This document discusses healthy relationships and the roles people play within relationships. It defines a role as the part someone plays in a relationship. It notes that people have many roles, such as daughter, sister, friend, teacher, etc. and lists some of the roles and responsibilities of the author. The document contrasts cooperation with compliance and outlines the "Cs" of healthy relationships - cooperation, compliance, compromise, and communication. It discusses building and maintaining trust within relationships by making regular "deposits", such as understanding others, acts of kindness, keeping commitments, clarifying expectations, integrity, and apologizing, and avoiding "withdrawals" like breaking promises or hurtful words.

1. Social health
Healthy Relationships

2. Starter
1. Name 2 roles you play in your life.
1. List 2 characteristics of a healthy relationship.
1. What does RBA stand for?

3. The many roles of Tom Hanks…

4. Discussion
Why was he such a successful actor in these roles?
What was required of him in order to play all of
these different types of roles?

5. Roles Within Relationships
Role: a part you play in your relationship
Relationship: the bond or connection you
have with other people
 Acquaintances
 Friends
 Family

6. Ms. Garfield’s Roles...
Daughter
Sister
Friend
Coach
Teacher
Church member
Chef
Teammate
Therapist
• Roommate
• Accountant
• Granddaughter
• Student
• Co-worker

7. White Board Activity
What are some of the roles that you play in your
different relationships?
What are some of your responsibilities within those
roles?
Lets look at two roles that each of us can relate to
 Roles of parents
 Roles you have as children

8. Cooperation vs. Compliance
What’s the difference?

9. The C’s of Relationships
Cooperation
 The process of working together to the same end
 * With a good attitude!*
Compliance
 The act of conforming, or yielding
 Doing it because you have to
Compromise
 an agreement or a settlement of an argument/dispute
that is reached by each side making sacrifices
 Each side gives a little in order to come to an agreement
Communication
 We will talk about this next class period

10. Character within Relationships
Trustworthiness:
 Doing what you say you
will do
Responsibility:
 borrow something, it
breaks, you replace it.
Fairness:
 take turns, share
Caring:
 Show sympathy and/or
empathy
Citizenship:
 Being a good
neighbor/friend. Ex: help
by shoveling walks, etc.
Respect:
 Listen when someone is
talking

11. Relationship Bank Account
Think, pair, share with a partner sitting next to you
 Read  Covey pgs. 107-108

12. Unlike a Real Bank Account
Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten about.
Where withdrawals turn to stone (not forgotten…harder to
forget)
Too many withdrawals requires even more deposits to
bring the account back into the positive.
The only way to build up accounts (relationships) is to
minimize withdrawals and make steady generous
deposits over time

13. RBA Withdrawals
Breaking promises
Gossiping about others
Not listening
Being arrogant
Losing trust
Not fulfilling expectations
Saying hurtful things
Waiting to be told to do something

14. 6 Major Deposits
Understanding the Individual (Showing interest)
Demonstrating small courtesies and kindnesses (small
change)
Keeping commitments (credit card)
Clarifying expectations (check)
Showing personal integrity (gold)
Apologizing sincerely (cash)

15. Understanding the Individual
Showing interest
Recognize what is important to that person and take
interest in it
Ex: Sam discusses the stock market with his dad who
is a stock-broker

16. Demonstrating small courtesies and
kindnesses
Small change
These are often underrated, but kind notes, winks,
hugs, etc quickly add up in the RBA.
These small acts demonstrate appreciation

17. Keeping our Commitments
Credit Card
Doing WHAT we say we will WHEN we say we will
Promising to be somewhere & not showing up =
withdrawal

18. Clarifying Expectations
Check
Critically important in avoiding contention,
misunderstandings, & hurt feelings
Don’t read minds or expect others to read yours.
Ex: Moms idea of a clean room might be different
than yours.

19. Showing Personal Integrity
Gold
Demonstrate character in all your actions &
relationships
Be trustworthy & honest. Don’t gossip

20. Apologizing Sincerely
Cash
Small, but important words make all the difference
in a relationship.
Ex: Please… Thank you… I love you… I’m sorry…
How can I help…?