John R. Williams discusses the harms of internet pornography and strategies for overcoming compulsive porn use in 3 sentences or less:
Internet pornography is highly addictive and rewires the brain like drugs or junk food, damaging relationships, health, and morals. Overcoming porn addiction requires reducing triggers through boundaries, accountability, and replacing the habit with healthy relationships and activities while expecting and learning from relapses. The goal is to retrain the brain and heart to desire only one's spouse through developing purity.
2. Purity Is Power
“When you enter your married life
after keeping your purity, you will
be able to love wholeheartedly.”
Father Moon
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4. What Would Be the Most Perfect
Kind of Recreational Drug to Sell?
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5. Internet Pornography–
Perfect “Drug”
1. Accessible 6. Appears harmless
2. Affordable 7. Adult-looking
3. Approved 8. All-new
4. Anonymous 9. Anything-goes
5. Abstinent-looking 10. Addictive
Almost half of all internet users look at porn
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6. What Is Internet Pornography?
Photos, videos, and online interactive media
designed to get people sexually aroused
Includes cybersex
• Simulated encounters through chatrooms,
webcam, avatars and other means
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7. Internet Pornography–
Destroying Innocence
7 years old: Age of Half of male and 1 in 6
first exposure female college students
Children 12-17 spend up to 5 hours
years: Largest group online weekly for sex
of users 21% of males do daily
Ads and searches “I don’t know any BC
lead to porn sites boy who doesn’t struggle
Pop-ups cannot with porn use”
be clicked off
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8. Porn, Girls & Women
28% of all 1. Often start by wanting to
porn users please men
are female 2. Drawn to chatrooms
40% of Intimate talk leads to
admitted sex talk and porn
addicts 3. Women are more likely to
under age act out their fantasies
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See in person those met online
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10. Appeal of Internet Porn to Youth
1. Curiosity and wanting to understand about
sex, the opposite sex, and the adult world
2. Pleasure and excitement of sex
3. Sexy bodies, fantasy encounters
4. Variety and quick gratification
5. Escape from unwanted feelings, especially
loneliness
6. Feel wanted and powerful
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11. Anatomy of the Sex Impulse
Heart
Seeks love and
oneness of heart with
Heart another
Physical Physical instinct
instinct Seeks to substantiate
love in bodily oneness
Two aspects may get and lineage
confused
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12. Internet Porn Exploits
Male & Female Fantasies
The brain is the most important sexual organ
Men Women
Arousal by sight of beauty Aroused by
and body parts romantic
Sex-focused partners, interaction
no affection or foreplay Caring,
Performance oriented cooperative
Man in control partners
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14. Damages Ourselves
Corrupts the heart Erodes self-
and mind with respect and
crude, unforgettable spiritual
images connections
Teaches degrading Blocks emotional
standards of man- growth and
and womanhood maturity
Promotes insecurities Desensitizes
Enslaves
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15. Internet Porn Combines Power
of Video Gaming & Junk Food
Porn is even stronger than both because it
involves the deep need for love and sex
Videogaming Junk Food
High speed and Intensified version of a
exciting pleasurable need
Interactive control Always interesting
Entrancing Overrides natural
Always new and appetite
improved
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16. Internet Porn Has All Factors that
Make Activities Hard to Stop
These cause the brain to highly value something
1. Strong emotions 3. Thrill of the hunt
Surprise, excitement, Searching and
anxiety, disgust finding what we want
2. Novelty 4. Exceeding
Newness, variety, expectations
promise of more Unexpected bonuses
or dangers
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17. Compulsive Porn Use
Changes the Brain
Porn can reprogram the brain like too much
eating, gambling and video gaming
Numbed response to normal pleasures
Heightened response to things related to the
habit
Shutdown of normal signals when “enough”
Shrunken brain matter controlling reason and
self control
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18. Signs of a Serious Porn Habit
Emotional numbness For males,
Depression, irritability or depleted
sadness testosterone
accounts for
Difficulty concentrating
many
Social discomfort, isolation symptoms
Chronic fatigue, little motivation
Inability to cope without it
Male failure to be aroused by a
real woman
19. Stages of Porn Compulsion I
1. Fascination, disgust
Mixture of guilt, fear,
aggression and
pleasurable arousal
2. Desire for more
daring and exotic
images
Former thrill wears
off; desensitized
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20. Stages of Porn Compulsion II
1. Fascination, disgust 3. Habitual use
Mixture of guilt, fear, Endless new images
aggression and Hard to stop
pleasurable arousal Dependent on mood-
2. Desire for more altering effects
daring and exotic (4. Acting out)
images
5. Despair
Former thrill wears
Use more porn to
off; desensitized
escape
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21. Damages Our Relationship with the
Opposite Sex
Harder to connect as siblings and friends
1. Reduces spiritual beings to being accessories
for our needs and fantasies
2. Promotes “shopping” mentality, based on looks
3. Creates impossible expectations
Physical attractiveness
Sexual and romantic behavior
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22. Damages Our Marriage
Habit is likely to Dissatisfaction from
persist comparing spouse to
Teaches warped fantasy partners
ideas about sex, Weakens desire for
desire and our spouse over time
performance May create
No sense of the dysfunction
unselfish effort Deeply offends our
needed for satisfying spouse, like an affair
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24. Masturbation Multiplies the
Harm of Pornography
Masturbation amplifies Two Types of
its addictive power Masturbation
The brain bonds with 1. No sexual
what is related to fantasies
sexual release Less harmful
Connects porn to the 2. With images
highest pleasure, and fantasies
pain relief and comfort More harmful
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25. Masturbation without
Images or Fantasies
Self-soothing Self-centered use of
physical release holy organs
Grounded in body, Compromise sense
no disconnection of proper position
No misuse of and self-respect
imagination
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26. Masturbation with
Images and Fantasies
Burns images into Trains a multi-
brain and links them focused sexual
to highest pleasure arousal
Mental adultery Trains in sex
connects sex with ungrounded in
multiple partners our body and
Invites compulsive relationship
porn use
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27. The Goal Is to Teach Our Brain to
Desire Only Our Spouse
Purity sets up
one arousal
Spouse pathway in the
brain for maximum
fulfilment
Porn Porn and
masturbation
(Partners)
divide pathway
Spouse and weaken bond
with spouse
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28. Masturbation Damages Lovemaking
in Marriage
Builds habit of quick, reliable climax
without accommodating our spouse
Trains in unnaturally strong and perfect
stimulation and frequent sexual release so
that married life may not satisfy
With fantasies, the habit of sex mentally
disconnected from body and partner is likely
to leave our spouse feeling lonely and hurt
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30. Helpful Spiritual Efforts
1. Pray for help 3. Discipline the body
Pray for other 4. Seek God’s heart
strugglers Towards yourself
2. Read God’s words and opposite sex
Learn God’s view of Use affirmations
love, sex and marriage 5. Serve God
Recognize the evil Help others
behind pornography
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31. Kinds of Challenges of Overcoming
Any Bad Habit
1. Gain and maintain 5. Cope with the
motivation to problems caused
change by the habit
2. Stop the habit 6. Replace pleasures
of the habit with
3. Cope with urges positive “addictions”
4. Resolve the
underlying
problems behind
the habit
32. Overview of Basic Strategies
to Reduce Negatives
1. Get informed 7. Prepare for
2. Study your habit temptation
3. Aim to stop for a 8. Resist urges
certain period 9. Celebrate daily
4. Make clear successes
boundaries 10. Keep motivated
5. Get control 11. Expect relapses
6. Find accountability
allies
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33. Overview of Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow
12. Meet the 15. Expand and
underlying fortify love
needs relationships
13. Exchange 16. Make healthy
support with new habits
others 17. Keep higher
14. Learn new happiness in
skills mind
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35. Overview of Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives
1. Get informed 7. Prepare for
2. Study your habit temptation
3. Aim to stop for a 8. Resist urges
certain period 9. Celebrate daily
4. Make clear successes
boundaries 10. Keep motivated
5. Get control 11. Expect relapses
6. Find accountability
allies
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36. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives I
1. Get informed
Understand the effect of the habit on your
brain, heart, thinking, and your marriage
and other relationships
Learn about the porn business and how
porn is made
Recognize how fake and distorted it is
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37. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives II
2. Study your habit
Triggers of porn Examine why you like it
use What does it help you
How the urges cope with?
come What would you miss if
Rationalizations you stopped?
Cycles of use Need to find a better
Periods of no use way to satisfy those
desires
38. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives III
3. Aim to stop for a certain period
Stopping the habit allows your Expect
system to rest and recover to feel
The brain and spirit can begin depressed
to repair the damage and try at first,
to return to normal like losing
The habit gets much weaker a great love
Good feelings will outweigh the bad
Between 30 and 45 days is effective
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39. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives IV
4. Get control
If you can’t quit outright, Separate porn from
gradually taper off masturbation
Do the habit on a Learn to
schedule masturbate without
Reduce frequency images
Break up the ritual— Giving up porn is
before, during and after harder
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40. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives V
5. Make clear boundaries
No more “playthings, playmates or
playground”
Put computer in public area
Use software monitoring
Tell others your standards
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41. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives VI
6. Find accountability 7. Prepare for
allies temptation
No secrets Anticipate and avoid
Find special high risk situations
helpers to report to Have 5 people to call
Ask friends to Have something to
monitor you distract yourself
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42. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives VII
8. Resist urges as long as possible
Addictions are the habit of satisfying an
urge to make it go away
Urges come on strong, but they will end
As you resist, they naturally fade in
intensity, frequency and duration
43. Dealing with Urges: Argue with
Overly Positive Expectations
Recalling only the upside of the habit feeds urges
1. Remember the downside 3. Imagine the worst
Do you feel bad after possibilities
giving in? Being discovered
What other unpleasant by your wife
things result? Being exposed in
2. Imagine talking a loved public
one out of viewing porn Being unable to
perform in bed
44. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives VIII
9. Celebrate daily successes
Focus on one good choice at a time
Praise any progress
Appreciate your gains
Study your progress to learn how to
keep it going
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45. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives IX
10. Keep motivated
Externalize List the benefits of stopping
porn as the What do you dislike about
enemy this habit?
What harm does it do?
Reframe your
What are you afraid might
struggle as a
heroic fight for happen if you don’t stop?
How would your life
self and others
improve without it?
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46. Basic Strategies to
Reduce Negatives X
11. Expect relapses
When stressed, New habits take time and
old urges will effort to develop
surface 6-9 months needed to
Familiar way retrain the brain
to cope Requires
perseverance with
the new behaviors
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47. Unhealthy Guilt and Despair Can
Fuel the Habit
Resist all-or-
nothing Stress & Porn
thinking Distress Use
Feeds
self-hatred
and despair
Porn Guilt &
Use Despair
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48. Get Stronger from Relapses
Gain the lessons: Quickly get back
1. You have faced a new on track
level of challenge Admire your own
Need to study it and strength
adjust Don’t get
2. You misjudged the discouraged
temptation
Or you misjudged your
level of skill
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49. For the Spouse of a Porn User
1. Get educated about 3. Find support
the habit Fellow sufferers
Keep your reactions Counselor
and expectations for 4. Find others to
change reasonable help your
2. Be careful about spouse
learning details Don’t be “porn
May be too distressing police”
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51. Overview of Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow
12. Meet the 15. Expand and
underlying fortify love
needs relationships
13. Exchange 16. Make healthy
support with new habits
others 17. Keep higher
14. Learn new happiness in
skills mind
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52. Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow I
12. Meet the 13. Exchange
underlying needs support with
Cravings signal the others
need for love, etc. Open up to let
What distress are other strugglers
you avoiding? help you
Face and address Give the same in
specific fears return
Check for Learn by
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53. Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow II
14. Learn new skills
Dealing with emotions
Stress release
Managing conflict with others
Problem solving
Self expression
Making friends
Healthy bonding with others
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54. Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow III
15. Expand and fortify love relationships
Need good vertical Fight any
and horizontal reluctance to
connections get close to
To give care and key people
receive it Father
Non-sexual physical relationship
affection is important
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55. Basic Strategies to
Build Up Positives & Grow IV
16. Make healthy 17. Keep higher
new habits happiness in mind
Exercise and rest Remind yourself of
Good engaging what you really want
activities Use pictures and
Harmless phrases
distractions
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56. Helpful Resources
1. Porn Filter and 4. Purity Education,
Accountability Support and Coaching
Software YourBrainOnPorn.com
Max.com 3xPureOnline.com
2. Filtered Internet DrDougWeiss.com
BSecure.com CandeoHealthySexuality
3. Movie filter .com
Maxplay.com
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57. John R. Williams, M.M.F.T.
973.340.8642
John.Coach1@gmail.com
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