2. Virginia Satir
An American author and therapist
"Mother of Family Therapy"
Fritz Perls
German-born psychiatrist and therapist
'Gestalt therapy'
Milton Erickson
An American psychiatrist and psychologist
Founding president –
American Society for Clinical Hypnosis
John Grinder,
An American linguist, author, trainer and speaker.
Richard Bandler
An American author and trainer
in the field of self-help
3. NLP
– Neuro
The nerve communication network in the human body
– Linguistic
The language you use to speak to yourself or others
– Programming
The operating instructions that create an outcome
– Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a methodology to understand and help
change human behaviour patterns. These patterns are otherwise known as
programmes
4. Benefits Of NLP
You can
– • Acquire skills and attitudes, by accessing your inner resources, which enable
you to run your life more successfully
– • Use your mind, your emotions and body more effectively by promoting
harmony in the way the conscious and unconscious minds work together.
– • Break free of old patterns of behavior and generate unlimited potential.
– • Change your thoughts, moods and behaviors.
– • Communicate more effectively.
– • Achieve good health by breaking free of any destructive thought patterns that
spoil the quality of your life.
7. The behaviour equation T+F+A=R
To help someone achieve great results, find out:
• What they are doing - what actions they are taking.
• How are they feeling about doing this.
• What they are thinking and saying to themselves.
– Identify what part (if any!) needs changing. Is it thinking, feeling or doing
something differently
– Changing any ONE of these parts of the equation will always change the results!
15. Beliefs and Values
– Beliefs are concepts that we hold to be true.
– Values are ideas that we hold to be important.
– Values govern the way we behave, communicate and interact with others
– Beliefs and values determine our attitudes and opinions.
16. The
presuppositions
of NLP
– Knowing what you want helps you get it.
– The resources we need are with us.
– Communication is non-verbal as well as
verbal.
– The non-conscious mind is benevolent.
– Communication is non-conscious as well
as conscious.
– The meaning of your communication is
the response you get
– Modelling excellent behavior leads to
excellence.
18. Sub modalities -
Managing Super annoying people
Shrink Even the Most Annoying Person Down to Size
It’s possible by changing – not the other person –
but your inner representation of the other person.
24. NLP Techniques -Reframing
Context Reframing
– * My partner is too
stubborn.
– Reframe: I bet he has the
tenacity to stand by you in
tough times.
Content Reframing
– * My husband is too lazy.
– Reframe: That means that he
is pretty laid back and easy
going.
– * My husband is ruthless
and hardheaded.
– Reframe: That means that he
has ambition and drive.
Repeat the same sentence in different grammar, thereby turning a negative into a positive
25. NLP Techniques
Mirroring
– * Observe and match body posture
– * Study nonverbal behavior
– * Crossed legs, tilted head, frowning, hands on desk
– * Maintain eye contact
– * Don’t Ape, Adjust politely
26. NLP – The logical levels of change
Identify and correct the elements
This methodology developed from studying and understanding
the connection of how the nerve communication network in our body (NEURO), is connected and reflected in the language we use (LINGUISTIC) and how this affects the way we behave (PROGRAMMING)
When we understand the process of HOW we do something we can REPEAT that process to achieve the
same result or CHANGE the process (or even just a part of the process) to achieve a different result
Repeating the process of how someone does something is known as modeling.
Changing the process of how someone does something is known as creating behaviour change.
We do everything in life twice. Once in our ‘inside world’ (our imagination), and again in the ‘outside world’,
the place where we take action to get results.
For example, think about how you got dressed today.
There was a specific process you went through (even if it was just to put on the same clothes you took off
yesterday!!) before you took action to get dressed. You had to think about what you would be doing today.
People get dressed in all sorts of different ways. For some this is so automatic they don’t consciously know
they do this, for others, choosing what to wear can be a challenge that takes time!!
How someone gets dressed is specific to them. This example is not just about dressing, it is demonstrating that
people go through a mental process to achieve a result or outcome.
This process starts with a thought, which creates a feeling that propels the action to achieve results.
A result in an outcome. Whether the outcome is what you expect or not, it is still a result.
The actions people take in the ‘outside’ world are a result of the thoughts and feelings that they
have in their ‘inside’ world.
This is where NLP Submodalities come into play. Submodalities are part of basic NLP practitioner training. These little known thought drivers are the keys to unlock your mind.
Submodalites are the qualities or properties of what you see, hear and feel on the inside. In the example below, the main player is mental imagery. Usually, when we’re annoyed on the inside (and there is no other way to be annoyed) we’re making internal pictures or sounds that are out of proportion with the outside world.
And we play them over and over in our heads. It’s important to become aware of how we’re doing this before we can make a change and feel better.
4 chair challenge
Brain is a product of 650 million years of evolution.
Based on the idea that our brain evolved in three stages so that we essentially have not one but three brains inside our head: the reptilian brain, the paleomammalian complex (the limbic brain), and the neomammalian complex (the neocortex)
“I can’t do that here” – Emphasis on the identity level: Who could do the job? What could I do?
“I can’t do that here” – Emphasis on the beliefs and values level: What keeps me away from doing the task? Who told me that I am not made for to do that?
“I can’t do that here” – Emphasis on the capability level: Do I need additional skills, techniques or methods to proceed?
“I can’t do that here” – Emphasis on the behavior level: What kind of actions can I do? Does the task have a positive intention? Is it in accordance with my personal development?
“I can’t do that here” – Emphasis on the environment level: Where, when, with whom could I take action? What is my ideal working environment? What time of the day will be best?
1. Environment: Where do I need to change?
This level refers to the physical and emotional environment around us such as the community, our living arrangements, the people around us, the tools and resources available to us, the culture of which we are part. To access this level, ask yourself: How does my environment affect my goal? What are my external opportunities or constraints? What kind of people do I like to have around me? Where do I gain support from? Where are my resources? How does my working environment make me feel?
2. Behavior: What do I need to change?
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The second level refers to the action and behavior of a person. How does a person act or react in a given situation? What are the physical signs in terms of body language and voice? What are the habits? What is the current lifestyle? Are they any patterns?
3. Capability: How do I make these changes?
This level is about the abilities, skills, talents, knowledge, and competencies that we have and which lead to a series of action and behaviors. What are the skills and abilities that we currently possess that will help us get the changes we want? Which skills we need, but have not yet learned in order to make the needed changes?
4. Beliefs and values: Why do I make these changes?
Beliefs and values drive behaviors. They provide the primary motivating force behind our actions and capabilities and have, therefore, a massive impact on our outcomes. They define who we are and direct our lives. Yet often we are not even aware of them. Useful questions to access this logical level are: What is important to me? What do I believe and value? Why do I believe and value that? What do I believe to be right and wrong? What beliefs might help me you get better results?
5. Identity: Who am I and do I reflect that in the way I live?
Identity is our sense of self, our core beliefs and values. This level can be summed up by the questions: Who am I? How do I think about myself? What I stand for? What is my vision of life? How is what I am experiencing an expression of who I am? How would others describe me?
6. Spirituality or connectedness: Whom do I serve and for what purpose?
The highest logical level deals with the big picture of life, when we begin to question our own purpose, ethics, mission, or meaning in life. Asking the following questions helps us to get a glimpse of your purpose in life: What is my meaning in life? For what reason am I here? How would I like to be remembered when I am gone? What greater good do I believe in?