This is Part #1 of the "Islamic Sex Education" lessons.
This presentation discusses relationships between opposite genders from and Islamic perspective.
2. Relationships
Definition:
A connection, association or involvement.
A Connection between persons by blood or marriage.
An emotional or other connection between people
(teachers and students, peers, etc)
4. Internal Influences
Potential to impact relationships and behavior
Values (guided by the Quran & Sunnah)
Curiosity
Interests
Desires
Fears/Insecurities
5. Encouraged Relationships
● Advice one another:
“The believing men and believing women are allies
of one another. They enjoin what is right and
forbid what is wrong and establish prayer and give
zakah and obey Allah and His Messenger. Those -
Allah will have mercy upon them. Indeed, Allah is
Exalted in Might and Wise.” 9:71
● Enrichment/Learn from our
differences
“O mankind, indeed We have created
you from male and female and made
you peoples and tribes that you may
know one another. Indeed, the most
noble of you in the sight of Allah is the
most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is
Knowing and Acquainted.”
6. Forbidden Relationships
● “A man should not seclude himself with a
woman except that there be with her
someone who is of unmarriageable kin
(mahram).”
[Bukhari, Muslim]
● "When a man and woman are
alone together, Satan is the third."
[Tirmidhi]
7. ● Describe the changes in friendships that
one might experience as a result of
puberty, and evaluate what it means to be
a boyfriend or girlfriend
Can Boys & Girls Be Friends?
8. Story Time:
Prophet Yusuf and Zulaikha
Our beauty
is a test
When P. Yusuf was sold as a slave in Egypt, he ended up living in the Palace of the
Prime Minister, Al-Azeez.
P. Yusuf grew to become the MOST charming, handsome man ever!!
He was the NUMBER ONE eligible bachelor of his time.
His good looks, characteristics & intelligence drew lots of attention.
This was the perfect scenario for the shaytan to creep in.
The Azeez’s wife Zulaikha had her eye on Yusuf.
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
9. The Quran tells of the story of how Zulaikha entrapped Yusuf to seduce him.
The Quran didn’t specify the steps that led up the scene…..
But we know that shaytan uses small steps to get people to commit haram acts.
We know this wasn’t a one-time attempt because of the word “rawadathu”.
She had been trying to get his attention for a while, but he wouldn’t pay attention to her.
The Ayah says she locked the DOORS (plural)
She waited until Yusuf was inside the room and nobody was around.
This must have been in a location of the castle where there are many halls
with doors, so as she walked down the halls, she locked the doors, one at a
time until she reached the room he was in.
She came in and said “HAYTA LAK…. “Quickly Come to me…”
She is giving him an order, and we have to remember that he is her slave.
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
10. The situation Yusuf was in was a big TEST…
He was not an angel.
He was a young, unmarried man alone in a
room with a beautiful woman.
Zulaikha was his boss and he had been
taught to follow her orders.
Ma’ath Allah!
Allah protect me!
LESSON:
The first thingYusuf did when he
faced a fitnah was to mention
Allah’s name.
1- Shaytan runs away when
Allah’s name is spoken.
2- The reminder that Allah is
watching helps you overcome the
temptation.
11. Discuss:
We are not held responsible for our desires.
Allah put those inside of us.
We are responsible for how we act.
Example:
Food is halal but Allah allows you to view it as haram
until iftar time.
You are NOT held responsible for feeling hungry
during fasting. You didn’t act on your hunger, you
didn’t eat.
In the same way, you are not held responsible for
finding someone from the opposite gender attractive.
Having a thought isn’t a sin.
We are not angels.
Discuss:
* How does a believer vs non-believer view success?
* When u commit a sin does it affect those around you?
12. Never belittle the small things…
Small steps are always the steps to bigger ones….
Why did Allah place rules between genders?
Every rule Allah places is for our protection from slipping
into sins. People who fall into haram relationships don’t just
jump into haram instantly.
Shaytan is smart and he works step by step …
(discuss Adam’s story)
Haram between
genders starts with a
smile, a text, a laugh, a
high-five, a hug, a kiss. If a Prophet didn’t take a risk with his Iman, why would you?
Yusuf was honest with himself about his humanity.
Do we think we are immune?
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
13. Story Time: Musa & the Girl
When P. Musa escaped the Pharoah and fled Egypt, he found himself in the city
of Madyan. In the center of the city, he found people gathering around the
community well. People took their animals and buckets there to collect water.
He noticed two girls standing to the side with their sheep.
We can't get near the water until
everyone leaves. Our dad is an old man
and he can't help us.
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
The women were weak or so nobody let
them have a turn. Even though Musa
(AS) exhausted, starving, and thirsty, he
still wanted to help others.
What's wrong?
َع َدَج َو َنَيْدَم َءآَم َد َر َو اَّمَل َو
َّنال َنِم ًةَّمأ ِهْيَل
ِ
اس
َرْام مِهِنود نِم َدَج َو َو َونْقسَي
انَدوََُ َِينََأ
بَْطخ اَم َلاَق
اَمُك
ِالر َِردْصي ىَََّح ىِقْسَن َال َاََلاَق
آءَع
ِبَُك ٌخْيَش َانوبَأ َو
ٌير
14. Musa Helps the Girls
Musa (AS) took their sheep and pushed through all the men. The men were
intimidated by his strength, so they made way for him.
He forgot his own thirst and pushed all the men to the side.
The two girls were watching him use his strength to do good unlike all the other
people who usually used their strength to oppress others.
The girls took their animals and now filled buckets of water, thanked Musa, and left.
Musa (AS) turned around and sat back under the
shade of a tree. He didn’t chat unnecessarily with the
girls, nor did they stay behind to chat with him.
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
اَمهَل ىَقَسَف
15. Musa is Repaid for his Kindness
Moments later, P. Musa saw one of the girls walking towards him.
Allah describes the way the girl walked “with modesty” This is an
example of how men and women should interact with one another.
“My dad invites you to our house
to thank you for your help.”
ِشْمََ اَماهَدْحِإ هََْءآَجَف
ى
آءَيْحَِْسا ىَلَع
َرْجَأ َكَي ِ
زْجَيِل َوكْعدَي ىِبَأ َّنِإ ْتَلاَق
َانَل َْتيَقَس اَم
We saw a strong man and he helped us and
he was so modest he didn't even look at us
and barely said anything.
م َ
ََّلسٱل ِهْيَلَع
The girls’ father had noticed that they had
returned from the well much faster than usual.
The girl’s had told their father what happened
and He was impressed by P. Musa’s modesty.
That is why he invited him to their home, and
later invited him to marry one of his daughters.
16. Protective Islamic Guidelines
● Lower your Gaze
● Dress Modestly, walk and talk with modesty
● No khalwa (being alone)
● No flirting
● No perfume
● No Emails, texting or calling except in a professional, respectful manner.
● Note: Once you are attracted to the opposite gender, (reach puberty) you become
responsible for your actions. Islamically you are treated like an adult weather you are 50
or 15 years old.
These rules are
the same for both
married and non-
married Muslims
17. Allah’s Rules are for our Benefit
All the rules Allah has placed, are there to protect us from
falling into a large sin, which is comitting zina (adultery).
We will discuss the (emotional/medical/societal) ill-effects of zina
in the following sessions.
The laws of Islam are there like guard rails.
Living with them is like living in a gated community.
It keeps the good in, the keeps the bad out.
