Bereavement ( Due to the death of someone close to us )
Is the most severe stressor imaginable
It is a time of overwhelming emotions.
Can be profoundly painful and distressing.
Brings a high risk of mental and physical health problems for a long time
Normal reaction in every culture across the world.
If ooccasionally aware in advance about someone's certain end of his/ her life then the experience of grieving partly begins before their death occurs.
Despite these feelings it may be possible to plan ahead for this difficult time which
Can help reduce the complications in the
First hours and days of bereavement, and
Later as you struggle to carry on.
Can be comforting because you are able just to cope with the circumstances without the added pressure to “get yourself together” and sort things out
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bereavement and grief in old age!
-stages of grief and bereavement
-symptoms of grief and bereavement
-types of reactions
-factors affecting grief and bereavement
-coping with grief and bereavement
-how to support others
The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.
this presentation tells us about the Terminal illness. the stages in grieving both of the patient and their family is explained in it. This presentation also gives us tips to cope up with grief. this presentation is from the perspective of a counselor and tells us how counselling helps the terminally ill person to recover.
Understanding suicide and Crisis Intervention Muskan Hossain
Defining Suicide
Suicidal Ideation
Suicidal Ideation in Young Children
SUICIDE INTENT SCALE
Psychology and Psychopathology of Suicide
NEUROBIOLOGICAL PATHWAYS LINKED TO SUICIDE RISK
MIND OF A SUICIDAL PERSON
The Media Presentation of Suicide
Case Studies
Prevention of Suicide
Prevention of Suicidal Ideation
Crisis Intervention Of Suicide
Treatment of Suicidal Ideation
World Suicide Prevention Day
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bereavement and grief in old age!
-stages of grief and bereavement
-symptoms of grief and bereavement
-types of reactions
-factors affecting grief and bereavement
-coping with grief and bereavement
-how to support others
The five stages, denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.
this presentation tells us about the Terminal illness. the stages in grieving both of the patient and their family is explained in it. This presentation also gives us tips to cope up with grief. this presentation is from the perspective of a counselor and tells us how counselling helps the terminally ill person to recover.
Philosophy is quite unlike any other field. It is unique both in its methods and in the nature and breadth of its subject matter. Philosophy pursues questions in every dimension of human life, and its techniques apply to problems in any field of study or endeavor.
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When a co-worker dies her death impacts his/her co-workers both on a personal and professional level. For those working in a more traditional work place, colleagues feel the loss on a daily basis, as they face an empty desk or office. What's normal and what's not? How do you interact with everyone again? These and other challenges are explored here by Speaker and Coach, Faith Wood, CSP.
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In this session, you will be learning about Judgements.
By judging ourselves we ignore the endless complexity of a situation. Judgments can be directed inwards to our own feelings and outwards to other people.
Judgement means we focus on only one half of the coin good or bad
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Leaders are often faced with ethical conundrums(a confusing and difficult problem or question). So how can they determine when they’re inching toward dangerous territory? There are three main psychological dynamics that lead to crossing moral lines.
There’s omnipotence: when someone feels so aggrandized and entitled that they believe the rules of decent behavior don’t apply to them.
Consider cultural numbness: when others play along and gradually begin to accept and embody deviant norms.
Finally, when people don’t speak up because they are thinking of more immediate rewards, we see justified neglect.
Generally most people mean well, but simply execute their job poorly sometimes and sometimes, there are BAD bosses. We must learn “to Work "on Bad Boss
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Two biggest issues of Bad Boss are:
They can negatively impact our work performance.
They can make life miserable
We often hear “being difficult.” about Bad Boss. It’s hard to know exactly where the difficulty lie. All we know is it is difficult to work successfully with this person.
An incompetent person is someone who is
Functionally inadequate or
Insufficient in Knowledge, Skills, Judgment, or Strength
Mindset is a mental attitude that determines how we interpret and respond to situations.
Dweck has found that it is your mindset that plays a significant role in determining achievement and success.
A mindset refers to whether you believe qualities such as intelligence and talent are fixed or changeable traits.
People with a fixed mindset believe that these qualities are inborn, fixed, and unchangeable.
Those with a growth mindset, on the other hand, believe that these abilities can be developed and strengthened by way of commitment and hard work.
Story of Katalin Karikó, a researcher who won the Nobel prize for medicine for her work on modifying the RNA molecule to avoid triggering a harmful immune response is a classical example of mindset.
Yet, her life was full of rejection and doubt.
Her achievement had much to do with her mindset.
A theory is a based upon a hypothesis and backed by evidence.
A theory presents a concept or idea that is testable.
In science, a theory is not merely a guess.
A theory is a fact-based framework for describing a phenomenon.
In psychology, theories are used to provide a model for understanding human thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
Hence study of Psychology theory is essential for SSB and all types of Interviewas it helps us to understand our own developmental psychology.k
Personality theorists should study normal individuals
All behavior is interactive
The person must be studied in terms of interactions with their environment
The brain is the locus of personality
There is a biological basis to personality
Definition of Personality
1- Personality is an abstraction formulated by a theorist.
2- It refers to series of events that ideally span over life time from childhood to adulthood
3-It reflects novel, unique, recurrent and enduring patterns of behaviours – his education and training .
4- Personality is located in brain- imagination, perception
5.Personality comprises the person’s central organizing and governing processes, whose function is to
Resolve conflicts,
Satisfy needs, and
Plan for future goals.
” Emotions are complex psychological states involving three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioral or expressive response”
"Discovering Psychology," by Don Hockenbury and Sandra E. Hockenbury
In 1972, psychologist Paul Ekman suggested that there are six basic emotions that are universal throughout human cultures: fear, disgust, anger, surprise, joy, and sadness.
In the 1980s, Robert Plutchik introduced another emotion classification system known as the wheel of emotions. This model demonstrated how different emotions can be combined or mixed together, much like the way an artist mixes primary colors to create other colors.
Plutchik proposed eight primary emotional dimensions: joy vs. sadness, anger vs. fear, trust vs. disgust, and surprise vs. anticipation.
These emotions can then be combined to create others, such as happiness + anticipation = excitement.
In 1999, Ekman expanded his list to include a number of other basic emotions, including embarrassment, excitement, contempt, shame, pride, satisfaction, and amusement
Anger is an intense emotion you feel when
Something has gone wrong or
Someone has wronged you.
It is typically characterized by feelings of
Stress,
Frustration, and
Irritation.
Anger is a perfectly normal response to frustrating or difficult situations.
Anger only becomes a problem when
It’s excessively displayed and
Begins to affect your daily functioning and the way you relate with people.
Anger can range in intensity, from a slight annoyance to rage.
It can sometimes be excessive or irrational.
In these cases, it can be hard to keep the emotion in check and could cause you to behave in ways you wouldn’t otherwise behave.
Cognitive distortions are
Negative or irrational patterns of thinking.
Simply ways that Impostor Syndrome convinces us to believe things that aren’t really true.
Inaccurate thought patterns that
Reinforce our negative self perception and
Keep us feeling bad about ourselves
These negative thought patterns can play a role in
Diminishing our motivation,
Lowering our self-esteem
Contributing to problems like
Anxiety,
Depression, and
Substance use.
Trauma Bonding is the attachment an abused person feels for their abuser, specifically in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse.
Is created due to a cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement
After each circumstance of abuse, the abuser professes love, regret, and trying to make the relationship feel safe and needed for the abused person.
Hence Abused
Finds leaving an abusive situation confusing and overwhelming
Involves positive and/or loving feelings for an abuser
Also feel attached to and dependent on their abuser.
Emotional abuse involves controlling another person by using emotions to Criticize , Embarrass ,Shame ,Blame or
Manipulate .
To be abusive there must be a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviours that Wear down a person’s Self-esteem and Undermine Their mental health.
Most common in married relationships,
Mental or emotional abuse can occur in any relationship—including among
Friends
Family members and
Co-workers
Attachment-related patterns that differ between individuals are commonly called "attachment styles."
There seems to be an association between a person’s attachment characteristics early in life and in adulthood, but the correlations are far from perfect.
Many adults feel secure in their relationships and comfortable depending on others (echoing “secure” attachment in children).
Others tend to feel anxious about their connection with close others—or prefer to avoid getting close to them in the first place (echoing “insecure” attachment in children).
Borderline personality disorder, characterized by a longing for intimacy and a hypersensitivity to rejection, have shown a high prevalence and severity of insecure attachment.
Attachment styles in adulthood (similar to attachment patterns in children):
Secure
Anxious-preoccupied (high anxiety, low avoidance)
Dismissing-avoidant (low anxiety, high avoidance)
Fearful-avoidant (high anxiety, high avoidance)
Conduct disorder is an ongoing pattern of behaviour marked by emotional and behavioural problems.
Ways in which Children with conduct disorder behave are
Angry,
Aggressive,
Argumentative, and
Disruptive ways.
It is a diagnosable mental health condition that is characterized by patterns of violating
Societal norms and
Rights of others
It's estimated that around 3% of school-aged children have conduct disorder and require professional treatment .
It is more common in boys than in girls.
Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a psychiatric disorder that typically emerges in childhood, between ages 6 and 8, and can last throughout adulthood.
ODD is more than just normal childhood tantrums
Frequency and severity of ODD causes difficulty at home and at school.
Children with ODD also struggle with learning problems related to their behavior.
Two types of oppositional defiant disorder:
Childhood-onset ODD:
Present from an early age
Requires early intervention and treatment to prevent it from progressing into a more serious conduct disorder
Adolescent-onset ODD:
Begins suddenly in the middle- and high-school years, causing conflict at home and in school
There have been at least 13 different types of intelligence that have been identified so far.
These different ways of being smart can help people perform in different areas from their personal life, business, to sports and relationships.
Attachment is an emotional bond with another person. John Bowlby described attachment as a "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.“
Earliest bonds formed by children (with caregivers) have a tremendous impact that continues throughout life and Attachment so developed
Serves to keep the infant close to the mother, thus improving the child's chances of survival.
Are innate drive Children are born with and is a product of evolutionary processes
Emerges and are regulated through the process of natural selection,
Are characterized by clear behavioural and motivation patterns.
Nurturance and responsiveness were the primary determinants of attachment.
Children who maintained proximity to an attachment figure were more likely to
Receive comfort and protection, and
More likely to survive to adulthood.
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Transfer (DBT) programs across the country. The digital e-voucher platform can also
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2. Bereavement Symptoms By Steve Bressert, Ph.D.
Bereavement ( Due to the death of someone close to us )
Is the most severe stressor imaginable
It is a time of overwhelming emotions.
Can be profoundly painful and distressing.
Brings a high risk of mental and physical health problems for a long
time
Normal reaction in every culture across the world.
If ooccasionally aware in advance about someone's certain end of
his/ her life then the experience of grieving partly begins before their
death occurs.
Despite these feelings it may be possible to plan ahead for this difficult
time which
Can help reduce the complications in the
First hours and days of bereavement, and
Later as you struggle to carry on.
Can be comforting because you are able just to cope with the
circumstances without the added pressure to “get yourself together”
and sort things out.
Build a network of caring people. Family friends, neighbors,
colleagues and strangers in a self-help group who have “been there”
can give support.
3. Bereavement Symptoms By Steve Bressert, Ph.D.
Look after yourself physically. Try to eat well and get plenty of rest in
spite of
Difficulty getting to sleep,
Disturbed sleep by vivid dreams and long periods of wakefulness.
Losing your appetite,
Feeling tense and short of breath, or
Feeling drained and lethargic. Don’t try to do too much.
Take time off work or at least delegating some of your workload to a
colleague.
Gather information on the financial and legal aspects of bereavement in
advance, so you feel less overwhelmed.
Prepare children by explaining the situation and how they are likely
to feel at the time of the death and afterward.
Warn them if any practical arrangements are going to change.
Think about solace provider /counselor in case something happens
Emotionally they get used to the idea of the loss gradually, in fits and
starts.
Helps one to get used to the reality of the death and work through
some of the pain.
Let them imagine life after the loss, with the person in your thoughts
and memories.
4. Bereavement Symptoms By Steve Bressert, Ph.D.
Prepare children by explaining the situation ….loss is different.
Each culture has evolved their own process and system to reduce the
pain of loss of near and dear ones and also to allow some time period
for rituals to distract the individuals from pain.
This also helps each person to develop own coping mechanism to
forget or reduce the torment feeling
12 days Shradh ceremony in Hindus followed by Barkhi after 1 year
Chautha in Sikhs and Punjabis
Supurde Khak in Muslims
Cremation and Church meetings in Christianity
But if it lasts for a very significant period of time and significantly
impacts the person’s life the there is a need to be cautious check for
clinical depression
Symptoms may be
Feelings of sadness and associated symptoms such as
Insomnia,
Poor appetite
Anorexia , and
Weight loss are its indicator.
5. Bereavement Symptoms By Steve Bressert, Ph.D.
Prepare children by explaining the situation
…Weight loss are its indicator.
Certain symptoms as under may indicate major
depressive episode.
Guilt about things other than actions taken or not
taken by the survivor at the time of the death;
Thoughts of death other than the survivor feeling that
he or she would be better off dead or should have
died with the deceased person;
Morbid preoccupation with worthlessness;
Significant psychomotor retardation (e.g., it’s hard to
get moving, and what movements there are slow);
Prolonged and serious functional impairment; and
Hallucinatory experiences other than thinking-
Hearing of voice/ transiently image of, the deceased
person
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9. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s five stages of grief after the loss of a loved one
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross suggests that we go through five distinct
stages of grief after the loss of a loved one:
Denial,
Anger,
Bargaining,
Depression, and
Acceptance.
The first stage in this theory, denial can help us to minimize the
overwhelming pain of loss.
As we process the reality of our loss, we are also trying to survive
emotional pain.
It can take our minds some time to adjust to this new reality.
Denial is not only an attempt to pretend that the loss does not exist
but also to try to absorb and understand what is happening.
We are reflecting on experiences we have shared with the person
we lost, and we might find ourselves wondering how to move forward
in life without this person.
This is a lot of information to explore and a lot of painful imagery to
process.
10. 1.DENIAL
Denial is the first of the five stages of grief.
Physical and mental status/effect of grief at 1st stage(Denial)
World becomes meaningless and overwhelming.
Life makes no sense.
Are in a state of shock and denial.
Tendency to go numb.
Wonder how we can go on, if we can go on, why we should go on.
We try to find a way to simply get through each day.
How does Denial help us to cope with grief
There is a grace in denial
It helps us to survive the loss.
Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible.
Denial helps us to pace our feelings of grief. .
It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle.
As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself
questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process.
You are becoming stronger, and the denial is beginning to fade.
But as you proceed, all the feelings you were denying begin to
surface.
11. 2. ANGER
Anger is a necessary stage of the healing process.
At first grief feels like being lost at sea: no connection to anything.
There are many other emotions under the anger and you will get to them in
time, but anger is the emotion we are most used to managing.
We know more about suppressing anger than feeling it.
The anger is just another indication of the intensity of your love.
Then you get angry at someone,
Maybe a person who didn’t attend the funeral,
Maybe a person who isn’t around when you needed them
Maybe a person who is different now that your loved one has died.
May even be friends, the doctors, your family, yourself and your loved
one who died and even God.
Suddenly you have a structure – – your anger toward them.
The anger becomes a bridge over the open sea
We must hold onto to anger, feel it and grief will start dissipating
,you will heal and will feel better
Anger is strength and it can be an anchor, giving temporary structure to
the nothingness of loss.
12. 3.BARGAINING
It is common to feel desperate when faced with loss of loved that one is
willing to do almost anything to alleviate or minimize the pain.
Bargaining can come in a variety of promises including:
"I promise to be better if you will let this person live."
"God, if you can heal this person I will turn my life around."
"I'll never get angry again if you can stop him/her from dying or leaving
me."
When bargaining starts, we are often directing our requests to a higher
power, or something bigger than we are that may be able to influence a
different outcome.
There is an acute awareness of our humanness when we realize there is
nothing we can do to influence change or a better outcome.
This feeling of helplessness can cause us to react in protest by
bargaining, which gives us a perceived sense of control over something
that feels so out of control.
13. 3.BARGAINING….
While bargaining we also tend to focus on our personal faults or regrets.
We may note all of the times we felt disconnected or may have caused
them pain.
May recall times when we may have said things we did not mean, and
wish we could go back and behave differently.
We may also assume that if things had played out differently, we would not
be in such an emotionally painful place in our lives.
Guilt is often bargaining’s companion. The “if onlys” cause us to find fault
in ourselves and what we “think” we could have done differently.
We may even bargain with the pain.
We will do anything not to feel the pain of this loss.
We remain in the past, trying to negotiate our way out of the hurt.
14. 4.DEPRESSION
This is inevitable for all people who experience a significant loss.
This can be the hardest and longest-lasting stage, with the most physical
symptoms.
In this stage, we have to work through painful memories and start
coping with the changes in our life resulting from the loss.
During our experience of processing grief, there comes a time
when our imaginations calm down and
we slowly start to look at the reality of our present situation.
Bargaining no longer feels like an option and we are faced with what is
happening.
We tend to pull inward as the sadness grows.
We might find ourselves retreating,
being less sociable, and
reaching out less to others about what we are going through. Although this
is a very natural stage of grief, dealing with depression after the loss of a
loved one can be extremely isolating.
If grief is a process of healing, then depression is one of the many necessary
steps along the way.
15. 5.ACCEPTANCE
This stage is about accepting the reality that our loved one is physically gone
and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality.
It is not that we no longer feel the pain of loss and learn to live with it.
But we are no longer resisting the reality of our situation, and we are not
struggling to make it something different.
Sadness and regret can still be present in this phase,
But the emotional survival tactics of denial, bargaining, and anger are less
likely to be present.
We must learn to reorganize roles, re-assign them to others or take them on
ourselves.
Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad ones.
We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new
connections, new meaningful relationships, new inter-dependencies.
Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change,
we grow, we evolve.
We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourselves.
We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.
16. Types of Grief
People grieve differently and may or may not go through each of
these stages, or experience each of them in order.
The lines of these stages are often blurred—we may move from
one stage to the other and possibly back again before fully
moving into a new stage.
There is no specific time period suggested for any of these stages.
Someone may experience the stages fairly quickly like weeks, where
another person may take months or even years to move through to a
place of acceptance.
Whatever time it takes for you to move through these stages is
perfectly normal.
Your pain is unique to you, your relationship to the person you lost is
unique, and the emotional processing can feel different to each person.
17. Additional Models
Attachment Theory and Grief
Legendary psychologist John Bowlby focused his work on researching
the emotional attachment between parent and child.
Early experiences of attachment with important people in our lives,
such as caregivers, help to shape our sense of safety, security,
and connections.
Colin Murray Parkes developed a model of grief based on Bowlby's
theory of attachment, suggesting there are four phases of mourning
when experiencing the loss of a loved one:
Shock and Numbness. Loss in this phase feels impossible to accept.
Most closely related to Kübler-Ross's stage of denial.
We are overwhelmed when trying to cope with our emotions.
He suggested that there is physical distress experienced in this
phase , which can lead to somatic (physical) symptoms.
18. Additional Models
Yearning and Searching. We may begin to look for comfort to fill the void
our loved one has left.
We may do so by reliving memories through pictures and by looking for
signs from the person to feel connected to them.
We become very preoccupied with the person we have lost.
Despair and Disorganization. We may find ourselves questioning and feeling
angry in this phase.
The realization that our loved one is not returning feels real, and we can
have a difficult time understanding or finding hope in our future.
We may feel a bit aimless in this phase and find that we retreat from others
as we process our pain.
Reorganization and Recovery. As we move into this phase, our life feels more
hopeful.
We may begin to feel like our hearts and minds can be restored.
As with Kübler-Ross's acceptance stage, this phase of reorganization and
recovery does not mean that we will not still feel sadness or longing for our
loved one.
This phase offers us a place of healing and reconnecting with important
people in our lives for support.
19. How to Help
Avoid Rescuing or Fixing
It can be so difficult to know what to say to someone who has
experienced loss.
We do our best to offer comfort, but sometimes our best efforts can
feel inadequate and unhelpful.
Remember is that the person who is grieving does not need to be
fixed.
Avoid rescuing people from their pain .
Avoid uplifting, hopeful comments or even try to offer them humor to
help ease their pain.
Although the intention is positive, this approach can leave people
feeling as if their pain is not seen, heard, or valid.
Don't Force It
Don’t force people to talk about their pain when they are not ready.
Don’t nudge them to talk and process their emotions
It can actually be an obstacle to their healing.
20. How to Help
Make Yourself Accessible
One of the most helpful things we can do is to offer space for people to
grieve.
In doing this, we are letting the person know that we are available
and accessible when they are ready to talk.
We can invite them to talk with us, but remember to provide
understanding and validation if they are not ready to talk just yet.
At that point, you can remind them that you are available when they
feel ready and not to hesitate to come to you.
A Word From Verywell
It is important to remember that everyone copes with loss differently.
While you may find that you experience all five stages of grief, you may also
find that it is difficult to classify your feelings into any one of the stages.
Have patience with yourself and your feelings in dealing with loss.
Allow yourself time to process all of your emotions, and when you are ready to
speak about your experiences with loved ones or a healthcare professional, do
so.