Life Skills
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Objectives
By the end of today’s session students
will be able to identify:
• Meaning and Reasons of stage Fright
• Strategies for reducing Stage Fright
• Signs of Discomfort
• Confidence Building
• How to be Impressive personality
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“The human brain is a
wonderful thing. It starts
working the moment you
are born and never stops
until you stand up to speak
in public.”
- George Jessel
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Merriam Webster Dictionary defines it as:
Nervousness before or during an appearance before an
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Different Names for Same
Phenomena
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A Phobia Different Names
An Unreasonable Fear
A. stage fright
B. speech anxiety
C. shyness
D. fear of speaking
E. performance anxiety
F. Speech phobia
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THIS MIGHT HAPPEN!
Number of times practiced
Quality of
Performanc
e
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What happens
when you have
to speak in
public?
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• Does your heart beat
faster than usual?
Do you experience a
mental blackout?
Did you feel your blood
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• Do butterflies attack
your stomach each time
you’re about to speak?
Do you perspire more
than usual?
Are you at a loss for
breath?
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• Do you lose your voice?
Does your body gets
tense?
Your hands cold, And start to
tremble?
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Signs of Discomfort
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You are suffering from stage fright
if You have:
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Don’t Worry…U are not
Alone
Fear of Public Speaking has
been rated as the #1 fear in America.
Some say it is more feared than death.
The truth is that most people just don't
want to
talk about their fear of being in front of
a group.
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CAUSES
• Inadequate preparation
• Fear of being judged
• Lack of familiarity with the
Audience or Setting
• Lack of knowledge about
public speaking
• Feeling Inadequate
• Fear of the unknown
• Haunting Past experiences
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Anxiety
• It is an unusual
fearful feeling
that everyone
goes through
when faced with
an important
task.
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QUESTIONNAIRE ON SPEECH
ANXIETY
1- NONE 2- VERY SLIGHTLY 3- SLIGHTLY
4- INTENSE 5- VERY INTENSE
___1. weak voice
___2. shortness of breath
___3. awkward pauses
___4. preference to look up/down
___5. rapid heartbeats
___6. playing with pen/hanky
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QUESTIONNAIRE ON SPEECH
ANXIETY
1- NONE 2- VERY SLIGHTLY 3- SLIGHTLY
4- INTENSE 5- VERY INTENSE
___7. no eye contact with the audience
___8. moving too much
___9. trembling hands
___10. feeling cold
___11. inability to think clearly
___12. dry mouth and throat
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QUESTIONNAIRE ON SPEECH
ANXIETY
1- NONE 2- VERY SLIGHTLY 3- SLIGHTLY
4- INTENSE 5- VERY INTENSE
___13. no facial expression
___14. wanting to end speech
___15. too fast rate of speech
___16. feeling dizzy
___17. feeling awkward and clumsy
___18. perspiring too much
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QUESTIONNAIRE ON SPEECH
ANXIETY
1- NONE 2- VERY SLIGHTLY 3-
SLIGHTLY
4- INTENSE 5- VERY INTENSE
___19. feeling nervous
___20. shaking voice
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Qualitative Interpretation
100 – 80: Do not worry; all is not lost.
Speaking skills are required.
With a little help and deliberate
efforts on your part you will yet
become a good speaker.
79- 59: Good! However, you have to
spend more time preparing
yourself for public speaking.
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Qualitative Interpretation
58 – 38:Very Good! With a little more
training, you will become a
better speaker
37-20: Congratulations! You are
potentially an effective
speaker.
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HOW TO OVERCOME?
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COGNITIVE STRATEGIES
Most detrimental - catastrophising:
“I think I am going to faint”
“I’m sure to make a dreadful mistake and that will
ruin everything”
Best kind - realistic appraisal:
“I’m bound to make a few mistakes, but so does
everyone.”
“The audience wants me to play well and will make
allowance for a few slips”.
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A New Acronym
FEAR BUSTER
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F - Focus on your most powerful
Experience
• Relive your most powerful experience
and feel the confidence and power flow
through your veins again.
• Speak with this power in your heart.
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E - Energize Yourself
• You’ve adrenaline pumping through your veins. Your
heart is racing and your muscles are all tensed up. Your
eyes are shifty and you are unsettled. You are ready to
bolt for the door… or are you?
Harnessing this nervous energy and make it work for you!
• How ?
• MOVE AROUND!
• Is there really a need to bolt yourself to the ground? I’ve
found that walking around the room and gentle
gesticulating from time to time allows me to dissipate my
nervous energy.
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A - Acknowledge Your Fears
• Fear is here to protect us, not paralyze us.
• Don’t run away from being afraid!
• Acknowledge it as being part of you… use it to
identify the possible pitfalls.
• Being prepared and your subject knowledge will
give you self assurance.
• And if they don’t, then at least you’re all ready to
execute Plan B anyway!
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R - Relax…
• BREATHE!
• Take deep breathes and Regulate your
breathing!
• Let the breathing regulate and calm your
heart rate!
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B - Believe in Your Value!
• You’ve got to believe in
the value of your
message!
• Know that your
presentation has the
potential to change lives!
• Your words are powerful
and can impact lives in
more ways than one!
• This best works together
with Point T below.
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U - Understand the Audience
• Understand that the audience are here to hear
you succeed!
• They’re here for value and they want you to
succeed!
• They’re not here to poke fun at you… they’re
here to listen to you speak!
• You have something they want! .
• Their leader and source of information… and
only you can satisfy them.
• YOU ARE POWERFUL!
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S - Smile!
• Changing one’s physiology and mental state.
• If you slouch and look down ...
• Conversely, if you were to quicken your pace,
dig in your heels and run around (like your two
year old nephew/niece), chances are you’ll be
feeling on top of the world!
• Smile and pretend that you’re enjoying
yourself.
• Soon enough, your body will tell your brain that
you’re happy… and before you know it, fear
will be drowning…
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T - Talk to Yourself
• Not why you Can’t, but why you can .
• One of the best ways:
• “What do I know that they don’t?”
“Have the audience got my experience?”
“What can I offer these people that my competitors
can’t?”
• Know your niche and build it up.
• Then share it. You’ll be amazed how many people
will pay to learn from you those specialized skills,
knowledge and experience which you’ve built up
over time!
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E - Enjoy Yourself!
• Get out on
the stage and
seek to have fun!
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R - Rejoice!
Don’t vissualise your self as a looser but as victorious at
the end of the presentation.
Think of the amount of gratitude your audience will have
Think about the smiles and laughter which you would
have created?
• Say good bye to Mr. Negativity and Summon Mr.
Positivity.
• Thus, think about something that EMPOWERS YOU, not
Paralyses you!
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        Other Tips …
•Be in the room early.
•Yawn to relax your throat.
•Doodle.
•Don't drink caffeinated drinks.
•Go somewhere private and warm up
your voice, muscles, etc.
•Power poses
•Hide speaking notes around the stage area.
•Shake hands and smile with attendees before the
program.
•Double-check your A/V equipment
•Say something to someone to make sure your voice is
ready to go.
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Strategies When the Presentation Begins
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• If your legs are trembling lean on a
lectern/table of shift your legs or
move about.
• Don't hold notes.
• Use eye contact.
• Look at the friendliest faces in the
audience.
• Do not comment on your
nervousness.
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Tips for a great speech…
• Speak Up! Make sure to speak a little louder
than normal conversation when you are giving
your speech.
• Slow Down! When you are giving your speech
to your listeners, remember to slow your speech
down a little bit and don't rush through the
words. Make sure to enunciate and don't slur
your words either.
• Be Confident! You can do this! Believe in
yourself!
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In Short
Understanding presentational anxiety
and applying some of these techniques
and suggestions will help you overcome
the more paralyzing forms of stage
fright.
They might become very useful when
you give your next speech.
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Over View
• Know the room
• Know the audience
• Know your material
• Relaxation
• Visualize giving your
speech
• Gain experience
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Continued
• People want you to succeed
• Don’t apologize
• Concentrate on your message-not
the medium.
• Turn nervousness into positive
energy
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Practice takes you from this..
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Ways To Improve Your 
Personality
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“
We continue to shape our personality all of our lives. If we
knew ourselves perfectly, we should die."
  Albert Camus
 
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You can 
improve your personality.
•  Is personality Permanent. 
• In 1890 William James, wrote in his influential workThe
Principles of Psychology, that personality was "set in 
plaster" by early adulthood. 
• This view prevailed for over a century; 
• However, the idea that personality is more fluid has 
gained ground over time. 
• We have realized that we have influence and control 
over which traits and characteristics we want to develop 
or refine.
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What is Personality?
• The "personality" is the typical pattern of thinking, feeling, and 
behaviors that make a person unique.
• "good personality“ = likeable, interesting and pleasant to be with. 
• Everyone wants to be attractive to others.  
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Looks v/s Personality
• 85 percent of your success and happiness will 
be a result of how well you interact with others. 
• Ultimately, it is your personality.
• Can only enhance our looks to a certain extent, 
but can improve the personality as much as we 
want. 
• We can develop or integrate any trait we deem 
fitting and agreeable.
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STRATEGIES 
• Be a better listener.
• Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis 
was considered one of the most 
charming women in the world 
because she cultivated the skill 
of being an exceptional 
listener. 
• Read more and expand your
interests.
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Be a good conversationalist
• Once you have much to contribute, learn 
how to talk about it with others. No one 
can read about or know everything, so it's 
refreshing to learn from others those 
things we don't have the time to about 
read ourselves. 
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• Have an Opinion
• Meet New People
• Be yourself.
Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be 
accepted, usually backfires. Express your  
uniqueness.
  Have a positive outlook and attitude.
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• Be fun and see the
humorous side of life.
• Be supportive of others
• Have Integrity and treat
people with respect.
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Communication Tools 
• SOUND MORE INTELLIGENT
Speak just a bit slower to allow yourself to select 
your most appropriate vocabulary and to give the 
impression of thoughtfulness. 
• SOUND MORE POWERFUL
Speak clearly. Do not shout or whisper. Use 
short, simple declarative sentences. 
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Continued…
• SOUND MORE POLISHED
Never answer a question with a blunt 'yes' or 'no.' 
Append a short phrase of clarification. For example, "No, 
I did not see it." "Yes, I know sir.“
• SOUND MORE ARTICULATE
Make a special effort to pronounce the final sound in a 
word and use its energy to carry over to the following 
word. People will judge your competency through your 
vocabulary
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Continued…
• SOUND MORE CONFIDENT
Carry your body up. Hold your head as if you had a crown on it. Do 
not let your arms and legs have side-to-side motion when you move. 
Keep your elbows and knees close to the midline of your body.
• SOUND MORE POLITE
Always remember to greet the listener before starting a 
conversation or making an oral presentation. Tell the audience what 
you are going to tell them.  At the end, summarize what you have 
told them.
• SOUND MORE TOUCHY 
Try to judge how your listeners are more comfortable taking 
information from you and make sure you feed them in the same way 
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To this….
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Reference:
• Covey, Stephen. ‘Seven Habits of Highly 
Effective People.’
• http://garyguwe.wordpress.com/2007/08/09/fea
• http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your
_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?
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Dealing with stage fright and Building an Impressive personality