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Forgiveness Presentation
- 1. The Path toWholeness
- 2. • Forgiveness isa path to be walked. There are steps along the way: • Loss • Anger • Acceptance • Learning • Forgiveness • Restoration
- 3. • And alongthe way, you will come upon a bridge. When you step upon it, it will carry you, support you connect you to another side of life, a side waiting to be discovered. • Forgiveness is a perpetual journey. There are many bridge crossings, many paths. Each restores a bit more of what you have lost. • Let us begin our journey… • Karyn D. Kedar. The Bridge to Forgiveness: Stories and Prayers for Finding God and Restoring Wholeness (Kindle Locations 65- 67). Kindle Edition.
- 4. • What isForgiveness? • Using the bridge metaphor… • Forgiveness carries you over an expanse to the side of life that is softer, kinder, easier to bear. It is a shift of perspective, a new way of seeing our world, a different way of experiencing our inner life. • Using a basic definition… • Forgiveness is often understood as an act of unselfish, unconditional love, an act in which we learn to "forgive and forget," maybe even to "turn the other cheek." However, we will go deeper than this definition in our discussion.
- 5. •Forgiveness is… •not forgetting evil acts, nor condoning of offense, sin, or hatred. • To forget is to run the risk of allowing these evils to happen again. Yet at the same time, to hold within us the horror and pain of every offense diminishes our lives. • a journey, a path, a way of being in the world which has many stages. The stages represent stepping- stones in a journey that is perpetual and unending.
- 6. • The Stoneswe encounter along our path… • Loss • Anger • Acceptance • Learning • Forgiveness • Restoration
- 7. • Loss •Every offense we encounter leads to a sense of loss • We lose a bit of trust, security, or faith. Or some of our sense of wonder. • Every pain inflicted upon us may cause us to lose our way, to forget the meaning and purpose of our lives. • But mostly with every hurt, the light that is within us is darkened or dimmed. • A bit of wholeness is cracked or chipped or
- 8. • Anger • A reaction to our loss • Anger is a necessary step toward forgiveness • But anger is also dangerous. Though we must feel the anger, we must also know when to release it before it consumes us. We must learn to turn anger into motivation, lest it devour us. • So our first responsibility when angry is to understand "why I am angry." • Ted Lester writes, “it is helpful to follow this thought process: • (1) 1 am angry, therefore I must he threatened. • (2) Something has threatened me or something important to Inc. • (3) What is this threat? • Answering this third question is crucial to discovering anger as our spiritual ally.
- 9. • Anger canbe like a river that swells beyond its banks, flooding and destroying everything in it’s path. • Or it can be like a river that flows through your soul, washing away all that needs to be gone.
- 10. • Acceptance is… • the compassionate embrace of yourself and your place in the world: without judgment, without fear, without regret. • being who you are; not who you are not. • Leading us towards reconciliation allowing every moment the potential to be filled with blessing and with an awareness of life's wonders and miracles. • Acceptance is not… • acquiescence • giving in • giving up
- 11. • Forgiveness… • is not condoning the wrong in the world or the offenses we experience in our lives. • is not forgetting. • Forgiveness is… • a state of being. • a bridge that carries us over the hurt we have experienced, leading us to a life of greater peace and acceptance. • If you step upon it, it will carry you, support you, and connect you to another side of life, a side waiting to be discovered. • Always, there is the bridge to be crossed-an arch high above an abyss of fear and mistrust that carries you away from loss and anger and toward more acceptance.
- 12. We can learnfrom everything that life presents to us. We learn from loss, from anger, from survival, from perseverance.
- 13. And in thelearning is an opportunity for • RESTORATION… • your faith, your trust, your optimism, your sense of beauty. • You do not go back to the way you were when life seemed simpler, because now you know that life is not simple. • Life is a complicated path of pain and joy, of disappointment and achievement, of betrayal and love. • Now that you know that, and accept the impact that forgiveness has on you, you can regain a sense of wholeness and restore the light within.
- 14. • The Pathto Wholeness… • Spiritual principles • love ... hope ... patience ... forgiveness • ...kindness…struggle … abundance. • A beautiful spider's web, waiting to capture your heart. • Wholeness allows… • you to live, not merely survive. • you to invest, not merely spend. • you to put in more than you take out • in the span of a lifetime, to live life fully, • help others freely, • enjoy God eternally.
- 15. • Life islike a clay vessel filled with a kind of holy love, abundant with divine grace, overflowing with goodness and beauty. • Life is not a simple choice between love and hate, with everything sketched out in black and white. • Life is a choice between love and fear. • Fear of what? Fear of not having love-abundant, unconditional love. • The spiritual opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is fear. • Fear that there is a limit to love, to goodness. Fear of confronting a mystery that is essentially unknowable. Fear of letting go, of losing control, of letting others get too close, of living with a sense of godliness.
- 16. • Forgiveness in entangled with Love and Fear in our lives. • And so the question is not, "Is there enough love for you?" Rather, the question is, "Will you choose love over fear?“ • To the left is a picture of Ein Gedi.
- 17. Ein Gedi isan oasis on the western shore of the Dead Sea, the lowest point on earth, some 400 m. below sea level. Extreme heat and aridity prevail in this desert region throughout most of the year. But perennial fresh water springs (Ein is Hebrew for spring) flow down from the high cliffs of the Judean Desert and have made permanent settlement and agriculture possible since ancient times.
- 18. • The worldis like a clay vessel, filled with love's potential. • Our choices are • to change • to love • to fear • to take a path or to take a turn • to search for places where there is abundant love that is sustained by a source, deep and invisible, like an oasis in the desert. • Forgiveness is the choice of love over fear.
- 19. • Forgiveness islike the mysterious call of the night-a call to awaken that which sleeps deep within your soul. • Forgiveness does not focus on the offender. Forgiveness focuses on the offended… • We can’t change the offender…but we can change our emotional response to the offense. • Forgiveness is about finding what was lost, about restoring the wholeness that we once had. It is a coming to terms with the story of our life.
- 20. • In everychange, we experience both a loss and a gain. That is the nature of life. As one thing falls away, space is created for another thing to take its place. • When we live consciously-that is, when we live with intentionality-there is a dual sense of reality, a sense of the finite and a sense of the everlasting. • On one hand, all moments pass, all things are finite. And just as moments pass in time, so too do they linger on in our spirits and in our memories.
- 21. • Forgiveness weavesthrough our memories to the eternal moments of the soul, easing that which is harsh, resting on that which is gentle. • Karyn D. Kedar. The Bridge to Forgiveness: Stories and Prayers for Finding God and Restoring Wholeness (Kindle Locations 204-205). Kindle Edition.
- 22. Forgiveness is thecall to beware of the fire that destroys and to warm yourself by the fire that ignites holiness in your heart and that rekindles life's purpose. Forgiveness is the bridge God uses to carry you safely across the troubled waters down the path of life… • God, may the passion of all that is good in my life burn within my heart. My heart yearns for light and warmth. May I be guided to feel fully and deeply, fighting the injustice in the world while loving peace and harmony. By your Light, O God, may I see light. AMEN
- 23. • Lester, AndrewD. Anger: Discovering Your Spiritual Ally. Kindle Edition. • Karyn D. Kedar. The Bridge to Forgiveness: Stories and Prayers for Finding God and Restoring Wholeness. Kindle Edition. • Joyner, Alexander B (2010-11-22). Hard Times Come Again No More: Suffering and Hope. Abingdon Press. Kindle Edition.