Now the Parenting program has been changing rapidly and so also the family set up; children of present generation are first day care generation from different aspects- this is the cause of setting up parents anew as today the children are world-wise

1. Organized by
Dr Rupa Talukdar
www.mind-eye.in
A discussion on
Parents and family

2. Temperament of your child
What is TEMPERAMENT?
General emotional state of a child. It
permanently affects their behaviour.
Child of different temperaments:
 The Easy Child
 The Difficult Child
 The Slow to Warm up child

3. The Easy Child
Just recognize the easy
child:
 Cheerful
 Adaptable
 Can fit easily in routine
structure
 Quickly establish relation
with other children
 Has sharing approach
 Easily accommodate in
new environment

4. The Difficult Child
• Irregular daily routine-not willing to follow instructions
• Slow to accept new experience
• Always reacts negatively
• Intense emotion-forceful
• Not friendly with others
• Irritation without any serious cause
• Intolerance towards any change-of person around
him/situation/environment

5. Slow to Warm up Child
•Initially shy-slowly becomes friendly
•Low key reactions to environment
•Negative in mood
•Can adjust slowly to new experiences
•Bit fearful, but can overcome at time

6. An IDEA of your
pattern of PARENTING
How is your Parenting Style?
4-Types of parenting are there.
Know the type
of yours-it’s important

7. Dominating/
Authoritarian
Parenting
Rigid
Not listener
Strict
Demanding
Likes to rule than
becoming
empathetic
The guardian
Prefers punishment
instead of giving
scope to explainNot
responsive to the
reasons of child’s
difficulties

8. Permissive
Parenting
Too much friendly
Permissive
Giving indulgence
Nontraditional and Lenient
Less discipline
Avoidance
More responsive to the demand of child
Allow considerable self-regulation
Avoid confrontation

9. Positive/
Authoritative
Parenting
Assertiv
e
Flexible but
not
permissive
Empathetic
DemocraticListener
Observer
Nurturer &
forgiving
rather giving
punishment

10. Neglected/
Uninvolved
Parenting
Care free
Neglect their child
Detached
Less communicative
Low responsiveness
Even reject or neglect the
needs of their children.

11. Part-I
Child behaviour denotes your
Parentimng style
My child and My family
Under Dominating Parenting: Children may become
obedient and proficient, but they rank lower in
happiness, social competence and self-esteem
Under Permissive Parenting: Children rank low in
happiness and self-regulation. These children are more
likely to experience problems with authority and tend to
perform poorly in school.
Under Authoritative Parenting: Children are happy,
capable and successful
Under Neglected /uninvolved Parenting: Children tend to
lack self-control, have low self-esteem and are less competent
than their peers.

12. Today's children are the first day-care
generation -they are more world wise
The first generation defined by
computers and television
The first post-sexual revolution
generation( same sex intimacy)
The first generation to grow up in
an integrated schools
The first generation in which both
parents usually are employed.

13. How to be a parent anew:
towards a strong family concept
When family life is a
mutual growth
experience for both
parents and children,
the results are strong
families that contribute
not only to the
development of their
members but to the
development of their
communities and
society as well.
In strong families
parents encourage
each other's growth
both as individuals and
as partners of a family
set up. Parents are not
totally trapped in their
children's lives. As a
result their children
have self-esteem, a
sense of autonomy,
and well-developed
self-concepts.

14. Setting a Family Priority
Parental authority involves setting family
priorities for mothering, fathering,
homemaking, and careers; for managing
stress; and for arranging family routines.
Investigate all of the options available at
your workplace -- nearby day care, shared
job options, flexible-time arrangements, and
sick leave for when your child is ill.
Learn to compartmentalize. When you work,
be there. When you are at home, be there.
Find others to share your stress -- peer or
family resource groups: Include your
spouse in the work of the family.
Face the realities of working and
childrearing: no "supermom" or "superbaby"
fantasies.

15. Learn to save up energy in the workplace to be
ready for homecoming.
Plan for children to fall apart when you arrive
home after work.
Gather the entire family when you walk in. Sit in
a big chair until everyone is close again. When
the children squirm to get down, you can turn to
chores and housework.
Take children along as you do chores and teach
them to help with the housework.
Do not let yourself be overwhelmed by stress.
Instead, enjoy the pleasures of solving problems
together and working as a team.
Setting a Family Priority

16. In busy family set up
When it is difficult to
be together because
of busy and
conflicting schedules,
write notes to each
other. Care and
support for another
family member can be
expressed in notes in
lunch bags, school
notebooks, or on the
refrigerator.
Make mealtimes an
important family time
with no television at
least twice a week.
Meals are a good time
for family devotions,
conversations, and
laughter

17. In busy family set up
Hold regular family
meetings in which
all members are
encouraged to
discuss concerns,
to make plans, and
to solve problems.
Take vacations and
short trips that the
family can
experience
together and share
memories about.
Do family projects
together on
weekends, such as
decorating a room
or planting a
garden.
Schedule husband-
wife times away
from the children
periodically.
Find time to be
alone with each
child.

18. Motherhood and Fatherhood: a time to
change the age old concept
The stereotypes of
the father as the
breadwinner for a
family and the mother
as a homemaker are
no longer dominant.
Fatherhood and
motherhood refer to
relationships between
parents and children,
not who pays the
bills. From the
emotional and
material points of
view motherhood and
fatherhood are
virtually
interchangeable. Both
relationships are
nurturing and
supportive
From a child's point
of view the need to
have a mother and a
father is very strong
that children make up
their own images of a
mother or a father if
they do not have one
in their lives : so
basis of differences
are something like
emotional attachment
or bonding.

19. Vital issues in
family life revolve
around “I”
Intimacy: in the family
develops emotional bonds that
integrate ambivalent love-hate
emotions and that balance
personal needs for interaction
and privacy.
Identification: is the
process in which parents,
children, and siblings reciprocally
absorb each other's qualities and
share experiences
Influence : each other
through the exercise of power in
their relationships and their moral
values. That influence is the most
constructive when leader-follower
roles alternate appropriately
between family members and
when moral values are modeled
by the parents.

20. Vital issues in
family life
revolve around
“I”
Irrationality: is tolerated in
families when the expression of
irrational fantasies, emotions, and
behavior is identified and then is
channeled into realistic outlets.
Industry: in families is developing
the coping abilities of family members
through planning, resolving conflicts,
the allocation of responsibilities in the
family, acquiring resources, and
adapting to change.

21. Mind That :
A baby and parent interact at different times as
•A nursing couple
• A talking couple
•A learning couple &
•A playing couple
Interacting with the young can
refreshingly help to keep adults young
in spirit.

22. Part-II
How to come out:
My child and My Parenting from the
SLANT of Handwriting

23. Part-II
How to come out:
My child and My Parenting from
the SLANT of Handwriting

24. Samples of Original Writings of
Children

25. Part-II
My child and My Parenting from
the Handwriting
Child is in
Anxiety-The
source of all
difficulties
No Curves-rigid and
retraced writing

26. How is the pattern of the strokes
of A to Z in HW

27. Part-III
How to understand child is in
Emotional Crisis from HW

28. Part-III
How to write- and what will be the
direction of flow of HW

29. Part-III
How to write- and what will be the
direction of flow of HW

30. Part-III
How to write- and what will be the
direction of flow of HW

31. Thank YOU for giving your
Patient EAR
Thanks from,