Notes from a corporate training gig on the not so commonly known fundamentals of emotional health.

1. STRESS and RESILIENCE
© Joel Young (2011)
With acknowledgements to D.Riddell’s concepts.
Stress, Strength and Resilience
Stress is directly related to our emotional capacity. Just like a
professional weightlifter won’t be physically stressed lifting a
100kg weight, we won’t be emotionally stressed carrying a
heavy workload if we are emotionally strong.
Q. What makes people emotionally strong?
Q. What makes me emotionally strong?
Some Fundamentals of Emotional Health
1. Have a healthy attitude towards Responsibility.
- Accept own and other’s autonomy.
-Limitations of my control/responsibility
-“How did I contribute to this?”, in contrast to
“It’s not my fault”.
2. Be able to Take Correction without taking offence.
- From life and people.
-Correction does not equal rejection.
-“So how’s that working for you?”
-“Failure isn’t fatal unless I fail to learn from it.”
3. Be able to adjust one’sExpectations.
-Of self, of others, of the world.
-Flexible minds bend rather than break!
-When angry/disappointed “Are my expectations realistic?”
4. Be able to ‘win-win’Negotiate.
-Balance my needs/wants/requirements with others.
-Be able to give and take.
-Face conflict in an adult manner.
5. Be able to be GentlyAssertive.
-Know and maintain one’s boundaries.
-“My responsibility is to speak the truth in love, their
response is their responsibility.”
Emotional Economics
When the river runs low, the rocks show
through. Keep the levels up to keep you
resilient.
Q.What fills you up?
Q.What are the ‘holes in your bucket’?
Further Resources
E.A.P.Counselling &www.NewInsight.co.nz
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