This document discusses relationship banking accounts (RBA) as a metaphor for how relationships are strengthened or weakened based on deposits and withdrawals over time. It emphasizes making regular deposits through small acts of kindness, keeping commitments, understanding others' perspectives, and using respectful communication to maintain positive RBAs. Withdrawals include broken promises, gossip, arrogance, and failing to meet expectations.

2.  Wife  Babysitter
 Daughter  Therapist
 Sister  Nurse
 Aunt  Accountant
 Friend  Granddaughter
 Coach  Daughter-in-law
 Teacher  Chaperone
 Church member  Student
 Chef  Sister-in-law

3.  Role: a part you play in your relationship
 Relationship: the bond or connection you
have with other people
◦ Acquaintances
◦ Friends
◦ Family

4.  Communication  Compromise
◦ We will discuss all ◦ Problem solving
about this next class method in which
each participant
 Cooperation gives up something
to reach a solution
◦ Working together for
that satisfies
the good of all
everyone
◦ “Cheaper by the
Dozen”

5.  Person #1 is the ONLY person who may talk,
but cannot touch anything!!
 Person #2 CANNOT talk. He/she may only
use ONE hand and can only touch
marshmallows
 Person #3 CANNOT talk. He/she may only
use ONE hand and can only touch toothpicks

7.  Trustworthiness:  Caring:
◦ Do what you say you ◦ Show sympathy
will do and/or empathy
 Responsibility:  Citizenship:
◦ borrow something, it ◦ Be a good neighbor,
breaks, you replace help by shoveling
it. walks, etc.
 Fairness:  Respect:
◦ take turns, share ◦ Listen when someone
is talking

8. Respect: A feeling of deep admiration for someone
or something obtained by their
abilities, qualities, or achievements
 Respect for Self  Respect for others
◦ When you respect ◦ Listen
yourself you are ◦ Considerate others
more likely to seek feelings
relationships where ◦ Mutual trust: being
others will treat you dependable
with respect. ◦ Realistic in
expectations: cant
always be top priority

9.  A way to gage the strength or weakness of
your relationship.
 Much like a real checking/saving account at a
bank.
◦ As you make “DEPOSITS” the relationship
strengthens.
◦ When you make “WITHDRAWALS” the relationship
weakens

10.  We have a different “bank account” with
everyone we know.
◦ These relationships can be in the „positive‟ or the
„negative‟
 It requires conscious deposits in order to
maintain the relationship

11.  Deposits tend to evaporate or be forgotten
about.
 Where withdrawals turn to stone (not
forgotten…harder to forget)
 Too many withdrawals requires even more
deposits to bring the account back into the
positive.
 We must continually make deposits if we want
our RBA to stay positive.

12.  Breaking promises  Asking for a curfew
 Gossiping about extension
others  Borrowing the
 Not listening car…again
 Being arrogant  Waiting to be told
 Losing trust to do something
 Not fulfilling
expectations

13.  Understand the  Clarify Expectations
individual
 Show Personal
 Small courtesies Integrity
and kindness
 Use the most
 Keep our important words
commitments

14.  Recognize what is
important to that
person and take
interest in it
 Ex: Sam discusses
the stock market
with his dad who is
a stock-broker

15.  These are often
underrated, but
kind notes, winks,
hugs, etc quickly
add up in the RBA.
 These small acts
demonstrate
appreciation

16.  Doing WHAT we say
we will WHEN we
say we will
 Promising to be
somewhere & not
showing up =
withdrawal

17.  Critically important in
avoiding
contention, misunder
standings, & hurt
feelings
 Don‟t read minds or
expect others to read
yours.
 Ex: Moms idea of a
clean room might be
different than yours.

18.  Demonstrate
character in all your
actions &
relationships
 Be trustworthy &
honest. Don‟t
gossip

19.  Small, but
important words
make all the
difference in a
relationship.
 Ex: Please… Thank
you… I love you…
I‟m sorry… How can
I help…?