This document discusses the concept of the "3rd alternative" which refers to finding a solution that is better than the typical options of "my way" or "your way". It involves the process of synergy where the whole solution is greater than the sum of its parts. Examples are given of how synergy can be found in teams, relationships, and bringing together divergent ideas. A 4-step process is outlined for arriving at synergy which includes defining the problem, understanding all perspectives, brainstorming ideas, and finding the best solution. The importance of complementarity, prototyping ideas, and considering countertypes is discussed for developing 3rd alternatives.