3. • Ability to
practice these
skills at work
Topics OUTCOMES
• Mutual Support & Learning
• Fun
• Micro Learning
FRAMING
Opener/Icebreaker
Owner’s Manual
Giving/Receiving Feedback
Creating Workplace Norms
Avoiding Collaborative
Overload
Closing
http://bethkanter.wikispaces.com/cchi-2
Agenda
4. Social Styles
Analytical
Need to Be
Right
Thinking
Withdraws
Driving
Results
Action
Takes Charge
Amiable
Personal
Security
Relationships
Goes Along
Expressive
Approval
Spontaneity
Confronts
Asks Tells
Controls
Emotes
7. • What is your social style?
• When do you like people to
approach you and how?
• What do you value?
• How do you like people to
communicate with you?
• How do you make decisions?
• How can people help you?
• What will you not tolerate in
others?
9. Think and Read: Owner’s Manuals
Jot down your ideas on sticky
notes, one idea per sticky note
• What are some common
themes?
• What are some potential
points of tension?
• What do you need to keep in
mind to be productive and
happy working together?
10. Giving and Receiving Feedback
Our co-workers will sometimes
offer hard-to-hear truths
about our behavior or
performance.
And that can trigger a flood of
fear and negative emotion
that blots out the positive
opportunities that the
feedback offers.
11. Reframe: Feedback is a chance to ….
• Gather perspective
other than your own on
how you are doing
• Course-correct before it
is too late
• Create a plan to
succeed
12. How do you handle feedback?
• Feedback is a personal attack
• Reject, react with anger or blame
• Don’t hold yourself accountable
Bristler
• Feedback destroys you
• Crumble, cry, apologize
• Feel ashamed of mistake, self-blame
Wallower
• Feedback is a sign that you were misunderstood
• Shut down, don’t engage, avoid
• Dismiss outside perspectives, isolate
Stonewaller
13. Role Play: Accepting Feedback
• Acknowledge: Thank you so much for your
feedback. That is an important point.
• Can you say more about that?
• Clarifying questions
• Show people their opinions matter and foster
closeness by hearing them out
15. Example: Internal
Person A is the team leader and Person B is the team member.
Person B is responsible for doing research interviews, summarizing
the findings, and providing it to Person A before an agreed upon
deadline. Person B waited until the last minute to complete the
task, did a sloppy job, and missed the deadline. Person A needs to
provide some negative feedback to Person B so the performance
can be improved in the future.
16. Example: Internal
1: Start with One of these Openers
Explain why you are giving feedback
“I’m giving you this feedback on the report project because I have very high
expectations and I know that you can reach them. “
Take yourself off the pedestal
“I’ve benefited a lot from people giving me feedback, and I’m trying to pay that
forward.”
“I’ve been studying great managers, and I’ve noticed that they spend a lot of time
giving feedback. I’m working on doing more of that.”
“Now that we’ve been working together for a while, I think it would be great if we
gave each other suggestions for how we can be more effective.”
Ask if they want feedback
“I noticed a couple things and wondered if you’re interested in some feedback.”
2: Give Feedback
Focus on the situation
Share specific examples of the what needs to be improved
Provide steps or tips on how to improve or suggest a personal goal
Coach to help them follow through
18. Role Play Exercise: Giving Feedback
• Explain why you are giving
feedback
• Take yourself off the pedestal
• Ask if they want feedback
• Person A: Give Feedback
• Person B: Receive
Feedback
• Debrief
• Switch Roles/Partners
• Person A: Receive
Feedback
Person B: Give Feedback
• Debrief
20. Rules of meeting
engagement or “meeting
norms” are stated
standards that refer to
processes, preparation
and communication
practices which can
apply to any meeting.
21. Examples of Norms For All Types of Meetings
PROCESS PREPARATION COMMUNICATION
Respect everyone’s time by starting
and ending on time.
Only one conversation at one time.
Refrain from side-talk.
Capture off topic items in a ‘parking
lot’ and agree to discuss them later at
a more appropriate time.
Be present with the people you are
meeting with.
Use of technology.
Take bio breaks as needed.
Everyone is responsible for helping to
stay on topic.
Speak up if you feel like we’re getting
off track.
Challenge past assumptions and
sacred cows.
Address conflict head on.
Look ahead to positive action.
Aim for GETGO – good enough to go,
not perfection.
Everyone is responsible for upholding
the norms. Acknowledge if you notice
we are not doing so.
Be prepared and come ready to
engage. Read the agenda and do
any pre-work ahead of time.
Come empowered to make
commitments for your area or
function.
Put aside other topics and work so
you are ready to focus on the
discussion at hand.
Meeting material and agenda
should be sent 24 hours before a
meeting.
Ask questions for clarification to help
avoid making assumptions.
Make sure everyone’s voice is heard.
Balance your participation – speak
and listen. Compute your airtime
Listen actively to teammates without
interrupting others.
Clarify when you are advocating vs
offering an idea.
Say it now, in the room. Avoid
waiting till later to raise an issue.
All voices count.
All opinions are valid, but offer
reasoning behind your thinking.
http://blog.meeteor.com/blog/meeting-norms/
22. Examples of Norms Specific For Types of Conversations
BRAINSTORMING CHECK-INS/STAFF MEETING DECISION-MAKING
All ideas are good ideas.
Build on the ideas of others. Use
“Yes, and…”; avoid “No, but…”
Defer judgment of ideas during
brainstorming.
Keep resource constraints in mind.
Be concise and to the point.
Be open to feedback.
Share only new information, not
a repeat of old information.
Be sure your information is
accurate.
Acknowledge when you don’t
have an answer but will provide
it after the meeting.
Share celebrations and
challenges alike.
We will use [consensus, consultative,
majority rule, voting] as our decision
making process.
Each person is responsible for
ensuring they understand the options
and arguments before making the
decision.
Be willing to support a team
consensus even if you initially do not
agree with it.
Do not push you ideas on the team
after a decision has been made.
Acknowledge when you are playing
“devil’s advocate” to help test a
decision or idea.
Separate your own personal feelings
from what’s best for the team /
organization.
23. Rose Bud Thorn
What makes our
meetings effective and
productive?
What is it about our
meetings that makes me
feel we accomplished
something?
What are some practices
we are not doing at
meetings that could
make them more
effective?
What makes our
meetings frustrating or
gets in the way or being
productive?
What is it about our
meetings that makes me
feel like I’ve wasted my
time?
Meeting Reflection: Rose, Bud, Thorn
24. Meeting Reflection: Wrap Up
• Based on our discussion, each person should
write down their top three meeting norms, one
per sticky note.
• Cluster
• Sticky dot vote
• Reflection
26. Is this familiar?
• Long work week
• Come home to realize
you didn’t get stuff
done
• You start doing solo
work in evenings and
weekends
• You don’t do it because
you are too exhausted
Sarah Cooper
27. ● 15% of organization
time is spent in
meetings
● Four hours a week for
status update meetings
● 11 million meetings a
day
● More than $37 billion
year in unproductive
meetings
Source:
NY Times, “Meeting is Murder”
2/28/16
Fuze Infographic on Meetings
29. Tips to Improve Planning
● Use Look-Ahead Rituals and Make Them Visible
30. Tips to Improve Planning
● Clearly Define Workflow for Online Collaboration
Platforms and Training
● Adopt Formal Practices Around Team Emails
31. Tips to Improve People
● Set a Statute of Limitations on People Frustrations
● Say NO, But Enforce Boundaries With Grace
32. Tips to Improve People
● Write emails that are precise
● Create a remote working charter for your team
Subjects w/Keywords
[ACTION] [SIGN]
[DECISION] [CORD]
[INFO]
Bottom Line Up Front (BLUF)
Fewer Words
Link to Attachments
33. Tips to Improve Priorities
● Do A Trend-Line View Reflection with Your Team
● Rethink Status Updates Meetings
34. Tips to Improve Priorities
● Don’t schedule hour meetings by default
35. Tips to Improve Being Present
● Team wide analysis of most productive times during day
● Have explicit team or organization policy about white space or
maker time or quiet time
36. Tips to Improve Present
● Device free zones in your workplace
● Meeting policy about use of devices to avoid “technoference”
41. Collaborative Overload: Wrap Up
• Based on our discussion, each person should
write down a Quarterly Reflection/Focus
Question related to an area to improve.
• Cluster
• Sticky dot vote
• What are some ways that you can reflect on this
over the next quarter?
42. Closing Circle: Reflection
• What insight did you gain?
• What will you commit to practicing in the coming months?