The power of your voice is immense. Its the strongest communication tool you have. Just like your impression of others are bound up with how they sound, your voice tells people a lot about you, even more than what you wear. People who hear your voice make immediate judgements and assumptions about you. Your voice has the power to lift others or to break them. Your voice can open up such opportunities for you that you cannot imagine!
As a parent or teacher you can give children and students the confidence to reach their highest potential or you can destroy their confidence and self-respect
As a husband or wife you can make your marriage grow and flourish or can end up miserable and very alone.
As a son or daughter you can give your parents such peace of mind that the gates of Jannah can be opened for you or you can dig a grave for yourself that is fuelled by the scorching fire of Jahannam.
As a speaker or leader you can energise and empower your listeners so that they are ready to sacrifice all that is of worth to them for the worthy cause you call for, or you can bring them down to their knees and demotivate or victimise them
Speaking is such an important part of us. If we can’t get this right we can lead ourselves to destruction and serious stress.
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “...the whole body warns the tongue saying, “Fear Allah concerning us, for we are (dependant) upon you. If you are upright then we will be upright and if you are corrupt then we will be corrupt.” - Sunan at-Tirmidhi
Abu Hurairah (ra) also reported that the Prophet (saw) said, “Indeed a servant may say a word from which Allah’s pleasure is gained and the servant does not realize it, Allah will raise him up levels. Indeed a servant may say a word from which Allah’s displeasure is gained and he does not realize it, Allah will put him in Jahanam due to it.” - Sahih al-Bukhari
This module is not to be missed! How much do you care about the way you influence or impact others around you from the way you talk and your voice.
In just over 2 hrs you will learn how to:
Speak positively and empower your children, partner, parents, friends and listeners
Engage listeners by appealing to them, encouraging them and building their confidence
Orchestrate your voice, not just what you say but the sound of your voice to have the greatest impact you never thought you had!
More importantly... REVIVE THE SUNNAH OF SPEAKING!
Presentation skills for business managersjairajputana
this is the most essential part of a manager.
beside communication skills one needs to possess greater presentation skills and negotiation skills for his & organization's betterment.
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What is the world like?
An understanding of how reliable is our perceptionary knowledge and what this means for its application in the world we live in
What is covered in this session:-
Idealism
Realism
Our Knowledge of the physical world
On Epistemology
What is covered:-
What is knowing?
What is knowledge?
Belief, truth and evidence
The sources and concepts of knowledge, reason and experience
Presentation skills for business managersjairajputana
this is the most essential part of a manager.
beside communication skills one needs to possess greater presentation skills and negotiation skills for his & organization's betterment.
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What is the world like?
An understanding of how reliable is our perceptionary knowledge and what this means for its application in the world we live in
What is covered in this session:-
Idealism
Realism
Our Knowledge of the physical world
On Epistemology
What is covered:-
What is knowing?
What is knowledge?
Belief, truth and evidence
The sources and concepts of knowledge, reason and experience
Introduction
Definition of the Shari’ah
Branches of the Shari’ah
Shari’ah and Fiqh
Classifications of injunctions
Features of the Shari’ah
Sources of the Shari’ah
Maqāsid of Shari’ah
Misconceptions of the Shari’ah
In just 2 HOURS!!! You will learn how the power of active listening will change your life and of those around you!
You will learn three main skills that will have a massive impact on the way you listen:
You will learn how to focus and fix your radar on the speaker so that you capture what’s important
You will learn how to use the amazing easy use “Active Listening Power Toolkit”
You will learn the most important magic ingredient that will make active listening the most powerful thing you have ever used
How you will benefit:
You will have a major impact on your work colleagues, friends, spouse, children and others
You will understand a lot more than just what you hear when you communicate
You will learn how to develop yourself immensely just over a short period of time
MORE IMPORTANTLY…you will be acting upon the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saw)
The Way the World Works | Scientific Knowledge 4 of 9jkninstitute
Philosophy of science is a branch of philosophy concerned with the foundations, methods, and implications of science. The central questions concern what counts as science, the reliability of scientific theories, and the purpose of science.
An understanding of how science operates, if it possesses any real credibility and authority in its propositions.
Topics discussed:-
Laws of nature
Explanation
Theories
Possibility
The problem of induction
Taqleed;
An Innovation in Deen or Necessary in Deen
A Critical Study on Ibn Al- Qayyim Al Jawziyyah’s (RA) Treatise on Taqleed
Delivered by Mufti Abdul Waheed
Taqleed – following a specific legal school, has been a topic of extreme controversy. Amongst the leading figures to critically write on this subject extensively was Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (RA). He proposes the argument that it is necessary for every Muslim to primarily adhere to the scripture, Qur’an and Sunnah. Hence, those who strictly follow a particular legal school are in fact preferring a madhab over scriptures, which is tantamount to those of following their fore fathers, as condemned in the Qur’an. Superficially, it appears to be a valid argument but is it necessarily true that following a legal school results in abandoning or preferring it over scriptures? What is the need of scholars of great calibre adhering to one of the legal schools in the first place? Is it possible for every person to distinguish between authentic and non-authentic Hadeeth? Did the Imams themselves prohibit others of doing Talqeed of them? The whole discussion pivots on the issue of Ijtihad and whether is it necessary to know the evidence of the Imam or not.
Mufti Abdul Waheed will address the following major points;
What is Ijtihad and its Qualification?
Is it possible to always follow authentic Hadeeth?
Is it necessary for a layperson to know the evidences of his Imam?
Why Taqleed became part of the discourse of Usool ul-Fiqh?
Why follow one legal school as opposed to all in general?
Taqleed and ittiba, same thing or not?
A critical analysis on Ibn Qayyim al– Jawziyyah’s (RA) proposed arguments on Taqleed.
And much more….
By the end of the session you shall walk away with the understanding of the following;
The concept of Ijtihad and its applicability.
The legacy of the four Imams
Appreciate the complexity involved in determining what is authentic and what is not.
Why Taqleed of one school became necessary.
Is Philosophy the Biggest Threat to Islam? 1 of 9jkninstitute
What is covered:-
What is philosophy?
Why study philosophy?
Meaning and definition
Objectives and Modern Day Implications
An understanding of the relevance of philosophy today and its relationship with Islam
Learn the Art of Resolving Conflict - The Islamic Wayjkninstitute
In just over 2 HOURS!!! You will learn the art of how to resolve conflicts at home, at work and anywhere else, using four amazing principles taken directly from the Holy Qur’an.
? Do you have problems getting your children to do the things you want them to do
? Do you have regular fall outs with your partner, in-laws, family members, friends or colleagues?
? Are you interested to know how the Qur’an has the solution to any conflict and putting things right between people?
Then you must attend this seminar
The Prophet (saw) said, “Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than (voluntary) fasting, prayer and almsgiving (sadaqah)?” The people replied, “Yes, Prophet of Allah!” He said, “It is putting things right between people. Spoiling relations is the shaver.” (Abu Dawud)
Using four miraculous principles from the Holy Qur’an you can amazingly transform the way you deal with people who disagree with you and resolve conflicts that exist between others!
These amazing four principles will guarantee to resolve any kind of conflict you may have with your children, partner, family members, friends, work colleagues or anyone else.
Learn…
the root causes of conflict
how you can change a destructive conflict to one that is constructive and beneficial
the four common approaches to handling conflict and which approach you tend to use
how you can mould your conflict handling approach to that which the Holy Qur’an relates
MORE IMPORTANTLY…how you can revive the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saw) in dealing with conflicts
Jkn philosophy presentation slides 7 8 of 9jkninstitute
Al Maqsud Presents
Does God Exist?
& How Do You Square an Omnipotent and Benevolent God With Evil?
What Maulana Abbas Sahib will hope to cover:-
Existence of God:
[a] Ontological Argument
[b] Cosmological Argument
[c] Teleological Argument
Problem of Evil:
[a] The concept of evil
[b] How do you square the existence of an Omnipotent and Benevolent God with evil in the world?
Finally Maulana Sahib will demonstrate the manner in which the problem of evil is construed in today's society with particular reference to Stephen Fry's recent rant about God.
4-Imām Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (ra) Life, Legacy, Methodology and Fiqh jkninstitute
The contents that will be covered for this session are as follows;
Life of Imām Ahmad and his works
His knowledge on Fiqh and Hadeeth
His legal theory and methodological framework.
Contributors to the development of his school
His students
Testimony of scholars about Imām Ahmad
Analysis of some criticisms against him and detailed responses.
An understanding of various concepts applied in the relationship between the physical and mental and the implications these theories have on religion.
Philosophy of mind is a branch of philosophy that studies the nature of the mind, mental events, mental functions, mental properties, consciousness and their relationship to the physical body, particularly the brain. The mind–body problem, i.e. the relationship of the mind to the body, is commonly seen as one key issue in philosophy of mind, although there are other issues concerning the nature of the mind that do not involve its relation to the physical body, such as how consciousness is possible and the nature of particular mental states
A Quick Master Class in Public Speaking.
Learn the essential elements that must be included in preparing to express your thoughts clearly, succinctly and thoroughly.
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We firmly believe Hard Skills alone are not sufficient enough to enhance business success. Aligned with high performance organizational culture and given the right direction, Soft Skills is the best recipe for business success.
What Should be the Christian View of Anime?Joe Muraguri
We will learn what Anime is and see what a Christian should consider before watching anime movies? We will also learn a little bit of Shintoism religion and hentai (the craze of internet pornography today).
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Good News, newsletter for June 2024 is hereNoHo FUMC
Our monthly newsletter is available to read online. We hope you will join us each Sunday in person for our worship service. Make sure to subscribe and follow us on YouTube and social media.
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way.pptxCelso Napoleon
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way
SBs – Sunday Bible School
Adult Bible Lessons 2nd quarter 2024 CPAD
MAGAZINE: THE CAREER THAT IS PROPOSED TO US: The Path of Salvation, Holiness and Perseverance to Reach Heaven
Commentator: Pastor Osiel Gomes
Presentation: Missionary Celso Napoleon
Renewed in Grace
The Chakra System in our body - A Portal to Interdimensional Consciousness.pptxBharat Technology
each chakra is studied in greater detail, several steps have been included to
strengthen your personal intention to open each chakra more fully. These are designed
to draw forth the highest benefit for your spiritual growth.
The PBHP DYC ~ Reflections on The Dhamma (English).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma Reflections for the PBHP DYC for the years 1993 – 2012. To motivate and inspire DYC members to keep on practicing the Dhamma and to do the meritorious deed of Dhammaduta work.
The texts are in English.
For the Video with audio narration, comments and texts in English, please check out the Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF2g_43NEa0
Why is this So? ~ Do Seek to KNOW (English & Chinese).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma teaching of Kamma-Vipaka (Intentional Actions-Ripening Effects).
A Presentation for developing morality, concentration and wisdom and to spur us to practice the Dhamma diligently.
The texts are in English and Chinese.
2 Peter 3: Because some scriptures are hard to understand and some will force them to say things God never intended, Peter warns us to take care.
https://youtu.be/nV4kGHFsEHw
The Book of Joshua is the sixth book in the Hebrew Bible and the Old Testament, and is the first book of the Deuteronomistic history, the story of Israel from the conquest of Canaan to the Babylonian exile.
Exploring the Mindfulness Understanding Its Benefits.pptxMartaLoveguard
Slide 1: Title: Exploring the Mindfulness: Understanding Its Benefits
Slide 2: Introduction to Mindfulness
Mindfulness, defined as the conscious, non-judgmental observation of the present moment, has deep roots in Buddhist meditation practice but has gained significant popularity in the Western world in recent years. In today's society, filled with distractions and constant stimuli, mindfulness offers a valuable tool for regaining inner peace and reconnecting with our true selves. By cultivating mindfulness, we can develop a heightened awareness of our thoughts, feelings, and surroundings, leading to a greater sense of clarity and presence in our daily lives.
Slide 3: Benefits of Mindfulness for Mental Well-being
Practicing mindfulness can help reduce stress and anxiety levels, improving overall quality of life.
Mindfulness increases awareness of our emotions and teaches us to manage them better, leading to improved mood.
Regular mindfulness practice can improve our ability to concentrate and focus our attention on the present moment.
Slide 4: Benefits of Mindfulness for Physical Health
Research has shown that practicing mindfulness can contribute to lowering blood pressure, which is beneficial for heart health.
Regular meditation and mindfulness practice can strengthen the immune system, aiding the body in fighting infections.
Mindfulness may help reduce the risk of chronic diseases such as type 2 diabetes and obesity by reducing stress and improving overall lifestyle habits.
Slide 5: Impact of Mindfulness on Relationships
Mindfulness can help us better understand others and improve communication, leading to healthier relationships.
By focusing on the present moment and being fully attentive, mindfulness helps build stronger and more authentic connections with others.
Mindfulness teaches us how to be present for others in difficult times, leading to increased compassion and understanding.
Slide 6: Mindfulness Techniques and Practices
Focusing on the breath and mindful breathing can be a simple way to enter a state of mindfulness.
Body scan meditation involves focusing on different parts of the body, paying attention to any sensations and feelings.
Practicing mindful walking and eating involves consciously focusing on each step or bite, with full attention to sensory experiences.
Slide 7: Incorporating Mindfulness into Daily Life
You can practice mindfulness in everyday activities such as washing dishes or taking a walk in the park.
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Mindfulness helps us become more aware of our needs and better manage our time, leading to balance and harmony in life.
Slide 8: Summary: Embracing Mindfulness for Full Living
Mindfulness can bring numerous benefits for physical and mental health.
Regular mindfulness practice can help achieve a fuller and more satisfying life.
Mindfulness has the power to change our perspective and way of perceiving the world, leading to deeper se
2. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Communicating Effectively
Session 1- Power of Listening
31st August 2014
Session 2- Power of Speaking
30th November 2014
Session 3- Conflict Resolution
25th January 2015
4. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Senders Receivers
Barrier
Aggressive speaking
Non-assertive speaking
Passive- Aggressive speaking
Assertive speaking
Passive Listening
Selective Listening
Attentive Listening
Active Listening
5. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
ْۖمَُهل َنتِلِ ََاّلل َنَِمٍةَمْحَراَمِبَف
ِْبلَقْلا َيظِلَغا ًَّظَف َُنتك َْولََ
َۖكِلْوَح ْنِمواََُضفن ََل
ُ ْْنَع ُفْعاَفو
ْمَُهل ْرِفْغَتْساَو
ِرْمَ ْاْل ِِف ْمُهْرِاوَشَو
ِ ََاّلل َََلع ْلََكَوَتَف َتْمَزَعاَذِإَف
َيِلَِكَوَتُْملا َُبِحُي َ ََاّلل ََنِإ
So by mercy from Allah , you
were lenient with them
And if you had been rude [in
speech] and harsh in heart,
they would have disbanded
from about you
So pardon them
and ask forgiveness for them
and consult them in the
matter
And when you have decided,
then rely upon Allah
Indeed, Allah loves those
who rely [upon Him].
HUMILITY
SELF RESTRAINT IN
EMOTION/
PATIENCE
ABANDON
ASSUMPTION
BE GENUINE
ACTIVE RESPONSES
SHARING/
VERIFYING
MAKE FINAL
JUDGEMENT
WITHOUT
TRANSGRESSING
NOT TO
TRANSGRESS
IS REWARDING
Receiving
Processing
Responding
Outcome
Communication is Act of Worship
7. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Common Myths
1. You’re stuck with your voice
2. Your voice is out of your control
3. Words matter more than voice
4. Looks matter more
8. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
What a voice can state about a
person
• Physical size
• Race
• Birth place
• Social class
• Age
• occupation
9. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Exercise 1- How do you speak!
• Three people in each group
– Two people talk (Speaker and Listener)
– One Observer
– Rotate after 3-4 minutes
10. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
The Messenger of Allah (saw) as a Speaker
Imaam Hasan (ra) says, (my younger brother) Husayn (ra) said: "I asked my father
(Sayyidina 'Ali ra) about the conduct of the Messenger of Allah (saw) in his assemblies'
He replied.. the Messenger of Allah (saw) was always happy and easy mannered. There
was always a smile and a sign of happiness on his blessed face. He was soft-natured
and when the people needed his approval, he easily gave consent. He did not speak in
a harsh tone nor was he stone-hearted. He did not scream while speaking, nor was he
rude or spoke indecently. He did not seek other's faults. He never overpraised
anything nor exceeded in joking, nor was he a miser. He kept away from undesirable
language and did not make as if he did not hear anything. If he did not agree with the
next person's wish he did not make that person feel disheartened, nor did he promise
anything to that person. He completely kept himself away from three things: from
arguments, pride and senseless utterances. He prohibited people from three things.
He did not disgrace or insult anyone, nor look for the faults of others, he only spoke
that from which reward was attained
(Shamaa’il Tirmidhi)
11. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate
Voice
Positive and
Engaging
Body
Language
How it is said What is said
The physical
emotion behind it
12. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate Voice
1 Is speaker clear in what he/ she is saying?
2 Is speaker rushed or slow?
3 Is the voice on same volume and pitch as the listener?
4 Does speaker boom out loudly on isolated words?
5 Does speaker stop and start hesitantly with or without
confidence?
1. Clarity
2. Speed
3. Volume
4. Tone
5. Pace
13. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Influence of voice
• Robust voice
• Deep voice
• Fast and energetic
• High pitch
• Nasal speaker
• Hesitation in sound
confident
serious
quick-witted
silly or naive
insensitive / boorish
unconfident
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Islamic Life Skills Training
1) Clarity
• Vowels and Consonants
– Consonant- can stretch to give character/ thought clarity
• Fffantastic
• Disssgusting
• Hhhorrible
– Vowels- emotion
• Coool
• Waaarm
• smoooth
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Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
2+3) Speed and Volume
• Intimate encounter
– Listener uncomfortable moving forward/ moving back
– Similar volume
– Same speed
– Empathy
• Breathing well
– Power of voice- power of breath
– Quality of voice- quality of breath
• Ability to breath deeply- abdominal muscles/ diaphragm
• Producing steady stream of air- blowing out candles
– Breathing pitfalls
16. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
(4) Tone
• Using the voice
– Positive
• Projecting
• Inflection/ pitch> modulation
• Sincerity in tone
– Negative
• Sounding uncertain
• Too soft spoken
• Mumbling
• Too loud- harshness
• Dropping voice at end
• Monotonous
17. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
(5) Pace
• Positives
– Enunciate words clearly- catch the “t”
– Insert pauses occasionally
– Match pace with listeners pace of speaking
• Negatives
– Speaking too fast
– Slurring words
– Speaking too slowly
– Excessive filler sounds- uh, um, and , ok, like
18. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate
Voice
Positive
and
Engaging
Body
Language
How it is said What is said
The emotion
behind it
1. Clarity
2. Speed
3. Volume
4. Tone
5. Pace
19. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Positive and Engaging
1 Is speaker honest, direct and constructive?
2 Is the speech short, sweet with focus and with terminology
the listener understands?
3 Is the language positive?
4 Does speaker jump to conclusions or makes assumptions
alot?
5 Does speaker truly engage with listener?
1. Speaking
Positive
2. Avoid negative
assumptions
3. Engaging the
listener
20. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
1) Speaking Positive
• Being Powerfully Positive
– Speaking positive
• Honest
• Direct (not blunt)
• Constructive (not destructive)
– Avoid sugar coating (be positive)
– Emphasising what you can do- more than what you cant
– Emphasising what you will do
• Communicating with clarity
– Short and sweet- be direct, concise, focus only and on main ideas first (less is more)
– Speak so audience understands- right terminology, give numbers
• Language of Solutions
– Avoid language that dwells on problems “to me what is happening is...”
– Try language of solutions “I disagree, but let me explain why...”
21. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
• Abstaining from Negatives
– Avoid hinderers- loaded language (offensive)
• Trigger words-
– Always, never, constantly
– Should, must and need to
– Not, cant , wont
– Maybe, try, perhaps
– Promise
– Policy
• Trigger phrases
– To be honest with you
– You know what i mean
– Trust me
• Message negators
– Now don’t take this personally
– Don’t take this the wrong way
– This isn’t a good idea
– Respond positively
22. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
2) Avoid negative assumptions-
Barriers
• Jumping to conclusions
– Finishing people’s sentences
– Interrupting before completion of someone’s message
– Tuning out as soon as a person starts talking
– Dismissing new idea before hearing rationale
• Focussing on intentions
• Thinking you know best
• Stereotyping
23. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
3) Engaging the Listener
• Making conversations open and shut
– Opening
• State the topic
• Identify and introduce theme
• Provide context (set the scene)
• State your goal
• Lay the structure/ agenda
• Set the tone
• Prepare listener on what to do
– Finish
• Recapping
• Stating what you need
• What next
• Asking for agreement/ commitment
24. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
• Helping listener to
stay involved
• Add meaning to message
– Visual aids- graphs/
handouts, pictures
– Showing what you
mean
– Telling stories
• Sense to humour- (stories
familiar themes make
people laugh)
– Things to avoid
» Sarcasm
» Ridicule
» Off-colour jokes
» Being a comedian
• Getting listener to respond
– Ask for response
– Complement positive
reinforcement- question /
response
– Be receptive to questions and
give clear, direct answers
– Avoid
» Disagreement right from
the beginning
» Comments which
criticise the question
» Rambling
– Try to
» Paraphrase- to give you
time
» Provide example to
clarify question
» One-sentence summary
» Answer question with
question if challenging
» Check for listeners
understanding
25. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
• Developing plan for sensitive issues
– Considerations
• Who is target audience what’s important to them
• Whats their hot buttons
• What is their level of understanding
• Timing and location
• What are possible objections and negative reactions
and how to address them
26. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Important points
• What you say is important but how you say it
is powerful!
• most people not good listeners that’s why this
is important
28. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate
Voice
Positive and
Engaging
Body
Language
How it is said
The emotion
behind it
1. Clarity
2. Speed
3. Volume
4. Tone
5. Pace
1. Speaking Positive
2. Avoid negative
assumptions
3. Engaging the Listener
What is said
29. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Body Language
1 Does speaker give good eye contact when needed?
2 Is speaker able to maintain eye contact?
3 Is the facial expression appropriate and positive?
4 Is the posture appropriate and engaging?
5 Are there any distracting habits?
1. Eye Contact
2. Body language
30. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
C) Eye contact
– Positives
• Steady eye-contact
• Maintain eye-contact
• Looking in the right places
– Negatives
• Staring/ glaring
• Looking around
• Darting glances
• Blinking excessively
• Focussing on one person
• Glazing over
31. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
C) Body Language
• Positives
– Posture
– Facial expressions
– Hand gestures
• Negatives
– Slouching
– Invading space
– Speaking over the listener
– Looking blank, stern, aggressive
– No gestures
– Distracting habits
32. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate
Voice
Positive and
Engaging
Body
Language
How it is said
1. Clarity
2. Speed
3. Volume
4. Tone
5. Pace
1. Speaking Positive
2. Avoid negative
assumptions
3. Engaging the Listener
What is said The physical
emotion behind it
1. Eye Contact
2. Body Language
33. المقصود
Al-Maqsûd
Islamic Life Skills Training
Appropriate
Voice
• Clarity
• Speed
• Volume
• Tone
• Pace
Positive and
Engaging
• Speaking
Positive
• Avoid negative
assumptions
• Engaging the
Listener
Body Language
• Eye Contact
• Body Language
34. المقصود
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Islamic Life Skills Training
قالعنهاهلليضرالعاصنبعمرو:القومأشرَلعبوجههلقبُيوسلمعليهاهللَلصاهللرسولكان.
أبوبكر؟أوخريأنااهللرسوليافقلتالقومخريأينظننتىتح َيعلوحديثهبوجههليقبكانف
بكرأبوقال..عمرفقالعمر؟أوخريأنااهلليارسولفقلت.عثمان؟أوخريأنااهللرسوليافقلت
عثمانقال.سألتهنكألمأينفلوددتينقفصدوسلمعليهاهللَلصاهللرسولسألتفلما
'Amr ibn al-'Aas Radiyallahu 'Anhu reports: "(Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi
Wasallam) gave attention, spoke and showed love to the worst person of a
nation. So that, the person may feel he is being given special attention. He
used to give attention, and spoke to me also in a manner, that I began to feel
that I was the best among the community.
(Therefore one day) I asked: 'O Messenger of Allah, am I better or is Abubakr
better?' He replied: 'Abubakr'. I then asked: 'Am I better, or 'Umar?' He replied.
"Umar'. I asked: 'Am I better or 'Uthmaan?' He replied: 'Uthmaan'.When I
asked him these questions, Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam told me the
truth. (He did not tell me I was better to keep me happy. Afterwards I felt
ashamed of myself on this deed). I felt I should not have asked such a
question". [Shamaa’il Tirmidhi]
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Style 1 Style 2 Style 3 Style 4
YOUR SCORE
Circle highest score
What is the difference between the 2 highest scores?
Is it <10 or >10
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Style 1- The Director
• Talks in action verbs
• Cares about the bottom line
• Always on the go
• Speaks crisply Talks about goals
• May seem insensitive
Style 2- Expresser
•Speaks rapidly
•Uses animated gestures
•Entertaining
•Thinks out loud
•Talks about ideas
• May be imprecise
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Style 3- Thinker
• Talks about details
• Inquiring
• Often makes lists
• Speaks carefully
• Wants things done “right”
• May procrastinate
Style 4- Harmonizer
•Talks about people
•Sensitive to others
•Avoids conflict
•Dedicated and loyal
•Speaks softly
•May over commit
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Highest
2nd Highest
Director Expresser Thinker Harmonizer
Director
Dictator Initiator Explorer Persuader
Expresser
Charmer Entertainer Diplomat Socialiser
Thinker
Investigator Organiser Analyser Supporter
Harmonizer
Counsellor Nurturer Provider Pleaser
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To improve communication, Directors
need to:
• Be more personal in their delivery - sincerity ( )اخالص
• Ask more questions about other people - sincerity
• Talk about their feelings - sincerity
• Acknowledge and validate priorities other than their own -
want for brother what wants for self
• Show patience - sabr ()صرب
• Have empathy - empathy ()تعاطف
• Admit their fallibility - humility (ع )خشو
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To improve communication, Expressers
need to:
• Be more precise and analytical in their approach to
problems - control nafs
• Follow through and complete projects - sabr
• Learn to manage time by planning daily - sabr
• Set priorities and focus on them - sabr, sincerity
• Avoid wasting time – theirs or anyone else’s - sabr,
sincerety
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To improve communication, Thinkers
need to:
• Focus on the big picture not just the details -sabr, sincerity
• Ask only relevant questions - ask what benefits and don’t
ask too many questions
• Once a decision is made put it behind them - tawakkul
• Focus on deadlines - sabr, sa’a
• Expect the unexpected - tawakkul ( ّلك)تو
• Communicate the full scope of the problem not just one
aspect- want for brother what wants for self
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To improve communication, Harmonizers
need to:
• Keep work issues separate from personal issues
tawakkul
• Remember it is not always important to be liked -
tawakkul
• Learn to say “No” and to argue their position - sabr,
sincerity
• Prioritize tasks - sabr, sincerity
• Address problems in a bottom-line fashion-
tawakkul
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Spiritual Illness Manifestation Symptoms/ Emotion or Feelings
PRIDE/
ARROGANCE
(kibr)
HUMILITY
(Khushu’)
Jealousy hasad
Ungratefulness
batar
Greed hirs
Heedlessness ghafl
Show riya’
Miserliness bukhl
Vanity ujb
Generosity
Gratitude
Patience
Contentment
Selflessness
Righteousness
Anger ghadb
Jest mazah
Hatred bughd
Boasting fakhr
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The Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “...the whole body warns the tongue
saying, “Fear Allah concerning us, for we are (dependant) upon you. If you
are upright then we will be upright and if you are corrupt then we will be
corrupt.” - Sunan at-Tirmidhi
Abu Hurairah (ra) also reported that the Prophet (saw) said, “Indeed a
servant may say a word from which Allah’s pleasure is gained and the servant
does not realise it, Allah will raise him up levels. Indeed a servant may say a
word from which Allah’s displeasure is gained and he does not realize it, Allah
will put him in Jahanam due to it.” - Sahih al-Bukhari
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Imaam Husayn (ra) says: 'I asked (my father) regarding the coming out of the
Messenger of Allah (saw)’. He replied: The Messenger of Allah (saw) controlled his
tongue and only spoke that which was necessary. He did not waste his time in useless
conversations. He made those who came to visit him feel at home he did not make
them feel scared or ill at ease.
(i.e. When advising them, he did not scold them in a manner that they become
scared, or tell them such things that would keep them away from the deen).
He respected and honoured the respected ones of every nation. He also chose a
leader for them. He warned the people of Allah's punishment (or he emphasised that
the people be cautious). He also protected himself from troubling or harming people.
Besides being cautious and commanding others to be cautious, he never lacked in
courtesy towards others. He was concerned for the affairs of his friends, made
himself aware about the relationships between them and rectified their faults. He
praised good deeds and encouraged them. He explained the harmful effects of bad
things and removed and stopped these.