This document discusses building strong working relationships through effective communication and mutual understanding. It outlines five characteristics of effective relationships: respect, shared experiences, trust, reciprocity, and mutual enjoyment. These characteristics develop over time through open communication, acknowledging each other's needs, and reframing weaknesses. The presentation provides strategies for assessing relationships and creating boundaries to strengthen them.

1. It’s All About MeIt’s All About Me
My Responsibility in BuildingMy Responsibility in Building
Strong Working RelationshipsStrong Working Relationships
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2. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
1.1. Respect: The foundation of all relationshipsRespect: The foundation of all relationships
is respect in which value is placed on theis respect in which value is placed on the
other personother person

3. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
1.1. RespectRespect
2.2. Shared Experiences: The connectednessShared Experiences: The connectedness
that develops relationships grows throughthat develops relationships grows through
shared experiences over timeshared experiences over time

4. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
1.1. RespectRespect
2.2. Shared ExperiencesShared Experiences
3.3. Trust: Develops through respect and sharedTrust: Develops through respect and shared
experiences over time.experiences over time.

5. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
1.1. RespectRespect
2.2. Shared ExperiencesShared Experiences
3.3. TrustTrust
4.4. Reciprocity: Give-and-take regarding theReciprocity: Give-and-take regarding the
ability to look out for each other and seeability to look out for each other and see
that others needs are being met.that others needs are being met.

6. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
1.1. RespectRespect
2.2. Shared ExperiencesShared Experiences
3.3. TrustTrust
4.4. ReciprocityReciprocity
5.5. Mutual Enjoyment: ExperiencesMutual Enjoyment: Experiences
satisfaction from working together, evensatisfaction from working together, even
through unpleasant tasksthrough unpleasant tasks

7. 5 Characteristics of5 Characteristics of
Effective RelationshipsEffective Relationships
Respect (orange)Respect (orange)
Shared Experiences (yellow)Shared Experiences (yellow)
Trust (pink)Trust (pink)
Reciprocity (purple)Reciprocity (purple)
Mutual Enjoyment (green)Mutual Enjoyment (green)

8. Indicator BrainstormingIndicator Brainstorming
 What would you see happening?What would you see happening?
 What would you hear?What would you hear?
 What would the environment look like?What would the environment look like?
 What does it feel like?What does it feel like?

9. It’s just not working . . .It’s just not working . . .
Respect > Shared ExperiencesRespect > Shared Experiences
Shared Experiences > TrustShared Experiences > Trust
Trust > Mutual EnjoymentTrust > Mutual Enjoyment
Reciprocity > RespectReciprocity > Respect
Mutual Enjoyment > ReciprocityMutual Enjoyment > Reciprocity

10. Indicator BrainstormingIndicator Brainstorming
 What would you see happening?What would you see happening?
 What would you hear?What would you hear?
 What would the environment look like?What would the environment look like?
 What does it feel like?What does it feel like?

11. It’s All About Me!It’s All About Me!

12. It’s All About Me…Strategies forIt’s All About Me…Strategies for
Building Effective RelationshipsBuilding Effective Relationships
 Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship

13. It’s All About Me…Strategies forIt’s All About Me…Strategies for
Building Effective RelationshipsBuilding Effective Relationships
 Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship
 Recognize Strengths/Reframe DeficitsRecognize Strengths/Reframe Deficits

14. It’s All About Me…Strategies forIt’s All About Me…Strategies for
Building Effective RelationshipsBuilding Effective Relationships
 Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship
 Recognize Strengths/Reframe DeficitsRecognize Strengths/Reframe Deficits
 Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs

15. It’s All About Me…Strategies forIt’s All About Me…Strategies for
Building Effective RelationshipsBuilding Effective Relationships
 Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship
 Recognize Strengths/Reframe DeficitsRecognize Strengths/Reframe Deficits
 Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs
 Open CommunicationOpen Communication

16. It’s All About Me…Strategies forIt’s All About Me…Strategies for
Building Effective RelationshipsBuilding Effective Relationships
 Assess RelationshipAssess Relationship
 Recognize Strengths/Reframe DeficitsRecognize Strengths/Reframe Deficits
 Acknowledge NeedsAcknowledge Needs
 Open CommunicationOpen Communication
 Create BoundariesCreate Boundaries

17. It’s All About MeIt’s All About Me
My Responsibility in BuildingMy Responsibility in Building
Strong Working RelationshipsStrong Working Relationships

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