what is not said
· Stay balanced in the face of attacks and accusations
· Move from emotion to productive problem solving
Training Slide Deck
Tips on Difficult Conversations
-What to think about when preparing for difficult conversations
-Things to remember during difficult conversations
- Top 6 mistakes that can turn difficult conversations into disasters.
The objective of this module is to
Identify difficult interpersonal situations
Learn how to initiate and close conversations in difficult situations
Minimize destructive conversations
Develop precise questions to conduct a skillful conversation.
Engage in open and productive conversations
Workplace Conflict & Strategies for ManagementJharna Jagtiani
Conflict is a normal and natural part of any workplace. When it occurs, there is a tendency for morale to be lowered, an increase in absenteeism and decreased productivity. It has been estimated that managers spend at least 25 percent of their time resolving workplace conflicts – causing lowered office performance.
Difficult Conversations is based on the book Difficult Conversation and is a methodology of how to engage anyone successfully through a difficult conversation. It is a method I work with in instructing clients how to work with those that they have typically been challenged with. It works as well in your personal life as it does your work life.
Transforming the quality of development conversations at scaleHuman Capital Media
Companies everywhere are searching for ways to improve employee performance. Many look towards employee ratings and bonuses for the solution, but find this simply isn’t moving the needle as desired. Perhaps the problem is we’ve been tinkering around the edges rather than tackling the issue where it’s hardest: improving the quality of managerial conversations.
NOLA Urban Elementary School Leadership Team Retreat - High Level AgendaNicole Williams
This is a session plan for a full-day workshop that I designed and facilitated for a small urban elementary school leadership team during the first week of school. The team bonded on Friday night through a sleepover and shared team building activities hosted by the principal and I came in the next morning and engaged the entire team in the activities listed in this agenda.
How to Have Difficult Conversations: Notes Nov 2015Dana Asbury
Slide notes from HFTN webinar "How to Have Difficult Conversations," complete with some additional context, talking points, and links to other resources.
Know and avoid the biggest mistake in difficult conversations 181114Sonia Gill
The single biggest reason a difficult conversation fails is because we don’t clearly tell the other person what the problem is. In this webinar Sonia Gill will be sharing how you can get clear on the issue and say it so that you can create the positive change that is needed.
Global College Malta offers a set of specially designed short courses, which are designed to increase your effectiveness at work and enhance your CV. The short courses will be delivered by Dr Ashok Srivastava, an experienced senior lecturer and full-time member of staff of Global College Malta, who also lectured in Dubai, USA and other countries.
This comprehensive communication skills program / workshop helps individuals and teams to develop effective and positive communication skills at work.
As businesses mature, the nature of their problems change. Gone are the days when the founders have to do everything. Teams deliver on everything from Engineering, Sales, Marketing, HR, Finance, Investor Relations, New Product Development so no one has a true picture of the organization. Running a growth business requires different people and skills to make it work. By the time a company is large, mature, profitable, cash and profit rich, the problems change again – how do you find the ‘next thing’ or stop the inevitable decline of the empire? Paul considers how you manage the conflicts that inevitably rise as businesses grow and become successful. How can you manage conflicting incentives and priorities across departments? What happens if you fall out with your founders? How can you nurture a new generation of leaders within a business that will be capable of taking the business to the next level? How can you re-energise an organisation that is running efficiently in order that you don’t miss out on the next wave of growth? Paul will share practical insights into how you manage the often difficult conversations that such change requires.
sometimes it's hard to have a difficult conversation, as it an end in rows, and arguments. Here are some tips on how to have that conversation and get what you want.
Read more - http://www.howtochangemyrelationship.co.uk/how-to-tackle-a-difficult-conversation/
CROWDFUNDx - Design Your Day - Nokia - #SmarterEverydayNokia
Presentation given by Gerard Grech of Nokia Growth Partners, and Antony Mayfield of Brilliant Noise, in New York on July 17th 2013.
Nokia's Smarter Everyday project has been looking at how we can work more effectively in an age of information overload and hyper-connectedness. This talk will share insights from the ebook "Design Your Day", informed by from neuroscience, psychology and the challenge of "treating each day as a prototype."
http://www.slideshare.net/NokiaAtWork/smarter-everyday-ebookdesignyourday
Mentoring Up encourages mentees to learn how to pro-actively manage their mentoring relationships. This presentation was delivered at the SACNAS conference in 2014.
These slides and handout were presented for a workshop on "Mentoring Up: Learning to proactively engage in your mentoring relationships" at the American Society for Cell Biology (ASCB) conference in San Francisco, for the Minority Affairs Committee (MAC).
This is my presentation and handout from my workshop at SACNAS 2013. It presents a new concept of "mentoring up" to help equip and empower mentees to pro-actively manage their mentoring relationships.
For presentation design on powerpoint kindly visit links below and message for more details:
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Mentoring Up ABRCMS 2015-11 slides & handoutSteve Lee
These slides and handouts were used for a workshop on mentoring at ABRCMS 2015. The overall session was called "Mentoring 101", which was for mentees on how to choose a research mentor, and how to "mentor up" to be pro-active in your mentoring relationship.
Mentoring Up - Duke BioCoRE workshop - slides & handoutSteve Lee
"Mentoring Up: Learning to maximize your relationship with your mentor" was presented as a workshop at Duke University's BioCoRE conference on 7/28/2016 to graduate and undergrad students.
Shifting Paradigms in Teacher Development for the Next Generation - Tesol 2014Isabela Villas Boas
This presentation describes a number of CPD projects carried out in a Binational Center in Brazil, aimed at dfferentiating professional development and moving away from traditional TD, towards innovative TD.
guidance and counseling is critical for pupils at school. so that you tap their potential and help them reap to maximum potential, guidance is critical. this is a guide to help you help the pupils at school
Professional Development workshop materials for a group of people who coach turnaround school principals.
The structure for this presentation was adapted from the webpage: http://blendedcoachingwkshp.com/recursive-listening.html
Thinking Maps Introductory Presentation - Four Map Deep Dive
Please note - this is only an overview. If you would really like to improve student achievement, ask your administrator/district to invest in Thinking Maps. They change students' lives (and their scores!) I am not a paid representative of the Thinking Map organization. I just LOVE Thinking Maps!
Palestine last event orientationfvgnh .pptxRaedMohamed3
An EFL lesson about the current events in Palestine. It is intended to be for intermediate students who wish to increase their listening skills through a short lesson in power point.
The Indian economy is classified into different sectors to simplify the analysis and understanding of economic activities. For Class 10, it's essential to grasp the sectors of the Indian economy, understand their characteristics, and recognize their importance. This guide will provide detailed notes on the Sectors of the Indian Economy Class 10, using specific long-tail keywords to enhance comprehension.
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Operation “Blue Star” is the only event in the history of Independent India where the state went into war with its own people. Even after about 40 years it is not clear if it was culmination of states anger over people of the region, a political game of power or start of dictatorial chapter in the democratic setup.
The people of Punjab felt alienated from main stream due to denial of their just demands during a long democratic struggle since independence. As it happen all over the word, it led to militant struggle with great loss of lives of military, police and civilian personnel. Killing of Indira Gandhi and massacre of innocent Sikhs in Delhi and other India cities was also associated with this movement.
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2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
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We all have good and bad thoughts from time to time and situation to situation. We are bombarded daily with spiraling thoughts(both negative and positive) creating all-consuming feel , making us difficult to manage with associated suffering. Good thoughts are like our Mob Signal (Positive thought) amidst noise(negative thought) in the atmosphere. Negative thoughts like noise outweigh positive thoughts. These thoughts often create unwanted confusion, trouble, stress and frustration in our mind as well as chaos in our physical world. Negative thoughts are also known as “distorted thinking”.
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1. Difficult Conversations Handouts
Greater New Orleans New Leaders
Step 1: Prepare by Walking Through the Three ConversationsStep 1: Prepare by Walking Through the Three Conversations
• Walk through the Three Conversations 1 2 3 4 5
Step 2: Check Your Purposes and Decide Whether to Raise ItStep 2: Check Your Purposes and Decide Whether to Raise It
• Check to make sure your purposes make sense
• Don’t do it on the fly
1 2 3 4 5
Step 3: Start from The Third StoryStep 3: Start from The Third Story
• Think like a mediator
• Describe the issue as the difference between your perspectives
• Describe your purposes
• Invite, don’t impose
• Make them your partner in figuring it out
• Be persistent
1 2 3 4 5
Step 4: Explore Their Story and YoursStep 4: Explore Their Story and Yours
Inquire and listen to learn
• Authentic listening
• Manage your internal voice
• Don’t make statements disguised as questions
• Don’t use questions to cross-examine
• Ask open-ended questions
• Ask for more concrete information
• Ask questions about the Three Conversations
• Make it safe for them not to answer
1 2 3 4 5
Distinguish blame from contribution 1 2 3 4 5
Embrace both stories, adopting the “And Stance” 1 2 3 4 5
Paraphrase for clarity and acknowledgment 1 2 3 4 5
Acknowledge feelings 1 2 3 4 5
Speak for yourself with clarity and power
• Feel entitled to speak
• Start with what matters most
• Say what you mean (don’t rely on subtext; avoid easing in)
• Don’t make your story simplistic
• Use the And Stance
• Don’t present your conclusions as the truth
• Share where your conclusions come from
• Don’t exaggerate with “always” and “never”: give them room to change
• Help them understand you (ask them to paraphrase back; ask how they see it differently and why)
1 2 3 4 5
Redirect the conversation 1 2 3 4 5
Name the dynamic; make the trouble explicit 1 2 3 4 5
Step 5: Problem-SolveStep 5: Problem-Solve
• Propose crafting a test
• Say what is still missing
• Say what would persuade you
• Ask what (if anything) would persuade them
• Ask their advice
• Invent options
• Ask what standards should apply; encourage mutual caretaking
1 2 3 4 5
AUTHENTIC CONVERSATION SKILLS ASSESSMENT1
On a scale of 1 to 5, with 5 being excellent, how do you rate your skills (or your peer’s if you are using this form following a role
play) in utilizing the following authentic conversation strategies?
1 Adapted from Heen, Patton, and Douglas Stone. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Penguin Press,
1999, p.244-248.
2. Difficult Conversations Handouts
Greater New Orleans New Leaders
1 Adapted from Heen, Patton, and Douglas Stone. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Penguin Press,
1999, p.244-248.
! It is the end of the first quarter of your year serving as a resident principal. You feel you are making a
difference in the resident site and your work with your team of six teachers identified for the Teacher
Improvement Project (TIPS) is started. You are also realizing how difficult and complex change is. You are
painfully aware that this may take longer than you realized and want to be sure you plan your time
strategically so the progress you identified for each teacher is made.
! Your mentor principal has charged you with planning all of the professional development for the year
and with identifying the facilitators for the sessions. The focus for the year is on increasing rigor for all
content areas. When the focus of rigor was shared with the faculty, there were several comments from
teachers stating that daily instruction is already rigorous. Although it was not stated, it became apparent to
you that many teachers are neither aware of what rigor is nor have strategies to increase rigor. There were
other comments that the students in this school are barely able to master what is taught and that to increase
the rigor will only impact students’ self concepts and cause frustration.
! You notice one teacher who arrives at professional development sessions displaying a variety of
behaviors indicating lack of interest and engagement as well as a reluctance to learn. The teacher is one of
the teachers your mentor principal and you identified for the TIPS assignment and she has several goals
requiring professional development. The teacher is Ms. Gilham and she has taught for seven years. Ms.
Gilham arrives late at profession development whether it is a full day, half day, or after school session and
arrives late to staff meetings. She is off task in the sessions and engages in side conversations or grades
paper. Her comments are skeptical or even negative and she appears to be oppositional to both the content
and skill development that is the focus for the session.
! After observing this behavior twice, you talked with Ms. Gilham. Unfortunately the conversation did
not go well. You showed frustration and connected her behavior to the goals she had for improvement in the
TIPS. You basically said that you saw little or no hope that she would meet her goals without a sincere and
obvious commitment to professional development. Ms. Gilham responded by telling you that until you
arrived in the school, she had always been considered to be an effective teacher. She ended the
conversation saying that you obviously had problems with her not jumping when you wanted her to jump
and that she found you to be contradictory in her approach to her and the messages you were giving. She
said that when you described having no hope for her growth that she found this discouraging and that the
message contradicted your other messages about believing all individuals have the potential to get smarter
and to learn. Her last comment in this conversation was that you do not understand that the students in this
school are only able to manage instruction that is at their level and that your focus on rigor only shows your
lack of experience.
What is your plan for an authentic conversation with Ms. Gilham? Use the Authentic Conversations
Preparation Form to think through the issues and what you will say.
Scenario 1 - Professional Development Woes
3. Difficult Conversations Handouts
Greater New Orleans New Leaders
1 Adapted from Heen, Patton, and Douglas Stone. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Penguin Press,
1999, p.244-248.
! You have served in the role of resident principal for four months and are beginning to understand the
culture of the school and the motivation of several individuals on the staff of your resident site. Once your
mentor principal saw the results of your culture assessment, she charged you to take the lead for the
improvement of school culture for the upcoming year. She feels that working with a team of 4-6 teachers will
enable you to grow with coaching teachers and building capacity while working on improving the school
culture will give you the perspective of the whole school which needs to be built in order to be prepared to
be a principal at the end of this year. Your focus is on building high academic standards for all students and
putting in processes and programs to prepare college and career ready students.
! You notice that one of your teachers, Shane, is seen talking with small groups of teachers in the
lounge, in the halls, and in the parking lot after professional development or staff meetings. On a few
occasions when you have approached the group, the conversation stops. There is a consistent group of
teachers that connect with Shane but recently you have noticed that he is expanding his conversations to
include others.
! Shane and you have had several discussions about whether all students can be or should be
prepared for college. Shane expressed his opinions that for many students college is not the right direction
or a possibility. He gives examples of several parents in the community who do not aspire for their children
to attend college and want them to go into the military or assume a role in the family business. Shane
frequently refers to his cousin who did not attend college and has his own plumbing company. Shane
appears to be quite resentful of his cousin when he states that his cousin makes more money than Shane
does as a college graduate employed as a teacher. Your response to Shane has been to ignore his
comments but you think a lot about what you should say to him.
! Your mentor principal attended a conference out of state this past week. One evening during the
week when your mentor principal was at the conference, you got a note that there are a group of teachers
who wish to meet with you the next day to share their concerns about the direction you were taking with
improving school culture and several of the changes you have initiated. Shane is one of the teachers. You
call your mentor principal and she advises you to meet with the group to learn their concerns.
! You schedule the meeting for the next day. In the meeting, you are surprised with the intensity and
the tone of the meeting. The other four teachers do all of the talking while Shane says nothing. You feel
confident that Shane has recruited the other teachers into these viewpoints and have coached them on
what to say as Shane has expressed the same things in individual conversations with you. You decide that it
is important to listen to the group but that Shane needs to be the focus of your upcoming conversations.
What is your plan for an authentic conversation with Shane? Use the Authentic Conversations
Preparation Form to think through the issues and what you will say.
Scenario 2 - Come Join My Team
4. Difficult Conversations Handouts
Greater New Orleans New Leaders
1 Adapted from Heen, Patton, and Douglas Stone. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Penguin Press,
1999, p.244-248.
! The first few months as a resident principal were challenging but productive. You learned to
recognize that there are individuals who are never satisfied. There is one teacher, Mr. Sullivan, who is
causing you great concern. Whenever ideas are presented by others or by you, he finds fault with
everything. No matter how promising the initiatives are for students, he only sees the flaws. When you offer
support and incentives to encourage staff buy-in, he makes comments that this is not enough and that you
do not know how to show appreciation to professionals. Whenever issues come up, he consistently blames
others including other staff members, the students, the parents and of course you. He frequently has
difficulty seeing his role in making an initiative or a situation successful. You notice a pattern when he brings
up issues. He brings up multiple issues, issues from the past, or issues outside of his ability to control.
! In the last staff meeting, you publicly asked Mr. Sullivan to try to be more positive with his comments.
You noticed that the room became very quiet and that everyone seemed to be watching you and Mr.
Sullivan. He did not respond to your request but became silent for the rest of the meeting. After the meeting,
several of Mr. Sullivan’s friends huddled with him in the teacher’s lounge.
! You are concerned that Mr. Sullivan will alienate other staff members and discredit you as the leader
creating problems with your relationships with many members of the staff. You realize that an area of growth
for you is learning how to shift the negative and resistant thinking of others. You are also concerned about
your becoming less tolerant and patient with Mr. Sullivan.
What is your plan for an authentic conversation with Ms. Sullivan? Use the Authentic Conversations
Preparation Form to think through the issues and what you will say.
Scenario 3 - Never Satisfied