Download to read offline
![T2p resiliency presentation[1aa]](https://cdn.slidesharecdn.com/ss_thumbnails/t2p-resiliencypresentation1aa-140224081914-phpapp02-thumbnail.jpg?width=640&height=640&fit=bounds)
Cultivating a Healthy Mindset at Work
- 1. ‘HEALTHY’ MINDSET ATWORK PLANTING SEEDS… Anish Gopal Vaidya
- 2. PURPOSE OF THIS •Installa healthy way of thinking •Make you think and ponder about the concepts •A new way of looking at the problems – looking within •Help you become a better person, and a better employee
- 3. SUGGESTIONS FOR THE PARTICIPANTS •Keep your ‘glass’ empty • You may disagree, but ask ‘what if it was true?’ • Test the concepts yourself after the session
- 4. • Negativity wasa ‘normal’ • Thinking about life as ‘worthless’ • Thankless to families, friends, parents • Unresourceful state most of the time WHY AM I DOING THIS?
- 5. WHY AM IDOING THIS? • Started studying positivity • Reading books • Tried applying my studies into practice
- 6. • I’m stillnot ‘there’ • Struggling to apply my learnings • Finding ways to share my learnings WHY AM I DOING THIS?
- 7. “ ” Ask and youshall receive If you need help with these, we can work together!
- 8. INSIDE OUT • Tobring about change on the outside, you need to bring about change in the inside first • “Become the change you want to see in the world” - Gandhi
- 9.
- 10. “ ” Discovering yourself isthe greatest discovery of all Your greatest strengths and your greatest weaknesses are your most valuable assets
- 11. EXERCISE •Talents/Skills: “I cansing” •Qualities: “I am honest” •Others 2 or more of your strengths •Qualities/talents you want to have but don’t have •Those you have but don’t want to have •Others 2 or more of your weaknesses 5 mins…
- 12. EXERCISE: GROUP WORK •As a group, come up with a list of strengths and weaknesses • Each of the member should have at least one item in each of the strengths and weaknesses 5 mins…
- 13.
- 14. WHAT DID YOULEARN?
- 15. “ ” When we acceptand own impartially the parts we like and dislike in us, we become a whole person. That leads us to emotional wellbeing and we become more beautiful R Manandhar Conscious Leadership: Journey Within From Quotes for Living
- 16. LEARNING • All ofus have strengths and weaknesses • We need to respect our strength and accept our weaknesses • Work on both your strengths as well as your weaknesses
- 17. FURTHER EXPLORATIONS: PERSONALITY TYPINGS •MBTI: Myers Briggs Personality Typing • DOPE Personality Types • Social Styles • DISC Personality Types • Four Temperaments of Personality • Enneagram: 9 types – enneagraminstitute.com
- 18. FURTHER: KNOWING YOURPURPOSE • Your Talents: Singing • Qualities: Honesty • Heroes • What is the one thing that you would want others to request from you?
- 19. FEEDBACK! • HOW AREYOU FEELING? • DID YOU UNDERSTAND THE CONTENT? • SUGGESTIONS?
- 20. CULTIVATE A PROACTIVEAPPROACH EMPOWERING SELF
- 21. “ ” YOU ARE THEPRODUCT OF YOUR CHOICES
- 22. EXERCISE • Think abouta situation when you felt you were suffering • Example: • Someone betrayed you • Someone took advantage of you or stole your credit • You were treated unfairly, etc • What were your thoughts/feelings in that situation • Who was responsible for that and who could change it? • Did you • Blame someone or the situation • Blame yourself or your capabilities? 5 mins
- 23. EXERCISE • Consider thatour country has a serious problem: Politically, economically, environmentally, etc • Do you blame anyone for that? • If yes, whom? • If no, who should do what to change this?
- 24. MAN’S SEARCH FORMEANING: VIKTOR FRANKL STORY • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyefpjSs99g
- 25.
- 26. MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING • Whateverhappens has a meaning, but ‘we’ have to find that meaning • The last of the human freedom – the free will- can never be taken away from you • It’s not about your situation, it’s about your attitude toward your situation • Imagination of the future • Why did he survive: because he gave meaning to the suffering • “What can I learn from this and teach others from the lessons”
- 27. “ ” “If you cannotchange a situation, you are challenged to change yourself” Viktor Frankl
- 28. EXERCISE • Go backto your ‘suffering’ exercise • After watching Viktor Frankl video, is your thought process the same as before? • What are your thoughts/feelings regarding that situation • Who was responsible for that and who could change it? • Do you • Blame someone or the situation • Blame yourself or your capabilities?
- 29. EXERCISE • Go backto your country’s problem exercise • After watching Viktor Frankl video, is your thought process the same as before? • What are your thoughts/feelings regarding the situation of our country • Do you still choose to blame the ones who you blamed before? • Again, who is responsible for this and what should be done?
- 30.
- 31.
- 32. MEANING OF ‘PROACTIVE’ Beingresponsible Responsible = Response + able => The ability to choose a response
- 33. Proactive QUOTES •"No onecan hurt you without your consent." • Eleanor Roosevelt •“They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it to them” • Gandhi
- 34. VIDEO: PROACTIVE VSREACTIVE • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aiRp10Nfcsc&t=23s
- 35. What’s the easiestthing to do when something goes wrong?
- 36.
- 37. When you blamesomeone or something, you empower the thing you blame!
- 38. STIMULUS • Someone yellsat you • You are fired or your business goes down RESPONSE Proactive • Find ways to control your anger • Look for a better job or ideas to open a new business GAP RESPONSE Reactive • You become angry • You keep complaining about it with your friends/family Freedom to Choose BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE…
- 39.
- 40.
- 41. Circle of Concern Circleof Influence THINGS OVER WHICH YOU HAVE NO CONTROL THINGS YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT
- 42. Our own attitude Weather Birthplace Howothers treat you Your Boss’s attitude How you choose to feel Whom we vote What the politicians do
- 43.
- 44. In which circleshould we focus?
- 45. Circle of Circle ofInfluence Concern Circle of Circle of Influence Concern REACTIVE FOCUS More focus on the circle of concern, it reduces the circle of influence PROACTIVE FOCUS The more we focus on the circle of influence, it enlarges
- 46. THE TWO CIRCLES… •Circle of Concern: Problems • Circle of Influence: Actions • Circle of Concern: What you want to change • Circle of Influence: What you CAN change
- 47. WHERE DO YOUSPEND THE MOST TIME? • CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE OR • CIRCLE OF CONCERN • The quality of your life depends upon where you spend the most time in
- 48. EXERCISE: GROUP WORK •Discuss the concept of COI and COC in the group: What it is? • Each member (individually): • Make a table with two columns – COC and COI • In COC, list the problems you are facing – personal or general • Share with the group • Decide about the COI activity for each of the COC item 10 mins
- 49. EXAMPLE Circle of ConcernCircle of Influence I don’t have enough skill in programming I can join a class Join an online course Give a few minutes everyday to learn There is dust all over the roads I can write an email to the mayor I can start a facebook sharing People are not proactive Give proactivity concept in a training
- 50. SHARE: Each group Whatis COC and COI Two examples of COC/COI items 2 mins/Group
- 51. INVITATION TO GOODFRIDAY SESSIONS
- 52.
- 53. EXAMINE YOUR ‘GENERALTHOUGHTS’: LIMITING BELIEFS • “People are generally bad” • “Politicians are always corrupt” • “Our neighboring countries always degrade us” • “I can’t face challenges” • “There is no hope in this country” • “You need to ‘pull others back’ to get ahead” (Khutta tanne)
- 54. EXERCISE • List downyour limiting beliefs
- 55. COMBINATION OF GENERALTHOUGHT AND SPECIFIC SITUATION GIVES RISE TO THE INFLECTION POINT
- 56. LISTEN TO YOURLANGUAGE
- 57. LISTEN TO YOUROWN LANGUAGE Reactive Proactive I have to do it I choose to do it I can’t do it I do it They are to blame They made a mistake, but how can I help correct them? There’s nothing we can do about it There must be something we can do OR Let’s look at what we can do He turned my mood off I am having a bad mood OR I can change my mood I am a victim I am in control I did this because s/he did that to me I chose to do that Why me? Thank God it’s me!
- 58. Exercise List out List outsome of the ‘languages’ that you use: either thinking or speaking Categorize Categorize them as reactive or proactive Choose If it is reactive, choose a proactive language Aware As often as possible, become aware of the language and convert it whenever you can
- 59. PRACTICE AWARENESS • Know‘what, when, how’ that trigger your reactivity • Become aware of what happens to you inside when something happens outside • You don’t react to the circumstances, you react to your sensations
- 60. GRATITUDE AND FORGIVENESS •“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions” -Zig Zigglar • Practice counting your blessings every day • “I get to eat everyday” • “I can walk” • “The Internet” • Practicing forgiving yourself for all the seemingly bad things that you have done or your bad qualities • And someone who you think has done something bad to you
- 61.
- 62. A STUDY ONWILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN 1992 • Recovery from hip or knee surgery for 65+ year olds • Smallest movement caused excruciating pain • Movement is essential for recovery • Very common to quit From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg
- 63. A STUDY ONWILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN 1992 • They were given booklets with instructions and blank spaces • “My plans for this week are __________ • If you are going to go for a walk this week, write down where and when you are going to walk • Those who succeeded were those who wrote down the plans • They focused on how patients would handle a specific moment of anticipated pain • The patients’ plans were built around inflection points when they knew their pain—and thus the temptation to quit—would be strongest From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg
- 64. A STUDY ONWILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN 1992 • One patient, for example, had written, “I will walk to the bus stop tomorrow to meet my wife from work,” and then noted what time he would leave, the route he would walk, what he would wear, which coat he would bring if it was raining, and what pills he would take if the pain became too much. • Another patient, in a similar study, wrote a series of very specific schedules regarding the exercises he would do each time he went to the bathroom. • A third wrote a minute-by-minute itinerary for walking around the block From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg
- 65. A STUDY ONWILLPOWER: SCOTLAND’S ORTHOPEDIC HOSPITALS IN 1992 • The man who exercised on the way to the bathroom, for instance, knew that each time he stood up from the couch, the ache was excruciating. So he wrote out a plan for dealing with it: Automatically take the first step, right away, so he wouldn’t be tempted to sit down again. • The patient who met his wife at the bus stop dreaded the afternoons, because that stroll was the longest and most painful each day. So he detailed every obstacle he might confront, and came up with a solution ahead of time. From “The Power of Habit”, on Willpower -Charles Duhigg
- 66. IDENTIFY YOUR INFLECTIONPOINTS • When my wife yells at me, I lose my temper • When my children don’t do what I want them to do, I lose temper • When someone requests me for something and that needs to be done quickly and I don’t have the time and the ability, I get stressed • When I have to say ‘no’
- 67. MAKE A PLANAGAINST EACH POINT… • When she yells at me, I’ll smile gently (in my mind) • I’ll repeat the last few words mentally • I’ll remember the good things she has done for me!
- 68. SOME COMMON INFLECTIONPOINTS • When someone ignores you, you get hurt • When you do not get good raise in appraisal, you get disappointed • When your supervisor gives you feedback at your face, you get angry • When there is a lot of work to do and you have very little time, you get stressed • When you lack confidence and you must do a work
- 69. EXERCISE: INDIVIDUAL =>IDENTIFY • List out your inflection point triggers • Identify your top inflection point • Figure out what happens when you face the inflection point • Body: Sensations, heartbeat, breathing, etc • Mind: Thoughts, ‘language’ • Example: When some challenge comes up, your heartbeat goes up, you start to think negative, like ‘I can’t do it’
- 70. EXERCISE: GROUP =>PLAN • Share your inflection point to the group • Group members to provide suggestions to each other for the planning • Also, identify the limiting belief associated with each of the inflection points • Share
- 71.
- 72. REMEMBER WHAT IS“BEING PROACTIVE” • Values Vs Feelings • Responsibility Vs Blaming • Solutions Vs Problems • What can I do Vs What can’t I do • Circle of Influence Vs Circle of Concern • Listening to the Language • Inflection points
- 73. CHOOSE A PROACTIVITYPARTNER •Make a pair •For the next several weeks, each partner in the pair will remind the other of the reactive and proactive behavior of the other
- 74.
- 75. “ ” The secret ofliving is giving -Tony Robbins If you need help with these, we can work together!
- 76. “ ” The illiterate ofthe 21st century will not be the individuals who cannot read and write, but the one who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn Futurist Alvin Toffler
- 77. FEEDBACK: 5 mins •Rate the session from 1 to 10: 1 - very bad, 10 - excellent • Would you like to have such sessions again? • How likely would you apply these changes in real-life situations? • How likely would you share these concepts to your closed ones? • Comments
- 78. FURTHER READING • Habit1: Be Proactive – Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey • STARBUCKS AND THE HABIT OF SUCCESS, When Willpower Becomes Automatic - The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
- 79.
- 80. “ ” You’re in chargeof your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way. —Carol Dweck Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
- 81. THE GROWTH MINDSETSURVEY http://survey.perts.net/take/toi?public_key=f1885e6d2
- 82. THE GROWTH MINDSETQUIZ • Take the growth mindset quiz • Be very honest • Submit (remember to put your name on the page) • This information will be intended to be used to help you and your team • It will currently be with me only
- 83. FOR GROWTH MINDSET:PRACTICE SELF PRAISE Praise the process, not intelligence
- 84. • Growth MindsetIntroduction: What it is, How it Works, and Why it Matters: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75GFzikmRY0 • Carol Dweck, "Developing a Growth Mindset“: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiiEeMN7vbQ • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck • Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey REFERENCES