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Discounting
Prepared By
Manu Melwin Joy
Research Scholar
School of Management Studies
CUSAT, Kerala, India.
Phone – 9744551114
Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com
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Introduction
• Each time we meet a problem,
We have two options.
• We can use the full power of
our grown up thinking, feeling
and action to solve the
problem or We can go to into
the script.
Introduction
• If we do move into the script, we
begin to perceive the world so that it
seems to fit the decisions we made as
an infant.
• We are likely to blank out our
awareness of some aspect of the real
situation.
• At the same time, We may blow up
other aspects of the here and now
problem into giant proportions.
Introduction
• Instead of taking action to solve
the problem, we rely on the
magical solution which our script
offers.
• We hope in Child that by working
this magic, we can manipulate the
world into providing a solution to
us.
• Instead of being active, we become
passive.
Definition
• Discounting is defined as
unawarely ignoring
information relevant to
the solution to the
problem.
Example
• Imagine you are sitting in a
crowded restaurant and you
need a glass of water.
• You tried to catch the eye of
the waiter several times but
failed.
• At this time, you go into
script. You replay the time
when your mother was
unresponsive.
• You become hopeless and say
to yourself in your head “ It’s
no good. No matter how
much I try, He is not going to
come.”
Example
• To get to this conclusion, you have
had to ignore some information
about here and now reality.
• You have discounted several options
you have as a grown up. Options you
did not have as a baby.
• You could have stood up, walked
over the waiter and shouted in his
ears or
• You could have gone to the nearest
table where there was a water jug,
asked for it and poured yourself a
drink.
• Had you acted these ways, you
would have been active in problem
solving instead of passive.
Example
• In the same situation, your friend may
get angry and snorts “ That fellow is
obviously incompetent. If I had my way, I
did see him fired!”.
• He has also gone to script. But as a child,
he decided upon the life position as I+U-
, rather than being I-U+.
• Now, he sees waiter through his own
spectacles. He discounts the waiter’s
competence to respond to the call.
• He is also being passive. His action is not
helping him get a glass of water.
Grandiosity
• Every discount is accompanied by
grandiosity. This is an exaggeration of
some feature of reality. The
expression making a mountain out of
a molehill aptly describes
grandiosity.
• One feature of the situation is
blotted out or diminished through
discounting , so another feature is
blown up out of proportion by
grandiosity.
Grandiosity
• When you sat in the restaurant
feeling hopeless because the
waiter wasn’t bringing the glass of
water, you were not only
discounting your own options, but
were also crediting the waiter with
the power he didn’t have, the
power to determine whether or
not you got any water.
• Your friend discounted waiters
competence and grandiose about
himself. He was taking on himself
the role of a judge and jury, when
he had neither adequate evidence
nor responsibility to do so.
Activity
• Think back to a recent situation in
which the outcome was
unsatisfactory for you. That situation
represents a problem which you
didn’t solve.
• Looking back again, do you now
identify a feature or features of
reality that you were discounting?
• Could you have acted in different
ways that you didn’t think of at the
time?
• Were you ignoring somebody else’s
ability to act in a particular way.
• Were there resources in the situation
that were available but which you
didn’t think of using?
Activity
• Do you identify where you were
being grandiose?
• What features of yourself, others or
situation were you blowing up out of
proportion?
• If you are working in a group or if you
have a friend who is willing to help
you, get a second opinion on your
answers.
• It is often easier for us to spot other
people’s discounting and grandiosity
than to spot our own.
• Whether or not you have got
immediate answers to these
questions, keep your problem
situation in mind.
Passive behaviors
• When I discount, I do so by making
statement to myself in my own
head.
• Thus a discount itself is not
observable.
• Since you can’t thought read, you
have no way of knowing I am
discounting unless I speak or act in
some way which indicates the
presence of the discount.
Passive behaviors
• There are four types of behavior
which always indicate that the
person concerned is
discounting. They are
• Doing nothing.
• Over adaptation.
• Agitation.
• Incapacitation or violence.
Doing nothing
• The members of a TA group are
sitting in a circle.
• The group leader says : “ Let’s
go round the group and each
person say what he or she
appreciates or resents about
today’s session. If you don’t
want to take part, it’s OK to say
“Pass”.
• The exercise begins. People
round the group each give an
appreciation or resentment.
One or two say “Pass”.
Doing nothing
• Then came Norman’s turn. There is a silence. People
waited for Norman to say something but he doesn’t.
• He sits unmoving and silent, staring into space. Since he
doesn’t seem to want to speak any appreciation or
resentment, the person next to him waits for him to say
“Pass”.
• But Norman doesn’t do that either. He continues to sit
as if dumb.
Doing nothing
• Norman is showing the passive
behavior called doing nothing.
• Instead of using energy to take
problem solving action, he is
using into to stop himself from
acting.
• A person exhibiting this passive
behavior feels uncomfortable
and experiences himself as not
thinking.
• He is discounting his own ability
to do anything about the
situation.
Over adaptation
• Amy comes into the house after a
hard day’s work. Her husband
Brian is sitting reading a
newspaper.
• Looking beyond him into the
kitchen, Amy sees a huge pile of
unwashed dishes besides the
sink.
• “Hi”, says Brian, “Hope you’ve had
a good day. Just about time for
tea, isn’t it?”.
• Taking her coat off, Amy goes
straight through to the kitchen.
She washes the pile of dishes and
gets down to making tea.
Over adaptation
• Neither Brian nor Amy noticed
that he has not asked here to
wash the dishes and make tea.
• Nor has she asked him if he wants
her to.
• Still less has she paused to think
whether she herself wants to
wash the dishes or whether it
might be more appropriate if
Brian Washed them.
Over adaptation
• Amy’s passive behavior is over
adaptation.
• When someone overadapts, she is
complying with what she believes in
Child are the wishes of others.
• She does so without checking with
them what their wishes are in
reality, and without any reference to
what her own wishes are.
• The person in overadapation, unlike
the person in doing nothing,
experiences herself as thinking
during the passive behavior.
• He thinking actually proceeds from a
contamination
Over adaptation
• Someone is overadaptation will
often be experienced by others as
helpful, adaptable or
accommodating.
• Thus overadaptation is frequently
stroked by those to whom the
person relates.
• Because of this social acceptability
and because the person appears to
be thinking, overadaptation is the
most difficult to detect of the four
passive behavior.
• The person in overadaptation is
discounting her ability to act on her
own options. Instead, she follows
options she believes others want.
Agitation
• The class of students is listening to
the lecturer. At the back of the room
sits Adam.
• The lecturer is speaking rather
quietly and Adam has difficulty in
hearing him.
• As the lecture period goes on, Adam
has more and more trouble
following what lecturer is talking
about.
• He puts down his pen and starts
drumming his fingers on the desk.
He is waggling his foot rapidly up
and own in time of his finger
drumming.
Agitation
• Adam is showing agitation.
• In this passive behavior, the
person is discounting his ability
to act to solve the problem.
• He feels acutely uncomfortable,
and engages in purposeless,
repetitive activity in an attempt
to relieve the discomfort.
• Energy is directed into the
agitated activity instead of into
action to solve the problem.
• During agitation, the person
does not experience himself as
thinking.
Agitation
• If Adam were using his clear Adult, he
could simply attract the lecturer’s
attention and ask him to speak up.
• As it is, his finger drumming and food
waggling do nothing towards solving
his problem.
• Many common habits entail
aggression. Nail biting, smoking, hair
twiddling and compulsive eating are
all examples.
Incapacitation and violence
• Betty is in her late thirties.
The younger of two
daughters, she still lives at
home with her aged mother,
whom she looks after. The
old woman, despite her age,
is really in pretty and sound
health.
• Out of the blue, Betty meets
a man and they fall in love.
Happily, she announces to
her mother that she intends
to move out to live with him
and perhaps get married.
Incapacitation and violence
• A couple of days later, the
mother begins having dizzy spells
and has to take to her bed.
• The doctor can find nothing
physically wrong with her. But
Betty begins to feel guilty about
her intention to move out.
• Mother’s passive behavior is
incapacitation.
Incapacitation and violence
• Here, the person disables
herself in some way.
• Discounting her own ability
to solve a problem, she
hopes in Child that by
incapacitating herself she
can get someone else to
solve it.
• Incapacitation can
sometimes be in the form of
psychosomatic ailments, as
here. Alternatively, it can be
achieved by mental
breakdown or by abuse of
drugs or alcohol.
Incapacitation and violence
• Robert has just had a furious
row with his girlfriend.
• He storms out of the house
and walks the streets for a
long while.
• He goes down town, has a
few beers.
• Then he picks up a chair and
smashes all the plate – glass
windows in the bar.
Incapacitation and violence
• Robert’s passive behavior
is violence.
• It may seem strange to
refer to violence as
passive behavior.
• But it is passive because it
is not directed at solving
the problem in hand.
• When Robert smashes
the window, he does
nothing to resolve his
differences with is
girlfriend.
Incapacitation and violence
• Incapacitation can be
viewed as violence
directed inwards.
• In both incapacitation and
violence, the person is
discounting his ability to
solve a problem.
• He releases a burst of
energy, directed to self or
others, in a desperate
attempt to force the
environment to solve the
problem for him.
Incapacitation and violence
• Incapacitation or violence will
often follow a period of
agitation.
• When the person is agitating,
he is building up energy which
he may then discharge
destructively by either
incapacitating or getting
violent.
Activity
• Review the problem situation you
considered in the last activity.
• Do you identify which of the
passive behaviors you engaged in?
• Now re-run the situation in your
mind’s eye. When you come to
the moment where you began the
passive behavior, imagine yourself
instead staying in Adult and using
the full power of your grown up
thinking, feeling or behaving to
solve the problem.
• How do you then act differently?
Discounting and ego states
• Discounting can be related to
ego state pathology.
• Discounting may indicate the
presence of contamination.
• That is to say : When I am
discounting, I may be mis –
perceiving reality to fit Parent or
Child script beliefs, which I
mistake for Adult thinking.
Discounting and ego states
• Exclusion may be another
source of discounting.
• Here, I am ignoring aspects of
reality because I am blanking
out one or more of my ego
states.
• Excluding Adult is the most
disabling of the three
exclusions in terms of person’s
intensity of discounting.
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Discounting and ego states
• Often, discounting can
occur without any ego
state pathology.
• In these cases, it is simply
the result of the person’s
Adult being uninformed or
misinformed.
Discounting and ego states
• In terms of the functional
model of ego states,
discounting can be
straightforwardly
expressed.
• Whenever I am coming
from any negative ego
state part, I am
discounting.
• When I stop myself solving
a problem, I necessarily
have been discounting.
Detecting discounts
• The discounting, not
observable in itself, can be
inferred by the person’s
showing any of the four
passive behavior.
• There are many other ways
of detecting discounts.
Detecting discounts
• Driver behavior always
indicates a discount.
• Remember that when I show a
driver, I am internally replaying
the script belief : “ I am only OK
if I try hard / please others etc.
• The reality is that I am OK
whether or not I follow these
driver messages.
Detecting discounts
• Schiff specify certain thinking
disorders as clues to
discounting.
• One of these is over detailing.
• Asked a simple question , the
person showing this disorder
will reply with a long tirade of
minute details.
Detecting discounts
• Over generalization is the opposite of
over detailing in which the person
expresses ideas only in sweeping,
global terms.
• Ex : “Well, my problem is something
huge. People are after me. Things are
getting me down”.
Verbal Clues
• One of the skills of TA is to
identify discounting by
listening to the words people
use.
• The difficulty in practice is
that everyday speech is full of
discounts, so much so that we
become desensitized to them.
• We need to re learn the skill
of listening to what is really
being said and testing each
statement against reality.
Verbal Clues
• When someone says “ I
can’t..”, he will most often be
discounting.
• “I will try to…” is usually a
discount, since what it implies
is usually “ I will try to, but I
won’t do it”.
• The same is true will all driver
wordings. Be strong discounts
are particularly common. Ex:
“What you say is boring to
me.”
Verbal Clues
• Sometimes, a discount is
signaled by leaving out a part
of the sentence.
• For instance, a member of the
TA group may ask “I want a
hug”.
• She doesn’t say from whom
she wants hug from.
• She is omitting information
relevant to the solution of the
problem.
Non verbal Clues
• Equally important is the skill
of identifying discounts
from non verbal clues.
• Here, the discount is
signaled by a mismatch
between the words being
said and the non verbal
signals that go with them.
• This mismatching is called
incongruity.
Non verbal Clues
• For example, teacher asks his
pupil : “Do you understand the
assignment I have set you?”.
• The pupil replies : “Sure”.
• But at the same time, he
puckers his brow and scratches
his head.
• If teacher is aware about the
thinking martian, he will ask
more questions to check
whether his pupil is
discounting.
Gallows
• One frequent indication of a
discount is gallows laughing.
• Here, the person laughs when
making a statement about
something unpleasant.
• Ex: “That was silly of me, ha
ha”.
• In gallows, there is incongruity
between the laugh and the
painful content.
Gallows
• When someone gives a gallows
laugh, he is making a non
verbal invitation to the listener
to reinforce once of his script
belief.
• The straight response to
gallows is to refuse to join in
the laughing.
• You may also say : “That is not
funny”, if you are in a situation
where it is socially appropriate
to do so.
Stroke Filter / Discount
• When someone gets a stroke that
doesn’t fit in with her preferred
stroke quotient, she is likely to
ignore it or belittle it.
• Discounts are an internal
mechanism by which people
minimize or maximize
(grandiosity) an aspect of reality,
themselves or others.
• In other words they are not
accounting for the reality of
themselves or others or the
situation.
Activity
• Think about the strokes you gave and received.
• Was it counterfeit, marshmallows, straight?
• Who received it openly, who discounted it?
• Which strokes you received and which one you discounted?
Strokes Vs Discounts
• A discount always entails some distortion of reality unlike a straight negative
stroke.
• NCS – You spelled the word wrong.
• Discount – I see you can’t spell
• NUCS – I hate you.
• Discount – You are hateful.
• Unlike a straight negative stroke, a discount gives me no signal on which I
can base constructive action.
Discount Matrix
Discount Matrix
• Discounting results in
unresolved problems.
• Thus, if we can devise a
systematic way of identifying
the nature and intensity of
discounting, we will have a
powerful tool for problem
solving.
• Such a tool is called discount
matrix.
Discount Matrix
• Discount matrix was developed
by Ken Mellor and Eric Sigmund.
• The discount matrix starts from
the idea that we classify
discounts according to three
different criteria.
• Area.
• Type.
• Level.
Areas of discounting
• There are three areas in
which people can discount:
• Self.
• Others.
• Situation.
Areas of discounting
• In the example, When I
was sitting in the
restaurant dropping
because the waiter
wasn’t bringing my glass
of water, I was
discounting myself.
• I was ignoring my own
ability to take action to
get what I wanted.
Areas of discounting
• My friend who got angry
and started criticizing the
waiter, was discounting
not himself but the other
person.
• In judging the waiter
incompetent, hew was
blanking out any aspects
of the waiter’s actions
that might have
contradicted his criticism.
Areas of discounting
• Suppose that after
drooping for a while, I did
turned to my friend and
said: “ Well, there we are.
It really isn’t fair that
these other people are
getting served and I am
not. But then, this world
is an unfair place, isn’t
it?”
• Here, I did have been
discounting the situation.
Types of discounting
• The three types of
discounting are of:
• Stimuli.
• Problems.
• Options.
Discounting - Stimulus
• To discount a stimulus is
to blank out perception
that something is
happening at all.
• As I sat in the restaurant, I
might simply not have
allowed myself to feel
that I was thirsty.
Discounting - Stimulus
• I would have been
discounting the stimulus of
my own thirst.
• Maybe my friend, in calling
the waiter incompetent,
had not seen the way in
which the waiter had
actually succeeded in
serving many other
customers, even though the
evidence was right there in
front of him.
Discounting - Problem
• The person who discounts a
problem realizes that
something is happening,
but ignores the fact that
whatever is happening
poses a problem.
• Feeling thirsty there in the
restaurant, I might have
said to my friend, “ I feel
very thirsty right now, but,
oh well, it doesn’t matter.”
Discounting - Options
• When discounting options,
the person is aware that
something is happening and
that it constitutes a
problem.
• But she blanks out the
possibility that anything can
be done about the problem.
• That is where I was
discounting in the original
version of the restaurant
scene.
Discounting - Options
• As I sat drooping, I knew
that I felt thirsty.
• I was aware that my
thirst was a problem to
me.
• But I was unawarely
ignoring the many
options I had, other
than just sitting and
hoping the waiter to
respond.
Levels of discounting
• The four levels of
discounting are:
• Existence.
• Significance.
• Change
possibilities.
• Personal abilities
Discounting- Existence
• In the example, I was
discounting the
existence of my own
options to solve the
problem.
• I didn’t even consider
the possibility of, for
example, walking over
and speaking to the
waiter instead of
gesturing to him.
Discounting- Significance
• If I had been discounting the
significance of my options, I
might have said to my friend:
“ I suppose I could go over
and ask him.
• But I bet asking him wouldn’t
make a difference.
• Here, I did have realized
there was something
different I could do, but
blanked out the possibility
that his action could have any
effect.
Discounting- Change possibilities
Discounting my options at
the level of change
possibilities, I might have
said: “ Of course, I could
walk across and collar the
fellow. But people just
don’t do that in
restaurants”.
Discounting- Change possibilities
In this case, I would have
let myself realize that the
option existed and that it
might have results, while
ignoring the possibility that
anyone could actually put
the option into practice.
Discounting- Personal Abilities
• Here I am aware the
options exists and could
bring results.
• I realize that some
people in the world
might well use that
option.
• But I dismiss my own
ability to do so.
Discounting Matrix
• Discounting matrix is
compiled by listing all the
possible combinations of
types and levels of discount.
• When we do so, we will get
the discounting matrix
diagram.
Discounting Matrix
• Discounting matrix has
three columns for the
three types of discount
and four rows for the
four modes or levels.
• The wordings in each of
the resulting twelve
boxes indicates the
combination of type
and level.
Discounting Matrix - Example
• Suppose two friends are
talking. One of them is a heavy
smoker.
• As he lights up yet another
cigarette, he is convulsed by a
bout of coughing.
• His friend says to him : “ That’s
is a terrible cough. I am
concerned about you. Please
give up smoking.”
• What might be the smokers
reply if he were discounting in
each of the twelve different
boxes on the matrix?
Discounting existence of stimuli
If the smoker were
discounting the
existence of the stimuli,
he might reply: “What
cough? I was not
coughing?”
Discounting existence of problem
If the smoker were
discounting the existence of
the problem, he might say: “
Oh, no, I am fine, thanks. I
have always had a cough. He
is letting himself be aware of
his cough, but blotting out
the possibility that this may
constitute a problem to him.
Discounting significance of stimuli
• In discounting the
existence of the problem,
he is also discounting the
significance of the
stimulus.
• In discounting the
possibility that his cough
may be a problem, he is
also discounting the fact
that the cough may have
some meaning
(Significance) for him.
Diagonal arrows
• This is indicated on the
matrix diagram by the
diagonal arrow connecting
the boxes for “existence of
problems” and “Significance
of stimuli”.
• The arrow means that one
of these discounts will
always entail the other.
Diagonal Arrows and T numbers
• All the diagonal arrows on
the diagram has this
meaning.
• The “T” numbers, entered
at the top left of each box,
are labels for the different
diagonals.
• For instance, discounts of
the existence of the
problem and the
significance of the stimuli
corresponds to diagonal T2.
Discounting existence of options
When we take T3, smoker
is discounting the existence
of options. He might show
this by replying “ Well, yes,
but we smokers do cough,
you know?. A short lie and
a happy one, that what I
say, ha, ha.”
Discounting existence of options
Now he is admitting that he
has a cough and that the
cough may well indicate a
problem, namely that
smoking can kill people.
But he is blanking out the
possibility that anyone can
do anything to avoid
smoker’s cough.
Discounting significance of the problem
In doing so, he also blanks
out any perception that the
possibility of being killed by
smoking is something he
might be concerned about.
He discounts the
significance of the
problem.
Discounting changeability of stimulus
And by his denial that
anything can possibly be
done by anyone to get rid
of a smoker’s cough, he
discounts the changeability
of the stimulus.
Discounting significance of options
• The same equivalence of
discounts applies along the
other diagonals.
• On T4, the smoker might say:
“Well, yes, I suppose I should
give up really. But I have been
smoking for so long, I don’t
think my giving up now is
going to make any difference.
Discounting viability of options and person’s ability to act on options
• On T5, he might respond:
“ Sure, you are right. I
need to give up, But I
can’t figure out how to do
it.
• And on T6, the smoker
might say: “Yes, I have
been telling myself for
ages I should throw my
cigarettes and lighter
away. But I just cant seem
to get round to it.”
Discounting matrix
Another feature of this matrix is that a
discounting in any box also entails discounts in
the boxes below and to its right.
Discounting - Sequence
Suppose a person is
discounting the existence of a
problem. Since he is not
allowing himself to be aware
that the problem even exists,
he is obviously also going to
blank out any perception that
the problem may be
significant.
Discounting - Sequence
• Nor will he be thinking whether
he or anyone else can solve the
problem. He is thus discounting
in the entire column of boxes
related to problems.
• And since he is ignoring the
existence of the problem, why
should he consider whether
there are options for solving it?
• Because he thus discounts the
existence of options, he will also
discount all the other boxes in
the options column.
Discounting - Sequence
• Finally, recall that a discount
of the existence of problem is
equivalent to discounting the
significance of stimuli, along
diagonal T2.
• Therefore, the other two
boxes below it in the stimuli
column will be discounted
also.
Discounting matrix
A person discounting on any diagonal will be
discounting in all the boxes below and to the
right of that diagonal.
Activity
• Make up the discount
matrix for this example.
• Wife and husband have
just settled down in bed
for the night.
• Then, in the next room,
their baby starts crying.
• The husband says “Do
you think one of use
should go and see why
the baby is crying?”
Levels of Discounting
• The EXISTENCE of a problem, e.g. a baby cries and the parents go to sleep.
• The SIGNIFICANCE of a problem “Oh the baby always cries at this time”.
• The CHANGE POSSIBILITIES “The baby will never be satisfied”.
• The PERSONAL ABILITY to actually carry out the change “You could but I
can’t change the nappy”.
At each level the discount can be of three types:
• The STIMULUS can be discounted.
• The PROBLEM can be discounted.
• The OPTIONS can be discounted.
Activity
• Work out the responses
his wife might give if she
were discounting on
each of the diagonals in
the discounting matrix.
• Confirm that the
“hierarchy of discounts”
applies.
Using the Discount Matrix
Using the Discount Matrix
• Whenever a problem is not
being solved, some
information relevant to the
solution of that problem is
being ignored.
• The discount matrix gives us
a systematic way to
pinpointing what
information is being missed.
• This in turn provides
guidance to the specific
actions we need to take to
solve the problem.
Using the Discount Matrix
When a problem
remains unsolved
despite efforts to solve
it, this is often because
the person is addressing
the problem on too low
a diagonal of the
discount matrix.
Using the Discount Matrix
It follows that in using
the matrix as a problem
solving tool, we need to
begin by looking for
discounts on the highest
diagonal first.
Using the Discount Matrix
• We step into the matrix at
the top left corner.
• If we discover a discount
there, we need to deal with
that discount before going
any further downward or to
the right.
• Because if we miss that
initial discount and try to
deal with a discount on any
lower diagonal, our
intervention will itself be
discounted.
Example
• If you were the friend of a
smoker and seeing him
cough, you say “ I am
concerned about you.
Please give up smoking.”
• With your intervention, you
have addressed the
problem on the lowest
diagonal of the box.
• The issue is whether the
smoker is going to act on a
specific option.
Example
• But suppose the smoker is
discounting much higher on the
matrix?
• For example, he may be diagonal
T2, discounting the significance of
stimulus and existence of the
problem.
• It is obvious that he will also
discount any relevance in what
you have just said to him.
• Why should he have any
investment is stopping smoking,
when as far as he is aware, his
smoker’s cough is not a problem.
Example
Suppose now you wanted
to help your smoking
friend by systematically
using the discount matrix,
you would begin by
checking for a discount on
diagonal T1. “Are you
aware that you have got a
really bad cough?”
Example
• If he confirms that he is
aware of the cough, you
would go down to the next
diagonal.
• You might ask “ Is that
cough of yours something
you bother about?”
• Were he to reply “No, Not
really, it is something I just
take for granted.”
• Now you have located that
his discount is on T2.
Example
• This lets you know that if
your smoker friend is to
give up his habit, he first
needs to become aware
that his cough may
indicate a problem
• He needs to realize too
that his problem may be a
cause of his concern.
Activity
• Using discount matrix to
review your personal
example of a problem
situation you did not solve
at the time.
• Begin at the top left of the
discount matrix, check
each box, working
downwards on successive
diagonals, until you
identify the box in which
you were discounting.
Activity
• As before, if you were
working in a group or with a
willing friend, it may be
helpful if you get a second
opinion.
• Test whether you were also
discounting in all the other
boxes on the same diagonal
and those below it.
• What were the area of
discount?
• Were you discounting
yourself, others or the
environment?
Activity
• When you have identified the
discount, consider its ego
state source.
• Did it come from
contamination? An exclusion?
Or were you uninformed or
misinformed?
• Let yourself be aware of
whatever part of reality you
had previously been
discounting.
• If you need accurate or new
information, get it.
Activity
• Now rerun the situation in your
mind’s eye.
• When you come to the point at
which you began discount,
replace the discount with your
full awareness of reality.
• How do you now act, think or
feel differently?
• How does this alter the
outcome of the situation?
Application
• The discount matrix was
originally developed for
use in psychotherapy.
• But it provides an equally
effective tool for problem
solving in organization
and education.
Example
• A college teacher takes a
class and asks student
some questions to check
their understanding.
• To his surprise, the
students can answer
hardly any.
• He told himself “These
students are not working.
Why they don’t have any
motivation?
Example
• By assuming that the
students have not been
working, he is addressing
a discount in the area of
others on diagonal T5 or
T6 of the discount matrix.
• He has assumed that
students knew they have
to work but they either
don’t feel they can handle
the work or just aren’t
getting started?
Example
• When he were to check
through the discount matrix,
the real problem may be
different.
• While lecturing, he mumbles.
The students cant hear what
he is saying.
• The discount is on diagonal
T2 of the matrix.
• To address the problem, the
lecturer simply needs to
speak up.
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2. Games People Play - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/psychological-
games-people-play.
3. Structural Analysis - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/the-ego-state-model.
4. What is TA? - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/what-ta-is
5. Cycles of Development - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/cycles-of-
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6. Stages of Cure - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/stages-of-cure.
7. Transactions - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/transactions-33677298.
8. Time Structuring - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/time-structuring.
9. Life Position - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/life-position.
10. Autonomy - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/autonomy-33690557.
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12. Game Analysis - http://www.slideshare.net/manumjoy/game-analysis-33725636.
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Discounting (Transactional analysis / TA is an integrative approach to the theory of psychology and psychotherapy).

  • 2. Prepared By Manu Melwin Joy Research Scholar School of Management Studies CUSAT, Kerala, India. Phone – 9744551114 Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com Kindly restrict the use of slides for personal purpose. Please seek permission to reproduce the same in public forms and presentations.
  • 3. Introduction • Each time we meet a problem, We have two options. • We can use the full power of our grown up thinking, feeling and action to solve the problem or We can go to into the script.
  • 4. Introduction • If we do move into the script, we begin to perceive the world so that it seems to fit the decisions we made as an infant. • We are likely to blank out our awareness of some aspect of the real situation. • At the same time, We may blow up other aspects of the here and now problem into giant proportions.
  • 5. Introduction • Instead of taking action to solve the problem, we rely on the magical solution which our script offers. • We hope in Child that by working this magic, we can manipulate the world into providing a solution to us. • Instead of being active, we become passive.
  • 6. Definition • Discounting is defined as unawarely ignoring information relevant to the solution to the problem.
  • 7. Example • Imagine you are sitting in a crowded restaurant and you need a glass of water. • You tried to catch the eye of the waiter several times but failed. • At this time, you go into script. You replay the time when your mother was unresponsive. • You become hopeless and say to yourself in your head “ It’s no good. No matter how much I try, He is not going to come.”
  • 8. Example • To get to this conclusion, you have had to ignore some information about here and now reality. • You have discounted several options you have as a grown up. Options you did not have as a baby. • You could have stood up, walked over the waiter and shouted in his ears or • You could have gone to the nearest table where there was a water jug, asked for it and poured yourself a drink. • Had you acted these ways, you would have been active in problem solving instead of passive.
  • 9. Example • In the same situation, your friend may get angry and snorts “ That fellow is obviously incompetent. If I had my way, I did see him fired!”. • He has also gone to script. But as a child, he decided upon the life position as I+U- , rather than being I-U+. • Now, he sees waiter through his own spectacles. He discounts the waiter’s competence to respond to the call. • He is also being passive. His action is not helping him get a glass of water.
  • 10. Grandiosity • Every discount is accompanied by grandiosity. This is an exaggeration of some feature of reality. The expression making a mountain out of a molehill aptly describes grandiosity. • One feature of the situation is blotted out or diminished through discounting , so another feature is blown up out of proportion by grandiosity.
  • 11. Grandiosity • When you sat in the restaurant feeling hopeless because the waiter wasn’t bringing the glass of water, you were not only discounting your own options, but were also crediting the waiter with the power he didn’t have, the power to determine whether or not you got any water. • Your friend discounted waiters competence and grandiose about himself. He was taking on himself the role of a judge and jury, when he had neither adequate evidence nor responsibility to do so.
  • 12. Activity • Think back to a recent situation in which the outcome was unsatisfactory for you. That situation represents a problem which you didn’t solve. • Looking back again, do you now identify a feature or features of reality that you were discounting? • Could you have acted in different ways that you didn’t think of at the time? • Were you ignoring somebody else’s ability to act in a particular way. • Were there resources in the situation that were available but which you didn’t think of using?
  • 13. Activity • Do you identify where you were being grandiose? • What features of yourself, others or situation were you blowing up out of proportion? • If you are working in a group or if you have a friend who is willing to help you, get a second opinion on your answers. • It is often easier for us to spot other people’s discounting and grandiosity than to spot our own. • Whether or not you have got immediate answers to these questions, keep your problem situation in mind.
  • 14. Passive behaviors • When I discount, I do so by making statement to myself in my own head. • Thus a discount itself is not observable. • Since you can’t thought read, you have no way of knowing I am discounting unless I speak or act in some way which indicates the presence of the discount.
  • 15. Passive behaviors • There are four types of behavior which always indicate that the person concerned is discounting. They are • Doing nothing. • Over adaptation. • Agitation. • Incapacitation or violence.
  • 16. Doing nothing • The members of a TA group are sitting in a circle. • The group leader says : “ Let’s go round the group and each person say what he or she appreciates or resents about today’s session. If you don’t want to take part, it’s OK to say “Pass”. • The exercise begins. People round the group each give an appreciation or resentment. One or two say “Pass”.
  • 17. Doing nothing • Then came Norman’s turn. There is a silence. People waited for Norman to say something but he doesn’t. • He sits unmoving and silent, staring into space. Since he doesn’t seem to want to speak any appreciation or resentment, the person next to him waits for him to say “Pass”. • But Norman doesn’t do that either. He continues to sit as if dumb.
  • 18. Doing nothing • Norman is showing the passive behavior called doing nothing. • Instead of using energy to take problem solving action, he is using into to stop himself from acting. • A person exhibiting this passive behavior feels uncomfortable and experiences himself as not thinking. • He is discounting his own ability to do anything about the situation.
  • 19. Over adaptation • Amy comes into the house after a hard day’s work. Her husband Brian is sitting reading a newspaper. • Looking beyond him into the kitchen, Amy sees a huge pile of unwashed dishes besides the sink. • “Hi”, says Brian, “Hope you’ve had a good day. Just about time for tea, isn’t it?”. • Taking her coat off, Amy goes straight through to the kitchen. She washes the pile of dishes and gets down to making tea.
  • 20. Over adaptation • Neither Brian nor Amy noticed that he has not asked here to wash the dishes and make tea. • Nor has she asked him if he wants her to. • Still less has she paused to think whether she herself wants to wash the dishes or whether it might be more appropriate if Brian Washed them.
  • 21. Over adaptation • Amy’s passive behavior is over adaptation. • When someone overadapts, she is complying with what she believes in Child are the wishes of others. • She does so without checking with them what their wishes are in reality, and without any reference to what her own wishes are. • The person in overadapation, unlike the person in doing nothing, experiences herself as thinking during the passive behavior. • He thinking actually proceeds from a contamination
  • 22. Over adaptation • Someone is overadaptation will often be experienced by others as helpful, adaptable or accommodating. • Thus overadaptation is frequently stroked by those to whom the person relates. • Because of this social acceptability and because the person appears to be thinking, overadaptation is the most difficult to detect of the four passive behavior. • The person in overadaptation is discounting her ability to act on her own options. Instead, she follows options she believes others want.
  • 23. Agitation • The class of students is listening to the lecturer. At the back of the room sits Adam. • The lecturer is speaking rather quietly and Adam has difficulty in hearing him. • As the lecture period goes on, Adam has more and more trouble following what lecturer is talking about. • He puts down his pen and starts drumming his fingers on the desk. He is waggling his foot rapidly up and own in time of his finger drumming.
  • 24. Agitation • Adam is showing agitation. • In this passive behavior, the person is discounting his ability to act to solve the problem. • He feels acutely uncomfortable, and engages in purposeless, repetitive activity in an attempt to relieve the discomfort. • Energy is directed into the agitated activity instead of into action to solve the problem. • During agitation, the person does not experience himself as thinking.
  • 25. Agitation • If Adam were using his clear Adult, he could simply attract the lecturer’s attention and ask him to speak up. • As it is, his finger drumming and food waggling do nothing towards solving his problem. • Many common habits entail aggression. Nail biting, smoking, hair twiddling and compulsive eating are all examples.
  • 26. Incapacitation and violence • Betty is in her late thirties. The younger of two daughters, she still lives at home with her aged mother, whom she looks after. The old woman, despite her age, is really in pretty and sound health. • Out of the blue, Betty meets a man and they fall in love. Happily, she announces to her mother that she intends to move out to live with him and perhaps get married.
  • 27. Incapacitation and violence • A couple of days later, the mother begins having dizzy spells and has to take to her bed. • The doctor can find nothing physically wrong with her. But Betty begins to feel guilty about her intention to move out. • Mother’s passive behavior is incapacitation.
  • 28. Incapacitation and violence • Here, the person disables herself in some way. • Discounting her own ability to solve a problem, she hopes in Child that by incapacitating herself she can get someone else to solve it. • Incapacitation can sometimes be in the form of psychosomatic ailments, as here. Alternatively, it can be achieved by mental breakdown or by abuse of drugs or alcohol.
  • 29. Incapacitation and violence • Robert has just had a furious row with his girlfriend. • He storms out of the house and walks the streets for a long while. • He goes down town, has a few beers. • Then he picks up a chair and smashes all the plate – glass windows in the bar.
  • 30. Incapacitation and violence • Robert’s passive behavior is violence. • It may seem strange to refer to violence as passive behavior. • But it is passive because it is not directed at solving the problem in hand. • When Robert smashes the window, he does nothing to resolve his differences with is girlfriend.
  • 31. Incapacitation and violence • Incapacitation can be viewed as violence directed inwards. • In both incapacitation and violence, the person is discounting his ability to solve a problem. • He releases a burst of energy, directed to self or others, in a desperate attempt to force the environment to solve the problem for him.
  • 32. Incapacitation and violence • Incapacitation or violence will often follow a period of agitation. • When the person is agitating, he is building up energy which he may then discharge destructively by either incapacitating or getting violent.
  • 33. Activity • Review the problem situation you considered in the last activity. • Do you identify which of the passive behaviors you engaged in? • Now re-run the situation in your mind’s eye. When you come to the moment where you began the passive behavior, imagine yourself instead staying in Adult and using the full power of your grown up thinking, feeling or behaving to solve the problem. • How do you then act differently?
  • 34. Discounting and ego states • Discounting can be related to ego state pathology. • Discounting may indicate the presence of contamination. • That is to say : When I am discounting, I may be mis – perceiving reality to fit Parent or Child script beliefs, which I mistake for Adult thinking.
  • 35. Discounting and ego states • Exclusion may be another source of discounting. • Here, I am ignoring aspects of reality because I am blanking out one or more of my ego states. • Excluding Adult is the most disabling of the three exclusions in terms of person’s intensity of discounting. 0 P A C
  • 36. Discounting and ego states • Often, discounting can occur without any ego state pathology. • In these cases, it is simply the result of the person’s Adult being uninformed or misinformed.
  • 37. Discounting and ego states • In terms of the functional model of ego states, discounting can be straightforwardly expressed. • Whenever I am coming from any negative ego state part, I am discounting. • When I stop myself solving a problem, I necessarily have been discounting.
  • 38. Detecting discounts • The discounting, not observable in itself, can be inferred by the person’s showing any of the four passive behavior. • There are many other ways of detecting discounts.
  • 39. Detecting discounts • Driver behavior always indicates a discount. • Remember that when I show a driver, I am internally replaying the script belief : “ I am only OK if I try hard / please others etc. • The reality is that I am OK whether or not I follow these driver messages.
  • 40. Detecting discounts • Schiff specify certain thinking disorders as clues to discounting. • One of these is over detailing. • Asked a simple question , the person showing this disorder will reply with a long tirade of minute details.
  • 41. Detecting discounts • Over generalization is the opposite of over detailing in which the person expresses ideas only in sweeping, global terms. • Ex : “Well, my problem is something huge. People are after me. Things are getting me down”.
  • 42. Verbal Clues • One of the skills of TA is to identify discounting by listening to the words people use. • The difficulty in practice is that everyday speech is full of discounts, so much so that we become desensitized to them. • We need to re learn the skill of listening to what is really being said and testing each statement against reality.
  • 43. Verbal Clues • When someone says “ I can’t..”, he will most often be discounting. • “I will try to…” is usually a discount, since what it implies is usually “ I will try to, but I won’t do it”. • The same is true will all driver wordings. Be strong discounts are particularly common. Ex: “What you say is boring to me.”
  • 44. Verbal Clues • Sometimes, a discount is signaled by leaving out a part of the sentence. • For instance, a member of the TA group may ask “I want a hug”. • She doesn’t say from whom she wants hug from. • She is omitting information relevant to the solution of the problem.
  • 45. Non verbal Clues • Equally important is the skill of identifying discounts from non verbal clues. • Here, the discount is signaled by a mismatch between the words being said and the non verbal signals that go with them. • This mismatching is called incongruity.
  • 46. Non verbal Clues • For example, teacher asks his pupil : “Do you understand the assignment I have set you?”. • The pupil replies : “Sure”. • But at the same time, he puckers his brow and scratches his head. • If teacher is aware about the thinking martian, he will ask more questions to check whether his pupil is discounting.
  • 47. Gallows • One frequent indication of a discount is gallows laughing. • Here, the person laughs when making a statement about something unpleasant. • Ex: “That was silly of me, ha ha”. • In gallows, there is incongruity between the laugh and the painful content.
  • 48. Gallows • When someone gives a gallows laugh, he is making a non verbal invitation to the listener to reinforce once of his script belief. • The straight response to gallows is to refuse to join in the laughing. • You may also say : “That is not funny”, if you are in a situation where it is socially appropriate to do so.
  • 49. Stroke Filter / Discount • When someone gets a stroke that doesn’t fit in with her preferred stroke quotient, she is likely to ignore it or belittle it. • Discounts are an internal mechanism by which people minimize or maximize (grandiosity) an aspect of reality, themselves or others. • In other words they are not accounting for the reality of themselves or others or the situation.
  • 50. Activity • Think about the strokes you gave and received. • Was it counterfeit, marshmallows, straight? • Who received it openly, who discounted it? • Which strokes you received and which one you discounted?
  • 51. Strokes Vs Discounts • A discount always entails some distortion of reality unlike a straight negative stroke. • NCS – You spelled the word wrong. • Discount – I see you can’t spell • NUCS – I hate you. • Discount – You are hateful. • Unlike a straight negative stroke, a discount gives me no signal on which I can base constructive action.
  • 53. Discount Matrix • Discounting results in unresolved problems. • Thus, if we can devise a systematic way of identifying the nature and intensity of discounting, we will have a powerful tool for problem solving. • Such a tool is called discount matrix.
  • 54. Discount Matrix • Discount matrix was developed by Ken Mellor and Eric Sigmund. • The discount matrix starts from the idea that we classify discounts according to three different criteria. • Area. • Type. • Level.
  • 55. Areas of discounting • There are three areas in which people can discount: • Self. • Others. • Situation.
  • 56. Areas of discounting • In the example, When I was sitting in the restaurant dropping because the waiter wasn’t bringing my glass of water, I was discounting myself. • I was ignoring my own ability to take action to get what I wanted.
  • 57. Areas of discounting • My friend who got angry and started criticizing the waiter, was discounting not himself but the other person. • In judging the waiter incompetent, hew was blanking out any aspects of the waiter’s actions that might have contradicted his criticism.
  • 58. Areas of discounting • Suppose that after drooping for a while, I did turned to my friend and said: “ Well, there we are. It really isn’t fair that these other people are getting served and I am not. But then, this world is an unfair place, isn’t it?” • Here, I did have been discounting the situation.
  • 59. Types of discounting • The three types of discounting are of: • Stimuli. • Problems. • Options.
  • 60. Discounting - Stimulus • To discount a stimulus is to blank out perception that something is happening at all. • As I sat in the restaurant, I might simply not have allowed myself to feel that I was thirsty.
  • 61. Discounting - Stimulus • I would have been discounting the stimulus of my own thirst. • Maybe my friend, in calling the waiter incompetent, had not seen the way in which the waiter had actually succeeded in serving many other customers, even though the evidence was right there in front of him.
  • 62. Discounting - Problem • The person who discounts a problem realizes that something is happening, but ignores the fact that whatever is happening poses a problem. • Feeling thirsty there in the restaurant, I might have said to my friend, “ I feel very thirsty right now, but, oh well, it doesn’t matter.”
  • 63. Discounting - Options • When discounting options, the person is aware that something is happening and that it constitutes a problem. • But she blanks out the possibility that anything can be done about the problem. • That is where I was discounting in the original version of the restaurant scene.
  • 64. Discounting - Options • As I sat drooping, I knew that I felt thirsty. • I was aware that my thirst was a problem to me. • But I was unawarely ignoring the many options I had, other than just sitting and hoping the waiter to respond.
  • 65. Levels of discounting • The four levels of discounting are: • Existence. • Significance. • Change possibilities. • Personal abilities
  • 66. Discounting- Existence • In the example, I was discounting the existence of my own options to solve the problem. • I didn’t even consider the possibility of, for example, walking over and speaking to the waiter instead of gesturing to him.
  • 67. Discounting- Significance • If I had been discounting the significance of my options, I might have said to my friend: “ I suppose I could go over and ask him. • But I bet asking him wouldn’t make a difference. • Here, I did have realized there was something different I could do, but blanked out the possibility that his action could have any effect.
  • 68. Discounting- Change possibilities Discounting my options at the level of change possibilities, I might have said: “ Of course, I could walk across and collar the fellow. But people just don’t do that in restaurants”.
  • 69. Discounting- Change possibilities In this case, I would have let myself realize that the option existed and that it might have results, while ignoring the possibility that anyone could actually put the option into practice.
  • 70. Discounting- Personal Abilities • Here I am aware the options exists and could bring results. • I realize that some people in the world might well use that option. • But I dismiss my own ability to do so.
  • 71. Discounting Matrix • Discounting matrix is compiled by listing all the possible combinations of types and levels of discount. • When we do so, we will get the discounting matrix diagram.
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  • 73. Discounting Matrix • Discounting matrix has three columns for the three types of discount and four rows for the four modes or levels. • The wordings in each of the resulting twelve boxes indicates the combination of type and level.
  • 74. Discounting Matrix - Example • Suppose two friends are talking. One of them is a heavy smoker. • As he lights up yet another cigarette, he is convulsed by a bout of coughing. • His friend says to him : “ That’s is a terrible cough. I am concerned about you. Please give up smoking.” • What might be the smokers reply if he were discounting in each of the twelve different boxes on the matrix?
  • 75. Discounting existence of stimuli If the smoker were discounting the existence of the stimuli, he might reply: “What cough? I was not coughing?”
  • 76. Discounting existence of problem If the smoker were discounting the existence of the problem, he might say: “ Oh, no, I am fine, thanks. I have always had a cough. He is letting himself be aware of his cough, but blotting out the possibility that this may constitute a problem to him.
  • 77. Discounting significance of stimuli • In discounting the existence of the problem, he is also discounting the significance of the stimulus. • In discounting the possibility that his cough may be a problem, he is also discounting the fact that the cough may have some meaning (Significance) for him.
  • 78. Diagonal arrows • This is indicated on the matrix diagram by the diagonal arrow connecting the boxes for “existence of problems” and “Significance of stimuli”. • The arrow means that one of these discounts will always entail the other.
  • 79. Diagonal Arrows and T numbers • All the diagonal arrows on the diagram has this meaning. • The “T” numbers, entered at the top left of each box, are labels for the different diagonals. • For instance, discounts of the existence of the problem and the significance of the stimuli corresponds to diagonal T2.
  • 80. Discounting existence of options When we take T3, smoker is discounting the existence of options. He might show this by replying “ Well, yes, but we smokers do cough, you know?. A short lie and a happy one, that what I say, ha, ha.”
  • 81. Discounting existence of options Now he is admitting that he has a cough and that the cough may well indicate a problem, namely that smoking can kill people. But he is blanking out the possibility that anyone can do anything to avoid smoker’s cough.
  • 82. Discounting significance of the problem In doing so, he also blanks out any perception that the possibility of being killed by smoking is something he might be concerned about. He discounts the significance of the problem.
  • 83. Discounting changeability of stimulus And by his denial that anything can possibly be done by anyone to get rid of a smoker’s cough, he discounts the changeability of the stimulus.
  • 84. Discounting significance of options • The same equivalence of discounts applies along the other diagonals. • On T4, the smoker might say: “Well, yes, I suppose I should give up really. But I have been smoking for so long, I don’t think my giving up now is going to make any difference.
  • 85. Discounting viability of options and person’s ability to act on options • On T5, he might respond: “ Sure, you are right. I need to give up, But I can’t figure out how to do it. • And on T6, the smoker might say: “Yes, I have been telling myself for ages I should throw my cigarettes and lighter away. But I just cant seem to get round to it.”
  • 86. Discounting matrix Another feature of this matrix is that a discounting in any box also entails discounts in the boxes below and to its right.
  • 87. Discounting - Sequence Suppose a person is discounting the existence of a problem. Since he is not allowing himself to be aware that the problem even exists, he is obviously also going to blank out any perception that the problem may be significant.
  • 88. Discounting - Sequence • Nor will he be thinking whether he or anyone else can solve the problem. He is thus discounting in the entire column of boxes related to problems. • And since he is ignoring the existence of the problem, why should he consider whether there are options for solving it? • Because he thus discounts the existence of options, he will also discount all the other boxes in the options column.
  • 89. Discounting - Sequence • Finally, recall that a discount of the existence of problem is equivalent to discounting the significance of stimuli, along diagonal T2. • Therefore, the other two boxes below it in the stimuli column will be discounted also.
  • 90. Discounting matrix A person discounting on any diagonal will be discounting in all the boxes below and to the right of that diagonal.
  • 91. Activity • Make up the discount matrix for this example. • Wife and husband have just settled down in bed for the night. • Then, in the next room, their baby starts crying. • The husband says “Do you think one of use should go and see why the baby is crying?”
  • 92. Levels of Discounting • The EXISTENCE of a problem, e.g. a baby cries and the parents go to sleep. • The SIGNIFICANCE of a problem “Oh the baby always cries at this time”. • The CHANGE POSSIBILITIES “The baby will never be satisfied”. • The PERSONAL ABILITY to actually carry out the change “You could but I can’t change the nappy”. At each level the discount can be of three types: • The STIMULUS can be discounted. • The PROBLEM can be discounted. • The OPTIONS can be discounted.
  • 93. Activity • Work out the responses his wife might give if she were discounting on each of the diagonals in the discounting matrix. • Confirm that the “hierarchy of discounts” applies.
  • 95. Using the Discount Matrix • Whenever a problem is not being solved, some information relevant to the solution of that problem is being ignored. • The discount matrix gives us a systematic way to pinpointing what information is being missed. • This in turn provides guidance to the specific actions we need to take to solve the problem.
  • 96. Using the Discount Matrix When a problem remains unsolved despite efforts to solve it, this is often because the person is addressing the problem on too low a diagonal of the discount matrix.
  • 97. Using the Discount Matrix It follows that in using the matrix as a problem solving tool, we need to begin by looking for discounts on the highest diagonal first.
  • 98. Using the Discount Matrix • We step into the matrix at the top left corner. • If we discover a discount there, we need to deal with that discount before going any further downward or to the right. • Because if we miss that initial discount and try to deal with a discount on any lower diagonal, our intervention will itself be discounted.
  • 99. Example • If you were the friend of a smoker and seeing him cough, you say “ I am concerned about you. Please give up smoking.” • With your intervention, you have addressed the problem on the lowest diagonal of the box. • The issue is whether the smoker is going to act on a specific option.
  • 100. Example • But suppose the smoker is discounting much higher on the matrix? • For example, he may be diagonal T2, discounting the significance of stimulus and existence of the problem. • It is obvious that he will also discount any relevance in what you have just said to him. • Why should he have any investment is stopping smoking, when as far as he is aware, his smoker’s cough is not a problem.
  • 101. Example Suppose now you wanted to help your smoking friend by systematically using the discount matrix, you would begin by checking for a discount on diagonal T1. “Are you aware that you have got a really bad cough?”
  • 102. Example • If he confirms that he is aware of the cough, you would go down to the next diagonal. • You might ask “ Is that cough of yours something you bother about?” • Were he to reply “No, Not really, it is something I just take for granted.” • Now you have located that his discount is on T2.
  • 103. Example • This lets you know that if your smoker friend is to give up his habit, he first needs to become aware that his cough may indicate a problem • He needs to realize too that his problem may be a cause of his concern.
  • 104. Activity • Using discount matrix to review your personal example of a problem situation you did not solve at the time. • Begin at the top left of the discount matrix, check each box, working downwards on successive diagonals, until you identify the box in which you were discounting.
  • 105. Activity • As before, if you were working in a group or with a willing friend, it may be helpful if you get a second opinion. • Test whether you were also discounting in all the other boxes on the same diagonal and those below it. • What were the area of discount? • Were you discounting yourself, others or the environment?
  • 106. Activity • When you have identified the discount, consider its ego state source. • Did it come from contamination? An exclusion? Or were you uninformed or misinformed? • Let yourself be aware of whatever part of reality you had previously been discounting. • If you need accurate or new information, get it.
  • 107. Activity • Now rerun the situation in your mind’s eye. • When you come to the point at which you began discount, replace the discount with your full awareness of reality. • How do you now act, think or feel differently? • How does this alter the outcome of the situation?
  • 108. Application • The discount matrix was originally developed for use in psychotherapy. • But it provides an equally effective tool for problem solving in organization and education.
  • 109. Example • A college teacher takes a class and asks student some questions to check their understanding. • To his surprise, the students can answer hardly any. • He told himself “These students are not working. Why they don’t have any motivation?
  • 110. Example • By assuming that the students have not been working, he is addressing a discount in the area of others on diagonal T5 or T6 of the discount matrix. • He has assumed that students knew they have to work but they either don’t feel they can handle the work or just aren’t getting started?
  • 111. Example • When he were to check through the discount matrix, the real problem may be different. • While lecturing, he mumbles. The students cant hear what he is saying. • The discount is on diagonal T2 of the matrix. • To address the problem, the lecturer simply needs to speak up.
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