Slides from 2013 Preparing Your Child for Success seminar hosted by The Bear Creek School annually in Redmond, WA. Slides are excerpts from the presentation "Understanding Personality and Temperament" by Denise Peeler.
2. What impression are we
making on our kids?
“Impress them on your children.
Talk about them when you sit at
home and when you walk along
the road, when you lie down and
when you get up.“
Deuteronomy 6:7
5. LION~ My Way
Challenge and Control 10%
Leader
Problem solver
Courageous
Passion
Perseveres
Purposeful
Motivated by a vision
Competitive
Crave competition and pressure
Weaknesses:
Runs people over
7. OTTER~ The Fun and Creative Way
Recognition and approval 25-30%
Encouraging
Enthusiastic
Joyful
Creative
Idea person
Loves adventure and surprise
Craves spontaneity
Fun
Weaknesses
Interrupts often and moody
Disorganized, misses details of directions
14. Personality Trait - FEARS
Lion Otter
Greatest Need: Greatest Need:
Respect and control Approval
Being important To be loved
Greatest Fear: Greatest Fear:
Loss of control Disapproval
Feeling Unloved
Beavers Golden Retrievers:
Greatest Need: Greatest Need:
To be accurate Appreciated and Needed
Greatest Fear: Greatest Fear:
Making mistakes Unappreciated and not needed
Embarrassment
15. LIONS AND OTTERS
Lion: Otter:
Great starters Great starters
Talkers Talkers
Outgoing Outgoing
Global thinkers Global thinkers
Love a challenge Love a challenge
Leaders Leaders
Craves change Craves change
Risk taker Risk taker
Generates ideas Generates ideas
16. LIONS AND BEAVERS
Lion: Beavers:
Black and Black and
white thinkers white thinkers
Task focused Task Focused
Critical Critical
Controlling Controlling
17. OTTERS AND RETRIEVERS
Otter: People focused Golden Retrievers: People
Unmotivated by tasks focused
Dislike conflict Unmotivated by tasks
Takes the easy route Dislike conflict
Optimists Takes the easy route
Optimists
18. BEAVERS AND RETRIEVERS
Beavers: Golden Retrievers:
Great finishers Great finishers
Enjoy clear guidelines Enjoy clear guidelines
Listeners Listeners
Quiet and reserved Quiet and reserved
Followers Followers
Likes routine Likes routine
19. LION - my way
Give choices (What do you want to do today?)
Celebrate when they persevere or show courage
Give opportunities for challenge
Take time to be one on one
Give them a big picture view
Give leadership jobs within your family
Minimize talking; follow through with action
Give clear expectations of consequences
Let them experience consequences for choices
Try to not be bated into conflict or a battle
21. OTTER – fun and creative way
Foster creativity through creative projects
(i.e. cooking, crafts, woodworking)
Be spontaneous (i.e. create a scavenger hunt)
Create fun experiences
Foster group activities
(i.e. sports, classes, neighborhood gatherings)
Play games as a family
Encourage activity. Let them MOVE!
22. OTTER – fun and creative way
Teach:
Organization
Time management
Slow down
Problem solving and think ahead
Joy of hard work
23. GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy way
Give one on one time (cooking or sewing)
Provide safe experiences to take risks
Give opportunities to develop friendships
Give clear expectations
Create a safe and nurturing environment
Use a soft, gentle voice
Reward their acts of service
Serve together as a family in the community
Display healthy conflict resolution without using
anger
24. GOLDEN RETREIVER – easy way
Teach:
Value of hard work
Sharing their ideas
Goal setting
Standing up for themselves
Healthy ways to help others
25. BEAVER- right way
Provide structure and predictability
Ask questions
Reward critical thinking
Allow them to join you in tasks
Highlight one mistake at a time
Provide toys which exercise their analytical minds
i.e. legos, puzzles, building a model car
26. BEAVER – right way
Teach:
Value of play and fun
Give opportunities to develop friendships
Show them how to lovingly share criticism
Mistakes are avenues for learning
27. Personality Trait - CLASSROOM
Lion Otter
Compliment with a challenge and vision Compliment publicly
Loves independent projects Love adventure and surprise
Craves competition and pressure Enjoys working in groups
Enjoys challenging work Crave spontaneity
Likes to have freedom/ thrives with choices Thrives on creative projects
Fast worker Enjoy open ended assignments
Tends to enjoy Math and Science Very fast worker
Loves art, writing and social studies
Beavers Golden Retrievers
Compliment specifically Servant in your classroom
Crave organization and details Detailed thinker
Enjoy clear guidelines Craves consistency
Do not like open ended assignments Dislike competition and pressure
Prefer paper and pen to projects Dislikes getting in front of class
Detailed thinker Does not want to be embarrassed
Slow worker Likes to have clear directions to follow
Enjoys worksheets Slow worker
Enjoys Math, Grammar and Science Enjoys social studies, spelling and grammar
28. Personality Trait Overview
Lion: Peter, Paul, Joshua Otter: David, Barnabas
Challenge and Control 10% Recognition and approval 25-30%
Leader Encouraging
Problem solver Enthusiastic
Courageous Joyful
Passion Creative
Perseveres Idea person
Purposeful Loves adventure and surprise
Motivated by a vision Craves spontaneity
Competitive Fun
Crave competition and pressure Weaknesses
Weaknesses: Interrupts often and moody
Runs people over Disorganized, misses details of directions
Beavers: Noah, Martha, Nehemiah, Jacob Golden Retrievers: Mary, Moses, John
Quality answers and Value 20-25% Appreciation and Security 30-35%
Responsible Caring
Very detailed Loyal
Conscientious Honest
Obedience Humble
Organized Easy going
Analytical Peace maker
Discerning Servant
Crave organization and details Crave consistency
Weaknesses: Weaknesses:
Critical Lazy
Inflexible Indecisive