Happiness Workshop III: The Importance of Mindset

The Happiness Project The First Church of Salem, Unitarian Workshop III: MINDSET A Key to Cultivating a Good Life

A Brief Review ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Happiness is about Cultivating and Appreciating A Good Life

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my “best self” 1 Appreciate new attendees and make them feel wanted

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Make new attendees feel welcome

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Appreciate : What is good about… this moment? Cultivate : How can I continue to improve? Reflecting & Appreciation

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Welcome new attendees Appreciate : There are some interesting people here Cultivate : I’m nervous; but it’s about them, not me…

Three Areas of A Good Life Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships A Good Life

Happiness is Work/ Contribution Health/ Self-Care Love/ Relationships Cultivation & Appreciation in Each Domain

Mindfulness ,[object Object],BREATHING is an act of centering focuses our awareness that can be done anytime, anywhere for immediate re-centering

Exercise I: Simple Breathing Meditation ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Now is the time for the most important question for cultivating happiness: ,[object Object]

Exercise: What does this moment have to offer? ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

CULTIVATING THE PRACTICE OF SELF-CULTIVATION Reflecting upon and Developing Your MINDSET Cultivating my best self Appreciation Reflection for Cultivation

Mindset ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Fixed versus Growth Mindsets Theory of Intelligence, Competence or Ability My Goals What I Do Fixed ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Incremental Increase Competence ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Ability See, I think of my ability as a fixed lump of coal in my head. It’s innate. Or God given, or sump’n like that. There’s nuffin’ I can do ‘bout it! Joe Fixedhead Thick shell around encased “ability-as-thing”

Growth Mindset Ability is not a fixed thing; it is a set of skills that can be and must be developed

Fixed Mindset ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Fixed Mindset ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Growth Mindset

Growth Mindset ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Growth Mindset ,[object Object],If I put forth effort , I will improve. (I can’t help but to improve!) And baby steps count.

This, of course, naturally brings us to…. ,[object Object]

Critical Feedback and the Growth Mindset

Failure and the Growth Mindset ,[object Object],[object Object],Failure means I need to put forth more effort to develop the skill. If I adopt a growth mindset, failure need not threatened my self-esteem

Ability Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback Joe, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes.

Joe Fixedhead Criticism and Critical Feedback WAH!!! YOU DON’T LIKE MY CHARTS. YOU DON’T LIKE ME. WAH!!! DON’T YOU KNOW THAT I AM MY DIAGRAMS?

Incrementally Improving Irma TAKE TWO Irma, I think that the diagram you made may need a few changes. Hmm… What can I learn from this? Esteemed Boss

A Mild Digression to a Complex Issue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Does this baby have the ability to do mathematics?

Does this baby have the ability to do mathematics? Of course not. This child will need to put forth a lot of effort and activity to learn how to add, subtract, do algebra, etc.

But, all things being equal, this baby…. may be more (or less) predisposed to develop mathematical skills in the future … … than this baby

Regardless of their dispositions , they can both learn math, and will have to exert effort to do so. All skills develop over time.

Abilities and Dispositions ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my “best self” 1 Make a pretty napkin

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Reflecting on My Actions Make a pretty napkin

The Happiness Process Everyday Life Cultivating my best self 1 2 Appreciate : What is good about my napkin? { It stands up; It looks like a fan } Cultivate : How can I make it just a tiny bit better? { Make it tighter next time } Reflecting & Appreciation

Cultivating my best self Appreciate the Moment Take the Next (Baby?) Step Happiness as Appreciation and Cultivation

GOAL STATE Look at how far I have to go! How overwhelming! I’ll never get there! Never, never, never! I’m a failure… How Not To Cultivate a Self Don’t judge yourself simply in comparison to where you want to be…

Yes, it’s important to know where you’re going… GOAL STATE

But don’t judge yourself on how far you’ve got to go, but instead on how far you have come. GOAL STATE Just last week I needed help just to stay on my feet!

Mindfulness: Appreciate the present. GOAL STATE I have farther to go, but I appreciate where I am.

Mindfulness: Cultivate the future. GOAL STATE I’ve got my eye on the NEXT STEP

Some Cultural Illustrations: American Self-Esteem vs. Chinese Self-Cultivation

The US-Chinese Learning Gap ,[object Object],[object Object]

US Approach to Learning Self-Esteem/Task/Ability Focus ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Chinese Self-Cultivation GOAL : Focus on Learning, Improvement and Self-Perfection

Alternative Approaches to Learning USA Ability Orientation CHINA Virtue Orientation ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

Development of “ Hao-Xue-Xin ” (China) “ Heart and Mind for Wanting to Learn ” Jin Li, Brown University College Students: What is Learning? USA CHINA Need for Self-Perfection/ Spiritual Power .15 .79 Information/Facts/Skills/ Understanding .95 .32

Perceptions of Source of Success/Failure Jin Li, Brown University Preschoolers: Finish the story… Bird who tries hard and succeeds in learning to fly... Bear who tries but fails to catch fish… Nation Content USA ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],China ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object]

The Point of this Cultural Analysis … is NOT to say: the Chinese are happier than the Americans It is simply to say: Effort and Reflection Bring Development What values determine your developmental path? … Identify them … cultivate them, … and appreciate the moment and the movement..

Prelude to Some Exercises ,[object Object],[object Object],The Serenity Prayer acknowledges that we cannot change everything; that we must accept situations that we cannot change, and even forgive ourselves our trespasses …. And then, work toward the changes that will make for a better life .

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