The document discusses the importance of non-verbal communication in infants and children, highlighting how their interpretations of non-verbal signals can affect their emotional and psychological development. It emphasizes that children closely observe their parents' non-verbal cues and these can convey messages of acceptance or rejection. Additionally, the document explores how children's understanding of non-verbal messages continues to evolve as they grow and interact with their environment.

1. Non Verbal Script Messages

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Manu Melwin Joy
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School of Management Studies
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3. Non Verbal Messages
• Before the infant has
words, he interprets
other people’s
messages in terms of
their non verbal
signals.
• The young baby has
acute perception of
expressions, body
tensions, movements,
tones and smells.

4. Non Verbal Messages
• If mother holds him close
and warm, letting him
mould to the shape of her
body, he is likely to
perceive her message to
him as “I accept and love
you!”.
• But if she tenses up and
holds him stiffly a little
away from her, he may
read her as conveying : “ I
reject you and don’t want
you close!”

5. Non Verbal Messages
• Sometimes, the infant may
construe script messages from
events around her that are not
of the parent’s making.
• Loud noises, sudden
movements, separation from
the parents such as stay in the
hospital, may all appear to the
bay as life threatening.
• Because she assumes that her
parents are in charge of the
reality, she may conclude that
the threats also come from
them.

6. Non Verbal Messages
• Later in childhood , when
the child understands
language, non verbal
communication is still
important as a
component of script
messages.
• Physical abuse or the
treat of it, may mean to
the child that his parents
reject him or possibly
want him dead.

7. Non Verbal Messages
• When parents speak to
the child, he will interpret
the script meaning of
what they say according
to the non verbal that go
with it.
• Recall Berne’s Third rule
of communication : When
the transaction are
ulterior, the significant
message is on the
psychological level.

8. Non Verbal Messages
• Picture a school child coming
home with the new reading book
she is just been given by the
teacher.
• She starts reading it to her
parents and stumbles over a
word she hasn’t met before.
• Father says : “ You got that word
wrong”.
• With those words could go many
different sets of non verbal
messages.
• Each of these would carry its
own meaning to the child in
terms of possible script decision.

9. Non Verbal Messages
• Father might speak in a harsh, loud voice, while curling
his lip and screwing his face up.
• At the same time, he might knock the book out of her
hand or even deal her a blow.
• To the child, his message reads: “I don’t want you around
and would prefer you dead.”

10. Non Verbal Messages
• He might say the word
in flat voice, without
looking up from the
newspaper he himself
is reading.
• Reading the non
verbal, his daughter
interprets his message
as: “ You are not
important to me.”

11. Non Verbal Messages
• He might accompany his
words with a wink and a
giggle.
• Using little professor
strategy, the little girl tests
out giggling back.
• Sure enough, father smiles
even more.
• She reads his message: “ To
please me, you have to act
stupid.”

12. Non Verbal Messages
• Father might say the word
in even voice, while sitting
beside her pointing the
words out in her book.
• He then gives her time to
look at the word again.
• His Martian conveys to the
child: “It is OK for you to
think.”

13. Thank You

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