This document outlines stages of a process and discusses concepts from Nonviolent Communication (NVC). It addresses observing without evaluating, identifying feelings and needs, and connecting strategies to needs. Specific needs mentioned include connection, clarity, comfort, and belonging. The document encourages reflection on needs without shame and discusses feelings, the NVC framework, and making requests to meet needs graciously.
Boost your self esteem in just 15 minutes with these powerful messages that cut straight to the root of why we have low self worth. You deserve to feel good about who you are, and empowered to build your best life!
Boost your self esteem in just 15 minutes with these powerful messages that cut straight to the root of why we have low self worth. You deserve to feel good about who you are, and empowered to build your best life!
How to deal with stress
Method developed by a network of Brazilian, Swedish and Finnish professionals on education, health care, social service, cooperatives, psychoanalysis...
A person may create competitive advantages by exploring inner world of self. This provide an opportunity to identify own potential & sharpening it
Continuous Self-development is a basic need for leadership role which provide additional benefits to lead & deliver.
Life after a cancer diagnosis can be challenging both physically and emotionally. How we work with the difficult thoughts and emotions can influence not only our physical health but how we live our lives. In this seminar, Oncologist Rob Rutledge normalizes the roller-coaster of emotions and distorted thoughts, and offers practical ways to untangle ourselves from the thoughts that don't serve us - allowing us to choose a values-driven life of greater meaning and purpose.
AATH 2018 Keynote Conference San Diego - Highlights from #AATH18! Association...Amy Oestreicher
How does music heal when words can’t? Why does sharing our story have the power to transform our experience? How can we use creative expression to share our truth in a way that breeds compassion? And what’s so funny about PTSD? HUMOR creates a safe container that protects you against anything! Sharing her near death experience with humor and heart, Amy shows the transformative power of words on a musical journey of hope and determination.
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People Who Cause You Harm: How to Explain Dramatic and Erratic Personality Di...Jeni Mawter
This presentation identifies a massive gap in trauma-informed care for young people, the long-term harm of having a parent or family member with a personality disorder, specifically the Cluster “B” Personality Disorders.
Society is going through a radical shift in how it views, treats and manages Anxiety, Depression, Suicide Prevention, and Substance Abuse and Addiction. Rapid technological advances are seeing a cross fertilization between the traditional medical sciences of neurology and psychiatry. The traditional approach was that damage to the nervous system resulted in neurological disorders whereas psychiatric disorders involved disturbed behavior and emotional states. Today we know that neurological changes underpin psychiatric disorders as well as mental health and mental illness.
Another huge breakthrough in the neuropsychiatric research findings is the link to Mental Health and Trauma. Childhood Trauma initially focused on physical abuse in the Domestic Violence setting. Gradually, emotional abuse was taken into consideration to address risk and harm. Children and young people were considered at risk in light of such factors as homelessness, refugee and asylum seekers, juvenile justice settings and for those in indigenous communities. The issue of personality disorder and family relationships and breakdown has been ignored.
A personality disorder is a mental health disorder that affects how a person thinks, behaves and relates to others. The Cluster “B” parent has erratic and dramatic emotions and behaviors. Regulating emotions and maintaining healthy relationships is impossible. They are impulsive, low in empathy and low in conscience. They have a need to manipulate, control and disempower others. For family members, specifically their children, this culminates in significant distress and trauma. There is considerable harm to social, emotional, cognitive, spiritual and educational development.
Currently, there are almost no resources for children and young adults who have a Cluster “B” parent. The first step to healing is education to understand what, how and why this has happened to them. This SlideShare presentation aims to shed light on such questions as: What happened to me? Am I crazy? Are they the psycho or am I? Why do I feel so depressed/anxious/worthless? Most importantly, the goal is to help towards hope and healing, good mental health, resilience and peace.
Call to Action: Cluster “B” pathology is insidious, pernicious, deliberate and dangerous. These parents have tremendous destructive potential. Harm is hidden behind charm. They impact homes, families, workplaces, relationships and societies. Education is critical for every person in every system caught in the aftermath of dealing with their destruction: mental health, general health, family law, police departments, criminal justice, domestic violence and social service. Thank you.
Success From the Inside-Out Workshop is a power-packed, fun-filled event giving you new ideas and valuable tools for successful living. This workshop addresses the key problems facing people in today’s world.
You’ll learn practical tools that you can use every day with family, friends, neighbors and co-workers.
This is the first module of a program we have used successfully with Habitat for Humanity of the San Gabriel Valley.
Sometimes our religious beliefs are crooked and hold us back emotionally. Here are some freeing ideas based in sound theology reminding us of the truth and importance of self and other acceptance to realizing peace in our lives and world.
2 Peter 3: Because some scriptures are hard to understand and some will force them to say things God never intended, Peter warns us to take care.
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What Should be the Christian View of Anime?Joe Muraguri
We will learn what Anime is and see what a Christian should consider before watching anime movies? We will also learn a little bit of Shintoism religion and hentai (the craze of internet pornography today).
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Book of Joshua is the sixth book in the Hebrew Bible and the Old Testament, and is the first book of the Deuteronomistic history, the story of Israel from the conquest of Canaan to the Babylonian exile.
The Good News, newsletter for June 2024 is hereNoHo FUMC
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Why is this So? ~ Do Seek to KNOW (English & Chinese).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma teaching of Kamma-Vipaka (Intentional Actions-Ripening Effects).
A Presentation for developing morality, concentration and wisdom and to spur us to practice the Dhamma diligently.
The texts are in English and Chinese.
The PBHP DYC ~ Reflections on The Dhamma (English).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma Reflections for the PBHP DYC for the years 1993 – 2012. To motivate and inspire DYC members to keep on practicing the Dhamma and to do the meritorious deed of Dhammaduta work.
The texts are in English.
For the Video with audio narration, comments and texts in English, please check out the Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF2g_43NEa0
Exploring the Mindfulness Understanding Its Benefits.pptxMartaLoveguard
Slide 1: Title: Exploring the Mindfulness: Understanding Its Benefits
Slide 2: Introduction to Mindfulness
Mindfulness, defined as the conscious, non-judgmental observation of the present moment, has deep roots in Buddhist meditation practice but has gained significant popularity in the Western world in recent years. In today's society, filled with distractions and constant stimuli, mindfulness offers a valuable tool for regaining inner peace and reconnecting with our true selves. By cultivating mindfulness, we can develop a heightened awareness of our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, leading to a greater sense of clarity and presence in our daily lives.
Slide 3: Benefits of Mindfulness for Mental Well-being
Practicing mindfulness can help reduce stress and anxiety levels, improving overall quality of life.
Mindfulness increases awareness of our emotions and teaches us to manage them better, leading to improved mood.
Regular mindfulness practice can improve our ability to concentrate and focus our attention on the present moment.
Slide 4: Benefits of Mindfulness for Physical Health
Research has shown that practicing mindfulness can contribute to lowering blood pressure, which is beneficial for heart health.
Regular meditation and mindfulness practice can strengthen the immune system, aiding the body in fighting infections.
Mindfulness may help reduce the risk of chronic diseases such as type 2 diabetes and obesity by reducing stress and improving overall lifestyle habits.
Slide 5: Impact of Mindfulness on Relationships
Mindfulness can help us better understand others and improve communication, leading to healthier relationships.
By focusing on the present moment and being fully attentive, mindfulness helps build stronger and more authentic connections with others.
Mindfulness teaches us how to be present for others in difficult times, leading to increased compassion and understanding.
Slide 6: Mindfulness Techniques and Practices
Focusing on the breath and mindful breathing can be a simple way to enter a state of mindfulness.
Body scan meditation involves focusing on different parts of the body, paying attention to any sensations and feelings.
Practicing mindful walking and eating involves consciously focusing on each step or bite, with full attention to sensory experiences.
Slide 7: Incorporating Mindfulness into Daily Life
You can practice mindfulness in everyday activities such as washing dishes or taking a walk in the park.
Adding mindfulness practice to daily routines can help increase awareness and presence.
Mindfulness helps us become more aware of our needs and better manage our time, leading to balance and harmony in life.
Slide 8: Summary: Embracing Mindfulness for Full Living
Mindfulness can bring numerous benefits for physical and mental health.
Regular mindfulness practice can help achieve a fuller and more satisfying life.
Mindfulness has the power to change our perspective and way of perceiving the world, leading to deeper se
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way.pptxCelso Napoleon
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way
SBs – Sunday Bible School
Adult Bible Lessons 2nd quarter 2024 CPAD
MAGAZINE: THE CAREER THAT IS PROPOSED TO US: The Path of Salvation, Holiness and Perseverance to Reach Heaven
Commentator: Pastor Osiel Gomes
Presentation: Missionary Celso Napoleon
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The Chakra System in our body - A Portal to Interdimensional Consciousness.pptxBharat Technology
each chakra is studied in greater detail, several steps have been included to
strengthen your personal intention to open each chakra more fully. These are designed
to draw forth the highest benefit for your spiritual growth.
The Chakra System in our body - A Portal to Interdimensional Consciousness.pptx
Joel Young - BYM 2012 - Stages of my life journey...and maybe yours too!
1.
2. PA Stage 1 – The Ride…
Q. Do we all have the same needs?
Q. What shapes our needs?
3. PA Stage 2 – ‘Right’ing and Fighting
Q. When did you enter this stage?
Q. How do you know?
But:
Q. What direction are you facing?
Q. Where have you come from?
Q. What is driving you?
4. PA Stage 3 – Observing & Accepting
“Observing without evaluating is the highest
form of human intelligence.”
-J. Krishnamurti
Q. What does it mean to observe without evaluating?
Q. How well do you observe without interpreting?
6. STOP! Shaming yourself for having NEEDS!
Q. What is a need that you have
that you don’t let yourself have?
Q. Who told you it wasn’t ok to have
that need?
8. 3 Suggested Strategies
1. Get/Give Empathy
2. Change Thinking (LW -
Beliefs/Thoughts/Actions)
3. Change Actions (Say, Do)
“Our needs are never in
conflict…just our clumsily
chosen strategies.”
9. “When people think
you're dying, they
really, really listen to
you, instead of just..
...instead of just waiting
for their turn to speak?”
– Fight Club
10. Strategy V’s Need
STRATAGY
Request of
others
Request of self
Something I do
Tool
Technique
Thoughts
Actions
NEED
Internal
What fills me
God given /
life shaped
Not to be
denied!
Q. What strategy do
you use to meet the
need you just talked
about?
Need Strategy
Comfort Chocolate, Sex.
Masturbation, Alcohol,
Talking, Time with
friends. Inviting the HS.
Clarity Reflect, Get counselling,
talk to a friend.
Connection Computer games,
hanging out, sports,
good questions in
conversation.
11. CONNECTION
• acceptance
• affection
• belonging
• companionship
• mutuality
• nurturing
• to see and be seen
PHYSICAL
• food
• exercise
• rest/sleep
• sexual expression
• safety
• touch
HONESTY
• authenticity
• integrity
PLAY
• joy
• humour
PEACE
• beauty
• ease
• harmony
AUTONOMY
• choice
• space
MEANING
celebration
clarity
competence
contribution
creativity
growth
hope
learning
mourning
to matter
I have a need for…
Who am I?Ginga Joel, Counsellor, Director, TeacherWhat do I want to give them?Awareness of stages a person may be at.An empathetic/gracious stance.A practical way to use this knowledge.Needs that brought me here….To contribute to life.Celebrate new awareness.Progress.Meaning.Belonging.
Along for the ride. – (car with momentum wheels)For me: this was me from 0-12yrs. Just doing life. In some ways just surviving it. In reaction to situations. Little control over my impulses or feelings in difficult situations – aka when my needs were not being met. How can you get what you need if you don’t even know what you need?! That’s where we tend to start….just being along for the ride…driven by our needs, but not knowing that we are or why.Ignorant BlissQ. Do we all have the same needs?Q. What shapes our needs? (Life experience and interpretations of those.)
Trying to do it right/Fighting it – steering without knowing what’s pushing things along.For me: When I had some good friends and the mental ability to start critiquing life. 12yrs and on…influenced by going to church and hearing how things should be and seeing that in contrast to my life and hugely influenced by David Riddell speaking about how we can change our thoughts and feelings if we learn to think differently.While I found this awesomely helpful, I also found it bit of a trap in that I was still fighting myself and burning a lot of energy trying to get it ‘right’.This life stage is usually about quite concrete thinking. Black and white thinking. It’s right or it’s wrong. And at this stage we are usually more preoccupied with trying to steer the ‘right’ way than looking to see where we are, what direction we are facing, where we have come from, or what is driving the engine!Q. When did you enter this stage?How do you know?BUT! (Arrow?)What direction?Where come from?What is driving you?
Observing – just sitting there. (Observing and Accepting!)Q. What does it mean to observe without evaluating?To do this you have to have found a way to meet your need for acceptance – self acceptance. Understanding unconditional love – in the here and now – in your life, moment by moment is pivotal in being able to do this.For me I have been slipping into this stage over the last 10 years. It started with burning out and falling into a depression and really being aware that I couldn’t just fix/right my situation with willpower. Instead one day I had an epiphany. I realised I have been fighting to fix myself for years. This wasn’t bad…it was a necessary thing to do as I probably would have not survived continuing as I was, but time had come for me to take a break. Move to the next stage and I realised I was ok enough as I was and I stopped struggling and started living in the here and now. I gave myself permission to rest. I have learnt that this is living in grace. It became crystal clear to me the other day when a good friend of mine said. Our most common request of ourselves, whether we are aware of it or not - is to be ok sitting with our own feelings and needs. WineQ. How well do you observe without interpreting.The Indian philosopher J. Krishnamurti once remarked that observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence. When I first read this statement, the thought, "What nonsense!" shot through my mind before I realized that I had just made an evaluation.- Marshall RosenbergGriefGrace
In both helping ourselves and others, starting from a position of 100% acceptance give us space to acknowledge feelings that may otherwise be hidden or forbidden.If we first take time to listen for and reflect true feelings we might bear witness to somebody’s pain for the very first time. This is both very therapeutic and clarifying.Helping a person to express their feeling aside from their evaluation will help you to then discover their unmet need. Only from here should be attempt to re-write their default strategies that may have been failing them.5 Min Talk
Q. What is a need that you have that you don’t let yourself have?If we are shaming our needs we will be suppressing them…then how will we know what they are?That’s where we tend to start….just being along for the ride…driven by our needs, but not knowing that we are or why. EG1 I shouldn’t care what others think of me.“What you think about yourself is most important.”Bible – fear of man, pray it out, read more bible.Need – Deep need for affirmation – how could we meet this? How do you meet this need in your life? What gets in the way? Could God meet it? Do you ask others to contribute to meeting this need? Do you affirm yourself?EG2I shouldn’t over-react to my kid having a tanty.“They can do what they want – you don’t have control.”Firm boundaries is what they need – are you being consistant.Needs – what need in your life isn’t being met when your kid has a tanty? I wonder if it feels….? How else could you meet this need while your kid is having a tanty?UBF’s – Buttons – Bruises – Can be misconstrued in such a way that shames us for needing to care for ourselves in this area.
Living – Observe, Steer, Use the accelerator. (Getting what you need.)I am not sure about this stage. At first I wrote this thinking it was about getting your hands dirty. Looking under the hood. Seeing what’s making things tick. I think that’s partly true…but I think the next part is bit of a dance. I think living is a dance. A dance of all 3. Living in the moment, struggling to make changes at time, but also observing and accepting. I think this combination will help us meet our needs. I don’t know that I am hear yet so the map isn’t clear.What I do know is that it’s not simple, in fact it’s impossible, to live a full life without considering what we need, and how we might fulfil those needs.What stage do you identify with most?What’s the most interesting or useful thing you have got from today?
ONE YEAR of my degree – the first year.People need to FEEL listened to because?-Know you care before they care what you know.-Some pain needs and audience before it can resolve.-Takes the punch out of pain so that the real issue can be addressed.You need to listen – so that you know what’s going on, so you can ask the right question or offer the right advice.How good are you guys are listening? 1-10People suck at it in general. Pastors included.Listening draws people out of their shame.
Q. Why is this important?Q.What strategy do you use for meeting the need you just talked about?
I want you to be completely silent. Go inside and ask yourself – what am I needing at the moment? 3 things.How can you get what you need if you don’t even know what you need?!
I want you to be completely silent. Go inside and ask yourself – what am I feeling at the moment? 3 things.
EG in front of class?
This is an important step but is only internal or with a friend you are getting empathy from – not out loud with the person you are trying to connect with.It’s where you get to vent all your judgements, interpretations, feelings that blame (misjudged/abandoned etc). Get it out! Then when you are ready, move to one of the other steps.
This is about giving a SHORT, FACTUAL, description of what TRIGGERED you to want to connect.“I noticed you went to the movies and didn’t text me.”“I saw the rubbish wasn’t put out this week.”“I notice we have not had a date for about 2 months.”
This step is about taking time to know what I am feeling and say it out loud. Have a good look and see what’s really going on. Watch out for ‘feelings that blame’ or ‘interpretations’. They belong in ‘Jackel’ mode as sharing them will likely trigger defensiveness. If you do feel like Jackeling, then step back into it and go for it . But keep it internal and use it to help you know yourself.AFRAIDapprehensivedreadforebodingfrightenedmistrustfulpanickedpetrifiedscaredsuspiciousterrifiedwaryworriedANNOYEDaggravateddismayeddisgruntleddispleasedexasperatedfrustratedimpatientirritatedirkedANGRYenragedfuriousincensedindignantiratelividoutragedresentfulAVERSIONanimosityappalledcontemptdisgusteddislikehatehorrifiedhostilerepulsedCONFUSEDambivalentbaffledbewildereddazedhesitantlostmystifiedperplexedpuzzledtornDISCONNECTEDalienatedaloofapatheticboredcolddetacheddistantdistractedindifferentnumbremoveduninterestedwithdrawnDISQUIETagitatedalarmeddiscombobulateddisconcerteddisturbedperturbedrattledrestlessshockedstartledsurprisedtroubledturbulentturmoiluncomfortableuneasyunnervedunsettledupsetEMBARRASSEDashamedchagrinedflusteredguiltymortifiedself-consciousFATIGUEbeatburnt outdepletedexhaustedlethargiclistlesssleepytiredwearyworn outPAINagonyanguishedbereaveddevastatedgriefheartbrokenhurtlonelymiserableregretfulremorsefulSADdepresseddejecteddespairdespondentdisappointeddiscourageddisheartenedforlorngloomyheavy heartedhopelessmelancholyunhappywretchedTENSEanxiouscrankydistresseddistraughtedgyfidgetyfrazzledirritablejitterynervousoverwhelmedrestlessstressed outVULNERABLEfragileguardedhelplessinsecureleeryreservedsensitiveshakyYEARNINGenviousjealouslongingnostalgicpiningwistfulFeelings when your needs are satisfiedAFFECTIONATEcompassionatefriendlylovingopen heartedsympathetictenderwarmENGAGEDabsorbedalertcuriousengrossedenchantedentrancedfascinatedinterestedintriguedinvolvedspellboundstimulatedHOPEFULexpectantencouragedoptimisticCONFIDENTempoweredopenproudsafesecureEXCITEDamazedanimatedardentarousedastonisheddazzledeagerenergeticenthusiasticgiddyinvigoratedlivelypassionatesurprisedvibrantGRATEFULappreciativemovedthankfultouchedINSPIREDamazedawedwonderJOYFULamuseddelightedgladhappyjubilantpleasedtickledEXHILARATEDblissfulecstaticelatedenthralledexuberantradiantrapturousthrilledPEACEFULcalmclear headedcomfortablecenteredcontentequanimousfulfilledmellowquietrelaxedrelievedsatisfiedserenestilltranquiltrustingREFRESHEDenlivenedrejuvenatedrenewedrestedrestoredrevived
This is about what you really want. Take time to really sit with your feelings and discover the need. Not the strategy, but the need. This isn’t a demand on anyone, but a need that you have.It will be unique to you because of your life story. It’s not to be ashamed of or to be used as a demand of others. It’s something that fills you up and you can ask others to help meet this need.CONNECTIONacceptanceaffectionappreciationbelongingcooperationcommunicationclosenesscommunitycompanionshipcompassionconsiderationconsistencyempathyinclusionintimacylovemutualitynurturingrespect/self-respectCONNECTION continuedsafetysecuritystabilitysupportto know and be knownto see and be seento understand and be understoodtrustwarmthPHYSICAL WELL-BEINGairfoodmovement/exerciserest/sleepsexual expressionsafetysheltertouchwaterHONESTYauthenticityintegritypresencePLAYjoyhumorPEACEbeautycommunioneaseequalityharmonyinspirationorderAUTONOMYchoicefreedomindependencespacespontaneityMEANINGawarenesscelebration of lifechallengeclaritycompetenceconsciousnesscontributioncreativitydiscoveryefficacyeffectivenessgrowthhopelearningmourningparticipationpurposeself-expressionstimulationto matterunderstanding
This is where you ask. It may be a request of yourself. It may be of another person. It might be just a request to be heard. Keep it simple, doable, and present focussed.“I would really like to know what you just heard me say.”“I would like to go on a date this month – what do you think?”“I would like to hear what you are feeling and needing at the moment.”“I would like you to figure out a way to get rid of the rubbish this week so I need not worry about it.”“I would like you to listen to me for 5 minutes while I get my thoughts out.”These are requests – not demands. If you are not really asking. Don’t ask – go back inside and see why this feels so strong that you cannot make it as a genuine request.CONNECTIONacceptanceaffectionappreciationbelongingcooperationcommunicationclosenesscommunitycompanionshipcompassionconsiderationconsistencyempathyinclusionintimacylovemutualitynurturingrespect/self-respectCONNECTION continuedsafetysecuritystabilitysupportto know and be knownto see and be seento understand and be understoodtrustwarmthPHYSICAL WELL-BEINGairfoodmovement/exerciserest/sleepsexual expressionsafetysheltertouchwaterHONESTYauthenticityintegritypresencePLAYjoyhumorPEACEbeautycommunioneaseequalityharmonyinspirationorderAUTONOMYchoicefreedomindependencespacespontaneityMEANINGawarenesscelebration of lifechallengeclaritycompetenceconsciousnesscontributioncreativitydiscoveryefficacyeffectivenessgrowthhopelearningmourningparticipationpurposeself-expressionstimulationto matterunderstanding