This injunction Don’t Be Close may imply a ban on physical closeness. In this form, it is often modeled by parents who seldom touch each other or the child.

1. Don’t Be Close injunction

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3. Don’t Be Close
This injunction Don’t Be
Close may imply a ban
on physical closeness. In
this form, it is often
modeled by parents who
seldom touch each other
or the child.

4. Don’t Be Close
Alternatively, it may signify
“ Don’t be emotionally
close”. This form of
message may be passed
down through the
generations in families
who never talk to each
other about their feelings.

5. Don’t Be Close
A child may give herself
Don’t Be close as a
response to continual
physical distancing by
the parent. The child
may reach out time and
again, only to get no
response. Eventually, she
may decide that her
seeking for closeness is
not worth the pain of
rejection.

6. Don’t Be Close
A variant of Don’t be close is
“Don’t trust”. This message
is sometimes read by the
young child when a parent
abruptly goes away or dies.
Unable to understand the
true reason for the parent’s
disappearance, the infant
may conclude “Never again
will I trust anyone to be here
when I want them. “

7. Don’t Be Close
“Don’t trust” can also be
picked up if the parent is
abusive or tries to trick or
take advantage of the child.
The decision is “I will stay
away from you in order to
protect myself.”

8. Don’t Be Close
Carrying decisions like
these in adult life, the
person may be continually
suspicious of others he
relates to. Even when they
warmly accept him, he may
have his feelers out for
signs of rejection. If the
other person refuses to
reject him, he may “test the
relationship to destruction”
and then say” I told you so.”

9. Thank You

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