Respect is a positive feeling of esteem or deference for others and actions that demonstrate that esteem. Self-respect comes from taking care of our mind, body, and spirit through learning, exercise, and spiritual practices. Gaining respect requires humility and not viewing oneself as superior, as well as demonstrating respect through good works that help and lift others in the community through volunteering and leadership. Our choices should align with our purpose and illustrate good character, and integrity in both large and small choices will generate deeper respect from others.

2. Respect is a positive feeling
of esteem or deference for a person or
other entity and also specific actions and
conduct representative of that esteem.
Respect can be a specific feeling of regard
for the actual qualities of the one respected
(e.g., "I have great respect for her
judgment"). It can also be conduct in accord
with a specific ethic of respect.

4. We need to take care of ourselves first, meaning we need to:
• Expand our mind through learning and reading
• Improve our bodies through exercise and healthy eating
• Refresh our spirit through practices to center our soul and keep us on a
purpose-filled path
Self-respect puts substance on our presence. It is not a one-time
activity. It is a continuous flow of self-enhancement, self-awareness,
and self-empowerment.
The point is self-respect needs to be at the core of how we gain
respect in our community, workplace, family, and other places of
interaction. Self-respect, however, is not arrogance. Arrogance rarely, if ever
, inspires respect.

5. Humility denotes self-confidence coupled with an
understanding of place. By place, I mean we are not above
others or certain standards. We hold ourselves accountable to
a higher calling.
Humility is strength in who we are and what we are called to
do while always being aware of how we fit into the world and
support others around us. Yes, a long way to simply say “If you
want respect, don’t put yourself above others in an
inappropriate or superior way.”

6. To gain and retain respect, we need to act. Respect is about doing good works and
inspiring others. It is not about recognition; it is about helping out and lifting up
others. Our actions will really determine what level of respect we have. Our actions
may include:
• Volunteering at school
• Getting involved in a community project
• Starting a leadership group to raise insights
• Smiling and engaging people in conversations
• Doing something positive often!
Being active translates into doing more than the minimum at home, work,
and community. Respect gains more traction and staying power when our work is
demonstrated more fully in more places.

7. Our choices reflect an image, and the image is truly us. It may
be like a shadow as described by Lolly Daskal, which “lead
us back to our purpose…” Our choices need to align with our
purpose in living and leading.
The choices we make include the ones illustrating how we
approach life and the ones made in the heat of a moment. In
both, people will see our character in our life-long and split-
second choices. Integrity in our choices will generate deeper
respect.

8. REFERENCES
- What is respect?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respect
- How can I get and keep respect? Examples.
http://www.thindifference.com/2012/06/14/h
ow-to-get-and-keep-respect-4-practices/