Luqman the wise gave his son advice in the Holy Qurn in Surat Luqman. This powerpoint discusses his advice on being good to parents (Birul Walidayn)

1. Created by: Banan Mahmaljy Obeid
Lessons from the Story of
Luqman The Wise- Part 2

2. ADVICE #2:
‫َا‬‫ن‬ۡ‫ي‬َّ‫ص‬ َ‫و‬ َ‫و‬
ََ‫ن‬ََٰ‫س‬‫ن‬ِ ۡ
‫ٱۡل‬
َ
ِ‫ه‬ۡ‫ي‬َ‫د‬ِ‫ل‬ ََٰ‫و‬ِ‫ب‬
َ
‫ه‬ۡ‫ت‬َ‫ل‬َ‫م‬َ‫ح‬
‫ۥ‬‫ه‬ُّ‫م‬‫أ‬
َۡ‫ه‬ َ‫و‬
‫ا‬ً‫ن‬
ََٰ
‫ى‬َ‫ل‬َ‫ع‬
َ
‫ن‬ۡ‫ه‬ َ‫و‬
‫ۥ‬‫ه‬‫ل‬ ََٰ‫ص‬ِ‫ف‬ َ‫و‬
‫ي‬ِ‫ف‬
َِ‫ن‬ۡ‫ي‬َ‫م‬‫ا‬َ‫ع‬
َِ‫ن‬َ‫أ‬
َۡ
‫ر‬‫ك‬ۡ‫ٱش‬
‫ي‬ِ‫ل‬
ََ‫ك‬ۡ‫ي‬َ‫د‬ِ‫ل‬ ََٰ‫و‬ِ‫ل‬ َ‫و‬
َ
َّ‫ي‬َ‫ل‬ِ‫إ‬
َ
‫ير‬ ِ
‫ص‬َ‫م‬ۡ‫ٱل‬
Advice #1 was “Do not commit Shirk.
Right after Shirk, what would you think would be mentioned??
I’ll bet you didn’t think it would be : BE good to parents.
This is the only action in Islam that if you don’t do your BEST, it’s a sin.
You won’t get sins if your salah isn’t perfect.
You won’t get sins if you don’t read Quran perfectly.
You have to try to get better, but you’re not sinful…
However, not giving your parents
your best (IHSAN) IS a sin.

3. How do you react?
Talking back, smart responses, groaning, making faces,
not making eye contact, walking away while they’re
talking to you…
It doesn’t’ matter if they’re harsh.
It doesn’t matter if you feel they’re being unfair.
They’re your parents. That’s it. It’s an order from Allah.
TV programs show teens rolling their eyes, slamming
doors, threatening parents, stealing form them, cursing…
They complaining about their parents to their friends.
Speech & Body Language

4. You have no idea… You don’t realize what your parents went
through before you can remember.
She carried you for 9
months.. Pain, heaviness,
heartburn, nausea,
vomiting, being kicked in
her ribs…but still worrying,
making duaa, loving you
before she even saw you.
Then she went through the
pain of child birth, then
nursing.. then waking up 3, 4
times every night… then
changing diapers, then potty
training.
How many times were you sick
and they stayed up all night
rocking and taking care of you?
They couldn’t even enjoy
traveling or going out
because you gave them a
hard time when they took
you anywhere.

5. ● Then as you got older, she
took you to every Dr.
appointment, to and from
school and after school
activities, and Halaqat and
Quran class.
Don’t forget how your dad
works day and night to
provide halal food and a
place to live and
pay for your education and
your clothes and take you
on vacation.
When you get older, he
pays for your car and your
college, and he never gives
you a bill, charging you for
all the expenses.

6. Having good Muslim parents is a blessing.
Many kids have parents who are drunks, or parents who work day and night.
Parents who stay out all night partying and leave the kids at home to fend for
themselves.
Parents who leave their kids with no food, and a dirty house.
Other kids were completely abandoned by their parents and live in orphanages.
Don’t take it for granted

7. Do you ever think about
how they feel?
How do you know they’re not pretending to be OK, but
they’re crying at night because of you?
How do you know they’re not pretending to be OK, but
they can’t sleep at night because they’re worried about
your grades or your future..?
When you were little, you were
their whole World. And now that
you’re more independent, you don’t
sit with them, talk to them….
Their worries over you NEVER
end… Being a parent never
stops!! You can never pay them
back what they’ve done.
Will you pray?
Will you do well in
school?
Will you marry
a good person?
Will you have
healthy kids?

8. The Dying Sahabi…
A Sahabi was ill and was dying and the sahaba was next to him, and they kept
telling him- “Say la illaha illAllah”, and he couldn’t… Bilal went to the Prophet and
told him what was happening.
So the prophet said- Bring me his mother
.
How is your son??
Prays and fasts a lot I’m not asking how he is
with Allah. How is he with
you?
I am not happy with him

9. So the Prophet went back to the Sahabi’s house
and as he approached, he could hear him saying:
“La illah illah Allah” and he passed away.
He is going to be
punished with the fire.
NO, no, I forgive him… I want the
highest place in jenna for him.

10. Sahabi Story
Abdullah ibn Amr narrates that a man came to Rasulullah
to accept Islam and he had left his parents in a condition
which they were crying because of him.
So the Prophet (S) told him:
We learn from this incident that making the parents
happy is equal to making Allah happy and making the
parents displeased is equal to making the parents
displeased.
Go back and make
them laugh just as you
have made them cry.

11. When is it OK to disobey them?
It is narrated that Sa`d bin Abi Waqqaas was
very good to his mother.
But when he accepted Islam his mother said:
We learn from this incident that if our
parents tell us to disobey Allah and the
Prophet, then we must not obey them.
O my mother, if you had a hundred lives
and you were to give up each life, one
by one,I wouldn’t leave this deen. So if
you want, then starve yourself, and if
you want then eat.
What is this that you have done?! If
you don’t leave this religion, I swear I
won’t eat or drink anything until I die!
Then everyone will say you killed
your mother.
O my mother! Please don’t
do this - I won’t leave Islam
for anything.
His mother saw that he will
not turn away from Islam, so
she left her hunger strike.
His mother didn’t eat
for 2 days and
became very weak.
Saad told her:

12. The Story of the Cave…
Once, there were 3 men traveling when it began to rain heavily. They took shelter
in a cave. A large stone came hurtling down and blocked the opening of the cave.
The travelers lost hope of survival. One of them told the rest not to lose hope and
pray to Allah by describing the best good deed they had ever done.
One man said:
I had old parents and several small children.
When I would come home after milking the goats,
I would first offer the milk to my old parents and
then to my children. Once, I came home late and
my parents were asleep.. Not wanting to disturb
them, I stood next to them all night wanting to
give them milk when they woke up.
Allah was pleased with the act of this
man and the stone moved a little.
Similarly, after the other two related
their tales, the stone was fully moved
and they were able to come out of the
cave.

13. The Prophet and his Mother
Years after the Prophet lived in Medina and Islam grew strong, the Prophet
saw an elderly woman staring at him- smiling, with love in her eyes.
He asked the Sahaba – Who is that woman?
They replied: Halima, the woman who nursed you
The Prophet cried out:
Umee! Umee!... Leave me to sit alone with mother.
He took off his Ridaa, placed it on the ground, and sat with his mother, talking for hours.
Look at the loyalty he had for a woman who he did not even recognize or remember.
He was grateful to this woman who nursed him when he was a baby.
Are we grateful to the parents who care for us ever single day?

14. Patience w/Elderly
Parents
I was at the mall, and a lady was with her mom and she
was old and she was pushing her in a wheelchair and her
mom was asking her for something and the daughter said:
“Mom, shut up! If you don’t stop, I’m gonna take you
home and leave you there!”
When she was a baby and needed her mom, she
took care of her, and now that the tables are
turned, she showed her mother no mercy.
Allah said – even
saying “OOF” is
haram, and it’s not
even a word. It’s
just a sound.
ََ‫ر‬َ‫ب‬ِ‫ك‬ْ‫َٱل‬َ‫َك‬‫د‬‫ن‬ِ‫ع‬ََّ‫َن‬‫غ‬‫ْل‬‫ب‬َ‫ي‬َ‫ا‬َّ‫م‬ِ‫إ‬
َ
َ‫ف‬َ‫ا‬َ‫م‬‫ه‬ َ
‫َل‬ِ‫ك‬َ ْ‫و‬َ‫َأ‬ٓ‫ا‬َ‫م‬‫ه‬‫د‬َ‫ح‬َ‫أ‬
َ َ
‫َل‬
َْ‫ر‬َ‫ه‬ْ‫ن‬َ‫ت‬َ َ
‫َل‬ َ‫َو‬ ٍّۢ
‫ف‬‫َأ‬ٓ‫ا‬َ‫م‬‫ه‬َّ‫لَل‬‫َق‬‫ت‬
َ
َ‫ك‬َ ‫ا‬ً
‫َل‬ ْ‫و‬َ‫ق‬َ‫ا‬َ‫م‬‫ه‬َّ‫لَل‬‫ق‬ َ‫اَو‬َ‫م‬‫ه‬
‫ا‬ ‫ًا‬‫م‬‫ي‬ ِ
‫ر‬
If one or both of them reach old age in
your care, never say to them ˹even˺ ‘oof,’
nor yell at them. Speak to them
respectfully.

15. Payback…
A Sahabi had an elderly mother and he carried her on his
back in Hajj… He took her all the way from Medina on foot,
3 weeks journey to bring her to do her farida.
Oh abdullah I did all this for my mother, have I paid her
back for all she’s done for me?
He replied: You havan’t even paid her back for one
contraction.

16. Non muslims place their parents in nursing
homes because they don’t want to deal with
caring for them…
My story about visiting the nursing home
As Muslims, we understand that if we are lucky
enough that our parents live to old age and we
care for them, that’s a blessing in our home and
gate from which to enter Jenna.

17. Imagine if they were gone..
We take our parents for granted but think for a moment about the kids in
Palestine who are burying their parents as we speak… Appreciate that Allah
gave you parents.- someone to go home to, someone to take care of you…
If you want Allah to show YOU mercy, you better show THEM mercy.
A famous sahabi lost his father:
I’m not just crying because my father
died. I’m crying because my easiest
door to Jannah has just closed.
Even after our parents pass away, we have a
responsibility to them, and that is to make duaa
for them, and to treat their friends kindly.