This document discusses self-awareness and its importance. Self-awareness involves having a clear understanding of one's strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, values, motivation, and emotions. It allows a person to better understand others and how their own attitudes and responses are perceived. Developing self-awareness can make someone a better version of themselves and a more dependable member of society. The document provides examples and gives suggestions for becoming more self-aware, such as journal writing, exploring personality types, and practicing mindfulness.

1. Self-Awareness
By Don Vaillancourt
dovailla@teksystems.com / vaillancourt.don@gmail.com

2. What is it?
It’s having a clear perception of your
1. strengths & weaknesses
2. thoughts & self-talk
3. values & beliefs
4. motivation
5. emotions
Self Awareness allows you to
understand other people, how
they perceive you, your
attitude and your responses to
them in the moment.

3. Why?
To become a better version of yourself and a more
dependable member of society.

4. Breaking it down

5. Johnny’s Strengths and weaknesses are the skills that he does well
or not so well within a given context.
Example: Johnny is an amazing
programmer. But when Hubert gives
him instructions, Johnny’s quick to
dismiss him to get to work right away.
Then when it’s time to deliver, it’s not
what the client had asked for.

6. Lloyd often lets his thoughts get the better of him. He doesn’t realize
that they affect his morale.
Example: Lloyd keeps thinking that he’ll sound
dumb when the team meets the client, even
though everyone tells him he does a great job
and he has nothing to worry about.

7. Hubert’s values and beliefs are what guides his behaviour? Although
he has good intentions he doesn’t always follow through.
Example: Hubert values team work.
He believes that everyone should be
accountable to everyone else. Yet
when Lloyd needs help, Hubert is
never around and he’s hard to
reach. Often coming into work late.

8. Johnny is motivated by his own goals and what he believes in. That’s
when he loves to take the initiative.
Other times Hubert needs to
incentivise him. Sometimes with a
carrot, other times with a stick.

9. What motivates Johnny?
Intrinsic Extrinsic
● Autonomy
● Belonging
● Curiousity
● Love
● Learning
● Mastery
● Meaning
● Given Rewards
(the carrot)
● Fear of repercussions
(the stick)

10. Emotional Intelligence is being aware that emotions
can drive our behavior and impact people.
It’s learning how to manage our own
and other’s emotions.

11. Example: Johnny tries to explain to Lloyd how to
do his work. But Lloyd just doesn’t understand
what Johnny is saying.
Eventually Johnny gets frustrated and then
becomes impatient. Finally he gets angry.
What Johnny doesn’t realize is that Lloyd is
nervous, the more frustrated and angry Johnny
gets, the more nervous Lloyd get.

12. Emotional Wheel

13. Becoming Self Aware

14. Be proactive.
Write a manifesto.
Be Constantly Aware.
Write in a journal.
Explore the moment.
Self-Reflection.
Get Support.
Mindfulness.

15. Journal writing is an exercise to help you become more self-
aware. After every event document the following:
What was the event?
What did you observe?
What emotion did you feel?
What were you thinking?
How should the interaction have gone better?

16. Personalities
Personality Profiles: Dominant, Influential, Steady, Compliant
Interaction With the World: Introvert, Extrovert, Ambivert
Thinking Habit: Proactive or Reactive
Big Five Personality Traits: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness,
Extraversion, Agreeableness, Neuroticism
Personality Theory: Type A and Type B

17. Personality Profiles
Dominant
1. Active & Task Focussed
2. Direct, Decisive, Doer
3. Domineering, Demanding
Influential
1. Active & People Focussed
2. Inspirational, Interactive, Interesting
3. Impulsive, Irritating
Compliant
1. Reflective & Task Focussed
2. Cautious, Careful, Conscientious
3. Calculating, Condescending
Steady
1. Reflective & People Focussed
2. Stable, Supportive, Sincere
3. Slow, Sensitive

18. Interaction with the World
Six Facets of
Extraversion:
Introvert Ambivert Extravert
Enthusiasm Holds down positive feelings Demonstrates some positive
feeling
Shows a lot of positive feelings
Sociability Prefers working alone Occasionally seeks others Prefers working with others
Energy Mode Prefers being still in one place Maintains a moderate activity
level
Prefers to be physically active
Taking Charge Prefers being independent of
others
Accepts some responsibility
for others
Enjoys responsibility of leading
others
Trusts of
Others
Skeptical of others Is somewhat trusting Readily trusts others
Tact Speaks without regard for
consequences
Exerts moderate care in
selecting words
Carefully selects the right
words

19. Thinking Habit
Proactive Reactive
● Initiative
● Responsibility
● Influence
● Leadership
● Influenced by other people
and circumstances
● no responsibility
● no initiative

20. Big Five Personality Traits
Extraversion Friendliness, Gregariousness, Assertiveness, Activity Level,
Excitement-Seeking, Cheerfulness
Agreeableness Trust, Morality, Altruism, Cooperation, Modesty, Sympathy
Conscientiousness Self-efficiency, Orderliness, Dutifulness, Achievement-striving,
Self-discipline, Cautiousness
Neuroticism Anxiety, Anger, Depression, Self-consciousness, Immoderation,
Vulnerability
Openness to
Experience
Imagination, Artistic Interests, Emotionality, Adventurousness,
Intellect, Liberalism

21. Personality Theory
Type A Type B
● Always moving, walking and eating rapidly.
● Feel impatient with the rate at which
most events take place.
● Strive to think or do two or more
things at the same once.
● Cannot cope with leisure time.
● Are obsessed with numbers, measuring
their success in terms of how many or
how much of everything they acquire.
● Never suffer from a sense of
urgency with its accompanying
impatience.
● Feel no need to display or discuss either
their achievements or accomplishments
unless such exposure is demanded by
the situation.
● Play for fun & relaxation, instead of
exhibit their superiority at any cost.
● Can relax without guilt.

22. Thank You for Attending