This document provides guidance on developing and maintaining healthy friendships. It discusses the importance of having shared values and interests with friends, supporting each other through both good and bad times, and having principles like honesty and kindness at the center of relationships rather than making friends the sole focus. The document also addresses different types of friendships, peer pressure, problems that can arise like jealousy or bullying, and how to be a good friend.

1. Friends

2. Journal #10
• What makes a good friend? Why are friends
important?
• Think of your most memorable moment with a
friend/friends and write about it. What made
is special, memorable, fun, serious etc.

3. Friendships
• You will develop many kinds of friendships
throughout your life.
• Common attributes of Friends
• Similar values, interests, beliefs and attitudes
• Share joy/disappointment/dreams and concerns
• Respect/care and support
• Concern for each others safety

4. Whats@ ur center??
• Making friends your life center? PROBLEM…..
• Friends are:
• Imperfect
• unstable
• They move
• They change
• If not friends what does make a good center?
• PRINCIPALS
• Honest , respect, responsibility, caring, kindness

5. Different Kinds of
Friendships
• Casual and close:
• Online:
• Platonic: relationship with member of the
opposite sex

6. POPULAR?
• Dark side:
• Stuck up snotty think your better than others
Positive side: people that are well liked and
respected because they are genuine decent
people (PRINCIPAL CENTERED  )

7. Problems in
Relationships
• Cliques: small circle of friends, usually with similar
backgrounds or tastes who exclude others
(stereotyping)
• Envy/Jealousy:
• Things to ask yourself:
• what is making you feel jealous
• Is my friend trying to deliberately make me feel this way
• What can I do to manage/reduce these feelings
• What positive qualities make this person a good friend
• The friendship changes for whatever reason
• Be open to the fact your friends change…that’s okay!

8. Peer Pressure
• Peers can influence how you think, feel and
act.
• Positive Peer Pressure
• Negative Peer Pressure
• Harassment: persistently annoying others.
• Manipulation: indirect, dishonest way to control
or influence other people.

9. Peer Pressure
• Preparation: get clear on your goals
• Good grades
• Starter on the team
• Example to siblings
• Strong support system
• Surround yourself with friends, family and
others who inspire you to be your best
• Courage in the moment!!!

10. Methods of Manipulation
• Making threats
• Blackmail
• Mocking or Teasing
• “Guilt Trips”
• Bargaining
• Flattery
• Bribing

11. Making and Being a
FRIEND
• Be slow to judge
• YOU make the effort
• Build the RBA
• Make yourself likeable
• Be inclusive
• Treat unkindness with kindness
• Lift others

13. Queen Bee, Wannabee
and Gamma Girl
• Queen bee: popularity means everything.
Protect clique at all cost and will boot anyone
out who tries to threaten their reign.
• Wanna bee: Those who do whatever it takes to
get in with the Queen Bee.
• Gamma Girl: kids who may not be known as
popular but they are comfortable with who
they are like their parents, are smart, kind and
think popularity is overrated

14. Quirks, Faults and Foibles
• Just like you, your friends are trying to figure
out who they are and what the purpose of life
is….
• Forgive and there is a time to draw the line….

15. Mean Girls, Gossip Bullies
• Gossip we can do things about…
• Confront it….(I message  )
• Live above it. Ignore it and move one
• TREAT EACH OTHERS REPUTATIONS WITH
CARE!
• LEAVE PEOPLE BETTER THAN WHEN YOU FIND
THEM

16. CRABS/COMPETITION
• Crabs?? …..
• Friends pulling you down?
• Compare clothes, looks, abilities and compete
• Think WIN/WIN
• I want to win and you can win too

17. How come don’t you kick
with us anymore?
• Friends change…and that’s okay.
• Big difference between abandoning your
friends and developing new friends because
your interests change.
• Don’t get upset if your naturally start drifting
apart because your interests take you in
different directions

18. Ms. Ross Journal
response
• 7th grade jacuzzi/laundry mat/vogue/NB girls trip
• BFF’s
• Sister Lisa, Brother Shane, Julie (24yrs)
• Accepts me for who I am faults and all
• Listens
• Inspires
• Fun
• Laugh and play

19. Trouble in Paradise
• Allen ran up to Dave on the way to school. “Dave, what are you doing after school? Im
going out with Eric’s group tonight and they invited you to come along.
• “Sorry I’ve got a project to finish” said Dave. “why do you want to hang out with those
guys, anyway? I hear some of them have been in trouble with the police.”
• “They’re fund to be around,” Allen said. Then he added angrily, “Why are you so
uptight?”
• Dave looked at Allen. They had been friends since gradeschool, but lately Allen seemed
to lose interest in doing the things that they used to enjoy together. Allen quit the tae
kwon do class and the math study group they were in. Now Allen was spending time
with a rough crowd and getting into trouble at school. D
• Dave wondered how he should respond???

20. Writing
• Write and ending to the scenario in which Dave
communicates to Allen that he thinks their friendship
is changing.
• Make sure Allen knows Dave has decided to pursue
healthier friendships. Use the following as guidelines:
• Write ending in dialog format (minimum 3 paragraphs)
• Use at least one I message
• Speak calmly and clearly
• Use respectful tone
• Listen carefully and ask appropriate questions
• Use forms of body language (appropriate)

21. Assertive Refusal Skills
• State Your Position:
• NO, firmly and simply
• Suggest Alternatives:
• Suggest another activity
• Stand Your Ground:
• Make it clear you meant what you said
• Remove yourself from the situation

22. How to Make Others Like You
Dale Carnagie- How to Win Friend and Influence People
• Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person
the sweetest and most important sound in any
language.
4. Be a good listener.
5. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk
in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it
sincerely.