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- 1. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 2. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Dedicated to His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada (Founder Acharya- ISKCON)
- 3. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success 1. What is self-confidence? 2. Why people lack self-confidence? 3. Self assessment 4. Practical tips to increase Self Confidence Agenda
- 4. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success What is Self-Confidence
- 5. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-confidence is a term used to describe how secure a person is in his own decisions and actions and how free he is from doubt.
- 6. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Activity Identify the characteristic Activity Identify the characteristic
- 7. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Assertiveness SELF CONFIDENT Distrust LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE Eagerness Affection Self- doubt Isolation SELF CONFIDENT SELF CONFIDENT LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE
- 8. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Sensitivity to criticism Depression Feelings of inferiority The ability to handle criticism Emotional maturity LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE SELF CONFIDENT LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE SELF CONFIDENT
- 9. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Main causes for lack of self- confidence
- 10. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Activity What are the various causes of people lacking self-confidence?
- 11. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success The reasons are…
- 12. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Negative life experiences
- 13. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Loss of a family member or close friend
- 14. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Failures & reversals in life
- 15. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self Criticis m
- 16. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success External Pressure
- 17. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 18. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Guilty feelings
- 19. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Let’s do Self Assessment
- 20. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Activity Identify the characteristic Activity Comparison
- 21. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success One characteristic at a time will be displayed on screenPlease tell the opposite characteristic
- 22. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence
- 23. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize
- 24. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think
- 25. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks
- 26. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks
- 27. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks Admitting mistakes and learning from them
- 28. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks Admitting mistakes and learning from them Working hard to cover up mistakes
- 29. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Rank yourself on a scale of 1-5 for all the three characteristics. Add up scores and find out total score out of 15
- 30. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize Behavior based on what other people will think Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks Admitting mistakes and learning from them Working hard to cover up mistakes
- 31. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success What is your score? • 1-3 – Low • 4-8 - Average • 9-12 – Good • 12 and above - Excellent
- 32. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success How to Increase Your Self- Confidence
- 33. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Tolerate reversals with a positive frame of mind 1
- 34. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. Thomas Alva Edison “ “
- 35. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live. “ “ Norman Cousins
- 36. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. “
- 37. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. “ Michael Jordan
- 38. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success mäträ-sparçäs tu kaunteya çétoñëa-sukha-duùkha-däù ägamäpäyino ’nityäs täàs titikñasva bhärata REF. Bg 2.14
- 39. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success TRANSLATION O son of Kunté, the nonpermanent appearance of happiness and distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
- 40. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Identify the person
- 41. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success • 1832 - lost his job & defeated in legislature • 1833 - failed in business • 1835 - sweetheart died • 1836 - had a nervous breakdown • 1838 - defeated for Speaker of the U.S. House
- 42. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success • 1843 - defeated for nomination for Congress • 1848 - lost re-nomination • 1854 - defeated for U.S. Senate • 1856 - defeated for nomination Vice President •1858 - again defeated for U.S. Senate
- 43. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success In 1860 he was elected President of USA Abraham Lincoln
- 44. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Sometimes hardships and reversals can bring out the best in us They can be blessings in disguise!
- 45. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Cocoon of a butterfly
- 46. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Choose your friends well 2
- 47. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Avoid individuals who suck your energy and diminish your confidence
- 48. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Pessimists drag you down, as do whiners and critics
- 49. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success You are the same today as you will be in five years except for two things, the people you associate with and the books you read. JOHN F KENNEDY “ “
- 50. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Cultivate friendship with a person who is closest to you
- 51. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Who is he
- 52. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Most powerful and loving Lord in the heart!
- 53. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success sarvasya cähaà hådi sanniviñöo mattaù småtir jïänam apohanaà REF. Bg 15.15
- 54. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success TRANSLATION I am seated in everyone’s heart, and from Me come remembrance, knowledge and forgetfulness.
- 55. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Our most trustworthy friend
- 56. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND
- 57. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success We have to practice remembering the Lord always, by chanting His names and molding life’s activities in such a way that we can remember Him always. SRILA PRABHUPADA “ “
- 58. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Dwell on your strengths & not on your weaknesses 3
- 59. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Each one of us have strengths and weaknesses
- 60. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Amazing will! Enter
- 61. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 62. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Don’t cry over your shortcomings and weaknesses
- 63. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Lalloo Yadav Enter
- 64. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 65. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Chanting 4
- 66. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Richard Arthur (An instructor of English at Rutgers University) Chanting makes me more aware of what to do and what not to do. And now, I naturally feel happy about doing the right thing.
- 67. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success The psychologists have found chanters brimming with self-confidence
- 68. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Nathan Zakheim (Famous art director) "After years of being a closed-in person and trying to protect myself from experiences, now I'm really different.”
- 69. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Essence of Chanting Enter
- 70. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 71. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success “Chanting makes me so exuberant that I easily sail through all challenging situations in life.” Marco Ferrini (Italy’s top furniture designer)
- 72. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success 5 Read Great books
- 73. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who can not read them. “ “ MARK TWAIN
- 74. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success When doubts haunt me, when disappointments stare me in the face, and I see not one ray of hope on the horizon, I turn to Bhagavad-gita “
- 75. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success “ Mahatma Gandhi and find a verse to comfort me; and I immediately begin to smile in the midst of Overwhelming sorrow.
- 76. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success By reading we discover ourselves & our world. “ “ OPRAH WINFREY
- 77. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success If one properly follows the instructions of Bhagavad-gétä, one can be freed from all the miseries and anxieties of life. One will be freed from all fears. (Gétä-mähätmya 1)
- 78. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Dr K Kasturirangan’s speech EnterFormer Chairman of ISRO
- 79. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success
- 80. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Read Bhagavad Gita? What is the use?
- 81. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Every man who reads has the power to magnify himself, to make his life full, significant, and meaningful. ALBERT EINSTEIN “ “
- 82. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Cultivate a habit of reading regularly at least for 15 min
- 83. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Summarize • Negative experiences, feeling of guilt, fear etc diminish our self confidence • Self confidence is influenced to a large extent by the kind of people we associate with • Our self confidence can be boosted by chanting, reading and developing faith in the Lord
- 84. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Q&A
- 85. Building Self -ConfidenceSecrets of Success Thank You
Editor's Notes
- #6 Self-confidence is often the single ingredient that distinguishes a successful person from someone less successful.
- #7 Ask the participants & note down on flip chart.
- #11 Ask the participants & note down on flip chart.
- #13 We often develop feelings of inferiority and lack of self confidence through various negative life experiences at home, school, on the job, etc.
- #14 Self confidence can diminish when confronted with tragic life situations like death of a very close family members or breaking up of relationship with a very close friend.
- #15 By dwelling unnecessarily on failures and reversals in life
- #16 Criticizing yourself and your abilities and blame yourself for your failures and disappointment.
- #17 Experiencing too much pressure from your parents and/or peers to meet the demands and expectations that they set out for you deprives you of the opportunity to develop your own identity, independence and autonomy.
- #18 Believing that because you have failed before, you will fail again. Fear sets in which depletes self-confidence.
- #19 If you experience many guilty feelings, it will cause low self confidence and esteem.
- #21 In the following table only one characteristic at a time will be displayed on screen and the participants should tell the opposite. Then the participant will rank himself on a scale of 1-5. At the end, ask the participants to add up their individual scores and find out what is their score out of 15.
- #22 If you experience many guilty feelings, it will cause low self confidence and esteem.
- #23 In the following table only one characteristic at a time will be displayed on screen and the participants should tell the opposite. Then the participant will rank himself on a scale of 1-5. At the end, ask the participants to add up their individual scores and find out what is their score out of 25.
- #30 If you experience many guilty feelings, it will cause low self confidence and esteem.
- #32 Say: Those who are lacking self confidence need not worry this session will bring out the confident person in you , and for those who are brimming with self confidence, this session will help you maintain the same and will also show you in whom to place your confidence.
- #35 Edison _failed_ more than ten thousand times before he succeeded in creating the light bulb.
- #36 Edison _failed_ more than ten thousand times before he succeeded in creating the light bulb.
- #46 A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared; he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gone as far as it could and it could go no farther. Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been.
- #47 Avoid individuals who suck your energy and diminish your confidence. You know who they are: Steer clear of them. Hang out with the people who see you at your best, and remind you about it every so often. Pessimists drag you down, as do whiners and critics.
- #48 Avoid individuals who suck your energy and diminish your confidence. You know who they are: Steer clear of them. Pessimists drag you down, as do whiners and critics. Hang out with the people who are wise and have good positive attitude.
- #51 Cultivate friendship with a person who is closest to you. He is your real well-wisher. He is always accompanying us.
- #52 Always remember that Lord is always with you and He is beyond any limitations. You may be having many limitations, but your dependence on the Lord can bring the best out of you.
- #53 Many times we struggle through life thinking that we are all alone. The most powerful and loving Lord is right there within our heart, always willing to guide us, provided we seek His guidance and follow His instructions
- #56 He is our most trustworthy friend always accompanying us! He is our true well wisher. In trails and tribulations, He is always with us, ready to help us. Problem is that we are forgetful of Him & don’t follow His instructions. We doubt His guidance. We don’t have unflinching faith in Him.
- #57 FOOTPRINTS IN SAND One night, a man had a dream. He dreamt that he was walking on a beach with the Lord. When he turned to look behind him, he saw two sets of footprints on the vast stretches of sand which he had crossed. One set of footprints, he clearly recognised as his own; the other set, as the Lord's. Scenes from his life flashed across his mind's eye, as he recalled his past. The expanses of sand behind him seemed to symbolise the life he had lived till then. All of a sudden, he noticed that at certain places, there was only one set of footprints on the sand. He thought, "These were those critical moments in my life, when I was in the depths of despair- all alone!" And the thought struck him that the single set of footprints signified that even the Lord had forsaken him, when he needed Him the most. "Where were you. Lord?" he questioned. "How could you have abandoned me during my most troubled times?" "Look closely, my child," the Lord replied. "I love you and I would never leave you." , Looking back once again, the man realized that the single set of footprints were not his own, but the Lord's. Then the Lord uttered the words which we would all do well to remember for life! "My precious child, during times of trial and suffering, you see only one set of footprints because that was when I carried you!"
- #59 Realize that there are certain things that you are more adept and competent in than others, and that it is impossible to expect perfection in every aspect of your life.
- #81 An old Farmer lived on a farm in the mountains with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Bhagavad Gita. His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could. One day the grandson asked, "Grandpa! I try to read the Bhagavad Gita just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Bhagavad Gita do?" The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water." The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead. The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door to watch the boy try again. At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house. The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said, "See Grandpa, it's useless!" "So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket." The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out. "Son, that's what happens when you read the Bhagavad Gita. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Krishna in our lives."
- #83 We strongly recommend you buy a copy of Bhagavad-gita As It Is
- #85 (Ask the participants to summarize)