Social Unit

1. Social health
Healthy Relationships

2. Starter
1. Name 2 roles you play in your life.
1. List 2 characteristics of a healthy relationship.
1. What does RBA stand for?

3. The many roles of Tom Hanks…

4. Discussion
Why was he such a successful actor in these roles?
What was required of him in order to play all of
these different types of roles?

5. Roles Within Relationships
Role: a part you play in your relationship
Relationship: the bond or connection you
have with other people
 Acquaintances
 Friends
 Family

6. Ms. Garfield’s Roles...
Daughter
Sister
Friend
Coach
Teacher
Church member
Chef
Teammate
Therapist
• Roommate
• Accountant
• Granddaughter
• Student
• Co-worker

7. White Board Activity
What are some of the roles that you play in your
different relationships?
What are some of your responsibilities within those
roles?
Lets look at two roles that each of us can relate to
 Roles of parents
 Roles you have as children

8. Cooperation vs. Compliance
What’s the difference?

9. The C’s of Relationships
Cooperation
 The process of working together to the same end
 * With a good attitude!*
Compliance
 The act of conforming, or yielding
 Doing it because you have to
Compromise
 an agreement or a settlement of an argument/dispute
that is reached by each side making sacrifices
 Each side gives a little in order to come to an agreement
Communication
 We will talk about this next class period

10. Character within Relationships
Trustworthiness:
 Doing what you say you
will do
Responsibility:
 borrow something, it
breaks, you replace it.
Fairness:
 take turns, share
Caring:
 Show sympathy and/or
empathy
Citizenship:
 Being a good
neighbor/friend. Ex: help
by shoveling walks, etc.
Respect:
 Listen when someone is
talking

11. Relationship Bank Account
Think, pair, share with a partner sitting next to you
 Read  Covey pgs. 107-108

12. Unlike a Real Bank Account
Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten about.
Where withdrawals turn to stone (not forgotten…harder to
forget)
Too many withdrawals requires even more deposits to
bring the account back into the positive.
The only way to build up accounts (relationships) is to
minimize withdrawals and make steady generous
deposits over time

13. RBA Withdrawals
Breaking promises
Gossiping about others
Not listening
Being arrogant
Losing trust
Not fulfilling expectations
Saying hurtful things
Waiting to be told to do something

14. 6 Major Deposits
Understanding the Individual (Showing interest)
Demonstrating small courtesies and kindnesses (small
change)
Keeping commitments (credit card)
Clarifying expectations (check)
Showing personal integrity (gold)
Apologizing sincerely (cash)

15. Understanding the Individual
Showing interest
Recognize what is important to that person and take
interest in it
Ex: Sam discusses the stock market with his dad who
is a stock-broker

16. Demonstrating small courtesies and
kindnesses
Small change
These are often underrated, but kind notes, winks,
hugs, etc quickly add up in the RBA.
These small acts demonstrate appreciation

17. Keeping our Commitments
Credit Card
Doing WHAT we say we will WHEN we say we will
Promising to be somewhere & not showing up =
withdrawal

18. Clarifying Expectations
Check
Critically important in avoiding contention,
misunderstandings, & hurt feelings
Don’t read minds or expect others to read yours.
Ex: Moms idea of a clean room might be different
than yours.

19. Showing Personal Integrity
Gold
Demonstrate character in all your actions &
relationships
Be trustworthy & honest. Don’t gossip

20. Apologizing Sincerely
Cash
Small, but important words make all the difference
in a relationship.
Ex: Please… Thank you… I love you… I’m sorry…
How can I help…?