This document provides an overview of effective communication strategies when dealing with different personality types. It discusses 10 key personality types, labeled as "Tanks", "Snipers", "Grenades", etc. For each type, it outlines typical traits, potential problematic responses to avoid, and recommended goal and strategies. Some strategies discussed include blending to build rapport, redirecting conversations, understanding emotions and viewpoints, and using techniques like AMPP (Ask, Mirror, Paraphrase, Prime) or STATE (Share facts, Tell story, Ask paths, Encourage testing). It also explains a model for how individuals typically respond to stimuli through a path of seeing/hearing, telling a story, feeling, and acting. The document
The document discusses strategies for having difficult conversations when emotions are strong. It defines a difficult conversation as one where there are differing views, strong feelings, and high stakes. It describes how emotions can hijack thinking and prevent listening or problem solving. The strategies presented include recognizing when emotions have taken over, stopping to reflect on needs and interests, restoring a sense of safety, and adopting a mutual learning mindset focused on understanding rather than unilateral control.
This document provides guidance on how to effectively work with difficult people and resolve conflicts. It discusses identifying conflict goals, developing skills like emotional awareness, analyzing issues, and using negotiation and mediation strategies. Key recommendations include staying calm, listening actively without judgment, understanding different perspectives, focusing on interests not positions, and seeking help from others if needed. The overall message is that resolving conflicts constructively requires reflection, communication, and finding mutually agreeable solutions.
141. Assertive Tech and Practice explained by S. Lakshmanan, PsychologistLAKSHMANAN S
Many of us don’t handle interpersonal relationships well, particularly at work. Instead of feeling good about ourselves, our reactions and responses to others often make us feel tongue-tied and inadequate, on the one hand, and angry and critical on the other. Here are some of the ways to deal with everyday situations and come out feeling good.
Please, subscribe, share in the following youtube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC11JRBJSPfLRD2pYH_i-QKg
The document provides strategies for effectively dealing with criticism by focusing on the personal growth and relationship benefits that can come from criticism rather than dwelling on the emotional reaction. It encourages viewing criticism as an opportunity to improve, expand one's thinking, and strengthen relationships by choosing to learn from rather than retaliate against criticism. The key is controlling one's internal response and using criticism as a tool for self-reflection and improvement.
How to deal with difficult people - Timothy DimoffCase IQ
If your job involves communicating with employees under difficult circumstances, you have probably encountered aggressive or uncooperative people. Handling these situations competently can help you get the results you need rather than an ugly confrontation. Join i-Sight and Timothy Dimoff for a free one-hour webinar: How to Deal with Difficult People.
During this webinar you will learn;
Aggressive versus assertive behavior
The difference between reacting and responding
Stages of aggression
De-escalating aggression
Things never to say to someone
How to speak “Peace Language”
The document discusses the importance of groups making decisions and having discussions in a way that allows people to feel heard and safe to speak openly. It notes that when people do not feel this way, they will resist decisions and create other issues. The document then outlines the main purpose of using Deep Democracy tools as making it safer for people to say what needs to be said, even if it causes some discomfort, in order to avoid worse consequences of not addressing issues. It concludes by noting that Deep Democracy aims to create participation and collaboration rather than just saying decisions have been made.
The document discusses assertiveness and provides characteristics of different communication styles such as passive, aggressive, and assertive. It notes that assertive people are able to respect themselves and others' rights, have balanced relationships, and feel in control without needing to control others. The document also provides tips and techniques for communicating assertively, including using "I feel" statements, being aware of body language, and knowing how to respectfully say "no". Overall, the document promotes assertiveness as an effective communication style.
The document discusses assertive communication techniques. It defines assertiveness as respecting others' rights while communicating directly and with confidence. Assertiveness focuses on behavior and problem-solving rather than attacking others. The document contrasts assertive behavior with aggressive, passive, and passive-aggressive behaviors. It provides tips for assertive body language, using "I" statements, acknowledging others, and concluding that assertiveness can help solve problems through cooperation.
The document discusses strategies for having difficult conversations when emotions are strong. It defines a difficult conversation as one where there are differing views, strong feelings, and high stakes. It describes how emotions can hijack thinking and prevent listening or problem solving. The strategies presented include recognizing when emotions have taken over, stopping to reflect on needs and interests, restoring a sense of safety, and adopting a mutual learning mindset focused on understanding rather than unilateral control.
This document provides guidance on how to effectively work with difficult people and resolve conflicts. It discusses identifying conflict goals, developing skills like emotional awareness, analyzing issues, and using negotiation and mediation strategies. Key recommendations include staying calm, listening actively without judgment, understanding different perspectives, focusing on interests not positions, and seeking help from others if needed. The overall message is that resolving conflicts constructively requires reflection, communication, and finding mutually agreeable solutions.
141. Assertive Tech and Practice explained by S. Lakshmanan, PsychologistLAKSHMANAN S
Many of us don’t handle interpersonal relationships well, particularly at work. Instead of feeling good about ourselves, our reactions and responses to others often make us feel tongue-tied and inadequate, on the one hand, and angry and critical on the other. Here are some of the ways to deal with everyday situations and come out feeling good.
Please, subscribe, share in the following youtube channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC11JRBJSPfLRD2pYH_i-QKg
The document provides strategies for effectively dealing with criticism by focusing on the personal growth and relationship benefits that can come from criticism rather than dwelling on the emotional reaction. It encourages viewing criticism as an opportunity to improve, expand one's thinking, and strengthen relationships by choosing to learn from rather than retaliate against criticism. The key is controlling one's internal response and using criticism as a tool for self-reflection and improvement.
How to deal with difficult people - Timothy DimoffCase IQ
If your job involves communicating with employees under difficult circumstances, you have probably encountered aggressive or uncooperative people. Handling these situations competently can help you get the results you need rather than an ugly confrontation. Join i-Sight and Timothy Dimoff for a free one-hour webinar: How to Deal with Difficult People.
During this webinar you will learn;
Aggressive versus assertive behavior
The difference between reacting and responding
Stages of aggression
De-escalating aggression
Things never to say to someone
How to speak “Peace Language”
The document discusses the importance of groups making decisions and having discussions in a way that allows people to feel heard and safe to speak openly. It notes that when people do not feel this way, they will resist decisions and create other issues. The document then outlines the main purpose of using Deep Democracy tools as making it safer for people to say what needs to be said, even if it causes some discomfort, in order to avoid worse consequences of not addressing issues. It concludes by noting that Deep Democracy aims to create participation and collaboration rather than just saying decisions have been made.
The document discusses assertiveness and provides characteristics of different communication styles such as passive, aggressive, and assertive. It notes that assertive people are able to respect themselves and others' rights, have balanced relationships, and feel in control without needing to control others. The document also provides tips and techniques for communicating assertively, including using "I feel" statements, being aware of body language, and knowing how to respectfully say "no". Overall, the document promotes assertiveness as an effective communication style.
The document discusses assertive communication techniques. It defines assertiveness as respecting others' rights while communicating directly and with confidence. Assertiveness focuses on behavior and problem-solving rather than attacking others. The document contrasts assertive behavior with aggressive, passive, and passive-aggressive behaviors. It provides tips for assertive body language, using "I" statements, acknowledging others, and concluding that assertiveness can help solve problems through cooperation.
This document summarizes a book about using positive "no" statements effectively in negotiations. It discusses preparing for negotiations by understanding one's interests and values. When saying no, one should express why through self-assertive statements while also respecting the other party. It's important to have alternative plans and remain calm when facing resistance. The goal is to help the other party progress through emotional stages to acceptance. Firmly restating the no with flexibility can help reach a mutually agreeable resolution and preserve the relationship.
Dealing with difficult people is only as stressful as you allow it to be. By discovering what makes them difficult we start understanding how to deal with them
Assertiveness and tactfullness may 16th, 2013Scott Welch
This document provides information on assertiveness and how to communicate assertively. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, needs and rights while respecting others. It distinguishes assertiveness from passive and aggressive behaviors. It provides tips for being assertive, including using "I statements" and negotiating solutions that benefit all parties. The document concludes with exercises to practice assertive communication techniques through role playing challenging situations.
This document discusses different communication styles: passive, assertive, and aggressive. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, thoughts, and opinions without violating others' rights. The document provides examples of assertiveness techniques like using "I statements", basic assertion, empathetic assertion, consequence assertion, discrepancy assertion, and negative feelings assertion. It also covers the "broken record" technique of preparing what to say and repeating it calmly and consistently. Overall, the document offers guidance on communicating assertively in various situations.
The Storm is Coming: Managing Conflict in Your Student OrganizationAmma Marfo
The Storm is Coming, a presentation on managing group conflict using the MBTI. Presented at the 2010 Student Leadership Conference at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University, at the 2010 Florida NPHC Conference, and at 2011 NACA Northern Plains
Skills for utilizing Cognitive Behavior Therapy in SUD Treatment. This presentation provides the viewers specific clinical interventions and a working description of CBT techniques.
The document discusses assertiveness skills, including persistence by staying focused on the issue and repeating the main point. It also discusses objectivity by focusing on problems rather than emotions, and validation by acknowledging other perspectives while focusing on solutions. Owning involves taking responsibility for one's own behavior. Challenging false information involves looking for truths and disagreeing factually. Humor, questioning techniques, communication skills like eye contact and consistency are also addressed.
The document discusses how people make decisions and use logic and emotion. It makes the following key points:
1) We primarily make decisions based on emotions, either moving towards pleasure or away from pain, but then use logic to justify those emotional decisions.
2) Our subconscious mind, which controls up to 97% of our life, assesses situations instinctually based on avoiding pain and reacting, then our conscious mind makes decisions cross-referencing new information with preexisting beliefs.
3) Emotion is the primary driver in decision making, though we think we are being logical. Logic is better used to initially engage people and then appeal to their emotions to motivate action.
4) Building rapport
This document provides information on assertiveness and how to communicate assertively. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, needs and rights while respecting others. It contrasts assertive behavior with passive, aggressive and passive-aggressive behaviors. The document then gives tips for using "I statements", resolving conflicts cooperatively, saying "no", giving feedback, and conducting assertive conversations. It includes activities to practice assertiveness skills through role playing common situations that require being assertive.
The document discusses effective listening and relationship building strategies for salespeople. It emphasizes the importance of knowing your audience, taking the focus off yourself as the salesperson, and ensuring discussions are about addressing the customer's needs rather than just presenting information. Key recommendations include using Upfront Contracting to set expectations, active listening techniques like paraphrasing, and identifying a customer's communication style to better engage them.
The document discusses how to deal with difficult people by following four steps: understanding yourself, managing yourself, understanding the other person, and doing something to change the relationship. It defines types of difficult people and common beliefs they may hold. Some tips for influencing others include starting with compliments, praising progress, and letting the other person save face. Interviews can help understand someone's values to predict their behavior and find approaches to respect them. Having an action plan that anticipates reactions is also advised for dealing with difficult individuals.
This abridged version, made up of select slides from my other presentations, was specially made for the executives of LIC, Hyderabad Division. You are requested to view the full versions of the other presentations, available here.
Illusory superiority dates back to Confucius and Socrates
But Dunning-Kruger Effect (A type of Cognitive Bias)discussion is merely 20 years old
A cognitive bias refers to a ‘systematic error’ in the thinking process.
Such biases are often connected to a heuristic (a mental shortcut )
Heuristics allow one to make an inference without extensive deliberation and/or reflective judgment
These are essentially schemas for solutions (West, Toplak, & Stanovich, 2008).
12 common biases that affect how we make everyday decisions are discussed.
New knowledge economy (Dwyer, 2017; Dwyer, Hogan & Stewart, 2014) has opened a new vista of processing information (right or wrong) with the help of internet quickly and effortlessly.
How to Deal with Critics? "Critisim is something we can easily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing. Aristotle". We can’t control what other people will say to us / about us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on.
Matrix Reimprinting for Forgiving the UnforgivableCheryl White
This document discusses techniques for helping clients achieve forgiveness through matrix reimprinting. It begins by defining forgiveness and discussing why some acts seem unforgivable due to trauma, condemnation, perfectionism, anger, betrayal and other factors. It then provides guidance for practitioners on determining which clients to work with, focusing initially on building the client's resources and compassion for themselves before addressing specific issues. The document outlines potential blocks clients may encounter and recommends tools like developing self-esteem, using multiple chairs to facilitate dialogue between parts, and incorporating belief systems to provide a compassionate perspective. It concludes by addressing questions submitted about the relationship between forgiveness, healing and compassion, and how to forgive repeated trauma from an ongoing threat.
1) The document discusses how Myers-Briggs personality types can influence negotiation strategies, focusing on the dichotomies of sensing vs intuition, thinking vs feeling, judging vs perceiving.
2) Sensors tend to prefer adversarial strategies which are linear and fact-focused, while intuitives are more comfortable with open-ended problem solving approaches.
3) Thinkers prefer impersonal approaches while feelers prioritize relationships; judgers seek closure whereas perceivers avoid commitment.
4) Students commented on recognizing weaknesses influenced by their type and strategies for compensating, such as preparing more or focusing on listening.
Three ways to understand communication with otherssamaramar
Passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles are explored. Assertive communication is considered the healthiest style as it respects all parties' boundaries and makes problem solving easier. It requires skills development like practicing active listening, owning one's actions, using humor to diffuse tension, and knowing when aggression or passivity are called for. The overall message is that understanding different communication styles helps improve one's own skills and ability to deal effectively with others.
Linh Nguyen's personality profile indicates mostly average scores on the Big Five personality factors of agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, emotional stability, and openness to experience. Specifically, the profile notes that Linh is friendly, careful, sociable, even-tempered, and innovative. Strengths may include finding solutions to problems and helping others. Potential challenges could include inconsistency and difficulty finishing projects. The profile recommends roles involving creativity, customer service, and sales.
This document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult library patrons. It begins by defining difficult patrons as those who complain, are dissatisfied with service, or feel they need to yell to be heard. It then examines different patron personalities and types of difficult patrons. The document outlines what patrons want from customer service and provides tips for communicating effectively with difficult patrons, such as focusing on solutions, sticking with challenges, and giving patrons a way to save face. It emphasizes preparing for difficult situations through policies, communication skills training, and staying responsive rather than reactionary.
Communication- Difficult People (Training Material)PhuDucNguyenHuynh
The document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult people. It identifies seven types of difficult behaviors: hostile-aggressive, know-it-all, yes-person, whiner, never-say-a-word, indecisive staller, and no-person. It provides tips for coping with each type, such as listening carefully to know-it-alls, giving yes-persons permission to say no, and asking whiners to propose solutions. The document also emphasizes developing a positive attitude, clear communication, and not taking difficult behavior personally in order to best handle difficult situations.
This document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult people. It identifies seven common types of difficult behaviors: hostile-aggressive, know-it-all, yes-person, whiner, never-say-a-word, indecisive staller, and no-person. For each type of difficult behavior, the document provides recommendations on how to interact with and cope with that person, such as listening without judgment, asking open-ended questions, and focusing on underlying issues rather than the difficult behavior itself. The key messages are that personal attitude and clear communication are important for dealing with difficult situations, and not taking things personally can help avoid escalating conflicts.
This document summarizes a book about using positive "no" statements effectively in negotiations. It discusses preparing for negotiations by understanding one's interests and values. When saying no, one should express why through self-assertive statements while also respecting the other party. It's important to have alternative plans and remain calm when facing resistance. The goal is to help the other party progress through emotional stages to acceptance. Firmly restating the no with flexibility can help reach a mutually agreeable resolution and preserve the relationship.
Dealing with difficult people is only as stressful as you allow it to be. By discovering what makes them difficult we start understanding how to deal with them
Assertiveness and tactfullness may 16th, 2013Scott Welch
This document provides information on assertiveness and how to communicate assertively. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, needs and rights while respecting others. It distinguishes assertiveness from passive and aggressive behaviors. It provides tips for being assertive, including using "I statements" and negotiating solutions that benefit all parties. The document concludes with exercises to practice assertive communication techniques through role playing challenging situations.
This document discusses different communication styles: passive, assertive, and aggressive. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, thoughts, and opinions without violating others' rights. The document provides examples of assertiveness techniques like using "I statements", basic assertion, empathetic assertion, consequence assertion, discrepancy assertion, and negative feelings assertion. It also covers the "broken record" technique of preparing what to say and repeating it calmly and consistently. Overall, the document offers guidance on communicating assertively in various situations.
The Storm is Coming: Managing Conflict in Your Student OrganizationAmma Marfo
The Storm is Coming, a presentation on managing group conflict using the MBTI. Presented at the 2010 Student Leadership Conference at Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University, at the 2010 Florida NPHC Conference, and at 2011 NACA Northern Plains
Skills for utilizing Cognitive Behavior Therapy in SUD Treatment. This presentation provides the viewers specific clinical interventions and a working description of CBT techniques.
The document discusses assertiveness skills, including persistence by staying focused on the issue and repeating the main point. It also discusses objectivity by focusing on problems rather than emotions, and validation by acknowledging other perspectives while focusing on solutions. Owning involves taking responsibility for one's own behavior. Challenging false information involves looking for truths and disagreeing factually. Humor, questioning techniques, communication skills like eye contact and consistency are also addressed.
The document discusses how people make decisions and use logic and emotion. It makes the following key points:
1) We primarily make decisions based on emotions, either moving towards pleasure or away from pain, but then use logic to justify those emotional decisions.
2) Our subconscious mind, which controls up to 97% of our life, assesses situations instinctually based on avoiding pain and reacting, then our conscious mind makes decisions cross-referencing new information with preexisting beliefs.
3) Emotion is the primary driver in decision making, though we think we are being logical. Logic is better used to initially engage people and then appeal to their emotions to motivate action.
4) Building rapport
This document provides information on assertiveness and how to communicate assertively. It defines assertiveness as expressing one's feelings, needs and rights while respecting others. It contrasts assertive behavior with passive, aggressive and passive-aggressive behaviors. The document then gives tips for using "I statements", resolving conflicts cooperatively, saying "no", giving feedback, and conducting assertive conversations. It includes activities to practice assertiveness skills through role playing common situations that require being assertive.
The document discusses effective listening and relationship building strategies for salespeople. It emphasizes the importance of knowing your audience, taking the focus off yourself as the salesperson, and ensuring discussions are about addressing the customer's needs rather than just presenting information. Key recommendations include using Upfront Contracting to set expectations, active listening techniques like paraphrasing, and identifying a customer's communication style to better engage them.
The document discusses how to deal with difficult people by following four steps: understanding yourself, managing yourself, understanding the other person, and doing something to change the relationship. It defines types of difficult people and common beliefs they may hold. Some tips for influencing others include starting with compliments, praising progress, and letting the other person save face. Interviews can help understand someone's values to predict their behavior and find approaches to respect them. Having an action plan that anticipates reactions is also advised for dealing with difficult individuals.
This abridged version, made up of select slides from my other presentations, was specially made for the executives of LIC, Hyderabad Division. You are requested to view the full versions of the other presentations, available here.
Illusory superiority dates back to Confucius and Socrates
But Dunning-Kruger Effect (A type of Cognitive Bias)discussion is merely 20 years old
A cognitive bias refers to a ‘systematic error’ in the thinking process.
Such biases are often connected to a heuristic (a mental shortcut )
Heuristics allow one to make an inference without extensive deliberation and/or reflective judgment
These are essentially schemas for solutions (West, Toplak, & Stanovich, 2008).
12 common biases that affect how we make everyday decisions are discussed.
New knowledge economy (Dwyer, 2017; Dwyer, Hogan & Stewart, 2014) has opened a new vista of processing information (right or wrong) with the help of internet quickly and effortlessly.
How to Deal with Critics? "Critisim is something we can easily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing. Aristotle". We can’t control what other people will say to us / about us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on.
Matrix Reimprinting for Forgiving the UnforgivableCheryl White
This document discusses techniques for helping clients achieve forgiveness through matrix reimprinting. It begins by defining forgiveness and discussing why some acts seem unforgivable due to trauma, condemnation, perfectionism, anger, betrayal and other factors. It then provides guidance for practitioners on determining which clients to work with, focusing initially on building the client's resources and compassion for themselves before addressing specific issues. The document outlines potential blocks clients may encounter and recommends tools like developing self-esteem, using multiple chairs to facilitate dialogue between parts, and incorporating belief systems to provide a compassionate perspective. It concludes by addressing questions submitted about the relationship between forgiveness, healing and compassion, and how to forgive repeated trauma from an ongoing threat.
1) The document discusses how Myers-Briggs personality types can influence negotiation strategies, focusing on the dichotomies of sensing vs intuition, thinking vs feeling, judging vs perceiving.
2) Sensors tend to prefer adversarial strategies which are linear and fact-focused, while intuitives are more comfortable with open-ended problem solving approaches.
3) Thinkers prefer impersonal approaches while feelers prioritize relationships; judgers seek closure whereas perceivers avoid commitment.
4) Students commented on recognizing weaknesses influenced by their type and strategies for compensating, such as preparing more or focusing on listening.
Three ways to understand communication with otherssamaramar
Passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles are explored. Assertive communication is considered the healthiest style as it respects all parties' boundaries and makes problem solving easier. It requires skills development like practicing active listening, owning one's actions, using humor to diffuse tension, and knowing when aggression or passivity are called for. The overall message is that understanding different communication styles helps improve one's own skills and ability to deal effectively with others.
Linh Nguyen's personality profile indicates mostly average scores on the Big Five personality factors of agreeableness, conscientiousness, extraversion, emotional stability, and openness to experience. Specifically, the profile notes that Linh is friendly, careful, sociable, even-tempered, and innovative. Strengths may include finding solutions to problems and helping others. Potential challenges could include inconsistency and difficulty finishing projects. The profile recommends roles involving creativity, customer service, and sales.
This document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult library patrons. It begins by defining difficult patrons as those who complain, are dissatisfied with service, or feel they need to yell to be heard. It then examines different patron personalities and types of difficult patrons. The document outlines what patrons want from customer service and provides tips for communicating effectively with difficult patrons, such as focusing on solutions, sticking with challenges, and giving patrons a way to save face. It emphasizes preparing for difficult situations through policies, communication skills training, and staying responsive rather than reactionary.
Communication- Difficult People (Training Material)PhuDucNguyenHuynh
The document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult people. It identifies seven types of difficult behaviors: hostile-aggressive, know-it-all, yes-person, whiner, never-say-a-word, indecisive staller, and no-person. It provides tips for coping with each type, such as listening carefully to know-it-alls, giving yes-persons permission to say no, and asking whiners to propose solutions. The document also emphasizes developing a positive attitude, clear communication, and not taking difficult behavior personally in order to best handle difficult situations.
This document discusses strategies for dealing with difficult people. It identifies seven common types of difficult behaviors: hostile-aggressive, know-it-all, yes-person, whiner, never-say-a-word, indecisive staller, and no-person. For each type of difficult behavior, the document provides recommendations on how to interact with and cope with that person, such as listening without judgment, asking open-ended questions, and focusing on underlying issues rather than the difficult behavior itself. The key messages are that personal attitude and clear communication are important for dealing with difficult situations, and not taking things personally can help avoid escalating conflicts.
This document discusses understanding personalities using four types: Peacock, Bull, Owl, and Lamb. Each type has different primary motivations and characteristics. Peacocks are extroverted and motivated by popularity. Bulls are also extroverted but motivated by power and leadership. Owls are introverted thinkers motivated by perfection. Lambs are introverted and motivated by peacefulness. The document provides tips for effectively working with each personality type by recognizing their strengths and challenges. It concludes by advising the reader to treat people according to their personality type.
Dealing with a multitude of different personalities is a core capability of a leader. What are the motivations of the various personalities and how does a leader deal with them, particularly those who have a different personality to the leader? Seeing the world through the eyes of others is critically important for any leader to be effective.
This document discusses listening skills and provides tips to improve listening abilities. It notes that people typically only listen in short bursts and their attention wanders. Various types of "bad listeners" are described, such as bashful, anxious, argumentative, and closed-minded people. The document recommends using feedback to address issues with poor listeners. It also outlines steps to effectively confront a difficult person about problematic behavior and develop a plan to resolve issues. Finally, common blocks to effective listening are listed, along with techniques for strengthening listening skills.
The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Greene provides business and life advice drawn from the authors' experiences. It discusses developing mental and emotional resilience, managing social dynamics on teams, and adapting to cultural changes. The book recommends striking before fully prepared to force oneself to higher levels of motivation and innovation. Leaders are advised to develop long-term visions and unify their teams towards shared goals in order to overcome distractions and resistance to change.
This document discusses enhancing soft skills such as attitude, positive thinking, will power, self-discipline, goal setting, and confidence building. It defines attitude and explains its structure consisting of emotional, cognitive, and behavioral components. Soft skills like problem solving, decision making, and critical thinking are identified as life skills that can lead to positive health behaviors and prevention of health problems when developed. The document provides information on developing various soft skills like having a positive attitude, setting goals, persevering through challenges, and making responsible decisions. It emphasizes replacing negative habits and behaviors with positive virtues through continuous practice.
Listening is one of the most important communication skills, accounting for over 50% of our time. However, many people are poor listeners due to distractions, boredom, or focusing on what they want to say rather than listening. There are also types of poor listeners like bashful people who demand attention, anxious people who are nervous chatterers, and argumentative or closed-minded people. To improve listening skills, one must be motivated to change, avoid distractions, pay attention without anticipating what will be said, and provide feedback to the speaker by paraphrasing.
This chapter discusses the concept of self and interpersonal communication. It defines self-concept as how one views themselves and how that develops through others' perceptions, social comparisons, and cultural teachings. The self-concept influences communication and is multidimensional, subjective, resistant to change but flexible if healthy. Cultural influences and communication apprehension also impact one's self-concept. Guidelines are provided for appropriate self-disclosure and responding supportively to others' disclosures in order to have effective interpersonal communication.
This document discusses various topics related to teamwork and communication. It begins by outlining four key topics: perception, listening and speaking, Tuckman's model of group development, and providing and receiving feedback.
It then delves into each topic in more detail. For perception, it discusses common cognitive biases that affect how we perceive others. For listening and speaking, it provides effective techniques for both, including focusing, reflecting, summarizing and organizing ideas.
It also explains Tuckman's model of forming, storming, norming and performing stages that teams go through. Finally, it outlines best practices for providing constructive feedback and how to effectively receive feedback in four stages - listen, validate, decide, and
From Troubled Waters to Water Under the BridgeAngela Byron
Video: https://events.drupal.org/vienna2017/sessions/oh-no-you-didnt-panel-about-conflict-management
Feeling Stabby? Then this is THE session for you! We all have conflict in our lives that can make us feel out of control, frustrated, angry, depressed or worse. What might surprise you is that this is totally normal. Differences in personality type, communication, motivations and expectations are some of the leading causes of conflict in your personal and professional lives. Join us to hear about some challenging conflicts we have faced and learned from.
After this session you will:
- Be able to identify some common conflict-prone personalities
- Gain some example phrases and diffusing solutions to deal with those people in a more productive fashion
- Get 5 techniques from each speaker that we use on the reg to resolve our conflicts
- Bring your questions & answers so we can help others identify techniques to resolve their conflicts!
The document outlines the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens which are principles to help teens make better choices. The habits teach teens to be proactive, have goals and priorities, seek mutual understanding with others, continuously improve themselves, and make decisions based on principles rather than reactions. Following the habits can result in teens being more engaged, responsible, confident, and able to work with others to solve problems and achieve more.
This document provides guidance on how to handle difficult people. It begins by describing common traits and behaviors of difficult people, such as being pushy, hostile, or complaining frequently. It then discusses various strategies for coping with difficult interactions, such as remaining calm, removing yourself from the situation, or changing your attitude. The bulk of the document categorizes and profiles eight common types of difficult people, like "steamrollers" and "know-it-alls," and recommends behaviors to use with each type, such as standing up to steamrollers while asking open-ended questions of "clams." General tips are offered like using "I" statements and listening actively. The document concludes by providing steps to develop an action plan for dealing with
This document outlines steps for developing trust and respect in the workplace. It discusses conducting an inquiry to identify problems, gaining consensus on issues, stating a desired outcome, problem solving, and developing an action plan. It also recommends establishing a conduct code, communicating policies effectively, considering all employees as equal partners, understanding difficult people's perspectives, seeking mutual understanding, and using respectful language. The goal is to resolve issues, rebuild trust where needed, and promote a cooperative work environment based on mutual respect.
The document discusses 4 personality types: Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver. It provides descriptions of each type's strengths, weaknesses, communication style, decision-making process, and fears. It also gives advice on how to understand, value, communicate with and motivate each type. Scenarios are provided as examples of how each type might respond. The document concludes with a relationship guide for each type, highlighting what motivates them and tips for interacting with them effectively.
The document provides guidance on personal branding and success principles. It discusses developing a positive mindset and belief in oneself, taking initiative, avoiding excuses for failure, thinking creatively, taking action on ideas, making others feel important, and maintaining enthusiasm. Specific tips include focusing on important rather than petty issues, putting people and problems in proper perspective, using positive language, and reviewing ideas to cultivate and fertilize them. The overall message is that success comes from belief, positive thinking, taking action, making progress, and uplifting others.
A facilitator helps a group achieve results through interactive processes by focusing on how the group works together rather than participating or leading the group. Key facilitation skills include listening, supporting participants, summarizing discussions, challenging ideas respectfully, creating a safe environment, and trusting the group process. Effective facilitators use open-ended questions, paraphrasing, and intentional silence to draw out participants. They also manage conflict by understanding different personality styles and using appropriate strategies.
The document provides tips for managing difficult personalities in the workplace, describing common challenging personality types such as The Droner, The Aggressor, The Panic Button, and The Procrastinator. It advises managers to understand different personality types, address issues respectfully, avoid personal attacks, and apply strategies tailored to each personality challenge. The goal is to effectively deal with differences in a way that benefits both the manager and employee.
This document discusses Habit 1 of being proactive from Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It explains that the space between a stimulus and our response is where we have the power to choose how we will respond. Our response determines our growth and happiness. It emphasizes developing the capacity for self-awareness, conscience, imagination, and willpower to act proactively rather than reactively. It also discusses building an "emotional bank account" through kind acts, apologizing, forgiving, and keeping commitments in order to have empowering relationships. Homework assignments are provided to help the reader determine situations they can respond to proactively.
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Brinkman
“Crucial Conversations” by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler
These two texts will frame our discussion for this session.
Intended outcomes of this session:
We will discuss the top 10 personality types and how to communicate
effectively and efficiently when they are at their worst.
Learn different techniques to unlock the doors to people‘s minds, hearts, and
needs.
Transform negativity to work in your best interests.
Internal perspective on how you are viewed by other people!!
3. Terminology – Keys to Success
Blending – reducing the differences between you and other people to meet them where
they are to build rapport (First)
Redirecting – using the established rapport to change the trajectory of the conversation
(Second)
Understanding – 1. Emotional – people feel that you understand what they are feeling; 2.
Intellectually – people believe that you understand what they are saying
Backtracking – repeating back some of the actual words that other people are using. **No
translating or paraphrasing; No blanket repeating!!**
Pygmalion Power – making individuals conform to your internal goals and intentions. I.e.
Chicago Public Schools example, Children example.
Polarity – intentionally using negative stimuli to get positive response from subject
AMPP – Ask to get things rolling, Mirror to confirm feelings, Paraphrase to acknowledge the
story, & Prime when getting nowhere
STATE – Share your facts, Tell your story, Ask for others’ paths, Encourage testing
4. Personalities 101
The Lens of Understanding.
• Vertices – Task People,
PassiveAggressive
• All lead to understanding the
individual & behavior types
• Sometimes people move in &
out of zones, depending on
the situation at hand.
• Move out of the Danger Zones
and move into the
Cooperation Zone
5. Tank – Sniper – Know it All
High Aggressive, High Task Oriented.
“The Tank”
When you’re under attack by the Tank, you’ve been
targeted as part of the problem.
Traits:
• Loud, aggressive, forceful, ends justify the means
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Counterattack – Patton vs. Rommel
• Defend, Explain, or Justify – has no interest in this.
• Shut down – become a nothing person and let them roll
over you.
Your Goal: Command Respect
• They don’t attack people they respect
How???
1. Hold your Ground
2. Interrupt the attack – say their name over and over!
3. Backtrack their main point
4. Aim for the bottom line & fire – First Person
5. Peace with honor – be assertive, but nice!
6. Tank – Sniper – Know it All
High Aggressive, High Task Oriented. (Also People)
“The Sniper”
The Sniper will place well placed shots to undermine your
productivity and come out in control.
Traits:
• Rude comments, eye rolling, biting tone of voice
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Counterattack – Fire with fire
• Your emotions will spill over into your response, use
caution…
Your Goal: Cool. Calm. Collected.
• What would Elsa do?
How???
1. Stop, look, backtrack.
2. Use searchlight questions – Intent & Relevancy
3. Use Tank Strategy if needed – Stand Ground!
4. Grievance Patrol – Find out in private what the deal is…
5. Suggest a civil future – talk it out.
7. Tank – Sniper – Know it All
High Aggressive, High Task Oriented.
“The Know it all”
The know it alls are very competent, assertive, and
outspoken. Tread lightly…
Traits:
• Controlling, close minded
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Counterattack – Fire with fire
• They have done their homework on the topic. Experts
on subject matter. Come prepared!
Your Goal: Open their minds.
• New information, New ideas.
How???
1. Be Prepared. Know you stuff!
2. Backtrack, respectfully.
3. Blend with their doubts & desires!
4. Present your ideas indirectly- Quick & Cautious.
5. Establish a mentoring relationship – they will respect
this.
8. Grenade – Sniper – Know it All
High Aggressive, High People Oriented.
“The Grenade”
The grenade has lost it. Reason, control, temperament.
Who pulled the pin???
Traits:
• Immediate demand for attention, blowing up, losing
control of situation
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Blow up at them for blowing up
• Quietly withdraw and despise from a distance
Your Goal: Take control of the situation.
• Create the circumstance for control.
How???
1. Get the person’s attention – remember tank?
2. Aim for the heart – show concern. Tell them what they
need to hear.
3. Reduce the intensity – voice & non-verbals.
4. Take a time out. Come back after specified time.
5. Prevention. Find the pin and don’t pull it!!
9. Grenade – Sniper – Think They Know it All
High Aggressive, High People Oriented.
“The Think They Know It All”
The ‘think they know it all’ is “THAT GUY” at parties, jack of
all trades, master of none.
Traits:
• Know just enough to sound conversant in topics,
exaggerates, defensive when challenged.
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Challenge them aggressively
• Burst their bubble
Your Goal: Give their bad ideas the hook.
• Remove them from the act
How???
1. Give them a little attention – Backtrack with
Enthusiasm, Acknowledge intent positively.
2. Clarify for specifics – You know, they don’t.
3. Tell it like it is. Kill them with facts. Use “I” language
4. Give them a break. Don’t embarrass them.
5. Break the cycle. Two ways : 1. Gently confront with
truth and 2. Give credit where credit is due.
10. Maybe – Yes – Nothing People
High Passive , High People Oriented.
“Maybe…”
The Maybe person can’t make a decision because negative
outcomes blind their abilities.
Traits:
• Indecisive, procrastinating
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Don’t show irritation!!
• Don’t push them into a decision, they will find more
excuses & doubts.
Your Goal: Help them learn to think decisively.
• Give them a strategy for decision making and the
motivation to use it!
How???
1. Establish and maintain a comfort zone.
2. Surface conflicts and clarify options.
3. Use a decision making system – Pro/Con list
4. Re-assure them and ensure follow through.
5. Strengthen the relationship. This builds loyalty.
11. Maybe – Yes – Nothing People
High Passive , High People Oriented.
“The Yes Person”
The Yes person can’t say no because of their intrinsic need
to get along with others.
Traits:
• Disorganized, Over committed, Overwhelmed
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Be quick to blame, they will shut down.
• Make them feel shame, only perpetuates the problem.
Your Goal: Get commitments you can count on!
• Make it safe for them to be honest.
How???
1. Make the communication environment safe & open for
honest committal of tasks.
2. Talk honestly – could be hidden issues
3. Help them learn to plan – keep promises!!
4. Ensure commitment – you must follow through after
promise made. (pg. 144)
5. Strengthen the relationship. This builds trust with the
yes person. (pg. 145)
12. No – Whiner – Judge People
High Task , High Passive Oriented.
“The No Person”
The No person finds negativity in everyone and everything
else. Not a fun person to be around.
Traits:
• Grumpy, Negative, Pessimistic
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Don’t cast blame directly at them.
• Do not feel contempt for their lack of energy &
enthusiasm.
Your Goal: Transition to problem solving.
• Move from fault finding toward solving the issues at
hand.
How???
1. Listen for main points and focus on bringing them to
light.
2. Use them as resources – build your own character by
staying positive around No people!
3. Give them a little more time on tasks – Patience!!
4. Polarity response – Depressed client example…
5. Acknowledge their GOOD Intent – compliment them
on their high standards of perfection.
13. No – Whiner – Judge People
High Task , High Passive Oriented.
“The Whiner”
The Whiner stems from the intent to get it right, but needs
someone to close the gaps.
Traits:
• Uncertain, hopeless, helpless, annoying
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Don’t agree, disagree, try to solve their problems
• NEVER ask them why they are complaining, unless you
want them to start all over…
Your Goal: Form a problem solving alliance
• Remove the feelings of helplessness to identify
solutions.
How???
1. Listen for main points and focus on bringing them to
light. (Same as “No” person)
2. Interrupt and pull the specifics out of them.
3. Shift the focus to solutions – “What do you want”
4. Show them the future – set goals & deadlines
5. The Last Straw – Draw the line in the sand.
14. No – Whiner – Judge People
High Task , High Passive Oriented.
“The Judge”
The Judge sets high standards that no one can meet, then
criticizes shortcomings at attempt.
Traits:
• Black & white (no gray), perfectionist, condescending
Typical Response (Don’t Do)
• Don’t get defensive, ever.
• Make big leaps of logic to battle the Judge.
Your Goal: Get the Judgment dismissed
• Show you tried your best without getting defensive.
How???
1. Acknowledge the judgment and move on. “Thanks for
…”
2. Return to sender – BACKTRACK to show specifics
3. Appeal the sentence – cancel their generalization
4. Go for the Polarity Response – College or Weight
example
5. Give them a glimpse of greatness – 1. State your
positive intent & 2. Be specific about the problem
behavior
15. How do you respond? What happens?
The Path to Action is an internal response to stimuli.
The response pattern is consistent among humans, but the
outcome/action is always unique to the individual.
Understanding this path can help you slow down the reaction,
leading to more productive dialogue.
16. See & Hear Tell a Story Feel Act
The Path to action – How we respond.
The Path to Action
This happens internally and blindingly fast.
17. Activity Time!!
Role play – Can you identify the personality type??
How do you fix it?
Your Communication Style Under Stress
How do you react when conversations suddenly move from smooth
and easygoing to tense or awkward?
This 33-question test will explore how you typically respond when
you’re in the middle of a stressful situation.