Victorious Kidss Educares organized parental workshop on 27th November 2015. This presentation includes how to improve students’ knowledge and how to build self esteem in children. To know more visit our website @ http://www.victoriouskidsseducares.org/ or Contact us : +91 9595853322

1. Building Self-Esteem in Children
Parental Workshop
27th November 2015

2. What we want is Western Science coupled with Vedanta,
Brahmacharya as the guiding motto, also Shraddha and
faith in one's own Self.

3. The Teaching Of Innocence
SEVEN PRINCIPLES
1. Everything is possible
2. If you want to get something, give it.
3. When you make a choice, you change the future.
4. Don’t say no, go with the flow.
5. Every time you wish or want, you plant a seed.
6. Enjoy the journey.
7. You are here for a reason.

4. Learning and Knowledge
• Learning what to Learn V/s Learning How to learn
• Knowledge - Theoretical - Information based -
Understanding
• Knowledge - Exponential - Experiential - Elevates the
mind to higher level. One never forgets - like eating a
Vanilla Ice cream or Alphanso mango or chocolate
• Comparison between the two concepts of knowledge.
• We may study about the different classification and types
of Mango Trees, but we would not experience how would
it tastes unless we eat it.
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5. What is Self-Esteem?
• How a child feels about
him/herself
• How s/he feels accepted
by others
– Feeling loveable
– Feeling capable

6. The tale of Thomas Mead

7. The tale of Thomas Mead

8. The tale of Thomas Mead

9. Why is it important ?
It is important because……..
1. It helps children to feel good
about themselves
2. It builds their self confidence
3. It helps them better
understand their own
problems
4. It will cause them to have
better social skills
5. More self respect
6. More respect for others
7. Have better control over
emotions

10. Every child has,
at birth,
a greater potential
intelligence than
Leonardo Da Vinci,
Isaac Newton,
or Einstein
ever used.
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Glenn Doman
Author of Teach To Multiply Your Baby’s Intelligence

11. Vedantic Philosophy at VKE
- Swami Vivekananda
Learning How To Learn?
Education is the
manifestation of the
perfection already in man.
No knowledge comes from
outside

12. That system which aims at
educating our boys in the
same manner as that of
the man who battered his
ass, being advised that it
could thereby be turned
into horse, should be
abolished.

13. Owing to undue domination
exercised by the parents,
our boys do not get free
scope of growth.
- Swami Vivekananda

14. You cannot teach a child any
more than you can grow a
plant. The plant develops its
own nature. The child also
teaches itself. But you can
help it to go forward in its
own way
- Swami Vivekananda

15. The 5 Areas of Self Esteem
• Spiritual : How you feel about your religious beliefs or your
place in the “BIG Picture”.
• Intellectual : How you feel about your ability to think and
solve problems.
• Emotional : How you feel about your feelings and how you
express them.
• Social : How you feel about your ability to get along with
others.
• Physical : How you feel about your body and health.

16. Healthy vs Unhealthy Self-Esteem
Healthy
• Enjoys interacting with others
• Is comfortable in social
settings
• Is comfortable doing things
on his/her own
• Faces challenges
• Doesn’t belittle him/herself
• Is optimistic
• Is aware of own strengths and
weaknesses
Unhealthy
• Is afraid to try new things
• Speaks negatively about
him/herself
• Has a low frustration tolerance
• Gives up easily
• Is easily disappointed in
him/herself
• Is pessimistic
• Views setbacks as permanent
and devastating
A child whose self-esteem is…

17. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
1. Love Your Children for
Who They Are
• Encourage small
achievements rather than
point out their mistakes or
failures
• Enhance the qualities they
have; don’t blame them for
lacking others
• Reward effort and completion
rather than outcomes

18. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
2. Encourage Your Child’s Talents
• Encourage your child to try in
order to build his/her confidence
• Set realistic expectations
• Avoid comparisons with others
• Recognize his/her improvement
However, don’t expect your child to excel in
sports, academics, music, just because you did.

19. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
3. Give Your Children Importance
• Respect their likes and dislikes
• Ask for their opinion
• Encourage your child to be part
of decision-making, particularly
as it concerns him/her
• Show interest in their activities

20. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
4. Give Responsibility
• Assign chores that your child can accomplish daily
• Completing chores gives a sense of self-worth and
confidence in his/her abilities
• Allows child to make an important contribution to
the family

21. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
5. Set Rules and Consequences
• Having rules helps a child feel
secure
• Helps a child know what is
expected of him/her
• Helping your child set self-limits
builds self-esteem and self-
understanding
• Be firm (not harsh) and consistent

22. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
6. Establish Routines
• Children feel more secure when they
have set routines which are
predictable
• Routines help children understand
what is expected of them and how to
reach those expectations

23. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
7. Monitor Your Child’s
Friendships
• By 6 years old, peer influence becomes
increasingly important
• Help your child recognise peers who
build-up self-worth rather than tear it
down
• Help your child develop his/her own
value system and recognise peers who
share those values

24. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
8. Allow Children to Express Their
Feelings
• Teach/prompt your child to express their
feelings through words
• Listen to your child with a closed mouth
• Be available to them and validate their
feelings by restating what they’ve said
• Be aware that listening/validating their
feelings can be enough of a response

25. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
9. Be A Positive Mirror
• How your child perceives him/herself
largely depends upon how you perceive
him/her
• Value them for who they are and not just
how they perform
• Tell children what they can do instead of
what not to do
Be a good role model for self-esteem: avoid putting yourself
down, or beating yourself up if you make a mistake; send a
message that it’s okay not to be perfect

26. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
10. Play with Your Child
• Play time gives the message “you
are worth my time” and “you are
valuable”
• Child-initiated play increases self-
worth (“Mom likes to play the things
I do”) and holds his/her attention
longer
• Give him/her your undivided
attention

27. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
11.Monitor your parenting style
Don’t fall into the trap of the permissive parent
• Help your child understand that s/he can’t
always get his/her way
• Encourage social competence through give &
take, together and separate time (especially
important for parents of an only child)
• Avoid exclusive child- centred decision-making
• Show respect for the authority figures in your
child’s world.

28. Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence
12. Be Spontaneous and Affectionate
• Give hugs and praise frequently
• Surprise them for no reason in particular
• Be playful and genuine

29. Competency
Helping children develop self-esteem is a matter of
helping them gather evidence that they are
competent, capable, successful right now and being
loved by others. Tell them the most important friend
is God, loves you, through your Mother, Father,
Brother, Sister & Friends.
When children are allowed to do things for
themselves, they feel proud and competent.

30. How would you handle the following situations:
• Sham says, “I can’t do math. I’m stupid!”
• Seema tells you that someone in her class said her butterfly
project was ugly.
• John tells you he doesn’t have any friends because all the
boys in his class play soccer and he doesn’t know how.

31. Ways to Build Self-Esteem
• Love your children for who they are
• Be grateful to God and keep telling
yourself that your children are
God’s gift to you
• See, encourage, and not seek your child’s talents
• Give your children importance
• Give responsibility
• Set rules and consequences
• Establish Spirituality & practice to set routines
• Guide & monitor your child’s friends
• Allow children to express their feelings
• Be a positive mirror
• Play with your child
• Be spontaneous and affectionate

32. If you do not allow one to
become a lion, one will
become a fox.
-Swami Vivekananda

33. If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again
If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd build self-esteem first,
and the house later.
I'd finger-paint more,
and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting
and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch
and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less
and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious,
and seriously play.
I would run through more fields
and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging
and less tugging.
I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more
often.
I would be firm less often,
and affirm much more.
I'd model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of Love.
~ by Diane Loomans

34. IB Learner Profile Coupled with Vedanta

38. The Steps of a Child
• If a child lives with …
– … Criticism, He learns to condemn.
– … hostility, He learns to fight.
– … ridicule, He learns to be shy.
– … shame, He learns to feel guilty.
– … tolerance, He learns to be patient.
– … encouragement, He learns confidence.
– … praise, He learns to appreciate.
– … fairness, He learns justice.
– … approval, He learns to like himself.
– … acceptance and friendship, He learns to
find love in the world.
- Dorothy Law Nolte

39. This 21 Century Belongs To India
• Did you know that India was the wealthiest country in this
Globe?
• Subsequently India went down and down - Why”?
• India is rising once again. The Economy of India is the tenth-
largest in the world by nominal GDP and the third-largest by
purchasing power parity (PPP).

41. God Talks with Arjuna
THE BHAGAVAD GITA
Sri Sri Paramhansa Yogananda
• At the time India was
conquered by Western
colonial powers, according
to historian Dr. J.T.
Sunderland, she was the
wealthiest nation on the
globe.

42. “Let us remember”, wrote the eminent historian and
philosopher Will Durant (in The Case for India, New York: Simon
and Schuster, 1930), “that India was the motherland of our race,
and Sanskrit the mother of Europe’s languages; that she was the
mother of our philosophy, mother, through the Arabs, of much
of our mathematics, mother…of the ideals embodied in
Christianity, mother, through the village community, of self-
government and democracy. Mother India in many ways the
mother of us all”.
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God Talks with Arjuna THE BHAGAVAD GITA
Sri Sri Paramhansa Yogananda

43. World religious authority Huston Smith recalls that in the 1950s the
eminent British historian Toynbee predicted that in the 21st
century, “India the conquered would conquer her conquerors”.

47. 21st Century Does Belong to India
• But who are these Indians who are going to make India
number one in the globe, is it you and me?
• A piece of steel can be converted into a nail for the concrete
wall of our home. That cost may be of 10 rupees? It could also
be converted into a spring for Rolex watch which could cost
maybe 60,000 rupees.
• Your child is a gift from God, what you make out of him is your
gift back to God.

48. Thank You!!