7. Activity – Conflict starters
In groups – write a response to these statements
or questions that would move the
communication in a NEGATIVE direction:
1. Did you remember to make reservations?
2. Did you throw the towel on the floor again?
3. Just leave me alone.
4. You always spend to much money on things
we don’t need.
8. Skills for expressing – step 1
INTRAPERSONAL
What am I feeling and what made me
feel this way?
What exactly do I want to
communicate?
What communication choices will be
the most effective
9. Skills for expressing – step 2
INTERPERSONAL
Be very specific
Describe the reason for your feelings
Address mixed feelings
Anchor your feelings in the present
Own your feelings
Ask for what you want or need
In your groups re-write the answers to
your conflict starters using these steps
11. Stop to consider...
Communicating anger Angry communication
Stay calm and logical
Examine choices
Consider a delay
Remember the principle of irreversibility