Think of some recent situations in which you responded to stress by feeling bad. In your imagination, re-play each situation up to the point where you just began experiencing the bad feeling.
Four myths underling drivers and rackets - transactional analysis - Manu Me...Manu Melwin Joy
Taibi Kahler suggests there are four myths which underlie drivers and rackets. They consists of two pairs. One of each pair comes from the parent. The other is a child response.
Position 2 stopper (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Suppose that as an infant, I made the combined decision “ I am OK to belong, so long as I am perfect”. Imagine I am at a party. As I talk to the group around me, I move in and out of my be perfect driver.
Position 4 – despairer (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
If my early childhood experiences led me to conclude “ I am not OK and neither are you”, I may move to this I-U- life position during my miniscript sequence. If so, I arrive at miniscript position 4, the despairer, I may get there directly from position 2 or take a detour via position 3.
Position 3 blamer (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Suppose that as a child, I decided I was more comfortable blaming others for not – Ok occurrences than blaming myself. In that case, I may rapidly shift to the third position on the miniscript, the blamer.
Passive behaviors - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrativ...Manu Melwin Joy
When I discount, I do so by making statement to myself in my own head. Thus a discount itself is not observable. Since you can’t thought read, you have no way of knowing I am discounting unless I speak or act in some way which indicates the presence of the discount. These behaviors are known as passive behaviors.
Detecting discounts (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach t...Manu Melwin Joy
The discounting, not observable in itself, can be inferred by the person’s showing any of the four passive behavior. There are many other ways of detecting discounts.
Four myths underling drivers and rackets - transactional analysis - Manu Me...Manu Melwin Joy
Taibi Kahler suggests there are four myths which underlie drivers and rackets. They consists of two pairs. One of each pair comes from the parent. The other is a child response.
Position 2 stopper (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Suppose that as an infant, I made the combined decision “ I am OK to belong, so long as I am perfect”. Imagine I am at a party. As I talk to the group around me, I move in and out of my be perfect driver.
Position 4 – despairer (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
If my early childhood experiences led me to conclude “ I am not OK and neither are you”, I may move to this I-U- life position during my miniscript sequence. If so, I arrive at miniscript position 4, the despairer, I may get there directly from position 2 or take a detour via position 3.
Position 3 blamer (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Suppose that as a child, I decided I was more comfortable blaming others for not – Ok occurrences than blaming myself. In that case, I may rapidly shift to the third position on the miniscript, the blamer.
Passive behaviors - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrativ...Manu Melwin Joy
When I discount, I do so by making statement to myself in my own head. Thus a discount itself is not observable. Since you can’t thought read, you have no way of knowing I am discounting unless I speak or act in some way which indicates the presence of the discount. These behaviors are known as passive behaviors.
Detecting discounts (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach t...Manu Melwin Joy
The discounting, not observable in itself, can be inferred by the person’s showing any of the four passive behavior. There are many other ways of detecting discounts.
Agitation - Passive behavior - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an...Manu Melwin Joy
In agitation, the person is discounting his ability to act to solve the problem. He feels acutely uncomfortable, and engages in purposeless, repetitive activity in an attempt to relieve the discomfort. Energy is directed into the agitated activity instead of into action to solve the problem. During agitation, the person does not experience himself as thinking.
Discount matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to th...Manu Melwin Joy
Discounting results in unresolved problems. Thus, if we can devise a systematic way of identifying the nature and intensity of discounting, we will have a powerful tool for problem solving. Such a tool is called discount matrix.
Doing nothing - Passive behavior - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA i...Manu Melwin Joy
A person exhibiting doing nothing passive behavior feels uncomfortable and experiences himself as not thinking. He is discounting his own ability to do anything about the situation.
Using discounting matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative appro...Manu Melwin Joy
Whenever a problem is not being solved, some information relevant to the solution of that problem is being ignored. The discount matrix gives us a systematic way to pinpointing what information is being missed. This in turn provides guidance to the specific actions we need to take to solve the problem.
Words : A person in Be strong will often use words that convey : “My feelings and actions are not my responsibility, but are caused by agencies outside me.”
Often the person in Try Hard will use the word try. When used in driver fashion, try always conveys “ I will try to do it instead of doing it”. Other typical words are difficult, can’t, what? Don’t get you, it is hard.. And interrogative grunts like huh? Uh?
Words :
Hurry, quick, get going, let’s go, no time to…
Tone :
Staccato, machine gun like. Sometimes the person in Hurry up will rush the words out so quickly that she scramble them up.
Gestures :
Finger tapping, foot tapping or wagging, wriggling round in the chair, repetitive checking of watch.
Negative strokes - Transactional Analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
A negative stroke is one experienced as painful.
If your neighbor had responded to your greetings by frowning at you instead of smiling, he would have given you a negative non – verbal stroke.
This PowerPoint show is on one of the basic behavioral principles of our program, Social Skills. I teach a high school class of ED students. These 10 social skills address at least one area that my kids need to practice in order to move back into a least restrictive environment.
I enlisted the help of my students in making this show. It was fun.
Position 1 driver (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The mini script sequence always begins with a driver. As I listen to the counter script message in my head, I show the corresponding driver behavior. It lasts from half a second to seven seconds at the most.
Agitation - Passive behavior - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an...Manu Melwin Joy
In agitation, the person is discounting his ability to act to solve the problem. He feels acutely uncomfortable, and engages in purposeless, repetitive activity in an attempt to relieve the discomfort. Energy is directed into the agitated activity instead of into action to solve the problem. During agitation, the person does not experience himself as thinking.
Discount matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to th...Manu Melwin Joy
Discounting results in unresolved problems. Thus, if we can devise a systematic way of identifying the nature and intensity of discounting, we will have a powerful tool for problem solving. Such a tool is called discount matrix.
Doing nothing - Passive behavior - Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA i...Manu Melwin Joy
A person exhibiting doing nothing passive behavior feels uncomfortable and experiences himself as not thinking. He is discounting his own ability to do anything about the situation.
Using discounting matrix (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative appro...Manu Melwin Joy
Whenever a problem is not being solved, some information relevant to the solution of that problem is being ignored. The discount matrix gives us a systematic way to pinpointing what information is being missed. This in turn provides guidance to the specific actions we need to take to solve the problem.
Words : A person in Be strong will often use words that convey : “My feelings and actions are not my responsibility, but are caused by agencies outside me.”
Often the person in Try Hard will use the word try. When used in driver fashion, try always conveys “ I will try to do it instead of doing it”. Other typical words are difficult, can’t, what? Don’t get you, it is hard.. And interrogative grunts like huh? Uh?
Words :
Hurry, quick, get going, let’s go, no time to…
Tone :
Staccato, machine gun like. Sometimes the person in Hurry up will rush the words out so quickly that she scramble them up.
Gestures :
Finger tapping, foot tapping or wagging, wriggling round in the chair, repetitive checking of watch.
Negative strokes - Transactional Analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
A negative stroke is one experienced as painful.
If your neighbor had responded to your greetings by frowning at you instead of smiling, he would have given you a negative non – verbal stroke.
This PowerPoint show is on one of the basic behavioral principles of our program, Social Skills. I teach a high school class of ED students. These 10 social skills address at least one area that my kids need to practice in order to move back into a least restrictive environment.
I enlisted the help of my students in making this show. It was fun.
Position 1 driver (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The mini script sequence always begins with a driver. As I listen to the counter script message in my head, I show the corresponding driver behavior. It lasts from half a second to seven seconds at the most.
Life scripts - Transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The theory of script was developed by Eric Berne and his Co-workers, notably Claude Steiner, in the mid 1960’s.
The concept of script has grown in importance as a part of TA theory, until now it ranks with the ego state model as a central idea of TA.
You create your own world - Goal Setting - Manu Melwin Joymanumelwinjoy
Perhaps the greatest discovery in human history is the power of your mind to create the aspects of your life. Everything you see around you in the man-made world began as a thought or an idea in the mind of a single person before it was translated into reality.
A disruptive innovation is an innovation that creates a new market and value network and eventually disrupts an existing market and value network, displacing established market leading firms, products and alliances.
Mini script - Transactional Analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Drivers reflect a position of conditional OKness. They are manifestations of counter script messages. As with any other counter injunctions, drivers may perform the script function of defending against heavier decisions formed during injunction.
Coaching individual OD interventions - Organizational Change and Development...manumelwin
Coaching is training or development in which a person called a "coach" supports a learner in achieving a specific personal or professional goal. The learner is sometimes called a "coachee".
Try and collect - Life Game - Transactional AnalysisManu Melwin Joy
Try and Collect (TAC) is a mild money game commonly played by married couples and illustrates how a game is set up so that the player wins whichever way it goes.
Stroke deficit- Transactional Analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
As infants, we know this instinctively. For almost all of us, in early childhood, there were times when we experienced not getting the positive strokes we needed or wanted.
The converse game of frigid women is frigid man is less common, but it takes much the same general course with some variations in details. The final outcomes depends upon the scripts of the parties involved.
The “Course Topics” series from Manage Train Learn and Slide Topics is a collection of over 4000 slides that will help you master a wide range of management and personal development skills. The 202 PowerPoints in this series offer you a complete and in-depth study of each topic. This presentation is on "Asking Questions".
We might stumble or fall, but no matter how many times you fall, it is okay as long as you get up and rise to be the best version of yourself. Here are some ways to find out the best version yourself!
These slides summarize the Designing Your Life book by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans. Dr. Kristin Palmer led a workshop walking through big ideas in the book sharing templates and tools for helping people to design a live they can love. You can reach Dr. Palmer through http://www.CentralOregonLifeCoach.com.
Managing conflict in the workplace is challenging at the best of times. In this light hearted yet effective presentation learn the does and dont's of conflict management.
MLM Tips | Discover the truth behind the power of self talk
Self talk is one of the most powerful mlm success tips you can master. In this slide share presentation we explore what self talk is, how it affects you mlm business and why you need to start using it to achieve massive success in your multilevel marketing nusiness
Chapter 15 Strategic Thinking Part OneStrategic thinking has tw.docxchristinemaritza
Chapter 15 Strategic Thinking: Part One
Strategic thinking has two phases:
1. The understanding of an important principle of mental functioning.
2. Using that understanding strategically to produce a mental change in ourselves.
In this chapter and the next, we move back and forth between important understandings and strategies based on them. Strategic thinking is the regularization of this practice. From understanding to strategy, and from strategy to self-improvement, is the pattern we are looking for.
Understanding and Using Strategic Thinking
If we understand that the mind has three functions—thinking, feeling, and desire (want)—and that these functions are interdependent, by implication we realize that any change in one of these functions produces a parallel shift in the other two. It follows, then, that if we change our thinking, there should be some shift at the level of feeling and desire. So if I think you are insulting me, I will feel some resentment and develop some desire to respond to that insult.
By the same token, if we feel some emotion (say, sadness), there should be some thinking (say, thinking we have lost something of significance) that accounts for that feeling. It follows, then, that if I experience an irrational negative emotion or an irrational desire, I should, in principle, be able to figure out the irrational thinking that is creating that feeling and desire.
Once we discover the irrational thinking, we should be able to modify that thinking by more reasonable thinking. Finding the thinking to be irrational, we should be able to construct a more reasonable substitute. We then work to replace irrational thinking with rational thinking. As the new, reasonable thinking takes root, we should experience some shift in our emotions and desires. More reasonable emotions and desires should emerge from more reasonable thinking.
Now to a specific case: Suppose you recently ended a romantic relationship and are dating someone else now. In the meantime, you learn that your ex is dating your roommate. You suddenly feel a powerful surge of jealousy and the desire to lash out at your roommate. Your irrational thinking is something like this:
I should get to control whom my roommate and my ex date. It is unfair that they are now dating when I don’t want them to. Even though I have given up the relationship, I still should be able to control her. She is still really mine! My roommate has no right to do something so upsetting to me. He should know how I feel, and my feelings should come first. So what if he’s attracted to my ex-girlfriend? He can just find someone else. If he’s my friend, I should come first.
This thinking—if we have accurately reconstructed it—is largely subconscious. Virtually no one would consciously own such thinking. Through active work, however, you can bring it to the surface of your thinking. You can do this by first recognizing that underlying every irrational feeling is an irrational thought process. In this ...
The “Course Topics” series from Manage Train Learn and Slide Topics is a collection of over 4000 slides that will help you master a wide range of management and personal development skills. The 202 PowerPoints in this series offer you a complete and in-depth study of each topic. This presentation is on "Assertiveness Training".
1Week 2 Journal Project Outline TemplateUse this template.docxRAJU852744
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Week 2 Journal: Project Outline Template
Use this template to jot down notes and develop an initial outline for your Personal Improvement Project. Remember that an outline is informal; it is meant to be a tool to help prepare for the steps of your project and the writing of your report in Week 6.
Part 1: Aim
· What is the topic of your project?
· What is the aim(s) of your project? Make sure the aim is measurable (e.g., Improve in X way by X%).
Part 2: Process Analysis
· What is the process you are studying?
· Who are the people involved?
· Where does the process start and end?
Part 3: Measurement
· What are you measuring?
· How are you collecting the data?
Part 4: Changes
· What changes do you anticipate making based on what the data reveal?
Part 5: Reflection and Application
· How might you extend the project long-term?
· How might the experience of this personal project inform a quality project in nursing?
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Positive Thinking, Negative Thinking and Reframing
TRUE OR FALSE TEST
Answer the following statements by circling true or false.
1. I believe others cause my feelings. --------------------------------------------------------------------T F
2. I'm always telling myself I "should" do this or that.-------------------------------------------------T F
3. I constantly criticize myself-------------------------------------------------------------------------------T F
4. I think I must do everything perfectly or not at all. -------------------------------------------------T F
5. I'm always apologizing for one thing or another. ---------------------------------------------------T F
6. I feel like I'm carrying the world on my shoulders. -------------------------------------------------T F
7. I'm really hard on myself when I make mistakes. --------------------------------------------------T F
8. I bend over backwards to please others--------------------------------------------------------------T F
9. I "scare" myself into action by imagining horrible things that will happen if I don't do
something. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------T F
10. I tend to look on the negative side of things. My glass of water is always half empty
instead of half full. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------T F
11. It's hard for me to forgive and forget. If someone hurts me, I tend to cling to that
feeling. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------T F
12. I often feel helpless. There are so many things in life I can't do. -------------------------------T F
SCORE YOUR RESPONSES:
Give yourself one point for each "true" answer on the test. # =_________
# Points Results
1-3 You generally feel good about yourself. Keep up your positive way of thinking.
4-6 Negative thinking may be gaining on you. Take time to renew your positive traits.
7+ Challen.
Racket analysis - Transactional Analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Any time your experience a racket feeling, you are in script.
As children, we use racket feeling to get our needs met in families.
We attempt to manipulate the environment so as to gain the parental support we gained in childhood by experiencing and showing these racket feelings.
Contracts for change - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Berne defined a contract as an explicit bilateral commitment to a well defined course of action.
James and Jongeward defined contract as an adult commitment to one’s self and/or someone else to make a change.
Symbiosis and script - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
Thus in ideal parenting, the child’s caretaker will be employing Parent and Adult resources appropriately, while still not discounting her own Child. As the child grows, the parent will provide him with what is needed to complete each stage of development.
Healthy symbiosis - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
For example, I have just come out from under anesthetic after an operation. Nurse is holding my hands and telling : “ You will be alright. Just hang one to my hand”. At that point, my Adult and Parent are out of commission.
Frame of reference and redefining - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The frame of reference is defined by the Schiffs as the structure of associated responses which integrates the various ego states in response to specific stimuli.
Role of parent in frame of reference - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin...Manu Melwin Joy
The parent ego state plays a particularly important part in the formulation of the frame of reference. This is because our frame of reference consists of definitions of the world, self and others.
Frame of reference and ego states - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
As an further aid to understanding the frame of reference, the Schiffs suggest that it can be thought of as a “skin that surrounds the ego states binding them together.
Frame of reference - transactional analysis - Manu Melwin JoyManu Melwin Joy
The frame of reference is defined by the Schiffs as the structure of associated responses which integrates the various ego states in response to specific stimuli.
How to Create Map Views in the Odoo 17 ERPCeline George
The map views are useful for providing a geographical representation of data. They allow users to visualize and analyze the data in a more intuitive manner.
This is a presentation by Dada Robert in a Your Skill Boost masterclass organised by the Excellence Foundation for South Sudan (EFSS) on Saturday, the 25th and Sunday, the 26th of May 2024.
He discussed the concept of quality improvement, emphasizing its applicability to various aspects of life, including personal, project, and program improvements. He defined quality as doing the right thing at the right time in the right way to achieve the best possible results and discussed the concept of the "gap" between what we know and what we do, and how this gap represents the areas we need to improve. He explained the scientific approach to quality improvement, which involves systematic performance analysis, testing and learning, and implementing change ideas. He also highlighted the importance of client focus and a team approach to quality improvement.
Synthetic Fiber Construction in lab .pptxPavel ( NSTU)
Synthetic fiber production is a fascinating and complex field that blends chemistry, engineering, and environmental science. By understanding these aspects, students can gain a comprehensive view of synthetic fiber production, its impact on society and the environment, and the potential for future innovations. Synthetic fibers play a crucial role in modern society, impacting various aspects of daily life, industry, and the environment. ynthetic fibers are integral to modern life, offering a range of benefits from cost-effectiveness and versatility to innovative applications and performance characteristics. While they pose environmental challenges, ongoing research and development aim to create more sustainable and eco-friendly alternatives. Understanding the importance of synthetic fibers helps in appreciating their role in the economy, industry, and daily life, while also emphasizing the need for sustainable practices and innovation.
We all have good and bad thoughts from time to time and situation to situation. We are bombarded daily with spiraling thoughts(both negative and positive) creating all-consuming feel , making us difficult to manage with associated suffering. Good thoughts are like our Mob Signal (Positive thought) amidst noise(negative thought) in the atmosphere. Negative thoughts like noise outweigh positive thoughts. These thoughts often create unwanted confusion, trouble, stress and frustration in our mind as well as chaos in our physical world. Negative thoughts are also known as “distorted thinking”.
Students, digital devices and success - Andreas Schleicher - 27 May 2024..pptxEduSkills OECD
Andreas Schleicher presents at the OECD webinar ‘Digital devices in schools: detrimental distraction or secret to success?’ on 27 May 2024. The presentation was based on findings from PISA 2022 results and the webinar helped launch the PISA in Focus ‘Managing screen time: How to protect and equip students against distraction’ https://www.oecd-ilibrary.org/education/managing-screen-time_7c225af4-en and the OECD Education Policy Perspective ‘Students, digital devices and success’ can be found here - https://oe.cd/il/5yV
Palestine last event orientationfvgnh .pptxRaedMohamed3
An EFL lesson about the current events in Palestine. It is intended to be for intermediate students who wish to increase their listening skills through a short lesson in power point.
2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
This webinar will introduce you to my framework, highlighting the key competencies I identified from my research. It will also show how anybody involved in language teaching (any language, not just English!), teacher training, managing schools or developing language learning materials can benefit from using the framework.
Operation “Blue Star” is the only event in the history of Independent India where the state went into war with its own people. Even after about 40 years it is not clear if it was culmination of states anger over people of the region, a political game of power or start of dictatorial chapter in the democratic setup.
The people of Punjab felt alienated from main stream due to denial of their just demands during a long democratic struggle since independence. As it happen all over the word, it led to militant struggle with great loss of lives of military, police and civilian personnel. Killing of Indira Gandhi and massacre of innocent Sikhs in Delhi and other India cities was also associated with this movement.
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Manu Melwin Joy
Assistant Professor
Ilahia School of Management Studies
Kerala, India.
Phone – 9744551114
Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com
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3. Your miniscript patterns
Think of some recent
situations in which you
responded to stress by
feeling bad. In your
imagination, re-play each
situation up to the point
where you just began
experiencing the bad feeling.
4. Your miniscript patterns
You don’t have to re-play the
bad feeling itself. For each
situation, check answers to
the following questions.
• What driver did you go
through?
• What position on the
miniscript did you go to
first?
5. Your miniscript patterns
• What bad feeling did you
experience there?
• Did you shift to a second or
third position on the
miniscript? If so, again
register what bad feelings
you experienced?
6. Your miniscript patterns
After checking several
situations, determine
whether you have one or
more typical patterns of
movement around the
miniscript.
7. Your miniscript patterns
Do you want to change
any of these patterns? If
so, you can make changes
at any point. It may take
some initial practice.
8. Your miniscript patterns
Get used to detecting your
own driver clues as you
show them. With this
ability, catch the driver
behavior at the instant you
begin doing it.
9. Your miniscript patterns
By adult decision, step out
of the driver. Instead,
behave in a way which fits
the corresponding allower.
If you miss the driver
clues, you may go through
the driver and being
feeling bad.
10. Your miniscript patterns
If so, simply choose to
change the way you feel.
In place of the bad feeling,
substitute a good one of
your choice. You can do
this at any time.
11. Your miniscript patterns
Each time you choose to
follow an allower instead
of a driver, you help
extinguish your miniscript
pattern in future. You do
the same each time you
choose to feel good
instead of feeling a racket.
12. Your miniscript patterns
Do you find it difficult to
believe that the third and
the fourth myths are really
myths? Many people do
on first acquaintance.
13. Your miniscript patterns
If you are one of them, do
a pencil and paper
exercise. Simply write
down any way in which
you believe one person
could make another
person feel bad by what
they say to that person.
14. Your miniscript patterns
If you think you have found
such a way, ask yourself
another question : Could the
person spoken to have
chosen to feel any other
feeling? If so, then the
speaker could not have been
making the other person feel
in a particular way.
15. Your miniscript patterns
In this exercise, we are not
talking of physical assault. If
somebody hits me with a
brick, it is obvious that they
are making me feel bad. But
words aren’t bricks.