The document discusses the concept of forgiveness. It defines forgiveness as letting go of resentment and ill-will towards someone who has wronged you. The document notes that forgiveness is a choice that provides benefits like peace of mind, and it outlines steps to cultivate forgiveness such as making a commitment to reconcile and forgiving others and oneself. It also discusses teaching forgiveness to children through steps like acknowledging hurt feelings and suggesting they see the offender's goodness beyond the offense.

1. Forgiveness
Dr. Suresh Kumar Murugesan PhD
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2. “The Weak can
never forgive.
Forgiveness is the
attribute of the
Strong.”
Mahatma Gandhi
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3. What is
Forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a decision to
let go of resentment, desire
revenge and ill-will towards
the person who wronged you.
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4. Forgiveness is a
natural
resolution of
grief process
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5. Forgiveness is a
choice we make
for our own well-
being
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6. 68% of people
would like to
practice
forgiveness in
their daily lives
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7. 90% of people feel
that they need to
show more
forgiveness to
fellow people
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8. Forgiveness is not
● Forgetting
● Condoning/ excusing
● Reconciliation
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9. Forgiveness gives
peace of mind
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10. Forgiveness make
people strong
because it allow
love to flow
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11. Forgiveness builds
character in both
seeker and giver
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12. Forgiveness does
not change the
past but it will
make a change in
the future
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13. Forgiveness
connects people
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14. Forgiveness is say
● I Love You
● I am sorry
● Please forgive me
● Thank You
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15. Negative effects of
holding grudge
Being hurt by someone we love and trust make make us feel
● Angry
● Sad
● Confused etc
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16. Non Forgiveness
Swelling on hurtful events or situations may leads to
1. Sense of injustice
2. Hostility
3. Vengeance
4. Bitterness
5. Resentment
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17. Holding grudge affects
1. Cardiovascular system
2. Nervous system
3. Heart rate
4. Blood pressure
5. Muscle tension
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18. Benefits of
Forgiveness
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21. Steps to Cultivating
forgiveness
● Make a commitment to reconcile
● Take a time to recall the event
● Cultivate Compassion and Empathy
● Forgive others
● Lets go of expectations
● Forgive self
● Seek Professional Help
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22. How to teach
forgiveness to
children?
Bases on the research of Dr.
Robert Enright, founder of the
international Forgiveness
Institute
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23. Teaching children to forgive
each others
● heals hurts,
● keeps the peace, and
● gives them an
invaluable life skills
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24. Step 1
Ask the offended
child to
acknowledge the
hurt. Address the
offending
behaviour.
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25. Step 2
Have a cooling off
period. (It’s hard to
forgive when
upset)
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26. Step 3
Ask the child, “Are
you ready to
consider
forgiving?”
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27. Step 4
Assure the child that
forgiving is NOT
saying what the other
person did is ok.
It’s saying, I’m going to
change my hurt, angry
feelings towards him.
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28. Step - 5
Make sure child
knows it’s his
decision and it’s ok
not to be ready!
“ I understand you’re still
hurt/angry and maybe you
need a little more time”
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29. Step - 6
If there’s lingering
hurt, ask again -
but let the child has
moved on, there’s
no need to force
forgiveness
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30. Step - 7
If child is ready, suggest put
on “forgiveness glasses”
that help him see the
offender beyond the
offending action. Ask, Can
you think of your brother in a
way that’s bigger than this
offense? Can you see the
goodness in him?”
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31. Step - 8
Now ask child to
notice how this
changes how his
heart feels.
“ Does it feel softer?
How are you feeling
inside now toward your
brother?”
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32. Step - 9
There is no magic
word to say. The
child can show
forgiveness with a
smile or an offer to
play.
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33. Ten Principles of Forgiveness
Source Forgive to Live by Dr.Dick Tibbits
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34. 1.Accept that life
is not fair and
that others may
play by a
different set of
rules than you
do
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35. 2. Stop blaming
others for your
circumstances
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36. 3. Understand that
we cannot change
the person who
hurts;
We can only
change ourselves
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37. 4. Acknowledge
the anger and
hurt
that some
unpleasant or
even harmful
event is causing
you
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38. 5. Reframe story
of hurt - Our
grievance story
by placing the
hurtful events in
a broader
context than our
current point of
view
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39. 6. Recognise that
only we can make
the choice to
forgive
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40. 7. Shift the view
of the offender by
humbly choosing
to empathize with
his or her life
situation
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41. 8. Intentionally
move from
discontent towards
contentment
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42. 9. Understand that
forgiveness will
take time and
cannot be rushed
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43. 10. Take
responsibility for
life and future
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44. How do I reach a state of forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a personalized process of change. To move from suffering to forgiveness, you
might:
● Recognize the value of forgiveness and how it can improve your life
● Identify what needs healing and who needs to be forgiven and for what
● Consider joining a support group or seeing a counselor
● Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to
release them
● Choose to forgive the person who's offended you
● Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have
had in your life
● As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find
compassion and understanding.
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45. What happens if I can't forgive
someone?
● Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who's hurt you doesn't admit wrong. If you
find yourself stuck:
● Practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person's point of view.
● Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly
if you faced the same situation.
● Reflect on times you've hurt others and on those who've forgiven you.
● Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation — or talk with a person you've found to be wise
and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one
or friend.
● Be aware that forgiveness is a process, and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven
over and over again.
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46. Does forgiveness guarantee
reconciliation?
● If the hurtful event involved someone whose relationship you otherwise
value, forgiveness can lead to reconciliation. This isn't always the case,
however.
● Reconciliation might be impossible if the offender has died or is unwilling
to communicate with you. In other cases, reconciliation might not be
appropriate. Still, forgiveness is possible — even if reconciliation isn't.
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47. What if the person I'm forgiving doesn't change?
● Getting another person to change his or her actions,
behavior or words isn't the point of forgiveness. Think of
forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by
bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual
healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other
person continues to wield in your life.
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48. What if I'm the one
who needs
forgiveness?
● The first step is to honestly assess and
acknowledge the wrongs you've done and how
they have affected others. Avoid judging
yourself too harshly.
● If you're truly sorry for something you've said
or done, consider admitting it to those you've
harmed. Speak of your sincere sorrow or
regret, and ask for forgiveness — without
making excuses.
● Remember, however, you can't force someone
to forgive you. Others need to move to
forgiveness in their own time. Whatever
happens, commit to treating others with
compassion, empathy and respect.
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49. Reference
● https://www.greatschools.org/gk/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Inforgraphic-forgiveness.jpg
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