This document discusses the core emotional need for connection and acceptance in children. It defines this need as a child feeling completely attached to and loved unconditionally by their parents. It emphasizes that children need consistent messages from their parents that they are special, their parents enjoy spending time with and playing with them, their parents care about their thoughts and feelings, and that their parents will guide, forgive and be proud of them. Meeting these core emotional needs through loving parental connection is important for a child's healthy development.

1. Class #3 Greg and Theresa Jackson
CONNECTION AND ACCEPTANCE

2. “Good Enough Parenting” Model

5. D E F I N I T I O N O F A “ C O R E
E M O T I O N A L N E E D ”

6. T H E C O R E
E M O T I O N A L
N E E D F O R
C O N N E C T I O N
A N D
A C C E P TA N C E

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9. PA R E N T I N G B Y C O N N E C T I O N

10. D E F I N I T I O N
The Core Emotional Need for Connection and
Acceptance can be defined as the state a child
lives in when he feels completely attached to his
parent in a healthy way, that he belongs, and
that he is accepted and loved unconditionally.

11. AT M O S P H E R E
In order for the Core Emotional Need for
Connection & Acceptance to be met, children
need to consistently and at an emotional level
hear and believe the following messages from
and/or about their parents:

12. T H E Y T H I N K I
A M S P E C I A L .

13. They are truthful and honest with me.
They talk to me in a respectful way.

14. T H E Y A R E
P L AY F U L A N D
S P E N D T I M E
W I T H M E .

15. •T H E Y B E L I E V E A N D G U I D E M E .
•T H E Y A R E P R O U D O F M E E V E N
W I T H M Y F L AW S .
•T H E Y M I S S M E W H E N I A M N O T
A R O U N D

16. •T H E Y C A R E A B O U T D E E P
F E E L I N G S , B O T H M I N E A N D
T H E I R S .

17. P L AY W I T H M E !
•Play, laughter and rough housing keep you
connected with your child by stimulating
endorphins and oxytocin in both of you.
•Making play a daily habit helps your child
work thru daily anxiety.

18. •Play needs to be fun! It does not
have to have some educational
theme. Play is a great of learning in
and of itself for them.

23. “ T H E Y M I S S M E W H E N I A M
N O T A R O U N D ” !
•Connecting before and after transitioning
from one thing to another will be important.
•Verbally let your child know you are glad
they did this or that but that you missed them.

24. M Y PA R E N T S L I K E T O K N O W
W H AT I A M T H I N K I N G .
•Connecting starts with listening. Take the time to
listen and empathize with feeling and emotions.
•Children also feel connected when they know
how you feel and will imitate how to express
themselves by how they see you express yourself.

26. M Y PA R E N T S L O V E M E A N D
T H I N K I A M P R E T T Y S P E C I A L .
•Kids who are strongly connected to their
parents believe that even when they have done
something wrong- mom and dad still love them
and will forgive them.
• Home and parents need to be a safe base.

27. M Y PA R E N T S L O V E M E A N D
T H I N K I A M P R E T T Y S P E C I A L .
•They truly believe that they can tell you the
“truth” and not hide because you love
unconditionally.
•They know you value honesty and truth.

28. M Y PA R E N T S A R E T R U T H F U L
A N D H O N E S T W I T H M E .
•Don’t compromise on the truth and honesty
when talking about the tough stuff.
•Children need rules and boundaries or
children feel lost. Don’t think they just get it the
first time. They need to know what you desire.

29. M Y PA R E N T S A R E T R U T H F U L
A N D H O N E S T W I T H M E .
•And they need to hear it many times.
•Your child wants to know and needs to know
what you think about the big things in life.

30. M Y PA R E N T S TA L K T O M E I N
A R E S P E C T F U L WAY.
•Warmth and being reasonable will go a long
way.
•Coldness, indifference, unfriendly and
harshness will speak volumes to your child.
They will learn and imitate respect.

31. M Y PA R E N T S TA L K T O M E I N
A R E S P E C T F U L WAY.
•Remain warm, engaged and connected while setting
limits your children need.
•Know how to encourage your child. Not meaning
babying and spoiling. But not being harsh so that you
loose communication and destroy their self-worth.

32. M Y PA R E N T S B E L I E V E I N M E
A N D G U I D E M E .
•Be the greatest coach your kid ever had!
•Don’t leave them to figure out things on their
own. Invest yourself by taking the time to
guide and train your child.

33. M Y PA R E N T S B E L I E V E I N M E
A N D G U I D E M E .
•Set them up for success in by training them
how to be thoughtful, respectful, responsible,
honest in character. That will give them
valuable tools in life.

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35. Class #3 Greg and Theresa Jackson
CONNECTION AND ACCEPTANCE