5th refusal skills day 4
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This document discusses communication and relationships. It defines communication as the clear exchange of ideas and information and relationships as connections between people. It explores different ways of communicating including face-to-face, by telephone, and in writing. The document also discusses building friendships through cooperation, mutual respect, and developing good communication skills like listening actively. It covers preventing and resolving conflicts using compromise and avoiding violence.
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5th refusal skills day 4
- 1. Chapter 3
- 2. What Is Communication? Successful communication is at the root of healthy relationships. communication The clear exchange of ideas and information relationship A connection you have with another person or group
- 3. What Is Communication? Person Messages Person
- 4. Different Ways to Communicate The main way people communicate is through language. Another way to communicate is through body language. body language Facial expressions, eye contact, gestures, and posture
- 5. Different Ways to Communicate Different ways to communicate include: Face-to-face Telephone Written messages E-mail Text messaging Sign language
- 6. Safety Online Make sure that a parent or guardian gives you permission to communicate with others online. Never give out information about yourself or your family. Stay out of unsupervised chat rooms. Never agree to meet anyone in person. If an online conversation makes you feel uncomfortable, exit and tell a parent or other adult.
- 7. Different Ways to Communicate There are advantages and disadvantages to different kinds of communication. When talking on the telephone or sending e-mail, visual clues such as facial expressions are absent.
- 8. Using Good Communication Skills Outbound (“Sending”) Inbound (“Receiving”) Think, then speak Listen actively Use “I” messages Ask questions Make clear, simple statements Mirror thoughts and feelings Be honest with your thoughts Use appropriate body language and feelings Use appropriate body language Wait your turn
- 9. Communication Styles An aggressive communicator might say something rude. A shy (passive) communicator may say nothing at all. An assertive communicator isn’t shy or aggressive about expressing him or herself.
- 11. Who Are Your Friends? A friendship is an important relationship. friendship A special type of relationship between people who enjoy being together
- 12. Who Are Your Friends? Tips for Making Friends Get to know Break the Join a club Offer a yourself ice or group helping hand
- 13. Character Traits of Good Friends Good friends have the following character traits: Reliable reliable Dependable Loyal loyal Faithful empathy The ability to identify and Empathy share another person’s feelings
- 14. Building Strong Friendships You can build stronger friendships through cooperation. cooperation Working together for the common good Another way of making friendships stronger is through mutual respect and support.
- 15. Peer Pressure Peers can give you support and confidence during your transition to adulthood. peers Friends and other people in your age group
- 16. Positive Peer Pressure Positive peer pressure can influence healthful choices and inspire you to improve yourself or do something worthwhile. peer pressure The influence that people your age may have on you
- 17. Positive Peer Pressure Positive peer pressure can inspire you to improve yourself or do something worthwhile. Inspiring you to improve your health and appearance, or to perform well on a team, are ways to be positive influences.
- 18. Negative Peer Pressure Daring someone to behave in a dangerous or illegal way is an example of negative peer pressure. A challenge to go against your beliefs or values is another example of negative peer pressure.
- 20. What Are Refusal Skills? When peer pressure builds, use refusal skills to avoid potentially harmful situations. refusal skills Ways of saying no
- 21. What Are Refusal Skills? s Say no in a firm voice. T Tell why not. O Offer other ideas. P Promptly leave.
- 22. What Is Abstinence? Abstinence protects your health and the health of others. abstinence Not participating in health-risk behaviors Abstinence shows you have self-control.
- 23. What Is Abstinence? Abstaining from Protects your lungs and heart. tobacco use… Abstaining from Protects your body and mind. alcohol and other drugs… Abstaining from Protects you against pregnancy and sexual activity… sexually transmitted diseases.
- 24. Refusal Skills Scenarios Jose hands you a baggie full of marihuana and asks you to hold it “Just ‘till school is over”. What do you do? Callahan invites you over to his house. He tells you that his parents are not home and that you can try beer. What do you do? Sam met some “ladies” in a chat room. He tells you he is meeting them on his way home from school, and wants you to come with. What do you do? Todd invites you over to his house after school. His parents are going to be there, and would like to speak to your parents to see if it’s OK. What do you do?
- 25. What are Conflicts? The first step in preventing conflicts is understanding what causes them. conflicts Disagreements in ideas, beliefs, or interests
- 26. Causes of Conflict Causes of conflict include: Difference of opinion Jealousy Prejudice prejudice An opinion or fear formed without having facts or firsthand knowledge
- 27. The Myth of Positive Prejudice Some kinds of prejudice can seem positive. For example, saying all French people are good cooks may sound like a compliment. However, it is really a form of prejudice. Prejudices assume things about people based on their race, culture, or the groups they belong to.
- 28. Preventing Conflicts Good communication skills and tolerance are good tools to help prevent conflicts. tolerance The ability to accept other people as they are
- 29. Resolving Conflicts Know when to walk away Refuse to fight Don’t take sides Seek help if a fight breaks out
- 30. Reaching a Compromise Compromise is an important conflict-resolution skill. compromise A skill in which each side gives up something in order to reach an agreeable solution A compromise should not go against your values.
- 31. Reaching a Compromise A compromise sometimes requires negotiation. negotiation The process of talking about a conflict and deciding how to reach a compromise
- 32. Reaching a Compromise The T.A.L.K. strategy is an effective way of resolving conflicts. T Take a time-out. A Allow each person to tell his or her side. L Let each person ask questions. K Keep brainstorming.
- 33. Reaching a Compromise Some schools offer peer mediation as an option for conflict-resolution. peer mediation A process in which a specially trained student listens to both sides of an argument to help the people reach a solution
- 34. When Conflicts Get Out of Hand Conflicts that get out of hand can lead to violence. violence The use of physical force to harm someone or something Violence is a growing problem in the United States.
- 35. When Conflicts Get Out of Hand In some communities, there is gang violence. gang A group whose members often use violence or take part in criminal activity Some teens join gangs because of peer pressure, or they seek a sense of belonging that is missing in their lives.
- 36. Avoiding Violence Don’t wear clothing Learn and practice that could be Stay clear of self-control. mistaken for gang harmful situations. clothing. If you carry a purse, Don’t go to parties Do not fight or carry it across that might include threaten others. your chest. drugs or alcohol. If someone has a Be an advocate Use good weapon, report it. of peace. communication skills.
- 37. Protecting Yourself from Violence Do not open the Keep doors and Never tell visitors door to anyone you windows locked. or callers you are alone. don’t know. When going out, tell your When walking home, family where you are Stay in familiar try to walk in pairs, or going and how you will neighborhoods. with a group. get there. If someone tries to grab you, yell “don’t touch Never get into or go Do not enter a building me there” and near a stranger’s car. with a stranger. run away. Call 911.
- 38. ABSTINENCE ENVIRONMENT PEERS ADVOCACY FRIENDSHIP PHYSICAL HEALTH ATTITUDE GOAL PREVENTION BEHAVIOR HABIT REFUSAL SKILLS BODY LANGUAGE HEALTH RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATION HEALTH SKILLS RELIABLE CONSEQUENCES HEREDITY RISK COOPERATION LONG-TERM GOAL SHORT-TERM GOAL CULTURE LOYAL SOCIAL HEALTH CUMULATIVE RISK MEDIA TECHNOLOGY MENTAL/EMOTIONAL DECISIONS VALUES HEALTH EMPATHY PEER PRESSURE WELLNESS
Editor's Notes
- We communicate with people every day. Good communication helps people understand each other and helps build good relationships.
- When you communicate, you send or receive messages. Both the sender of the message and the receiver should have good communication skills.
- On one end of communication, there is a speaker or writer. On the other end, there is a listener or reader. An example of body language is shrugging your shoulders at a question you can’t answer. People are often unaware of their body language. Sometimes, without knowing it, people send mixed messages. You send a mixed message when your words don’t match what your body is saying.
- Sign language allows people with hearing loss to communicate face-to-face.
- Instant messaging (IM) is a great example of how technology improves communication in our lives. So is e-mail. When using these technologies, it is important to understand the risks and to play it safe.
- The advantages to different kinds of communication include being able to communicate your feelings, exchange ideas and information, and get a timely response. Sometimes it is easier to express feelings or difficult emotions in writing than face-to-face or on the phone. In written messages, your reader can’t see your facial expression or hear the tone of your voice. All forms of communication allow you to communicate successfully.
- This slide summarizes effective verbal and nonverbal communication skills for both sending and receiving messages.
- To communicate effectively, you must learn to use an assertive style. Being an assertive communicator means that you make your wants and needs known, but in a positive, active manner.
- Reasons people become friends include: Location Shared interests Personality traits
- Get to know yourself : Make a list of your own interests. Break the ice : Start a conversation with a classmate you think you’d like to know better. Join a club, sports team, or community group that interests you : You’ll meet people with similar interests. Offer a helping hand : Help a classmate or neighbor with homework or other projects.
- It is important to choose friends who have positive values and attitudes. Good friends often have the same views of what is right and wrong. They may share common character traits such as trustworthiness and caring. Being friends does not always mean you will agree with each other. Accepting views and opinions that are different from your own is a sign of respect. It is also a sign of maturity, a sign that you’re growing up.
- Talking together about problems or concerns is a form of support. Supporting each other will help you and your friend make more healthful decisions. This includes saying no to negative peer pressure.
- You see classmates wearing a certain type of clothing. Without a word from anyone else, you go out and buy the same item. This is an example of peer pressure. Other times, peer pressure may be more direct. A peer may tell you what you should do to blend in or be accepted.
- Peer pressure can be either positive or negative. You may be encouraged to study for a test by studying together with your friends or other peers.
- Peer pressure can be either positive or negative. You may be encouraged to study for a test by studying together with your friends or other peers.
- Other examples of negative peer pressure include: Urging a peer to use tobacco, alcohol, or other drugs Talking a peer into being unkind to someone who is different Persuading a peer to do something illegal such as shoplifting Encouraging a peer to be disrespectful to parents or other adults Urging a peer to fight or get involved in gangs
- Say no in a firm voice Sometimes, saying no is enough. Friends who respect you will take now for an answer. Show self-confidence without being insulting to others. Tell why not Explain your reasons for saying no. Let your peers know that you value your health and safety. Offer other ideas Change the subject by coming up with something else to do instead. Promptly leave If people continue to put pressure on you, walk away. Remember that you can always seek the help of a trusted adult.
- High risk behaviors include: Tobacco use Alcohol use Illegal drugs Sexual activity
- When you choose abstinence, you protect the three sides of your health triangle.
- Disliking someone because of their skin color or culture is an example of prejudice. Prejudice can cause both emotional and social health risks within a community.
- Don’t assume anything about a person until you get to know him or her.
- When you disagree with someone, state your case clearly. Use “I” statements that do not accuse or blame. Accepting people who are different from you can help you build and maintain positive interpersonal relationships.
- Walking away from a conflict does not make you a coward or chicken. It makes you wiser and more mature than the other person. If a conflict is brewing between two other people, don’t get in the middle or take sides. Go get help from an adult right away.
- Take a time-out Wait at least 30 minutes before you talk over the situation. This will give you both a chance to calm down and think more clearly. Allow each person to tell his or her side Each person should have the chance to explain his or her feelings without interruption. Let each person ask questions Stay calm and respectful. Don’t bring other problems up at this time. Keep brainstorming Try to see the situation from the other person’s point of view.
- When all else fails, get help from a school counselor, parent, or other adult.
- Violence can lead to injury and even death.
- Gang membership is not an answer to life’s problems. Teens in gangs have a higher school drop-out rate than nonmembers. Teens in gangs are arrested more often, too. Because gangs often use weapons, these teens have a higher risk of getting seriously injured or of dying.