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Introduction to Conflict Styles Copyright 2011 Riverhouse ePress www.ConflictStyleMatters.com
Two factors strongly shape our choice of conflict style:  How hard do we push for the things we want ,  our agenda?and…
How much  attention do we give to the relationship?
Relationship and   own Agenda When we put the two factors together, we get five different styles of responding to conflict.    Each has: ,[object Object]
a unique set of strengths and weaknesses. ,[object Object]
High focus on relationship HARMONIZING Sure, I’m flexible . Whatever you’re happy with is fine with me.... Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship:  High  I lose/you win.How? Agree, go along, give in, affirm. Low focus on  own agenda
Low focus on relationship AVOIDING Let me out of here…!    I don’t want to talk about it… Conflict?  What conflict? Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship:  Low I lose/you lose.How? Withdraw, remain silent, walk away,postpone discussion, delay responding. Low focus on  own agenda
High focus on  own agenda Let’s talk this through… My preference is….. And I want to hear and understand  yours….. COOPERATING Focus on own agenda: High Focus on relationship:  High                    I win/you win. How?  Dialogue.Agree to talk things through.Assert self and support the other. High focus on relationship
If we each back off and accept half of what we want, we can get an agreement and move on… COMPROMISING Focus on own agenda: Medium Focus on relationship:  Medium We both win some/We both lose some. How?Bargain, strike a deal, find a little something for everyone.
“When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything you see is a nail.”  Mark Twain Each style is a valuable tool, essential for particular situations all of us face.   We handle conflict better when we are equally skilled in all five styles. Then we can choose the style most likely to bring a good outcome. Learn the strengths and weaknesses of each.  Grow by experimenting with greater use of styles you use least.                      www.ConflictStyleMatters.com

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Intro to conflict styles2011

  • 1. Introduction to Conflict Styles Copyright 2011 Riverhouse ePress www.ConflictStyleMatters.com
  • 2. Two factors strongly shape our choice of conflict style: How hard do we push for the things we want , our agenda?and…
  • 3. How much attention do we give to the relationship?
  • 4.
  • 5.
  • 6. High focus on relationship HARMONIZING Sure, I’m flexible . Whatever you’re happy with is fine with me.... Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship: High I lose/you win.How? Agree, go along, give in, affirm. Low focus on own agenda
  • 7. Low focus on relationship AVOIDING Let me out of here…! I don’t want to talk about it… Conflict? What conflict? Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship: Low I lose/you lose.How? Withdraw, remain silent, walk away,postpone discussion, delay responding. Low focus on own agenda
  • 8. High focus on own agenda Let’s talk this through… My preference is….. And I want to hear and understand yours….. COOPERATING Focus on own agenda: High Focus on relationship: High I win/you win. How? Dialogue.Agree to talk things through.Assert self and support the other. High focus on relationship
  • 9. If we each back off and accept half of what we want, we can get an agreement and move on… COMPROMISING Focus on own agenda: Medium Focus on relationship: Medium We both win some/We both lose some. How?Bargain, strike a deal, find a little something for everyone.
  • 10. “When the only tool you have is a hammer, everything you see is a nail.” Mark Twain Each style is a valuable tool, essential for particular situations all of us face. We handle conflict better when we are equally skilled in all five styles. Then we can choose the style most likely to bring a good outcome. Learn the strengths and weaknesses of each. Grow by experimenting with greater use of styles you use least. www.ConflictStyleMatters.com