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How to Create Healthy Boundaries
The document discusses the importance of establishing healthy boundaries for nonprofit professionals to enhance productivity and interpersonal relationships while addressing common boundary issues in the sector. It provides strategies for creating and maintaining these boundaries, highlighting steps such as knowing oneself, defining and communicating boundaries, and managing time effectively. The presentation emphasizes the necessity of strong personal boundaries to combat workplace challenges and promote a healthier work environment.
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- 1. COMPANY NAME www.nicecompany.com HowTo Create Healthy Boundaries For Nonprofit Professionals Presented by : Sheena Greer
- 2. Welcome Everyone! …But thiswork often takes a toll. You’re incredibly busy making the world a better place…
- 3. Definitions and differenttypes of boundaries. What We’ll Discuss Today 1 What are boundaries? Some common traits and theories. 2 Why we’re vulnerable Step-by-step ideas for creating change in your habits. 3 How to start naming & claiming Some common workplace issues and how you can combat them. 4 Strategies for your workplace
- 4. A bit aboutme…
- 5. My name isSheena Greer - Held every kind of role, from programs to marketing to fundraising to making the coffee. - Focus on simple, powerful communications. - I also have a dark secret… I’ve been working in the nonprofit sector for the better part of a decade…
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- 7. Why? Empathy ResponsibilityDisposition ProblemSolving (derp)
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- 9. Definition Personal boundaries areguidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits. They are built out of a mix of beliefs, opinions, attitudes, past experiences and social learning.
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- 14. Sets people atease.
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- 17. Encourages team members tothink for themselves.
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- 20. Four Flavours ofBoundaries Soft Spongy Rigid Flexible
- 21. Six Types ofBoundaries (your stuff) Material (your space) Physical (your feelings) Emotional (your soul) Spiritual (your body) Sexual (your thoughts) Mental
- 22. Violations Can BeConfusing Material Mental Emotional (and sometimes difficult to put your finger on…)
- 23. The Right Distance Family Co-Workers Friends Strangers
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- 25. Do You HaveBoundary Issues? say yes when you mean no feel guilty for saying no act against your beliefs stay quiet to keep the peace over-giving to feel “useful”
- 26. Do You HaveBoundary Issues? allowing yourself to be interrupted allowing yourself to be overly involved in problems your needs come second to results not expressing yourself if someone says something you find offensive accepting physical touch when you don’t want it
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- 28. Why are boundaryissues huge in our sector?
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- 30. Who works fornonprofits? Do-Gooder Passionate Hero Community Minded Bleeding Heart Humanitarian Selfless
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- 32. Dan Pallotta –Nonprofit Pathology “Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not because they’re more compassionate than others but because they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care- taking or to self-neglect.”
- 33. Dan Pallotta –Nonprofit Pathology “Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not because they’re more compassionate than others but because they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care- taking or to self-neglect.”
- 34. Dan Pallotta –Nonprofit Pathology “Maybe people get into the compassion business full-time not because they’re more compassionate than others but because they’re codependent. Maybe the driving force is really inverted narcissism — an unhealthy and unexamined addiction to care- taking or to self-neglect.” At some point, we have to ask ourselves why.
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- 37. Common Nonprofit Challenges Noresources Pay inequality Leadership Dysfunction Silos Misconceptions Wicked problems
- 39. People who are proneto give Systems that are set up to take Nonprofit Boundary Issues
- 41. Let’s name &claim our boundaries
- 42. 13 Steps ToBetter Boundaries Know Shift Define Communicate Prepare Discuss Structure Manage Reward Reciprocate Flex TrustRevisit
- 43. 1. Know Thyself Whatare your core values? What brings you here?
- 44. 2. Shift YourMind Repeat after me….
- 45. It is perfectly okayand absolutely acceptable to have boundaries.
- 46. 3. Define YourBoundaries What are your current boundaries? Your “Top Fives”
- 47. 4. Communicate YourBoundaries Do some boundary homework Define some past violations Strategize and discuss Expect this will be difficult
- 48. 5. Be PreparedFor Violations Visualize your plan of action Watch your number of apologies
- 49. 6. Discuss ViolationsDirectly I.D.S.R.S Be direct and concrete
- 50. 7. Use StructureWisely Time limits Agendas Action items
- 51. 8. Manage YourTime When you’ve maximized your time, it will be harder for people to steal it from you!
- 52. 9. Reward AndThank Acknowledge their help Encourage them to continue
- 53. 10. Reciprocate Examine yourown practices Be mindful of changing yourself
- 54. 11. Stay Flexible Healthyrelationships are the goal Sometimes this will require flexing
- 55. 12. Be PatientAnd Gentle Change takes time Trust your instincts
- 56. 13. Revisit OnA Regular Basis What has worked well? What more needs to be done?
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- 61. Review your job descriptionon a regular basis.
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- 65. Insist on structure and sayno when possible.
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- 67. Lead from the bottomup (or the middle out)
- 68. Put a board memberbetween you and the problem.
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- 70. The Bully DirtyDozen Insults Invasion Contact Threats “Jokes” Emails Humiliation Public shaming Interruptions 2-Faced Attacks Dirty Looks Silent Treatment
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- 74. People in oursector are prone to having boundary issues.
- 75. Naming and claimingboundaries takes time and commitment Know Shift Define Communicate Prepare Discuss Structure Manage Reward Reciprocate Flex TrustRevisit
- 76. Strong personal boundaries help you, yourteam, and the entire system.
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- 78. COMPANY NAME www.nicecompany.com Thankyou for attending!