The document discusses interpersonal communication and listening skills. It defines interpersonal communication as communication that maximizes understanding between people. Effective listening requires understanding emotions behind information exchanged. The document outlines barriers to listening like perception and defensiveness, and provides a plan of action to improve listening through recognizing stress, avoiding judgment, and building relationships. It discusses creating an environment where all feel safe to communicate freely.
Presented to a group of approx 20 leaders in the field of mentoring at the Friends for Youth Mentoring Conference, Thursday April 18, 2013 in Santa Clara, CA
Presented to a group of approx 20 leaders in the field of mentoring at the Friends for Youth Mentoring Conference, Thursday April 18, 2013 in Santa Clara, CA
Toolkit for Employees: Giving and Receiving FeedbackNext Jump
This is the Next Jump tool kit for employees to get started giving and receiving feedback. This is focused on building the habits of feedback, based on the lessons and insights from Next Jump.
Do you think you get enough feedback about how you can be more effective from your boss?.... Your team probably thinks the same about you.
Receiving good feedback gives you powerful information that can dramatically decreases the time required to master a skill or help you blow down the barriers that prevent you from getting to the next level. If only you knew.
In the workplace interpersonal skills are very important for getting and keeping organizational business growth or team performance graph high. Most of the cases we find that people are not aware or don't try to give focus to get improve self interpersonal skills within the team at the workplace. As a result the expected outcomes among the team not achieved. In my last 15 years experience I have observed that due to the lacking of individual's positive attitudes, IS cannot be improved at workplace. I have gathered some points and mentioned below. I believe these points would be effective if we can follow at our work place for improving our workplace interpersonal skills to meet the team goal.
It contains defination, types, difference between hearing and listening, effective vs ineffective listening, Barriers of effective listening, Strategies for effective listening, Advantages of listening, Objectives of listening, Fallacies about listening, Purpose Of Listening, Conclusion with survey's results and graphs.
These are the slides from a workshop I am running, it definitely doesn't quite translate to self paced online, but you get an idea of some of the stuff. Please provide comments if you have any feedback!
Toolkit for Employees: Giving and Receiving FeedbackNext Jump
This is the Next Jump tool kit for employees to get started giving and receiving feedback. This is focused on building the habits of feedback, based on the lessons and insights from Next Jump.
Do you think you get enough feedback about how you can be more effective from your boss?.... Your team probably thinks the same about you.
Receiving good feedback gives you powerful information that can dramatically decreases the time required to master a skill or help you blow down the barriers that prevent you from getting to the next level. If only you knew.
In the workplace interpersonal skills are very important for getting and keeping organizational business growth or team performance graph high. Most of the cases we find that people are not aware or don't try to give focus to get improve self interpersonal skills within the team at the workplace. As a result the expected outcomes among the team not achieved. In my last 15 years experience I have observed that due to the lacking of individual's positive attitudes, IS cannot be improved at workplace. I have gathered some points and mentioned below. I believe these points would be effective if we can follow at our work place for improving our workplace interpersonal skills to meet the team goal.
It contains defination, types, difference between hearing and listening, effective vs ineffective listening, Barriers of effective listening, Strategies for effective listening, Advantages of listening, Objectives of listening, Fallacies about listening, Purpose Of Listening, Conclusion with survey's results and graphs.
These are the slides from a workshop I am running, it definitely doesn't quite translate to self paced online, but you get an idea of some of the stuff. Please provide comments if you have any feedback!
IntraPersonal Communication : How It Works and Its ImportanceAmal Rafeeq
Intrapersonal Communication is the process of communicating withing oneself. What are the skills it holds and how it helps. Presentation with examples and interaction.
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This presentation was done by RUTAYISIRE François Xavier and ISHIMWE Diane, medical students at University of RWANDA School of Medicine and pharmacy, department of medicine and surgery. They did it while they were in Year 4 (Doctorate2), under supervision of Dr Ntakiyiruta Georges,Mmed,FCSECSA. It tell us about what a surgical safety checklist is, and why is it important in surgical field.
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Effective Interpersonal Communication
Azurdee Brown
Liberty University
Effective Interpersonal Communication
Interpersonal communication entails the exchange of information, feelings, and interpretations between individuals through verbal and non-verbal messages in a face to face communication scenario. The conversations between two people in a face to face communication setting transcends the language used since the messages can be passed through various non-verbal messages such as attitudes of either party. When two people are in the same place and are engaged in a face to face conversation, they are aware of each other’s presence thus even without the use of speech either party can use cues of posture and facial expression to evaluate the emotional state, personality and intent of the other party. Through interpersonal communication an individual may give and collect a broad range of information, influence the attitudes and behaviors of others, interact with others, and make sense of different experiences. The individual can express his personal needs and understand the needs of others through the application of interpersonal communication thus allowing him to anticipate and predict behavior (Petersen, 2015). Interpersonal communication skills are essential for the success of an individual’s faith journey since they equip him with the capacity to give and receive emotional support, make decisions, and solve problems. Interpersonal communication skills are instrumental in self-assessment since they are comprised of listening skills, emotional intelligence, interdependencies, interactions, and verbal communication. They influence what, and how an individual says something, they also facilitate the interpretation of messages sent by other people thus making it possible to work with other individuals to find a mutually agreeable outcome. They are essential in the identification, definition, and solution of various problems within the society since they provide the means to explore and analyze different options to make informed decisions. Interpersonal communication increase the level of assertiveness since they help the individual to communicate his values, beliefs, ideas, opinions, needs, wants freely. They also help the individuals to understand that other people have different perspectives thus enabling them to learn new things while gaining their respect and trust (Burley-Allen, 1995).
References
Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: The forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide (2nd ed.). New
York, NY: John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ISBN: 9780471015871.
Petersen, J. C. (2015). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships (Revised and expanded ed.). Portland, OR: Petersen Publications. ISBN: 9780979155956.
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Chapter 16Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Business Communication.docxbartholomeocoombs
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Identity is the essential core of who we are as individuals, the conscious experience of the self inside.
Kauffman
Getting Started
What are you doing? This simple question is at the heart of an application that allows user to stay hyperconnected. Before we consider the social media and its implications on business communication, let’s first examine the central question Twitter asks its users to address in 140 characters or less.
What are you doing right now? Are you reading, learning, or have you already tuned out this introduction and skipped over to Twitter to see what your friends are up to? We often define ourselves through action, but the definition doesn’t work very well. When you are a newborn baby, your actions represented a small percentage of your potential—now that you’re older, you are more than an eating machine that requires constant care and feeding—but what are you? A common response may be “human,” but even that can be challenging to define. If we say humans are the tool-makers and then note that several nonhuman species from primates to otters make and use tools, where does that leave us? You could say that a human has two arms, two legs, or two eyes, but not everyone has these, so the definition fails yet again. You may want to say that you can communicate, but we don’t all speak the same language, and communication is a universal process across species. You may be tempted to respond to the question “what are you?” by saying something along the lines of “I think, therefore I am”—but what is thinking, and are humans the only species with the ability to think? Again, defining yourself through your ability to think may not completely work. Finally, you may want to raise the possibility of your ability to reason and act, recall the past, be conscious of the present, and imagine the future; or your ability to contemplate the abstract, the ironic, even the absurd. Now we might be getting somewhere.
What does the word “party” mean to you? Most cultures have rituals where people come together in a common space for conversation and sharing. Such gatherings often include food, music, and dancing. In our modern society, we increasingly lack time to connect with others. It may be too expensive or time-consuming to travel across the country for Thanksgiving, but we may meet on Skype and talk (audio/video) at relatively little or no cost. Some of your instructors may have traveled to a designated location for a professional conference each year, seeing colleagues and networking; but in recent years time, cost, and competition for attention has shifted priorities for many. We may have two (or three or four) jobs that consume much of our time, but you’ll notice that in the breaks and pauses of life people reach for their cell phones to connect. We instant message (IM), text message, tweet, e-mail, and interact. As humans, we have an innate need to connect with each other, .
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Scientific research is very crucial in the field of psychology since it allows psychologists to use empirical evidence to elaborate on theories and hypothesis relevant to problems like psychological disorders, learning and memory, family instability, homelessness, violence and aggressive behaviors (Mertens, 2014). Most of the research is directly correlated to people’s behavior and how diverse situations affect them. Therefore, without scientific research in the field of psychology most of the theories and hypothesis would only be based on intuition, blink luck, and popular opinions (Mertens, 2014). Empirical evidence is important in obtaining psychological research as it enhances collection of ideas, facts and evidences which are later tested through formation of hypothesis (Mertens, 2014). Through the testing of hypothesis, different conclusions are arrived at, which facilitate formation of different theories supported by evidence. Therefore, scientific research is very important as it enhances collection of credible data, formation of hypothesis and later creation of theories which are used to define different human behaviors under diverse situations.
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Recent research established that people who consume cereals on a regular basis often achieve healthier weights compared to the people who rarely consume cereal. People with healthy weights tend to consumer healthier breakfasts more regularly compared to people who are either obese or those striving to avoid meals in an attempt to lose weight. Cereal companies however, present information that there is a correlation between eating cereals and weight, resulting in the belief that consuming more cereals results in addition of only healthy weight. They make such claims so as to sell more products; therefore healthy people tend to buy more of the cereal products, benefiting the companies. Nonetheless, to counter this argument, cereals are full of sugars which are not recommended for healthy living. In addition, they fall short of proteins which are needed for maintenance of healthy diets. It is, therefore, imperative for one to understand that this is just a marketing strategy that is being used by the companies in order to remain relevant in the industry.
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The Little Albert Experiment
In 1920, John B. Watson conducted a study on classical conditioning at Johns Hopkins University. Classical conditioning is a psychological phenomenon that involves pairing a conditioned stimulus with an unconditioned stimulus in order to produce similar results (Olson, 2015). Classical conditioning often creates a response in either an animals or a person, towards a sound or object that was initially neutral. John B. Watson conducted a similar classical conditioning test on a 9-month old baby called Albert B. The young boy started the experiment lov ...
2. Interpersonal Communication According to Petersen (2007), good communication is just as important in business, family, and social life. Listening well matters for coworkers, when intimacy is not the goal, but being able to work together effectively is. It helps keep friendships vital and even makes a difference in casual relationships where you merely want ease (p. 4). 2
3. Introduction What is Interpersonal Communication? Stewart (2009) defines interpersonal communication as the type or kind of communication that happens when the people involved talk and listen in ways that maximize the presence of the personal (p. 33). In the information age, we have to send, receive, and process huge numbers of messages every day. But effective communication is about more than just exchanging information. Effective communication requires you to also understand the emotion behind the information. 3
4. Introduction Continued Nearly every aspect of human life could be improved by better listening -- from family matters to corporate business affairs to international relations. Most of us are terrible listeners. We're such poor listeners, in fact, that we don't know how much we're missing. According to Burley-Allen (1995) we don’ t realize that listening is such an important, yet often overlooked skill. When we think about listening, we tend to assume it is basically the same as hearing. As a result, we make little effort to learn or develop our listening skills and unknowingly neglect a vital communication function. Effective listening involves not only tuning in to others, but tuning in to ourselves . A step to becoming a good listener is trying to keep an open, receptive mind. As you look for opportunities to broaden the mind when listening, and to acquire new ideas or insights, rather than reinforcing existing points of view. 4
5. Overarching Goal The need to listen to others as well as to be heard. 5 It occurred to me that the need to be heard is probably one of the most fundamental needs a individual can have. We need acknowledgement. We need someone to look at us. We need to know that others know we exist. We need to know that not only do others know we exist but that our existence means something. We tend to employ the Flat-Brain Tango. In my introduction I gave a brief review on the importance of listening. I find that effective listening is crucial and critical to communicating both wants and needs within an interpersonal relationship.
6. Enlarging the Conversation Petersen (2007) metaphorically compared the listener to a midwife who enlarges the conversation by asking open and clarifying questions. In doing so, the “midwife” ensures the speaker understands and takes ownership of the “baby” and comes to realize that they are responsible for birthing their own solutions to the problems or issues through the process of asking questions rather than trying to give solutions to the problem. Successful listening means not just understanding the words or the information being communicated, but also understanding how the speaker feels about what they’re communicating. 6
7. Enlarging the Conversation Continued Enlarging the conversation forces us to actively engage ourselves in stepping outside of the box we so comfortably reside in. Try something new and change our way of thinking and feeling. Read more Visit a museum Learn a foreign language Visit another country Make friends with someone from another culture Be open Be receptive Be humble Have faith 7
8. Background Influences Let me begin by saying I am a native New Yorker. I was born and raised in Brooklyn most of my childhood. I grew up in my grandparents’ home. My mom was a teenager when she had me. I was considered as a latchkey child. I was very oppositional and defiant as an adolescent. I was an active child as I remember. Always outside jumping rump, playing handball, swimming and other People are often shocked when I tell them that I grew up in Brooklyn, but let me make it clear, growing up in Brooklyn was amazing. A city full of contradictions mimics reality, and it makes those of us reared in that reality cynical at an early age; a cynicism that differentiates us from our city’s newcomers, whose childhoods were tinged with the dream of living here. Growing up with the reality of New York versus the dream of it. Positive Negative Resourcefulness Apathetic Flexibility Rebellious Assertiveness Mistrusting Unpretentious Critical Faith in oneself Intolerant Persistent Reluctant Creative Introverted Autonomous Wasteful 8
9. Behavioral Blend The expression “behavioral blend” is described in the DISC Personality Assessment. There are four types of behavior or temperaments D, I, S, and C that are blended to create a unique personality for every individual. Using Hippocrates’ Four Temperament model of human behavior as a template, Carbonell (2005) presents four basic personality types that blend together to make up each unique individual, or the DISC personality model: D’s are dominant, directing and decisive; I’s are influence and inspiring; S’s are submissive and sensitive, and C’s are critical, cautious, and competent. There are two sections to the behavioral blend: what is expected of the person and who the person truly is. My expected blend is D/C and who I am is D/I/C. On the next two slides I will be focusing on who I truly am (DIC). 9
10. Behavioral Blend Positive Influences Inspiring Creative Active Original Outgoing Asserting Competent Devoted Cautious Inquisitive Perceptive Researching Industrious Spirited Goal oriented with specific steps of action; ability to communicate thoughts; energetic, strong-willed, and contemplative. 10
11. Behavioral Blend Negative Influences Controlling Restless Relentless Reactive Demanding Impatient Opinionated Judgmental Masked Self absorbed Guarded Unreceptive Questioning Aggressive I can be my own worst enemy. Very opinionated and loud. Fall short in showing sensitivity to individuals. Lack warmth. Freedom from control. 11
12. Potential Barriers Perception-viewing what is said from my own mindset Defensiveness-feeling unsafe in conversation Filters Emotional state-personal feelings at the moment Physical (time, weather, temperature, location, hungry) 12
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14. Try to view the situation through the eyes of the other person
15. Be aware of the feelings that arise in myself and in others as I communicate
24. Noise Pollution Internal Noise Pollution Childhood Experiences Personal beliefs and values Stress Illness External Noise Pollution Gender Environment (weather or temperature) Personal Appearance Radio, Television, Cell Phone, Clock Ticking Jargon Solutions Through the process of asking questions to collect the information needed and to help fill in the missing pieces to the talker’s story allows me to stay engaged in the conversation and ignore the pollutants that disrupt my thought processes (Petersen, 2007). Focus on the other person, their thoughts and feelings. Be empathetic to the feelings of the speaker. Recognize the meanings I attach to what I perceive. Solve problems rather than attempt to control others. Find a suitable place to talk with limited distractions and interruptions. 14
34. 16 Matthew 19:26 (KLV) “But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, with men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible”. When you observe that your partner is not engaged in what you are saying, it's a sure sign that you should start over, use a different approach, or pick a better time. The ingredients for successful conversations include understanding your communication preferences and differences and then making positive choices about how you will talk and how you will listen.
35. Bibliography Burley-Allen, M.(1995). Listening: the forgotten skill: A self-teaching guide. (2nd ed.). New York, NY: John Wiley& Sons. Petersen, J.C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications Stewart, J. (Ed.). (2009). Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication (10th ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill. Carbonell, M. (1987). Uniquely you. Retrieved from https://www.uniquelyyou.com/humanbehaviorscience.php#personality Baxter, L. A. (2007). Problematizing the problem in communication: A dialogic perspective. Communication Monographs, 74, 119-125. Villaume, W.A., & Bodie, G.D. (2007). Discovering the listener within us: The impact of trait-like personality variables and communicator styles on preferences for listening style. International Journal of Listening, 21(2), 102-123. Mehrabian, A. (1981). Silent Messages: Implicit Communication of Emotions and Attitudes (2nded.). Belmont, CA: Wadsworth 17