The document provides advice and discussion on friendship, peers, and dealing with peer pressure. It discusses qualities of good friends, the importance of having principles at your core rather than relying on friends, different types of popular kids, making new friends, dealing with gossip and bullying, and developing assertiveness to resist negative peer pressure through suggestion of alternatives or standing your ground.

1. PEERS & FRIENDS

2. JOURNAL
 Thinkof your most memorable
moment with a friend/friends and write
about it. What made it special,
memorable, fun, serious, etc.

3. JOURNAL
 What are qualities you want in a good
friend?
(Ex: caring, trustworthy, someone who
listens, someone with good advice, etc.)
 Write down as many things as you can

4. WHAT’S AT YOUR CENTER?!
 Are Friends at your center?
 ANY PROBLEMS…?
 Friends are imperfect, unstable, and human
 They move
 They change
 What SHOULD be at our center?
 PRINCIPLES
 Honesty…Respect…Responsibility
 Principles never fail
 Principles are MAGNETIC!

5. POPULAR: DARK VS LIGHT SIDE
 Dark Side
 Stuck up, snotty, think
you’re better than
others
 Light Side
 people that are well
liked and respected
because they are
genuine decent people
(PRINCIPLE
CENTERED  )

6. QUEEN BEE, WANNA BEE AND GAMMA
GIRL
 Queen bee: popularity means everything. Protect
clique at all cost and will boot anyone out who tries
to threaten their reign.
 Wanna bee: Those who do whatever it takes to get
in with the Queen Bee.
 Gamma Girl: kids who may not be known as
popular but they are comfortable with who they are,
they like their parents, are smart, and are kind!

7. QUIRKS, FAULTS AND FOIBLES
 Just like you, your friends are trying to figure out
who they are and what the purpose of life is….
 Forgive and there is a time to draw the line….

8. MEAN GIRLS, GOSSIP, & BULLIES
 Gossip we can do things about…
 Confront it….(I-message  )
 Live above it. Ignore it and move on
 TREAT EACH OTHERS REPUTATIONS WITH CARE!
 LEAVE PEOPLE BETTER THAN WHEN YOU FIND
THEM

9. CRABS & COMPETITION
 Crabs?? …..
 Friends pulling you
down?
 Compare clothes,
looks, abilities and
compete
 Think WIN/WIN
 I want to win and you
can win too

10. HOW COME DON’T YOU KICK WITH US
ANYMORE?
 Friends change…and that’s okay.
 Big difference between abandoning your friends
and developing new friends because your interests
change.
 Don’t get upset if your naturally start drifting apart
because your interests take you in different
directions

11. QUICK REVIEW!!
 BE the type of friend you WANT in others!
 Be PRINCIPLE centered friend MAGNET!!!
 We all should want to be POPULAR.
 But HOW do we make NEW friends?
 Care about them
 Ask questions
 Be PRINCIPLE centered 

12. FRIEND MAKING SKILLS
 You will develop many kinds of friendships
throughout your life.
 Some will be more important to you than others
 Common attributes of Friends
 Similar values, interests, beliefs and attitudes
 Share joy/disappointment/dreams and concerns
 Respect, care and support
 Concern for each others safety

13. THE NEWLY FRIEND GAME!
Pairings….
 Cake/cookie stomach/ache salt/pepper
 Ebony/ivory chocolate/chip nurse/DR
 String/cheeseReeses/pieces night/day
 Ice/cream dog/cat early/late
 Bread/jam loose/tooth
 Black/whitehubba/bubba
 Peanut/butter straw/berry

14. MAKING & BEING A FRIEND
“You can’t make people like you, but you can
always make yourself more likable.” **Covey
 Be slow to judge
 YOU make the effort
 Build the RBA
 Be Inclusive
 Treat Unkindness with
kindness
 Lift others

15. 6 WAYS TO BE MORE LIKEABLE
 Dale Carnegie
1. Become genuinely interested in other people
2. SMILE!!! 
3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person
the sweetest and most important sound in any
language.
4. Be a good listener
5. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk
in terms of the other person’s interests.
6. Make the other person feel important
 And do it sincerely

16. It takes a great deal of
COURAGE to stand up
to your ENEMIES, but a
great deal more to stand
up to your FRIENDS.

18. PEER PRESSURE
 When you feel pressured by people in your age
group to act a certain way.
 Positive PP: when your friends expect good things
from you
 Negative PP: when your friends persuade you to
conform or do something you don’t want to do
 Remember your life centered on PRINCIPLES…not
FRIENDS

19. NEGATIVE PEER PRESSURE
 Harassment:
Persistently annoying
others
 Manipulation:
indirect, dishonest way
to control or influence
other people

20. PEER PRESSURE SHIELD

21. ASSERTIVE REFUSAL SKILLS
 State Your Position:
 NO, firmly and simply
 Suggest Alternatives:
 Suggest another activity
 Stand Your Ground:
 Make it clear you meant what you said
 Remove yourself from the situation

22. JOURNAL
 Think of a time when you were pressured.
 Who pressured you?
 What activity/behavior were you being pressured to do?
 What arguments did the person/people pressuring you
use?
 How did you respond? If you tried to resist, what did you
say or do?
 What might you say or do in the future to resist peer
pressure?

23. 4 RED FLAGS
 You may want to suggest a new group of friends
if….
 You have to change your clothes, language, friends,
or standards in order to keep your friends.
 You’re doing stuff you don’t feel good about, like
stealing, fighting, or doing drugs.
 You feel like you’re being used
 Your life feels out of control