A FIRST LOOK AT
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION

CHAPTER TOPICS
                                                      1
  •   Why We Communicate
  •   The Process of Communication
  •   Communication Principles and Misconceptions
  •   The Nature of Interpersonal Communication
  •   What Makes an Effective Communicator

                                          Looking Out/Looking In
                                             Thirteenth Edition
Why We Communicate
• Physical Needs

• Identity Needs

• Social Needs

• Practical Goals

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Why We Communicate
• Physical Needs
     • Social isolation increases risk of:
          • Coronary disease
               • Rivals cigarette smoking, high blood pressure and lack of
                 physical activity
          • Catching the common cold
          • Premature death
     • Positive communication and strong social ties
       lead to better health

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Why We Communicate
• Identity Needs
     • Identity comes from how we interact with
       others

     • Acting human is a learned process

     • Messages influence our identity throughout
       our lives


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Why We Communicate
• Social Needs
     • Communication is used to:
          • Obtain pleasure, affection, companionship,
            relaxation, escape and control
          • Create happier relationships and social lives


     • Theorists argue that positive relationships
       may be the most important source of human
       satisfaction and emotional well-being

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Why We Communicate
• Practical Goals
     • Getting others to behave in ways we want
     • Communication is the tool that:
          • Lets you explain your needs to the hair stylist
          • Helps you negotiate household duties
          • Is essential in virtually every career
     • Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
          • Physical, Safety, Social, Esteem and Self-
            Actualization

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The Process of Communication
• A Linear View
     • Communication is “done to” a receiver




                                              Figure 1.1 Page 10

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The Process of Communication
• Linear Communication
     • The model
          • Suited to radio and television
          • Created by scientists interested in electronic media
          • Affected the way we think and talk about
            communication
     • Is there really only one sender and one
       receiver?


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The Process of Communication
• A Transactional View
     • Communication as a uniquely human process




                                              Figure 1.2 Page 11
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The Process of Communication
• Transactional Communication
     • The model
          • Messages are sent and received at the same time
          • Sender/Receiver become communicators
          • Environments
               • Physical location
               • Personal experiences and cultural backgrounds
          • Noise
               • Internal as well as external noise is represented
          • Channels retain significant role

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Principles and Misconceptions
• Principles
     • Some communication is clearly intentional
     • Communication can be unintentional
          • Overhearing another's conversation
               • How does the meaning change?
          • Nonverbal Communication
               • Unaware of your expressions
                  • Sour face, restlessness, sighs of boredom
               • Unknowingly being observed



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Principles and Misconceptions
• Principles
     • Communication is irreversible
          • It is impossible to “unreceive” a message
               • Think about “unsqueezing” a tube of toothpaste
          • Words said and deeds done are irretrievable
     • It’s impossible not to communicate
          • Intentional and unintentional behaviors send a
            message
          • People who decode your message may not
            interpret it accurately
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Principles and Misconceptions
• Principles
     • Communication is unrepeatable
          • Communication is an ongoing process
          • It is impossible to repeat the same event
               • If attempted, the act of repetition will change the intended
                 meaning
               • Both communicators have changed because they have
                 lived longer
          • The “same” words and behaviors are different
            each time they are spoken or performed


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Principles and Misconceptions
• Principles
     • Content and relational dimension
          • Content dimension
               • Involves the information being explicitly discussed
          • Relational dimension
               • Involves how you feel about the other person
                   • Like or dislike
                   • In control or subordinate
                   • Comfortable or anxious



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Principles and Misconceptions
• Misconceptions
     • More communication is not always better
          • Excessive communication can be unproductive
            and can also backfire
               • Pestering a potential employer about a job prospect
               • Texting too many “call me” messages
     • Meanings are not in the words
          • Saying something is not the same as
            communicating it


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Principals and Misconceptions
• Misconceptions
     • Communication and shared understanding
          • Successful communication doesn’t always involve
            shared understanding
               • Being deliberately vague
               • Sacrificing clarity to spare another's feelings
          • More satisfying relationships can sometimes come
            from less-than-perfect understanding




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Principals and Misconceptions
• Misconceptions
     • People/Events do not cause another’s
       reaction
          • Communication is transactional, ongoing and
            collaborative
          • Communication does not occur in a vacuum
     • Communication will not solve all problems



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The Nature of Interpersonal
           Communication
• Two Views of Interpersonal
  Communication
     • Quantitative Communication
          • Any interaction between two people, usually face
            to face
          • Can be considered routine or impersonal
     • Qualitative Communication
          • Occurs when we treat others as unique individuals
            regardless of context or the number of people
            involved
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The Nature of Interpersonal
              Communication
• Aspects of Qualitative Communication
     •   Uniqueness
     •   Irreplaceability
     •   Interdependence
     •   Disclosure
     •   Intrinsic Rewards
     •   The scarcity of quality interpersonal
         communication contributes to its value

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The Nature of Interpersonal
           Communication
• Mediated Interpersonal Communication
     • Mediated Channels
          • Instant Messaging, emailing, blogging, Twittering
          • Social networks
               • Facebook
               • MySpace
     • The difference between face-to-face and
       virtual relationships is eroding


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The Nature of Interpersonal
           Communication
• Mediated Interpersonal Communication
     • Benefits
          • Internet users have more social networks than
            nonusers
          • Computer-based communication encourages
            offline interaction by keeping relationships active
          • Text-only messages can:
               • Bring people closer by minimizing the perception of
                 differences
               • Stimulate both self-disclosure and direct questioning


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The Nature of Interpersonal
           Communication
• Mediated Interpersonal Communication
     • Challenges
          • Leaner Messages
               • Face-to-face messages are rich with nonverbal cues
               • Without nonverbal cues, online communicators can
                 create idealized images of one another
          • Disinhibition
               • Sending messages without considering the consequence
               • Messages tend to be more direct and often critical
          • Permanence
               • Messages can be archived virtually forever
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What Makes an Effective
              Communicator
• Communication Competence
     • There is no ideal way to communicate
          • A variety of communication styles can be effective
          • You can always learn new styles of communication
     • Competence is:
          • Situational
          • Relational
     • Competence varies from one situation and
       person to another

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What Makes an Effective
              Communicator
• Competent Communicator Characteristics
     • Behaviors
          • Possessing a wide range of behaviors
          • Ability to chose appropriate behavior based on:
               • Context
               • Goals
               • Knowledge of the other person
          • Skill at performing behaviors




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What Makes an Effective
              Communicator
• Competent Communicator Characteristics
     • Cognitive Complexity
          • The ability to construct a variety of frameworks for
            viewing an issue or situation
     • Empathy
          • Feeling and experiencing another's situation
     • Self-Monitoring
          • High Self-Monitoring
          • Low Self-Monitoring

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What Makes an Effective
              Communicator
• Competent Communicator Characteristics
     • Intercultural Communication
          • National Differences
          • Ethnic Differences
          • Co-cultures
               •   Age
               •   Occupation
               •   Sexual orientation
               •   Religion
               •   Physical disability


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What Makes an Effective
              Communicator
• Competent Communicator Characteristics
     • Motivation
          • The desire to communicate successfully
     • Tolerance and Open-mindedness
          • Communicating across cultures can be confusing
     • Knowledge and Skill
          • Passive observation
          • Active strategies
          • Self-disclosure

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Chapter Review
• Why We Communicate
• The Process of Communication
• Communication Principles and
  Misconceptions
• The Nature of Interpersonal
  Communication
• What Makes an Effective Communicator

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Chapter 1

  • 1.
    A FIRST LOOKAT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION CHAPTER TOPICS 1 • Why We Communicate • The Process of Communication • Communication Principles and Misconceptions • The Nature of Interpersonal Communication • What Makes an Effective Communicator Looking Out/Looking In Thirteenth Edition
  • 2.
    Why We Communicate •Physical Needs • Identity Needs • Social Needs • Practical Goals A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 2
  • 3.
    Why We Communicate •Physical Needs • Social isolation increases risk of: • Coronary disease • Rivals cigarette smoking, high blood pressure and lack of physical activity • Catching the common cold • Premature death • Positive communication and strong social ties lead to better health A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 3
  • 4.
    Why We Communicate •Identity Needs • Identity comes from how we interact with others • Acting human is a learned process • Messages influence our identity throughout our lives A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 4
  • 5.
    Why We Communicate •Social Needs • Communication is used to: • Obtain pleasure, affection, companionship, relaxation, escape and control • Create happier relationships and social lives • Theorists argue that positive relationships may be the most important source of human satisfaction and emotional well-being A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 5
  • 6.
    Why We Communicate •Practical Goals • Getting others to behave in ways we want • Communication is the tool that: • Lets you explain your needs to the hair stylist • Helps you negotiate household duties • Is essential in virtually every career • Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs • Physical, Safety, Social, Esteem and Self- Actualization A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 6
  • 7.
    The Process ofCommunication • A Linear View • Communication is “done to” a receiver Figure 1.1 Page 10 A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 7
  • 8.
    The Process ofCommunication • Linear Communication • The model • Suited to radio and television • Created by scientists interested in electronic media • Affected the way we think and talk about communication • Is there really only one sender and one receiver? A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 8
  • 9.
    The Process ofCommunication • A Transactional View • Communication as a uniquely human process Figure 1.2 Page 11 A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 9
  • 10.
    The Process ofCommunication • Transactional Communication • The model • Messages are sent and received at the same time • Sender/Receiver become communicators • Environments • Physical location • Personal experiences and cultural backgrounds • Noise • Internal as well as external noise is represented • Channels retain significant role A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 10
  • 11.
    Principles and Misconceptions •Principles • Some communication is clearly intentional • Communication can be unintentional • Overhearing another's conversation • How does the meaning change? • Nonverbal Communication • Unaware of your expressions • Sour face, restlessness, sighs of boredom • Unknowingly being observed A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 11
  • 12.
    Principles and Misconceptions •Principles • Communication is irreversible • It is impossible to “unreceive” a message • Think about “unsqueezing” a tube of toothpaste • Words said and deeds done are irretrievable • It’s impossible not to communicate • Intentional and unintentional behaviors send a message • People who decode your message may not interpret it accurately A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 12
  • 13.
    Principles and Misconceptions •Principles • Communication is unrepeatable • Communication is an ongoing process • It is impossible to repeat the same event • If attempted, the act of repetition will change the intended meaning • Both communicators have changed because they have lived longer • The “same” words and behaviors are different each time they are spoken or performed A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 13
  • 14.
    Principles and Misconceptions •Principles • Content and relational dimension • Content dimension • Involves the information being explicitly discussed • Relational dimension • Involves how you feel about the other person • Like or dislike • In control or subordinate • Comfortable or anxious A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 14
  • 15.
    Principles and Misconceptions •Misconceptions • More communication is not always better • Excessive communication can be unproductive and can also backfire • Pestering a potential employer about a job prospect • Texting too many “call me” messages • Meanings are not in the words • Saying something is not the same as communicating it A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 15
  • 16.
    Principals and Misconceptions •Misconceptions • Communication and shared understanding • Successful communication doesn’t always involve shared understanding • Being deliberately vague • Sacrificing clarity to spare another's feelings • More satisfying relationships can sometimes come from less-than-perfect understanding A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 16
  • 17.
    Principals and Misconceptions •Misconceptions • People/Events do not cause another’s reaction • Communication is transactional, ongoing and collaborative • Communication does not occur in a vacuum • Communication will not solve all problems A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 17
  • 18.
    The Nature ofInterpersonal Communication • Two Views of Interpersonal Communication • Quantitative Communication • Any interaction between two people, usually face to face • Can be considered routine or impersonal • Qualitative Communication • Occurs when we treat others as unique individuals regardless of context or the number of people involved A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 18
  • 19.
    The Nature ofInterpersonal Communication • Aspects of Qualitative Communication • Uniqueness • Irreplaceability • Interdependence • Disclosure • Intrinsic Rewards • The scarcity of quality interpersonal communication contributes to its value A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 19
  • 20.
    The Nature ofInterpersonal Communication • Mediated Interpersonal Communication • Mediated Channels • Instant Messaging, emailing, blogging, Twittering • Social networks • Facebook • MySpace • The difference between face-to-face and virtual relationships is eroding A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 20
  • 21.
    The Nature ofInterpersonal Communication • Mediated Interpersonal Communication • Benefits • Internet users have more social networks than nonusers • Computer-based communication encourages offline interaction by keeping relationships active • Text-only messages can: • Bring people closer by minimizing the perception of differences • Stimulate both self-disclosure and direct questioning A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 21
  • 22.
    The Nature ofInterpersonal Communication • Mediated Interpersonal Communication • Challenges • Leaner Messages • Face-to-face messages are rich with nonverbal cues • Without nonverbal cues, online communicators can create idealized images of one another • Disinhibition • Sending messages without considering the consequence • Messages tend to be more direct and often critical • Permanence • Messages can be archived virtually forever A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 22
  • 23.
    What Makes anEffective Communicator • Communication Competence • There is no ideal way to communicate • A variety of communication styles can be effective • You can always learn new styles of communication • Competence is: • Situational • Relational • Competence varies from one situation and person to another A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 23
  • 24.
    What Makes anEffective Communicator • Competent Communicator Characteristics • Behaviors • Possessing a wide range of behaviors • Ability to chose appropriate behavior based on: • Context • Goals • Knowledge of the other person • Skill at performing behaviors A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 24
  • 25.
    What Makes anEffective Communicator • Competent Communicator Characteristics • Cognitive Complexity • The ability to construct a variety of frameworks for viewing an issue or situation • Empathy • Feeling and experiencing another's situation • Self-Monitoring • High Self-Monitoring • Low Self-Monitoring A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 25
  • 26.
    What Makes anEffective Communicator • Competent Communicator Characteristics • Intercultural Communication • National Differences • Ethnic Differences • Co-cultures • Age • Occupation • Sexual orientation • Religion • Physical disability A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 26
  • 27.
    What Makes anEffective Communicator • Competent Communicator Characteristics • Motivation • The desire to communicate successfully • Tolerance and Open-mindedness • Communicating across cultures can be confusing • Knowledge and Skill • Passive observation • Active strategies • Self-disclosure A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 27
  • 28.
    Chapter Review • WhyWe Communicate • The Process of Communication • Communication Principles and Misconceptions • The Nature of Interpersonal Communication • What Makes an Effective Communicator A FIRST LOOK AT INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 28