Organic Communication - Stop Blocking, Start Connecting
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What are the communication blockers? There are innumerable ways in which people hinder harmonious exchanges, but eight major blockers pose the greatest challenges and create the most drama. Many blockers are interrelated and are oftentimes offshoots that accompany these primary blockers: Fixing, comparing, multi-tasking, trivializing, analyzing, interrogating, chastising and over-sympathizing. Learn how each of these blockers, individually and simultaneously, enter our interpersonal communication and wreak havoc that is difficult to undo.
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- 3. Where does communication break down? How can we communicate more effectively? BATTERY BATTERY Overarching Questions
- 4. 4 Common scenarios that raise communication challenges • Giving and receiving assignments • Giving and receiving feedback • Managing self and others • Communicating with customers and co-workers
- 5. Listening as an ally Listening as an adversary vs. Listening Exercise
- 6. Blocker #1: Fixing 6 • Creates co-dependence • Removes responsibility • Leads to more problems
- 7. Connector #1: Empowering 7 • Focus on desirable outcomes + serve as a sounding board • Help them arrive at their own solutions • Champion others by providing encouraging words and reminding them of past successes • Share your method for arriving at decisions – don’t decide for them
- 8. Blocker #2: Topping 8 • Shifts focus from speaker • Dwarfs the speaker’s issue • Can lead to increased anxiety
- 9. Connector #2: Listening 9 • Focus your attention on the story and details that they are sharing • Avoid jumping in with your similar experience • Listen to them and don’t shift the focus to you • Understand and relate but don’t one-up or compare
- 10. Blocker #3: Multi-tasking 10 • Divides attention • Makes others feel unimportant • Ignores and alienates • Doesn’t allow for eye contact
- 11. Connector #3: Focusing 11 • Be present and alert • Make eye contact • Concentrate on your conversation • Avoid distractions like technology • Connect with their words and the feelings behind those words
- 12. Blocker #4: Trivializing 12 • “I’m drowning” – “You’re a great swimmer!” • Doesn’t acknowledge our feelings • Can make us feel lonely or more anxious
- 13. 13 • Remember what it was like not to know • Recognize the worthiness and legitimacy of their concern • Don’t diminish their problem • Provide supportive words that will validate their feelings and position • Recognize the many activities and subjects that make you feel clueless • Use your knowledge to help others grow and develop Connector #4: Validating
- 14. Blocker #5: Analyzing 14 • Makes others feel judged • Makes others feel unappreciated and misunderstood • Makes the problem seem bigger or deeper
- 15. Connector #5: Appreciating 15 • Value their perspective & manner of seeing / experiencing the world • Respect their opinion • Appreciate their approach • Avoid judging and evaluating • Appreciate their unique talents & skills
- 16. Blocker #6: Interrogating 16 • Disrupts, interrupts and frustrates • Takes speaker off topic and on tangents • Draws conversation out
- 17. Connector #6: Understanding 17 • Seek to understand the issue • Listen wholeheartedly • Hear them out completely before interjecting with questions • Ask relevant questions that probe the situation • Don’t doubt them or make assumptions
- 18. Blocker #7: Chastising 18 • Belittles the person sharing the issue • Demeans, disrespects and discourages • Leads to resentment and avoidance
- 19. Connector #7: Responding 19 • Be proactive by focusing on the desirable outcome • Resist reactive communication • Don’t use chastising words that demean and discourage • Discuss and demonstrate appropriate / preferred actions
- 20. Blocker #8: Over-sympathizing 20 • Victimizes and renders the person powerless • Removes control and capability • Can lead to feeling awkward and uncomfortable
- 21. Connector #8: Empathizing 21 • Acknowledge their emotions • Be compassionate and merciful • Don’t victimize them • Don’t make them feel helpless and powerless
- 22. Level I Listening Listening to your own: • Thoughts • Judgments • Opinions Level II Listening Listening for the speaker’s: • Purpose • Vision • Objective • Outcome 22 Levels of Listening
- 23. 23 • We all use blockers, even with the best of intentions • We need to recognize the blockers in order to avoid them • Blockers can be verbal and nonverbal • We can all begin to communicate more effectively by improving two key skills: listening and understanding In Summary
- 24. 24 Stop Blocking, Start Connecting
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