14. HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS
Without Fighting
STEPS:
1. STOP. Don't let the conflict get worse.
2. SAY what the conflict is about.
3. THINK of positive options.
4. CHOOSE a positive option each of you can agree on.
RULES
Agree to resolve the conflict
No name calling
Take turns talking. Don't interrupt
Be Clear and truthful about what is bothering you and what you really
need.
Listen to the other person.
Use your brains, not your hands.
Be willing to compromise (if that's appropriate).
16. HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS
Without Fighting
STEPS:
1. STOP. Don't let the conflict get worse.
2. SAY what the conflict is about.
3. THINK of positive options.
4. CHOOSE a positive option each of you can agree on.
RULES
Agree to resolve the conflict
No name calling
Take turns talking. Don't interrupt
Be Clear and truthful about what is bothering you and what you really
need.
Listen to the other person.
Use your brains, not your hands.
Be willing to compromise (if that's appropriate).
One of the most common things that allows conflicts to grow and escalate is assumptions – that other people won't understand, won't be reasonable, don't want to resolve things, etc.
The best way to resolve a situation is to deal directly with the person you are in conflict with. We recognize that this is not always easy to do and that you may need assistance.
Talking to co-workers or going 'over their heads' is more likely to escalate the situation than resolve it.
Even if the other party seems unwilling to address the situation in an appropriate manner, as an individual you can always improve your ability to address conflict.