What to do when you are ANGRY! A practical workshop for kids on managing anger. Conducted as part of CHAMPS year long programme on Life Skills for 10-12 year kids at Margao, Goa, India. Covers below Anger-Dousing Methods in detail: #1 Take a Break #2 Think Cool Thoughts #3 Release ANGER Safely -Active Method: Physical Activity -Slowing Down Method: Breathe, Stretch #4 Work It Out or Just Let Go –Be Flexible –Compromise

1. What to do when you are ANGRY!
A practical workshop for kids on managing anger
Conducted as part of CHAMPS year long programme on Life Skills for 10-12 year kids at Margao
Happy
Honest
Humble
Courageous
Confident
Creative
Clear
Calm
Humble
Healthy
Harmonious
Mature
Mindful
Mannered
Motivated
Methodical
Accountable
Adaptable
Analytical
Assertive
Active
Problem Solver
Persevering
Positive
Planner
Strong
Sincere
Sociable
Self-aware
Self-disciplined
Character, Habits, Attitude,Character, Habits, Attitude,
Mindset & Personality forMindset & Personality for
SuccessSuccess
By
Dr. Jyoti Hegde Mr. Amey Hegde
Life Skills Trainer for Students Motivational Speaker & Corporate Trainer
http://jyotihegde.in http://ameyhegde.in
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3. Words that mean ANGRY
HOT MAD FURIOUSHOT MAD FURIOUS
IRRITATED ANNOYED FUMING
EXPLOSIVE

4. How does it feel to be ANGRY
• Think of a time when you felt ANGRY.
What did it feel like?
This is where I feel my ANGERThis is where I feel my ANGER

5. How does it feel to be ANGRY
This is what some kids had to say
• I just get so TENSE
• I want the world to get away from me
• Its like my heart is beating out of control
• I want to take it out on somebody
• My hands start to shake
• Everything inside me is jumpy, like it has to get out• Everything inside me is jumpy, like it has to get out
• I feel so mad that my head could explode
• I just want to break something
• It feels like my stomach is tied up in knots

6. Internal Angry Warning Signs
Feel hot Surge of energy
Can’t think clearly Want to scream
Want to be alone Want to throw thingsWant to be alone Want to throw things
Feel like crying Head pounds
Stomach turns or
knots up
Want to make the
other person feel bad
Can’t get my mind off
of it
Feel like hurting the
person
Body shakes Want to run away
Feel “brain locked” Fast breathing
Want to swear Other reaction? (Not
on cards)

7. Is ANGER a good or a bad thing?
• It’s our body’s way of telling us that we
don’t like what’s going on.don’t like what’s going on.
• It can make us say things we don’t really
mean and do things we would never do if
we were calm and in control.we were calm and in control.

8. QUIZ : Does ANGER Win You Friends?
1. Has ANGER helped you get good grades on school?
YES NO
2. Has anyone ever said, “I want to be your friend2. Has anyone ever said, “I want to be your friend
because you are so good at becoming ANGRY”?
YES NO
3. Has your mom or dad ever been nicer to you because
you got ANGRY about something?you got ANGRY about something?
YES NO
4. Have you ever fallen asleep with a smile on your face,
thinking about all the times you got ANGRY that day?
YES NO

9. 5. Have you ever gotten in trouble for something you
said or did when you were ANGRY?
YES NO
QUIZ : Does ANGER Win You Friends?
6. Have you ever felt bad, after you calmed down, for
something you said or did when you were ANGRY?
YES NO
7. Have you ever lost out on doing something because
you were so busy being ANGRY?
YES NO

10. Think of things that make you ANGRY
•Think about School & Home.
•Think about your little brother & big sister.•
•Think about the things you want that you can’t have.
•Think about the things people sometimes say and do
that drive you nuts.
•Think about the last time you yelled at your mom and
dad.

11. The secret of ANGER!
THE
ONLY THING
THAT
MAKES YOU
ANGRY ISANGRY IS
YOU.
Do you believe this secret?

12. Situation: Someone takes the
last chocolate cookie

13. I WANTED
THAT!
What kind of thoughts can make you ANGRY?
THAT!
NOT FAIR!
THOSE ARETHOSE ARE
MY FAVOURITE!

14. I’M NOT
HUNGRY
ANYWAY DAD SAID HE’D
BUY MORE COOKIES
What kind of thoughts can help you stay COOL?
BUY MORE COOKIES
TOMORROW
I THINK
WE HAVE ICECREAMWE HAVE ICECREAM
IN THE FRIDGE
In both cases, someone had taken the last cookie.
Your thoughts made you angry or helped you stay cool

15. YOU CAN’T CONTROL
WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO
YOU CAN ALWAYS CONTROL
WHAT YOU THINK
YOU CAN CONTROL
YOUR ANGER

16. Fire! Fire!
Why is ANGER like fire?
• It’s HOT
• It can RAGE out of control• It can RAGE out of control
• It BURNS anyone who gets too close

17. What to do to make a fire bigger?
• Add more wood
What to do to make a fire go out?
• Don’t add more wood
• Pour water on it
Feed the fire
• Pour water on it
Douse the fire

18. Anger-Dousing Method #1:Take a Break
Walk away from the scene of your anger
Why?
• To calm down and think more clearly• To calm down and think more clearly
• To stay out of trouble and come up with a solution
ANGER is like a Giant Vacuum Cleaner, its power
to suck you in reduces as the distance increases

19. Take a break from an angry situation
• Go to your room
• Shoot some baskets
• Listen to music
Anger-Dousing Method #1:Take a Break
• Listen to music
• Let your pet dog lick your face
• Go to drink a glass of water
How to practise it: Kool Knots
Each time you step away from the anger, tie a knotEach time you step away from the anger, tie a knot
On reaching 10 knots, show your parents & celebrate
You can decide the 10 knot celebration in advance

20. Draw four things you can do while taking a
break from an ANGRY situation

21. Anger-Dousing Method #2:
Think Cool Thoughts
NOT FAIR! I HATE THIS!
HOT Thoughts feed the fire of ANGER
I NEVER GET
WHAT I WANT!
HE ALWAYS
GETS HER WAY!
ITS NOT WHAT I
Cool Thoughts put out the fire of ANGER
I CAN DEAL WITH THIS
GETTING ANGRY
ISNT GOING TO HELP
THIS ISN’T WORTH
GETTING ANGRY ABOUT
ITS NOT WHAT I
WANTED BUT I’LL
SURVIVE

22. Think Cool Thoughts: Example
• Your class is going for a picnic, and you got paired up
with a kid you don’t really like.
• Hot thoughts might come
NOT FAIR! I HATE THIS!
• Will your hot thoughts magically change your partner?
• Will your hot thoughts help you enjoy your picnic?
• Cool thoughts will help you stay cool
NOT FAIR! I HATE THIS!
I NEVER GET
WHAT I WANT!
THAT’S STUPID!
• Cool thoughts will help you stay cool
THIS ISN’T WORTH
GETTING ANGRY ABOUT
ITS NOT WHAT I
WANTED BUT I’LL
SURVIVE
Shift your thoughts to the wonderful things you will get to do

23. Situation:
Hot Thoughts
Next week is school vacation. So
your teacher includes 15 words on this week’s
spelling list, instead of the usual 10.
THAT’S STUPID
I HATE THIS!
NOW I WILL
NOT GET TIME
TO PLAY

24. Cool Thoughts
I CAN DEAL WITH THIS
THIS ISN’T WORTH
IT’S JUST ONE
EXTRA WORD A DAY
THIS ISN’T WORTH
GETTING ANGRY ABOUT
THERE WON’T BE ANY
WORDS NEXT WEEK

25. Write a Cool Thought in the bubble
You are
playing your
favourite
game and
losing big
Your mom shouts at
you for teasing your
brother, but he
started itlosing big
time
started it
Your friend who
promised to play
with you at
recess today,
Your mother
served you
palak last night
which you hate. recess today,
runs off with
someone else
instead.
which you hate.
She just put
palak on your
plate again.
Cool Thoughts work only when you think them yourself!

26. Our brains see ANGER the same way they see
Due to Angry Energy
• Heart starts beating faster
Anger-Dousing Method #3:
Release Anger Safely
• Heart starts beating faster
• Breathing changes, becomes more shallow
• Muscles tighten up
Angry Energy needs to be released
a)Active Method:a)Active Method:
Move your body fast to burn it off
b) Slowing Down Method:
Slow your body down

27. Active Method
• Physical activity: faster the better, at least 10-15 mins
• Jog • Skip • Dance • Parents’ exercise bike
• Get your heart to beat fast
• Exercise your muscles• Exercise your muscles
• You should sweat
How can you burn off Angry Energy in these places
HOME
SCHOOL OUTSIDE

28. Slowing Down Method
• First step is to Breathe deeply: It helps to slow
down your heartdown your heart
• Breathe in through your nose (count 1-2-3 slowly)
• Breathe out through your nose (count 1-2-3-4 slowly)
• Imagine breathing in your favourite smell
• Imagine breathing out all of your hot, ANGRY feelings

29. Second part of the method involves the rest of the body
Stretch your arms way up over your head.• Stretch your arms way up over your head.
Reach with your fingertips for the ceiling.
Breathe in (1-2-3) & out (1-2-3-4)
• Put your hands on your shoulders with your elbows
pointed out. Breathe in (1-2-3) as you twist slowly to
one side. Breathe out (1-2-3-4) as you twist to the
other side. Repeat

30. Some more ways to Cool-Down
• Count to 10
• Pretend to be a big balloon. Fill up with air. Then• Pretend to be a big balloon. Fill up with air. Then
relax and let out the air
• Turn on soft music and move around slowly
• Dim the lights and lie down to rest
• Make something with blocks or paint
• Squeeze a smiley ball or play dough

31. When you are ANGRY, the door to the thinking part of
your brain closes
Anger-Dousing Method #4:
Solve the Problem
THINKING
BREATHE
STRETCHCOOL
THOUGHT
TAKE A
BREAK
After opening the door to the thinking part of the brain
you can Work It Out or Just Move On

32. Work It Out
Sometimes what you want is different from what you can get
Being flexible: being able to accept something a bit
different from what you originally wanted
See if you can think of a flexible solution for below:
• You love playing football at recess, but no one
remembered to bring the football
• You are in the mood for chicken nuggets, but your family
is going to a Chinese restaurant for dinneris going to a Chinese restaurant for dinner
• You have almost beaten your video game, but your time is
up and your sister is waiting for her turn
Brainstorming: Thinking of a lot of solutions to a problem

33. Work It Out: Compromise
• When what you want and what the other person wants
are totally different, you can go for a Compromise
• In a compromise, no one gets exactly what they want,
but everyone gets something close to what they want
Think of a compromise to solve each of below:
• You are starving, but the rule at your house is no snacks• You are starving, but the rule at your house is no snacks
right before dinner
• You want to ride your cycle but your friend wants to play
catch-catch
• You want to go outside, but your mom says its time for
homework.

34. Just Move On
• Example: In game of catching-cook a person touches your
sleeve, not your hand
• Deciding to move on means totally letting the problem go
• You are deciding not to waste your time and energy• You are deciding not to waste your time and energy
fighting against something that doesn’t matter much
• Some things you can say to yourself to remind yourself
that every situation is not worth fighting for
THATS THE WAY
WHATEVER
THATS THE WAY
THINGS GO
SOMETIMES
ITS NOT WORTH
GETTING ANGRY ABOUTITS NOT THAT
BIG A DEAL
OH WELLWHATEVER

35. Work It Out or Move On?
• You are in line at the canteen and someone cuts in
front of you.
Work it out Move onWork it out Move on
• Your friend promised to go on the swings with you at
recess but now she is playing catching cook.
Work it out Move on
• Your mom just got home from work, and she shouts at
you for something you didn’t even do.
Work it out Move on

36. Work It Out or Move On?
• Your best friend told you he can’t make it to your
birthday party.
Work it out Move onWork it out Move on
•You are in the middle of doing something and your dad
calls you outside to help water the plants.
Work it out Move on
• Your brother calls you a name just to make you angry.
Work it out Move on

37. Nine COOL ways to deal with a problem

38. Find a Solution Song
Have a problem? Talk it out,
work together, don't scream and shout.
Problems don't just go away,
it all depends on what we do and say.it all depends on what we do and say.
Tell what happened, say what's true.
Listen to the others point of view.
Be polite, don't name-call or fight.
Getting even just is not right.Getting even just is not right.
List ideas, things that will work.
Say sorry if needed, or fix what we broke.
Find a solution that we both can do.
Try to find one that fits me and you.

39. Summary of Anger-Dousing Methods
• Take a Break
• Think Cool Thoughts
• Release ANGER Safely
– Active Method - Physical Activity
– Slowing Down Method– Slowing Down Method
• Work It Out
– Be Flexible
– Compromise
or Just Move On

40. Keep Practising...
Grow your ANGER Fuse

41. QUIZ: Good or Bad reactions to ANGER
• Teasing the person back.
• Ignoring them.
• Putting my head on my desk and thinking about
something peaceful.something peaceful.
• Taking a deep breath.
• Going to my room.
• Slamming the door as I go into my room.
• Move away from whatever or whoever angered
you.you.
• Whispering something mean back to the person.
• Brush it off and later go and tell all your classmates
what happened.
• Ignoring them. Then turning to someone else and
saying something mean.

42. • Telling a close friend or adult what's going on.
• Running out of the classroom.
• Asking your teacher if you can take a break.
• Grabbing the ball out of someone else's hands.
QUIZ: Good or Bad reactions to ANGER
• Grabbing the ball out of someone else's hands.
• Stuffing it for the moment and releasing it later by
talking about it or doing something physical.
• Stuffing it forever.
• Draw a picture of what my anger feels like.
• Draw a mean picture of the person you're mad at• Draw a mean picture of the person you're mad at
and give it to them.
• Say something back to the person but without
anger or attitude.

43. Scenarios for Role Plays
• Vinay’s brother changed the TV channel he was watching.
• A girl took a pencil from Omar’s desk.
• Lisa’s younger brother broke her favorite toy.
• Some older kids on the playground called Mohan names.
• A boy got in front of Tim in the line at the canteen
• Dan lost at the board game he played with his friends.
• Girls playing skipping told Rina that she couldn’t play with• Girls playing skipping told Rina that she couldn’t play with
them.
• Tom borrowed Ben’s football without asking.
• While playing football a child kicked Mark’s leg.

44. References:
What to Do When Your Temper Flares: A Kid's Guide to
Overcoming Problems With Anger by Dawn Huebner
How to Take the Grrrr Out of Anger by Elizabeth Verdick
and Marjorie Lisovskis
Seeing Red: An Anger Management and Anti-Bullying
Curriculum for Kids by Jennifer Simmonds
Cool Down and Work Through Anger by Cheri J. Meiners
Kelso's Choice Conflict Management system

45. This workshop was developed for C.H.A.M.P.S. (Character,
Habits, Attitude, Mindset & Personality for Success)
CHAMPS is a yearlong programme on Life Skills for kids aged 10-12 years with once a week
classes at Margao, Goa, India. It is designed, conducted and organised by by Life Skills Trainer
for kids, Dr. Jyoti Hegde & Corporate Trainer Amey Hegde.
The CHAMPS programme covers topics from the Life Skills Diamond Model, a framework for
the holistic development of children developed by Dr. Jyoti Hegde and Amey Hegde. The Lifethe holistic development of children developed by Dr. Jyoti Hegde and Amey Hegde. The Life
Skills Diamond Model has been designed using inputs from the 10 Core Life Skills identified by
the World Health Organisation (WHO), Daniel Goleman’s model of Emotional Intelligence (EI) and
the competencies identified by CASEL, the leading organization in the US for the teaching of
social and emotional skills. It also includes values, good habits, civic sense and care for the
environment.

46. Some of the learning methodologies:
 Activity based
sessions
 Values and Good
Habits through
Storytelling
 Drama & Skits
 Stage  Puzzles to sharpen  Brainstorming and
Sessions adopt a learning-by-doing approach.
 Stage
Performances by
kids to build
Confidence &
Public Speaking
skills
 Puzzles to sharpen
Creative Thinking
and Out-of-Box
Thinking
 Brainstorming and
other Techniques
for Creative
Problem Solving
 Role Plays &
Simulations to
develop Social
 Mindfulness
Techniques for
improved
 Book Reading
sessions to develop
Love for Readingdevelop Social
Skills
improved
Concentration
Love for Reading
 Audio Visual
Clippings
 Memory
Techniques
 Practical projects
 Decision making &
Critical Thinking
through Chess
 Activities on Body
Language and
Voice Modulation
 Board Games for
Nutrition & Good
Habits

47. Courageous
Confident
Creative
Clear
Calm
Happy
Honest
Humble
Healthy
Harmonious
Mature
Mindful
Accountable
Adaptable
Analytical
Assertive
Active
Strong
Sincere
Character, Habits, Attitude,Character, Habits, Attitude,
Mindset & Personality forMindset & Personality for
What is a typical session like?
Sessions begin with preparation of learning charts where kids write and draw about their learning
from last session. Kids then present the learning charts. This is followed by the topic of the day.
Application of Learning through Assignments & Projects:
Kids are given practical assignments/projects to apply the concepts learnt in the class. Examples:
Mindful
Mannered
Motivated
Methodical
Problem Solver
Persevering
Positive
Planner
Patient
Sincere
Sociable
Self-aware
Self-disciplined
Mindset & Personality forMindset & Personality for
SuccessSuccess
Kids are given practical assignments/projects to apply the concepts learnt in the class. Examples:
writing of daily gratitude diary, taking small responsibilities at home, “Food Ludo” game to eat
healthy food, etc.
Periodic Reviews: Every quarter there is a review to enable parents to track their kid’s
progress. Here, kids present their learning charts/projects/skits on their learning from the
sessions.
For details, Whatsapp 9096938269 or 9423130756
Email ameyhegde@gmail.com or jyotiheg@gmail.com.

48. Jyoti is a co-creator of the Life Skills Diamond Model, a framework for holistic development of children. Jyoti's
articles and stories related to child development appear in various newspapers and magazines.
Dr. Jyoti Hegde is a Corporate Behavioral Trainer, a Life Skills Trainer for students and an
internationally published Children’s Author.
Jyoti has a degree in Ayurvedic Medicine. She has over thirteen years of work experience in the
medical field in various hospitals/medical centres in Bangalore and Goa.
Jyoti has been personally trained and mentored by various master trainers to practice and
implement international concepts of Positive Psychology, Facilitation Skills, and Neuro Linguistic
Programming (NLP) in developing and conducting training programs.
Faculty Profile: Dr. Jyoti Hegde
Jyoti has co-conducted training sessions on various aspects of behavioral training for employees from reputed
organizations like Vedanta, Funskool, The Leela Goa, Sun Pharma and others. She has recently started CHAMPS,
a year long programme on Life Skills and Personality Development for kids.
Contact Dr. Jyoti on email:jyotiheg@gmail.com, Mobile: +91-9423130756, visit http://jyotihegde.in

49. Faculty Profile: Amey Hegde
Amey Hegde is an internationally certified Corporate Behavioral Trainer, Management
Consultant and an internationally published Author.
Amey’s academic qualifications include Post Graduate Studies in Behavioral Sciences Training
and graduate studies in Electronics & Telecom Engineering from Goa Engineering College. He
has also been trained by eminent faculty from IITs, IIMK and SIBM Pune in areas of technology
and management.
Amey has been personally coached by various master motivational trainers on the mindsets and skills sets to
practice and implement international concepts of Edward de Bono’s Six Thinking Hats® and Lateral Thinking™,
Facilitation Skills, and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) in developing and conducting training programs. He
has been personally trained and certified to practise Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) by Andrew Austin,has been personally trained and certified to practise Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) by Andrew Austin,
the founder of IEMT. Amey is a certified Master Trainer of I Create for training aspiring entrepreneurs. He is
also certified to administer and debrief the internationally acclaimed psychometric assessment Thinking Pattern
Profile™.
Amey has over 17 years of work experience and has worked with several MNCs and Fortune 100 clients in
Europe and India and was last working at Wipro Technologies, Bangalore.
Amey has trained innumerable participants - from workmen to Directors of leading organizations to enhance
their personal & professional productivity. Amey has also conducted executive coaching and psychometric
assessments for Managers.
Amey has also conducted trainings for sex workers, inmates and staff of Sada jail and for the Indian Army.
Amey was recently awarded at the World HRD Congress for outstanding contribution in Training &
Development. His journey as an entrepreneur trainer has been featured in a book “Driven by Passion”Development. His journey as an entrepreneur trainer has been featured in a book “Driven by Passion”
containing narratives of 24 first generation entrepreneurs from Goa.
Contact Amey on email:ameyhegde@gmail.com, Mobile: +91-9096938269, visit http://ameyhegde.in
Partial list of Amey’s clients:

50. Partial List of Clients
Our Contact Details:
ameyhegde@gmail.com +91-9096938269 http://ameyhegde.in
jyotiheg@gmail.com +91-9423130756 http://jyotihegde.in
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