Came to Bear Creek16 years ago
Been teaching for last 15 years
Home schooled them for 9 years
Involved in sports, play groups, mops, Bible
studies, youth groups, and other groups for
• Family is very important to me
• I believe our greatest calling in this life is the calling to
be a parent. We all come to this role from different
directions, but it is the greatest gift God can offer us.
• Greater than our vocation, our financial security, our
education or status. After our relationship with
God, our relationship with our children is most
• “children are a gift of the Lord, the fruit of the womb is
a reward…how blessed is the man whose quiver is full
of them!” Psalm 127:3
• “A wise woman builds her house” Proverbs 14:1
I’m so glad I ….
Schedules, routines, chores
meals / lunches/breakfasts
Discipline, good manners
Scripture and spiritual life
…GRACE for myself and everyone else
Schedules, routines, chores
• Babies thrive by experiencing routine. It helps
establish discipline and security.
• Naptime, meal time, nighttime routine, etc
(try to avoid overscheduling). It sets seeds of
contentment and learning to play creatively.
• Natural segue into chores
• Chore chart (try to avoid external prizes)
• Sets seeds to being responsible/independent
Meals / lunches/breakfast
• Stats on families who eat dinner together
• Perfect opportunity to connect, listen, ask
questions that encourage reflection (high/low of
the day, older kids can reflect on conversation
• Lunches – big deal to my boys! Shows care and
concern for health, do it together, do some the
night before, sandwiches in the morning.
• Breakfast – most important meal!
• “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and
discipline” ~II Tim 1:7
• Discipline is for our good and God’s glory
• Start narrow, as they grow we can get broader
• One form of discipline is good manners. Manners glorify God
and respect people. Manners start with teaching/training fear
of the Lord and His ways. Fruit: words, actions, attitudes
• Self-control: delayed gratification, over-spending, eating
whatever we want, toys, clothes, etc. we need to model true
contentment and good stewardship
• Lays foundation for discipline in later years
(chores, homework, work, relationships)
• Discipline should always be done in private, with respect, and
never in anger
• “your presence gives them a greater sense of security than almost
anything else you can offer them” p. 13
• The world pulls at us from all directions. They
must know that they are the priority.
• Start early, when they’re little. We model
communication and honesty. They pick up on
what you say without your words.
• Children crave our presence, not the things we
can offer them. We cannot get moments back.
• Keep talking with them. They need/want your
input (even if they act like they don’t).
* Talking and sharing communicates “you are important
to me” and “I want to know how you feel about this”
• By starting early, and setting the seeds of
communication and presence, it makes it natural for
them to share with you when they are older
• When they’re older, they don’t want to talk as much
(room, grunts) but keep the routine of mealtimes and
• As kids move through stages, our goal should be to
move from control to influence.
• Activities, sports, and even friends will come and
go – but family doesn’t. Guard your times!
• Be intentional about it: meal times, game
nights, pizza/movie nights, work days, pick from
a jar, delegate dinner jobs, etc.
• Support each member’s sporting events, special
• Start young with spiritual training – make it real
and make it regular. When they’re older it makes
it easier to tackle issues with the Lord.
• Fun! Celebrate the joy of being a family
• First fall fire
• Thanksgiving: box, delegate food, favorite thing for the
• Christmas: baby Jesus mangers, advent treasure
box, services/meal traditions, advent calendars
(different kinds) nativity sets
• New Years: flip through the calendar
• Valentines Day: heart pancakes, love notes
• Easter: Easter egg symbols, sedar dinner
• Start early!
• Prayer: model it, everything, natural, Ebenezer
• Scripture memory: charts
• Read Bible stories
• Family times
• Grace for you, for today, for now! Allow yourself
• Grace for your family members – it’s through
grace that people see Christ.
• It’s about giving and receiving grace
• Time in Bible study
• Time with like-minded moms who knew how to
give and receive grace. I saw it modeled.
• ENJOY your sweet kids! They’re a gift from God.