1. Privacy Management When and when not to say what is on your mind

2. Why do we value our privacy?

3. CPMCommunication Privacy Management Theory How individuals maintain privacy by setting up boundary structures to control the risks inherent in disclosing private information.

4. Boundary Structures Boundary structures are based on two elements: Ownership: who has the right to control the information Permeability: rules govern who can access the information that we own

5. How do we determine what information we disclose to others? Culture Personality The Relationship Sex/Gender Needs/Motivation

6. 1 Minute Writing: List the general topics you believe most people keep private

7. State of the Relationship Conflict Issues Negative Experiences / Failures Romantic Relationship Experiences (Exes) Sexual Experiences Friendships and Family Members Dangerous Behaviors (drinking, drugs) Everyday Activities Money Deep Conversations Religion

8. What happens when our privacy is violated?

10. telling the invader not to do it again

11. asking the invader to respect one’s privacy in the future

12. Passive Aggression and Retaliation: trying to retaliate against a person through behaviors such as:

13. making the person feel guilty

15. grinning and bearing it

16. acting like the incident never happened

17. Boundary Restructuration: adjusting public boundaries to prevent future privacy violations

18. putting a lock on a drawer

21. Obsessive Relational Intrusion (ORI) ORI occurs when someone uses intrusive tactics to try to get closer to someone else. Common ORI situations involve unrequited love between: Friends Exs Acquaintances

22. What does ORI look like?

24. Calling and arguing,

25. Calling and hanging up,

26. Repeatedly asking for another chance,

27. Watching from a distance,

28. Making exaggerated claims of affection

29. Severe Forms:

30. Invading one’s home,

31. Damaging property,

32. Causing physical harm

35. the ambiguity of communication

36. rumination

38. Responses to ORI Passive Avoidant Aggressive Integrative Help Seeking Which response strategy is the most effective? Which response strategy is the least effective?