The document provides 4 tips on setting boundaries: 1) Identify top 3 non-negotiables or highest priorities and schedule them daily/weekly without exception. 2) Say "no" clearly without explanation. 3) Take 24 hours to make decisions on requests to properly evaluate. 4) Determine personal limits before receiving requests to know where boundaries are drawn. The tips are for creating and maintaining healthy personal boundaries.

1. 4 Tips on Setting
Boundaries
By: Kassandra Bibas, ACC
http://www.kassandrabibas.com
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2. IDENTIFY YOUR TOP 3 NON-NEGOTIABLES
What are the top three priorities of your life and how
do you fit them into your daily/weekly schedule?
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3. For example,
• If your top three priorities are God, family and
health, the 3 non-negotiables you might choose
could include:
 Morning prayer
 Eating dinner as a family at least five nights a week
 Exercising daily
 A non-negotiable is something that gets done NO
MATTER what else you have to do during that day
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4. But…
• Suffer not one exception
• A NON-NEGOTIABLE is non-negotiable
• If it’s your priority, you have to make it one…
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5. SAY NO AND MEAN IT
Learn to say no clearly, concisely and completely.
A no that sounds like a yes is not a no.
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6. Assert without debating
• When you say no, there’s no need to explain, clarify
or debate the reasoning behind your decision
• Make the decision, communicate it and resist the
temptation to defend your position
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7. Remember…
• “Find your voice to ask for what you want.
Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you
always have the right to ask.”
• - Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
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8. GIVE YOURSELF 24 HOURS TO DECIDE…
No decision made in a hurry works out…
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9. Allow people to make
requests…
• Not demands…
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10. favor, request 24 hours to think
about it…
• It’ll give you time to evaluate, consider & make the
best choice for you…
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11. DECIDE WHERE YOUR LIMIT IS
Before you get a request, know where you’re drawing the line…
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12. For example,
• Do you work on Sundays?
• Can a friend ask you to babysit with less than 24
hours notice and you say yes?
• Are you willing to drop your plans to help out a
sibling?
• Will you work late and miss your child’s recital?
• Will you skip the gym in order to help out a friend?
• Will you stay up all night if your spouse needs help
with a last-minute project he/she procrastinated
on?
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13. Know where you
stand before you have
to take a stand…
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14. Learn more about creating
AND keeping healthy
boundaries:
Register for The Healthy Boundaries Master Class
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