Self-Care: Belongingness, Boundaries and Healthy Relationships in Pastoral ...Celia Munson, BCCC
This presentation is primarily for pastoral care or clinical chaplaincy trainees in terms of self-care. This is based on the hopefully self-evident point that caregivers need to be holistically healthy to be able to help others.
A very introductory look at Christian Counseling as a pastoral care discipline, with some general principles that are good for the potential counselor to embrace, or at least reflect on, to be effective in counseling.
A look at the topic of Grief and Loss and how one can minister to those in the grieving process. While it is somewhat broad-based, most of the presentation is for a Christian ministry to those who have recently lossed a loved one.
An overview of a number of methods for theological reflection-- especially in bringing together Scripture and faith tradition with personal experience. Much draws from Judith Thompson's book, "SCM Guidebook to Theological Reflection" by Judith Thompson (2016).
Self-Care: Belongingness, Boundaries and Healthy Relationships in Pastoral ...Celia Munson, BCCC
This presentation is primarily for pastoral care or clinical chaplaincy trainees in terms of self-care. This is based on the hopefully self-evident point that caregivers need to be holistically healthy to be able to help others.
A very introductory look at Christian Counseling as a pastoral care discipline, with some general principles that are good for the potential counselor to embrace, or at least reflect on, to be effective in counseling.
A look at the topic of Grief and Loss and how one can minister to those in the grieving process. While it is somewhat broad-based, most of the presentation is for a Christian ministry to those who have recently lossed a loved one.
An overview of a number of methods for theological reflection-- especially in bringing together Scripture and faith tradition with personal experience. Much draws from Judith Thompson's book, "SCM Guidebook to Theological Reflection" by Judith Thompson (2016).
Look at different models of christian counseling, pastoral care, and coaching... with special attention to the perspectives regarding goal (repair versus growth) and relationship between theology and psychology.
A modified version of Paul Pruysers 7 benchmarks for pastoral diagnosis. Provides guidelines for pastoral care, either for single visit or longer term process.
Reviews some basic principles of pastoral caounseling in terms of intracultural and intercultural counseling. This is tied into principles of cultural anthropology and interreligious dialogue.
Journeying with Students into Healthy Relationships & SexualityMatthew Martin
WHO: youth pastors, youth workers, and campus leaders
WHAT: We'll will explore why and how teens and young adults are struggling with relationships and sexuality, and how as leaders we can journey with them towards greater wholeness and godliness.
TOPICS
• How and why teens struggle emotionally, relationally and sexually
• What's required for healthy relationships and sexuality?
• Addictive behaviour and relationships, strategies for pursuing health and freedom
• Understanding sexual identity and how to help same-sex attracted teens
• Making your youth group a safer place for hurting teens
• The River: components of a curriculum for Christ-centred healing and wholeness
Some of the values of taking Clinical Pastoral Education. The focus is on our CPSP and CPSP-Philippines certified CPE program at Bukal LIfe Care, but most of the reasons apply to CPE programs all over the world.
Looks at different ways of looking at Pastoral Counseling in terms of such things a coaching, discipleship, mentoring, spiritual direction, and historical and clinical pastoral care.
Equally Yoked - Biblical counseling - Liberal Arts - HumanitiesJohnNevinsAndrews1874
Equallyoked - Biblical Counseling is About the Bible bases of premarital mate selection. It is to be used in Liberal Arts Colleges and may be used for the Lay Ministries for Humanitarian work. Christ centered counseling and advising of the lay members.
Broad based training for church counsellors. Defines Christian Counselling and task of Counsellors. Effective training for Deacons, Christian educators and lay ministers.
A Catholic Examination of Conscience based on St. Ignatius' Spiritual Exercises. May be used in preparation for the Sacrament of Reconciliation; includes meditations from Archbishop Fulton Sheen. Covers the Ten Commandments, the Seven Deadly Sins, the Nine Sins of Cooperation, the Seven Precepts of the Church, the Spirtual Works of Mercy and the Corporal Works of mercy.
This part explains how to maintain healthy intimate relationships based on the principles outlined in the book "The 7 Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly.
In part-4 of this series we discuss the importance of developing healthy and meaningful communication between husband and wife. We discuss practical ways to do this and remind ourselves about the power and affect of our words. We also discuss some specific areas on managing your home.
For sermon audio, notes, slides, archives and other free resources like books, please visit our website - apcwo.org
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Look at different models of christian counseling, pastoral care, and coaching... with special attention to the perspectives regarding goal (repair versus growth) and relationship between theology and psychology.
A modified version of Paul Pruysers 7 benchmarks for pastoral diagnosis. Provides guidelines for pastoral care, either for single visit or longer term process.
Reviews some basic principles of pastoral caounseling in terms of intracultural and intercultural counseling. This is tied into principles of cultural anthropology and interreligious dialogue.
Journeying with Students into Healthy Relationships & SexualityMatthew Martin
WHO: youth pastors, youth workers, and campus leaders
WHAT: We'll will explore why and how teens and young adults are struggling with relationships and sexuality, and how as leaders we can journey with them towards greater wholeness and godliness.
TOPICS
• How and why teens struggle emotionally, relationally and sexually
• What's required for healthy relationships and sexuality?
• Addictive behaviour and relationships, strategies for pursuing health and freedom
• Understanding sexual identity and how to help same-sex attracted teens
• Making your youth group a safer place for hurting teens
• The River: components of a curriculum for Christ-centred healing and wholeness
Some of the values of taking Clinical Pastoral Education. The focus is on our CPSP and CPSP-Philippines certified CPE program at Bukal LIfe Care, but most of the reasons apply to CPE programs all over the world.
Looks at different ways of looking at Pastoral Counseling in terms of such things a coaching, discipleship, mentoring, spiritual direction, and historical and clinical pastoral care.
Equally Yoked - Biblical counseling - Liberal Arts - HumanitiesJohnNevinsAndrews1874
Equallyoked - Biblical Counseling is About the Bible bases of premarital mate selection. It is to be used in Liberal Arts Colleges and may be used for the Lay Ministries for Humanitarian work. Christ centered counseling and advising of the lay members.
Broad based training for church counsellors. Defines Christian Counselling and task of Counsellors. Effective training for Deacons, Christian educators and lay ministers.
A Catholic Examination of Conscience based on St. Ignatius' Spiritual Exercises. May be used in preparation for the Sacrament of Reconciliation; includes meditations from Archbishop Fulton Sheen. Covers the Ten Commandments, the Seven Deadly Sins, the Nine Sins of Cooperation, the Seven Precepts of the Church, the Spirtual Works of Mercy and the Corporal Works of mercy.
This part explains how to maintain healthy intimate relationships based on the principles outlined in the book "The 7 Levels of Intimacy" by Matthew Kelly.
In part-4 of this series we discuss the importance of developing healthy and meaningful communication between husband and wife. We discuss practical ways to do this and remind ourselves about the power and affect of our words. We also discuss some specific areas on managing your home.
For sermon audio, notes, slides, archives and other free resources like books, please visit our website - apcwo.org
#APCBangalore
Together is Better: Effective CommunicationJuliet Thomas
God is the ultimate and divine authority on marriage. Marriage relations is something much deeper than either human convenience or social convention. . God’s ultimate purpose in marriage is that the couple should “become “one flesh” Genesis 2:22-24. Yet marriage is more than just a physical union.
Going beyond merely the physical relationship, the apostle Paul revealed marriage as a type of an even greater spiritual relationship. The union of a husband and wife requires a certain level of sacrifice and service for it to work well. Yes there is a divine purpose for building a happy or happier marriage. Knowing that purpose can help us rise above the petty differences so common to matrimony.
However, modern societies have unknowingly redefined the institution of marriage through the media. In the name of entertainment and profits, media have encouraged the incremental dissolution of the marriage union with impunity. Movies encourage infidelity and amorality while television sitcoms bathe our children in the notion that marriage is irrelevant. What matters most, they are essentially taught, is instant gratification.
In this context of broken families “Together is Better” is a series of Power Points that reestablish the integrity and sanctity of the marriage bond, the highest relationship that men and women can experience.
We learn to rise above petty, irritating differences to reach our goal of Maturity and Unity.
. As we share Truth between us....
We grow up…. into Maturity
We grow together…. into Unity
This Power point is about how we can maintain Effective Communication that builds marriage. One of the important factors to recognize is that 'communication is just not the words we say, but also the non-verbal 'body language' we use. In fact words are only about 7 % of the message conveyed.
We also see in this Ppt that Communication is not only Talking but it also involves empathetic listening.
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May this bless many of our readers to a healthier and happier marriage.
Slides for our first week of the Brave Communication: Keeping Our Love On class for Blazing Fire's World Changes Equipping School 2015-2016. The last slide will play the Brene Brown - RSA short animation "Empathy".
What to say to your friends who are considering divorce 1.1Kevin Karlson
A comprehensive overview of the research about what happens before, during, and after divorce and a focus on exploding the popular myths about marriage and divorce.
A state of calmness and security one feels in life because his or her faith/hope in God.
The ability to fight disquieting or oppressive thoughts that jeopardize your spiritual well being.
Maintaining harmony in personal relations with your family, friends and strangers.
THE RELEVANCE OF SPIRITUAL GROWTH GROUP DYNAMICS IN SPIRITUAL FORMATION OF GR...Celia Munson, BCCC
Small groups are diverse in the way they are done. Spiritual growth group dynamics is well matched with developing and challenging growing believers for genuine spiritual formation and transformation, leading to Christ- likeness. Effective use of spiritual growth group dynamics is a useful aid in developing mature believers who can effectively interact within the larger Christian community. Considering the problem that the church has had with spiritual formation of adults, groups utilizing the structure of growth groups and focus on spirituality should be a key part of the answer.
Looks at the near-universal phenomenon of "burnout" and focuses specifically as it applies to Christian ministry, as well as addressing this issue holistically.
This presentation takes the ideas of others and revisions them in terms of five major models of chaplaincy (although others are mentioned), based on five major Biblical roles-- Apostle, Deacon, Pastor, Prophet, and Priest.
Brief intro to the Bukal Life Care & Counseling Center, Baguio City, Philippines (and its partner, CPSP-Philippines). Seeking to provide holistic training and pastoral care/chaplaincy services.
Exploring the Mindfulness Understanding Its Benefits.pptxMartaLoveguard
Slide 1: Title: Exploring the Mindfulness: Understanding Its Benefits
Slide 2: Introduction to Mindfulness
Mindfulness, defined as the conscious, non-judgmental observation of the present moment, has deep roots in Buddhist meditation practice but has gained significant popularity in the Western world in recent years. In today's society, filled with distractions and constant stimuli, mindfulness offers a valuable tool for regaining inner peace and reconnecting with our true selves. By cultivating mindfulness, we can develop a heightened awareness of our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, leading to a greater sense of clarity and presence in our daily lives.
Slide 3: Benefits of Mindfulness for Mental Well-being
Practicing mindfulness can help reduce stress and anxiety levels, improving overall quality of life.
Mindfulness increases awareness of our emotions and teaches us to manage them better, leading to improved mood.
Regular mindfulness practice can improve our ability to concentrate and focus our attention on the present moment.
Slide 4: Benefits of Mindfulness for Physical Health
Research has shown that practicing mindfulness can contribute to lowering blood pressure, which is beneficial for heart health.
Regular meditation and mindfulness practice can strengthen the immune system, aiding the body in fighting infections.
Mindfulness may help reduce the risk of chronic diseases such as type 2 diabetes and obesity by reducing stress and improving overall lifestyle habits.
Slide 5: Impact of Mindfulness on Relationships
Mindfulness can help us better understand others and improve communication, leading to healthier relationships.
By focusing on the present moment and being fully attentive, mindfulness helps build stronger and more authentic connections with others.
Mindfulness teaches us how to be present for others in difficult times, leading to increased compassion and understanding.
Slide 6: Mindfulness Techniques and Practices
Focusing on the breath and mindful breathing can be a simple way to enter a state of mindfulness.
Body scan meditation involves focusing on different parts of the body, paying attention to any sensations and feelings.
Practicing mindful walking and eating involves consciously focusing on each step or bite, with full attention to sensory experiences.
Slide 7: Incorporating Mindfulness into Daily Life
You can practice mindfulness in everyday activities such as washing dishes or taking a walk in the park.
Adding mindfulness practice to daily routines can help increase awareness and presence.
Mindfulness helps us become more aware of our needs and better manage our time, leading to balance and harmony in life.
Slide 8: Summary: Embracing Mindfulness for Full Living
Mindfulness can bring numerous benefits for physical and mental health.
Regular mindfulness practice can help achieve a fuller and more satisfying life.
Mindfulness has the power to change our perspective and way of perceiving the world, leading to deeper se
The Hope of Salvation - Jude 1:24-25 - MessageCole Hartman
Jude gives us hope at the end of a dark letter. In a dark world like today, we need the light of Christ to shine brighter and brighter. Jude shows us where to fix our focus so we can be filled with God's goodness and glory. Join us to explore this incredible passage.
A375 Example Taste the taste of the Lord, the taste of the Lord The taste of...franktsao4
It seems that current missionary work requires spending a lot of money, preparing a lot of materials, and traveling to far away places, so that it feels like missionary work. But what was the result they brought back? It's just a lot of photos of activities, fun eating, drinking and some playing games. And then we have to do the same thing next year, never ending. The church once mentioned that a certain missionary would go to the field where she used to work before the end of his life. It seemed that if she had not gone, no one would be willing to go. The reason why these missionary work is so difficult is that no one obeys God’s words, and the Bible is not the main content during missionary work, because in the eyes of those who do not obey God’s words, the Bible is just words and cannot be connected with life, so Reading out God's words is boring because it doesn't have any life experience, so it cannot be connected with human life. I will give a few examples in the hope that this situation can be changed. A375
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
Discover various methods for clearing negative entities from your space and spirit, including energy clearing techniques, spiritual rituals, and professional assistance. Gain practical knowledge on how to implement these techniques to restore peace and harmony. For more information visit here: https://www.reikihealingdistance.com/negative-entity-removal/
2 Peter 3: Because some scriptures are hard to understand and some will force them to say things God never intended, Peter warns us to take care.
https://youtu.be/nV4kGHFsEHw
Why is this So? ~ Do Seek to KNOW (English & Chinese).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma teaching of Kamma-Vipaka (Intentional Actions-Ripening Effects).
A Presentation for developing morality, concentration and wisdom and to spur us to practice the Dhamma diligently.
The texts are in English and Chinese.
Why is this So? ~ Do Seek to KNOW (English & Chinese).pptx
Family and Communication
1. Family and CommunicationFamily and Communication
Bukal Life CareBukal Life Care
Presented byPresented by
Celia P. Munson, M.Div., BCCCCelia P. Munson, M.Div., BCCC
Robert H. Munson, Th.D.Robert H. Munson, Th.D.
2. Genesis 1:26-28
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to
Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea,
over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth
and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So
God created man in His own image; in the image of God He
created him; male and female He created them. Then God
blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and
multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the
fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living
thing that moves on the earth.”
Genesis 2:24
Therefore a man shall leave his father and
mother and be joined to his wife, and
they shall become one flesh
3. Malachi 2:13-16
And this is the second thing you do:
You cover the altar of the Lord with tears,
With weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore,
Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.
4. Malachi 2:13-16
But did He not make them one,
Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one?
He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his
youth.
“For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,”
Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit,
That you do not deal treacherously.”
5. Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also
loved the church and gave Himself for her, that
He might sanctify and cleanse her with the
washing of water by the word, that He might
present her to Himself a glorious church, not
having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but
that she should be holy and without blemish. So
husbands ought to love their own wives as their
own bodies; he who loves his wife loves
himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh,
but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord
does the church.
6. Ephesians 5:25-33
For we are members of His body, of His flesh and
of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave
his father and mother and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a
great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ
and the church. Nevertheless let each one of
you in particular so love his own wife as
himself, and let the wife see that she respects
her husband.
7. Ephesians 6:1-4
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for
this is right. “Honor your father and mother,”
which is the first commandment with
promise: “that it may be well with you and
you may live long on the earth.”
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children
to wrath, but bring them up in the training
and admonition of the Lord.
8. These Verses Describe the “Why” of
Marriage and Family. Now We Will Look
at the “How”
“A man who becomes conscious of the
responsibility he bears toward a human
being who affectionately waits for him, or to
an unfinished work, will never be able to
throw away his life. He knows the 'why' for
his existence, and will be able to bear almost
any 'how.'“
-Victor E. Frankl
9. Healthy Relationships in Family (APGAR)
A – Adaptation Capability to utilize and
share resources
P – Partnership Solving problems by
communicating
G – Growth Freedom to grow and
change
A – Affection Intimacy and emotional
interaction in the family
R – Resolve Commitment by other
members to the family
<Note: All are related to
Communication.>
10. Family APGAR Test
(0 for Hardly Ever, 1 for Sometimes,
2 for Most of the Time)
A I am satisfied that I can turn to my family for help
when something is troubling me.
P I am satisfied with the way my family talks about
things with me and shares problems with me
G I am satisfied that my family accepts and supports
my wishes to take on new activities or directions
A I am satisfied with the way my family expresses
affection and responds to emotion such as anger
sorrow and love.
R I am satisfied with the way my family and I share
time together
12. Levels of Communication
1) No real communication except by accident – small
talk; chitchat (lowest, superficial).
2) Report facts about others. (Still no real emotions
shared)
3) Some communication. Willing to risk telling something
of our ideas and revealing some of our judgments and
decisions. (Some emotions/values)
4) Participants have the courage to share their feelings and
some gut level sharing takes place.
5) A complete emotional and personal union that is quite
rare.
13. All Levels have their function... but
families need to get beyond Level 2.
We need to go beyond the “Facts” that
the other has (head information)
and
Get to the “Meanings” associated with
facts and feelings (heart information).
14. Facts Versus Meaning?
➲ Consider a fact... “We have been married for
24 years and have never had a argument.”
➲ What does it mean?
➲ We don't really know what this statement
means until we understand the emotions and
values associated with this statement.
➲ Unless we dig deeper... we are just guessing.
➲ We need to investigate feeling terms.
15. Consider some possible “feeling statements”
that could relate to “We have been married for
24 years and have never had an argument.”
➲ I am blissfully happy. We have the perfect marriage!
➲ I am sad. We never really talk about what really
matters.
➲ I am frustrated. Whenever there is a conflict, he just
walks away.
➲ I am anxious. Our marriage feels dead... we don't
talk, we don't disagree, we just go through the
motions.
Now we know what is meant... Not just facts.
If your child says that he wants to quit
school... what does it mean?
17. Crucial ConversationCrucial Conversation
Definition: A crucial conversation (a common
type of Intentional Conversation) is a discussion
between two or more people where
(1) stakes are high
(2) opinions vary
(3) emotions run strong.
(Patterson)
In these situations, there is a desire of one to
change the mind of the other or gain
understanding (of the other or from
the other).
18. Communication with a Purpose
One-Way
Communication
Two-Way
Communication
Seeking
Understanding
Teaching/
Lecture
Dialogue/
Discussion
Seeking Change Preaching/
Polemics
Argument/
Apologetics/
Confrontation
What is needed most in marital conversations?What is needed most in marital conversations?
Family conversations?
19. When is an Intentional ConversationWhen is an Intentional Conversation
needed?needed?
Whenever you
-feel uncomfortable,
-have second thoughts, or
-try to avoid saying what you need to say,
what you aren’t saying is your hard
conversation. (Abrams)
20. What if we need to have an intentionalWhat if we need to have an intentional
conversations but don't?conversations but don't?
-Our beliefs and our actions are not aligned
-We experience a high level of tension,
discomfort, stress.
-We give support to what is wrong through
silence and inaction.
-Our trustworthiness can be questioned.
-Relationships we want to protect become
strained and damaged.
(A family is as sick as its secrets)
21. Successful Intentional
Conversations require a
PLAN
Goal, Situation, Script
<As such, it will feel strange...
artificial... fake. But give it a chance.
Preaching and Teaching utilizes plans.
So should dialogue.>
22. A. Plan (Goal/Situation/Script)
B. Action/Conversation
C. Evaluate
D. Follow-up
A1. Goal
Seek to understand?
Seek understanding?
Seek to change?
Seek change?
23. A-2. Situation
-When would be a good time?
-What would be a good place?
-What would be the right
emotional state?
A-3. Script
-Semi-structured
-Thought through
-Practiced
Then, Conversation, Evaluation, and Follow-up
24. Intentional Dialogue
This is for gaining understanding.
Typically, the need for dialogue is related more
to understanding of values and feelings more
than about facts.
Typically, the need is to focus more on
perceptions than “truth” or blame.
25. Intentional Dialogue
<Divide into groups and then into 2s or 3s. The
3rd
member can critique.>
“A” share a BIG moment (happy or sad).
“B” Seek clarification, if needed. Intentional
listening
“B” Mirror/Echo
“B” Validate (Repeat back what
made sense)
“B” Empathize (Be in the other
person's situation)
26. Intentional Confrontation
(Crucial Conversation)
At the start ensure two things:
Help the other understand that you share the same
goals.
Help the other understand that he or she is
respected by you.
If these two points are made clear, there is a high
probability that you will be heard (heard doesn't
always mean agreement... but it is a start).
27. Intentional Confrontation
<Break into groups of 2s or 3s. “A” and “B”. The
3rd
person can critique.>
Frustrating Behavior
My Feeling
My Story
My Reactive Behavior
My Fear
My Childhood Response
My Desire
28. Intentional Confrontation
If you simply want to attack or blame...
you don't need intentional
communication/ confrontation.
Intentional communication in
confrontation is beneficial when the
goal is correction and reconciliation.
29. Is Intentional Conversation Always
Successful?
NO!!!
-Intentional dialogue requires mutual respect.
-Intentional confrontation requires a willingness
for both parties to grow and reconcile.
(Mediation may be required).
Other types of intentional conversation can also
fail (ask any salesman... no words can
guarantee results).
All one can do is plan for success.
30. References
-Leverington, John and Becky. Marriage Encounter Training
Handouts. October 2012. Narramore Christian Foundation.
Chiang Mai, Thailand.
-Maxwell, John. “Developing the Leaders Around You.”
-Maybin, Sarita. “If You Can’t Say Something Nice, What Do
You Say?”
-Patterson and Grenny, “Crucial Conversations”
-”courageousintentionalconversations.ppt” at
http://2011e1690.wikispaces.com.
-Niklas, Gerald. “The Making of a Pastoral Person.”
-Munson, Robert and Celia. “The Art of Pastoral Care.”