Position 3 blamer (mini script) transactional analysis - Manu Melwin Joy

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Suppose that as a child, I decided I was more comfortable blaming others for not – Ok occurrences than blaming myself. In that case, I may rapidly shift to the third position on the miniscript, the blamer.

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Position 3 : Blamer (Mini Script)
Transactional Analysis

Prepared By
Manu Melwin Joy
Assistant Professor
Ilahia School of Management Studies
Kerala, India.
Phone – 9744551114
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Position 3 : Blamer
Suppose that as a child, I
decided I was more
comfortable blaming
others for not – Ok
occurrences than blaming
myself. In that case, I may
rapidly shift to the third
position on the
miniscript, the blamer.

Position 3 : Blamer
Here, my life position is “
I am OK, you are not OK”.
I will experience a racket
feeling that fits with this
blaming life position.

Position 3 : Blamer
For example, as I stumble
over my words during the
party conversation, I may
feel irritated with the
others in the group
because they don’t seem
to have understood me.

Position 3 : Blamer
When Taibi Kahler first
drew the miniscript,
he called this third
position “Vengeful
child”.

Position 3 : Blamer
However, the I+U- life position
may be expressed functionally
from negative controlling
parent as well as from
negative adaptive child, so we
think that Kahler’s revised
name “Blamer” is more
appropriate.

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