Social Intelligence (SI) is the ability to successfully build relationships and navigate social environments.
Our society puts a huge emphasis on book smarts and IQ, but our relationships effect a much bigger part of our lives.
Social smarts are far more important than your book smarts.
Building strong social relationships is worth the effort:
Strong relationships improve our immune system and help combat disease.
Loneliness and weak relationships are one of the major sources of stress, health problems and depression.
Our relationships affect every area of our lives–from colleagues to spouses to friends to kids.
Type theories personality theories (4 Temperament theory, 5 Temperament the...Manu Melwin Joy
Personality type refers to the psychological classification of different types of people. Personality trait refers to psychological classification of different levels or degrees
4 Temperament theory
5 Temperament theory
Type A and Type B theory
Type D theory
Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Enneagram of Personality
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Self-esteem refers to a person’s overall sense of his or her value or worth. It can be considered a sort of measure of how much a person “values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself” (Adler & Stewart, 2004).
According to Morris Rosenberg, self-esteem is quite simply one’s attitude toward oneself (1965). “favourable or unfavourable attitude toward the self”.
Various factors believed to influence our self-esteem include:
Genetics
Personality
Life experiences
Age
Health
Thoughts
Social circumstances
The reactions of others
Comparing the self to others
Self-esteem is not fixed .We can test for and improve upon it.
Type theories personality theories (4 Temperament theory, 5 Temperament the...Manu Melwin Joy
Personality type refers to the psychological classification of different types of people. Personality trait refers to psychological classification of different levels or degrees
4 Temperament theory
5 Temperament theory
Type A and Type B theory
Type D theory
Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI)
Enneagram of Personality
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Self-esteem refers to a person’s overall sense of his or her value or worth. It can be considered a sort of measure of how much a person “values, approves of, appreciates, prizes, or likes him or herself” (Adler & Stewart, 2004).
According to Morris Rosenberg, self-esteem is quite simply one’s attitude toward oneself (1965). “favourable or unfavourable attitude toward the self”.
Various factors believed to influence our self-esteem include:
Genetics
Personality
Life experiences
Age
Health
Thoughts
Social circumstances
The reactions of others
Comparing the self to others
Self-esteem is not fixed .We can test for and improve upon it.
Your Life Satisfaction Score (beta) is an indicator of how you thrive in your life: it reflects how well you shape your lifestyle, habits and behaviors to maximize your overall life satisfaction along the five following dimensions:
►1. Health & fitness, reflecting your physical well-being and healthy habits;
►2. Positive emotions & gratitude, indicating how well you embrace positive emotions;
►3. Skills & expertise, measuring the ability to grow your expertise and achieve something unique;
►4. Social skills & discovery, assessing the strength of your network and your inclination to discover the world;
►5. Leadership & meaning, gauging your compassion, generosity and how much 'you are living the life of your dream'.
Visit www.Authentic-Happiness.com to check your Life Satisfaction score. Free, no registration required.
What is impression formation? How does it contribute to sociability or social...Eric Wagobera Jnr
Impression formation is practically a part of our everyday life through which we endeavor to depict ourselves as worthy of other people's attention. This term paper explains in full detail what impression formation means and how this psychological process contributes to someone's sociability or social perception accuracy. The paper maintains that with the aid of several factors such as information from various sources and the emotional congeniality, we can form an impression of others – whether good or bad. There are some decisive issues such as social status, customs, gender, age, profession, personal attractiveness and attributes which determine the course of one's impression formation process and why those trying to impress should be attentive to some invisible but yet compelling forces that can either ruin or build up their impression before others. Quoting different authors in the field of psychology, the paper also highlights existing scholarly studies into impression formation which are necessary to understand the justified circumstances through which impression formation takes place. The two major theories of impression formation - Asch's theory of impression formation and the information integration theory are applied to explain the sharply contrasting scholarly views held about impression formation but one noteworthy concern is that they both offer accurate explanations of how both the externalities and internalities affect our impression before others. Furthermore, the paper explores the different ways through which impression formation contributes towards the sociability of someone or a group. Like the common saying ‘what you sow is what you reap', impression formation is a daunting task in which you have to portray the best version of you in order to yield the much-desired social perception accuracy. Also included are the practical recommendations for a positive impression formation which can prepare you appropriately for that critical moment when you all you have to do is putting up the most phenomenal impression to the job interview panel, product marketing or political debate. What needs to be acknowledged is that the kind of impression we create has the power to make us either socially acceptable or not and therefore, a well- planned impression formation will always contribute to a positive sociability while an unconvincing impression formation will definitely lead to a devastating sociability and its painstaking after effects.
Five factor/OCEAN model by Robert McCrae and Paul CostaMèhshara Khan
The Big Five Factor a.k.a OCEAN Model by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa including its history, timeline and details of all five factors: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness and Neuroticism
Martin Seligman found that the extent to which people were aware of and using their signature strengths (for example, courage, persistence, and wisdom) greatly impacted the quality of their lives (Park, Peterson, & Seligman, 2004; Seligman, 2012).
He developed a theory of well-being called the PERMA model comprising of five elements that create the foundation of a flourishing life :
Positive Emotions;
Engagement;
Relationships;
Meaning;
Accomplishments.
Decoding TAT 3 & 4- McClelland ‘s need and Interpretation of card 1 based o...Col Mukteshwar Prasad
TAT tests in SSB consisting of 11 impulse and one blank is modification of original TAT to be suitable for mass testing to find suitability of a candidate for Armed Forces
Overall picture of a candidate profile is generated by assessing all 12 stories written and assess level of presence of 15 Officers’ Like qualities on a 10 point scale with highest as 1 and least at 10
Being human these 15 traits or qualities which must be present to various degree depending upon cleanness of personality of the candidate
Highest rating which a candidate has achieved is overall 5 with sprinkling from 5 to 8 in various OLQs
SSB test is a go and no go test in Engg Terms or Pass or fail and not to check personality disorder of all candidates
However report on possible failing in each qualities are noted and allowed to pass if in the opinion of Assessor he can improve after training with ample motivation and insight
Since it is an assessment for possible performance in future ,hence McClelland ‘s need of Achievement Motivation ,Affiliation and Power is vital.
If a candidate has to show these needs then he must act or project action through protagonist or Hero.
Achievement and relationship directly indicates Factor 1 and 2.If result is success the Factor 3 and 4 must necessarily be present
Ten Scale scoring guide can help an Assessor to be more accurate and realistic
Knowing how and when to be empathetic helps us be more successful in our professional and personal life. David Swink, SI's Chief Creative Officer, shares how to overcome roadblocks to being empathetic.
Your Life Satisfaction Score (beta) is an indicator of how you thrive in your life: it reflects how well you shape your lifestyle, habits and behaviors to maximize your overall life satisfaction along the five following dimensions:
►1. Health & fitness, reflecting your physical well-being and healthy habits;
►2. Positive emotions & gratitude, indicating how well you embrace positive emotions;
►3. Skills & expertise, measuring the ability to grow your expertise and achieve something unique;
►4. Social skills & discovery, assessing the strength of your network and your inclination to discover the world;
►5. Leadership & meaning, gauging your compassion, generosity and how much 'you are living the life of your dream'.
Visit www.Authentic-Happiness.com to check your Life Satisfaction score. Free, no registration required.
What is impression formation? How does it contribute to sociability or social...Eric Wagobera Jnr
Impression formation is practically a part of our everyday life through which we endeavor to depict ourselves as worthy of other people's attention. This term paper explains in full detail what impression formation means and how this psychological process contributes to someone's sociability or social perception accuracy. The paper maintains that with the aid of several factors such as information from various sources and the emotional congeniality, we can form an impression of others – whether good or bad. There are some decisive issues such as social status, customs, gender, age, profession, personal attractiveness and attributes which determine the course of one's impression formation process and why those trying to impress should be attentive to some invisible but yet compelling forces that can either ruin or build up their impression before others. Quoting different authors in the field of psychology, the paper also highlights existing scholarly studies into impression formation which are necessary to understand the justified circumstances through which impression formation takes place. The two major theories of impression formation - Asch's theory of impression formation and the information integration theory are applied to explain the sharply contrasting scholarly views held about impression formation but one noteworthy concern is that they both offer accurate explanations of how both the externalities and internalities affect our impression before others. Furthermore, the paper explores the different ways through which impression formation contributes towards the sociability of someone or a group. Like the common saying ‘what you sow is what you reap', impression formation is a daunting task in which you have to portray the best version of you in order to yield the much-desired social perception accuracy. Also included are the practical recommendations for a positive impression formation which can prepare you appropriately for that critical moment when you all you have to do is putting up the most phenomenal impression to the job interview panel, product marketing or political debate. What needs to be acknowledged is that the kind of impression we create has the power to make us either socially acceptable or not and therefore, a well- planned impression formation will always contribute to a positive sociability while an unconvincing impression formation will definitely lead to a devastating sociability and its painstaking after effects.
Five factor/OCEAN model by Robert McCrae and Paul CostaMèhshara Khan
The Big Five Factor a.k.a OCEAN Model by Robert McCrae and Paul Costa including its history, timeline and details of all five factors: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness and Neuroticism
Martin Seligman found that the extent to which people were aware of and using their signature strengths (for example, courage, persistence, and wisdom) greatly impacted the quality of their lives (Park, Peterson, & Seligman, 2004; Seligman, 2012).
He developed a theory of well-being called the PERMA model comprising of five elements that create the foundation of a flourishing life :
Positive Emotions;
Engagement;
Relationships;
Meaning;
Accomplishments.
Decoding TAT 3 & 4- McClelland ‘s need and Interpretation of card 1 based o...Col Mukteshwar Prasad
TAT tests in SSB consisting of 11 impulse and one blank is modification of original TAT to be suitable for mass testing to find suitability of a candidate for Armed Forces
Overall picture of a candidate profile is generated by assessing all 12 stories written and assess level of presence of 15 Officers’ Like qualities on a 10 point scale with highest as 1 and least at 10
Being human these 15 traits or qualities which must be present to various degree depending upon cleanness of personality of the candidate
Highest rating which a candidate has achieved is overall 5 with sprinkling from 5 to 8 in various OLQs
SSB test is a go and no go test in Engg Terms or Pass or fail and not to check personality disorder of all candidates
However report on possible failing in each qualities are noted and allowed to pass if in the opinion of Assessor he can improve after training with ample motivation and insight
Since it is an assessment for possible performance in future ,hence McClelland ‘s need of Achievement Motivation ,Affiliation and Power is vital.
If a candidate has to show these needs then he must act or project action through protagonist or Hero.
Achievement and relationship directly indicates Factor 1 and 2.If result is success the Factor 3 and 4 must necessarily be present
Ten Scale scoring guide can help an Assessor to be more accurate and realistic
Knowing how and when to be empathetic helps us be more successful in our professional and personal life. David Swink, SI's Chief Creative Officer, shares how to overcome roadblocks to being empathetic.
Understand Consciousness, Courage and Communications (Part 1) in Detail - THENicole Payne
Communications problems result in misunderstanding, missed opportunities and often conflict. Organizational consultants will tell you that roughly 100 percent of work groups want to improve their communications. Interpersonal communication seems to be the bane of human existence. Learn more about The Human Element® (THE) @ thehumanelement.bconglobal.com
6 Ways to Improve Emotional Intelligence According to ScienceShanna Sloan
Looking for ways to improve emotional intelligence?
Raising your emotional intelligence is something that can be done at any stage in life, and it’s a skill that can benefit you for the rest of your days.
We all have good and bad thoughts from time to time and situation to situation. We are bombarded daily with spiraling thoughts(both negative and positive) creating all-consuming feel , making us difficult to manage with associated suffering. Good thoughts are like our Mob Signal (Positive thought) amidst noise(negative thought) in the atmosphere. Negative thoughts like noise outweigh positive thoughts. These thoughts often create unwanted confusion, trouble, stress and frustration in our mind as well as chaos in our physical world. Negative thoughts are also known as “distorted thinking”.
Leaders are often faced with ethical conundrums(a confusing and difficult problem or question). So how can they determine when they’re inching toward dangerous territory? There are three main psychological dynamics that lead to crossing moral lines.
There’s omnipotence: when someone feels so aggrandized and entitled that they believe the rules of decent behavior don’t apply to them.
Consider cultural numbness: when others play along and gradually begin to accept and embody deviant norms.
Finally, when people don’t speak up because they are thinking of more immediate rewards, we see justified neglect.
Generally most people mean well, but simply execute their job poorly sometimes and sometimes, there are BAD bosses. We must learn “to Work "on Bad Boss
According to dictionary.com, “to work” something or someone is to put them into effective operation, to operate that thing or person for productive purposes.
Put your Bad Boss into effective operation to get whatever you want in your job or career by learning your boss’s secret desire and secret fear
Two biggest issues of Bad Boss are:
They can negatively impact our work performance.
They can make life miserable
We often hear “being difficult.” about Bad Boss. It’s hard to know exactly where the difficulty lie. All we know is it is difficult to work successfully with this person.
An incompetent person is someone who is
Functionally inadequate or
Insufficient in Knowledge, Skills, Judgment, or Strength
Mindset is a mental attitude that determines how we interpret and respond to situations.
Dweck has found that it is your mindset that plays a significant role in determining achievement and success.
A mindset refers to whether you believe qualities such as intelligence and talent are fixed or changeable traits.
People with a fixed mindset believe that these qualities are inborn, fixed, and unchangeable.
Those with a growth mindset, on the other hand, believe that these abilities can be developed and strengthened by way of commitment and hard work.
Story of Katalin Karikó, a researcher who won the Nobel prize for medicine for her work on modifying the RNA molecule to avoid triggering a harmful immune response is a classical example of mindset.
Yet, her life was full of rejection and doubt.
Her achievement had much to do with her mindset.
A theory is a based upon a hypothesis and backed by evidence.
A theory presents a concept or idea that is testable.
In science, a theory is not merely a guess.
A theory is a fact-based framework for describing a phenomenon.
In psychology, theories are used to provide a model for understanding human thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.
Hence study of Psychology theory is essential for SSB and all types of Interviewas it helps us to understand our own developmental psychology.k
Personality theorists should study normal individuals
All behavior is interactive
The person must be studied in terms of interactions with their environment
The brain is the locus of personality
There is a biological basis to personality
Definition of Personality
1- Personality is an abstraction formulated by a theorist.
2- It refers to series of events that ideally span over life time from childhood to adulthood
3-It reflects novel, unique, recurrent and enduring patterns of behaviours – his education and training .
4- Personality is located in brain- imagination, perception
5.Personality comprises the person’s central organizing and governing processes, whose function is to
Resolve conflicts,
Satisfy needs, and
Plan for future goals.
” Emotions are complex psychological states involving three distinct components: a subjective experience, a physiological response, and a behavioral or expressive response”
"Discovering Psychology," by Don Hockenbury and Sandra E. Hockenbury
In 1972, psychologist Paul Ekman suggested that there are six basic emotions that are universal throughout human cultures: fear, disgust, anger, surprise, joy, and sadness.
In the 1980s, Robert Plutchik introduced another emotion classification system known as the wheel of emotions. This model demonstrated how different emotions can be combined or mixed together, much like the way an artist mixes primary colors to create other colors.
Plutchik proposed eight primary emotional dimensions: joy vs. sadness, anger vs. fear, trust vs. disgust, and surprise vs. anticipation.
These emotions can then be combined to create others, such as happiness + anticipation = excitement.
In 1999, Ekman expanded his list to include a number of other basic emotions, including embarrassment, excitement, contempt, shame, pride, satisfaction, and amusement
Anger is an intense emotion you feel when
Something has gone wrong or
Someone has wronged you.
It is typically characterized by feelings of
Stress,
Frustration, and
Irritation.
Anger is a perfectly normal response to frustrating or difficult situations.
Anger only becomes a problem when
It’s excessively displayed and
Begins to affect your daily functioning and the way you relate with people.
Anger can range in intensity, from a slight annoyance to rage.
It can sometimes be excessive or irrational.
In these cases, it can be hard to keep the emotion in check and could cause you to behave in ways you wouldn’t otherwise behave.
Cognitive distortions are
Negative or irrational patterns of thinking.
Simply ways that Impostor Syndrome convinces us to believe things that aren’t really true.
Inaccurate thought patterns that
Reinforce our negative self perception and
Keep us feeling bad about ourselves
These negative thought patterns can play a role in
Diminishing our motivation,
Lowering our self-esteem
Contributing to problems like
Anxiety,
Depression, and
Substance use.
Trauma Bonding is the attachment an abused person feels for their abuser, specifically in a relationship with a cyclical pattern of abuse.
Is created due to a cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement
After each circumstance of abuse, the abuser professes love, regret, and trying to make the relationship feel safe and needed for the abused person.
Hence Abused
Finds leaving an abusive situation confusing and overwhelming
Involves positive and/or loving feelings for an abuser
Also feel attached to and dependent on their abuser.
Emotional abuse involves controlling another person by using emotions to Criticize , Embarrass ,Shame ,Blame or
Manipulate .
To be abusive there must be a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviours that Wear down a person’s Self-esteem and Undermine Their mental health.
Most common in married relationships,
Mental or emotional abuse can occur in any relationship—including among
Friends
Family members and
Co-workers
Attachment-related patterns that differ between individuals are commonly called "attachment styles."
There seems to be an association between a person’s attachment characteristics early in life and in adulthood, but the correlations are far from perfect.
Many adults feel secure in their relationships and comfortable depending on others (echoing “secure” attachment in children).
Others tend to feel anxious about their connection with close others—or prefer to avoid getting close to them in the first place (echoing “insecure” attachment in children).
Borderline personality disorder, characterized by a longing for intimacy and a hypersensitivity to rejection, have shown a high prevalence and severity of insecure attachment.
Attachment styles in adulthood (similar to attachment patterns in children):
Secure
Anxious-preoccupied (high anxiety, low avoidance)
Dismissing-avoidant (low anxiety, high avoidance)
Fearful-avoidant (high anxiety, high avoidance)
Conduct disorder is an ongoing pattern of behaviour marked by emotional and behavioural problems.
Ways in which Children with conduct disorder behave are
Angry,
Aggressive,
Argumentative, and
Disruptive ways.
It is a diagnosable mental health condition that is characterized by patterns of violating
Societal norms and
Rights of others
It's estimated that around 3% of school-aged children have conduct disorder and require professional treatment .
It is more common in boys than in girls.
Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is a psychiatric disorder that typically emerges in childhood, between ages 6 and 8, and can last throughout adulthood.
ODD is more than just normal childhood tantrums
Frequency and severity of ODD causes difficulty at home and at school.
Children with ODD also struggle with learning problems related to their behavior.
Two types of oppositional defiant disorder:
Childhood-onset ODD:
Present from an early age
Requires early intervention and treatment to prevent it from progressing into a more serious conduct disorder
Adolescent-onset ODD:
Begins suddenly in the middle- and high-school years, causing conflict at home and in school
There have been at least 13 different types of intelligence that have been identified so far.
These different ways of being smart can help people perform in different areas from their personal life, business, to sports and relationships.
Attachment is an emotional bond with another person. John Bowlby described attachment as a "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.“
Earliest bonds formed by children (with caregivers) have a tremendous impact that continues throughout life and Attachment so developed
Serves to keep the infant close to the mother, thus improving the child's chances of survival.
Are innate drive Children are born with and is a product of evolutionary processes
Emerges and are regulated through the process of natural selection,
Are characterized by clear behavioural and motivation patterns.
Nurturance and responsiveness were the primary determinants of attachment.
Children who maintained proximity to an attachment figure were more likely to
Receive comfort and protection, and
More likely to survive to adulthood.
e-RUPI is a person and purpose-specific cashless e-voucher designed to guarantee
that the stored money value reaches its intended beneficiary and can only be used for
the specific benefit or purpose for which it was intended. The idea is to create a minimal
logistics, leak-proof delivery mechanism for a wide range of government Direct Benefit
Transfer (DBT) programs across the country. The digital e-voucher platform can also
be used by organizations who wish to support welfare services through e-RUPI instead
of cash
The term ‘Moonlighting’ became popular in America when people started working a second job in addition to their regular 9-to-5 jobs. Since the rise of the work-from-home concept during the pandemic, employees got free time after work hours. While some took up their hobby in their free time, others started searching for part-time jobs. Especially in the IT industry, employees took up two jobs simultaneously and took advantage of the remote working model. This concept of working for two companies/organisations is referred to as moonlighting.
A Strategic Approach: GenAI in EducationPeter Windle
Artificial Intelligence (AI) technologies such as Generative AI, Image Generators and Large Language Models have had a dramatic impact on teaching, learning and assessment over the past 18 months. The most immediate threat AI posed was to Academic Integrity with Higher Education Institutes (HEIs) focusing their efforts on combating the use of GenAI in assessment. Guidelines were developed for staff and students, policies put in place too. Innovative educators have forged paths in the use of Generative AI for teaching, learning and assessments leading to pockets of transformation springing up across HEIs, often with little or no top-down guidance, support or direction.
This Gasta posits a strategic approach to integrating AI into HEIs to prepare staff, students and the curriculum for an evolving world and workplace. We will highlight the advantages of working with these technologies beyond the realm of teaching, learning and assessment by considering prompt engineering skills, industry impact, curriculum changes, and the need for staff upskilling. In contrast, not engaging strategically with Generative AI poses risks, including falling behind peers, missed opportunities and failing to ensure our graduates remain employable. The rapid evolution of AI technologies necessitates a proactive and strategic approach if we are to remain relevant.
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Macroeconomics- Movie Location
This will be used as part of your Personal Professional Portfolio once graded.
Objective:
Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
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The Roman Empire, a vast and enduring power, stands as one of history's most remarkable civilizations, leaving an indelible imprint on the world. It emerged from the Roman Republic, transitioning into an imperial powerhouse under the leadership of Augustus Caesar in 27 BCE. This transformation marked the beginning of an era defined by unprecedented territorial expansion, architectural marvels, and profound cultural influence.
The empire's roots lie in the city of Rome, founded, according to legend, by Romulus in 753 BCE. Over centuries, Rome evolved from a small settlement to a formidable republic, characterized by a complex political system with elected officials and checks on power. However, internal strife, class conflicts, and military ambitions paved the way for the end of the Republic. Julius Caesar’s dictatorship and subsequent assassination in 44 BCE created a power vacuum, leading to a civil war. Octavian, later Augustus, emerged victorious, heralding the Roman Empire’s birth.
Under Augustus, the empire experienced the Pax Romana, a 200-year period of relative peace and stability. Augustus reformed the military, established efficient administrative systems, and initiated grand construction projects. The empire's borders expanded, encompassing territories from Britain to Egypt and from Spain to the Euphrates. Roman legions, renowned for their discipline and engineering prowess, secured and maintained these vast territories, building roads, fortifications, and cities that facilitated control and integration.
The Roman Empire’s society was hierarchical, with a rigid class system. At the top were the patricians, wealthy elites who held significant political power. Below them were the plebeians, free citizens with limited political influence, and the vast numbers of slaves who formed the backbone of the economy. The family unit was central, governed by the paterfamilias, the male head who held absolute authority.
Culturally, the Romans were eclectic, absorbing and adapting elements from the civilizations they encountered, particularly the Greeks. Roman art, literature, and philosophy reflected this synthesis, creating a rich cultural tapestry. Latin, the Roman language, became the lingua franca of the Western world, influencing numerous modern languages.
Roman architecture and engineering achievements were monumental. They perfected the arch, vault, and dome, constructing enduring structures like the Colosseum, Pantheon, and aqueducts. These engineering marvels not only showcased Roman ingenuity but also served practical purposes, from public entertainment to water supply.
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9 Social Intelligence Principles Everyone Can
Master
(Ref Goleman in Science and People)
2. Social Intelligence
Social Intelligence (SI) is the ability to successfully build
relationships and navigate social environments.
Our society puts a huge emphasis on book smarts and IQ, but our
relationships effect a much bigger part of our lives.
Social smarts are far more important than your book smarts.
Building strong social relationships is worth the effort:
Strong relationships improve our immune system and help combat
disease.
Loneliness and weak relationships are one of the major sources of stress,
health problems and depression.
Our relationships affect every area of our lives–from colleagues to
spouses to friends to kids.
3. Your Social Brain
We are wired to connect.
Goleman argues that we have specific structures in our brain built to
optimize relationships:
A spindle cell is the fastest acting neuron in our brain that
guides our social decisions.
Human brains contain more of these spindle cells than any other
species.
Mirror neurons help us predict the behavior of people around
us by subconsciously mimicking their movements.
This helps us feel as they feel, move as they move.
When a man gets a look from a woman he finds attractive, his brain
secretes dopamine–a chemical that makes us feel pleasure
4. #1: The Protoconversation
There is so much going on behind our words.
As we speak, our brains are taking in micro expressions, voice
intonations(The way voice rises and falls while speaking), gestures and
pheromones(Chemical released by a person which changes behaviour
of another person) .
People who have high SI have a greater awareness of their protoconversations.
Goleman identifies two aspects:
Social Awareness: How you respond to ot hers
Primal Empathy: Sensing other people’s feelings
Attunement: Listening with full receptivity
Empathic Accuracy: Understanding others’ thoughts and intentions
Social Cognition: Understanding the social world and the working of a web of
relationships
Social Facility: Knowing how to have smooth, effective interactions
Synchrony: Interacting smoothly
Self-presentation: Knowing how you come across
Influence: Shaping the outcome of social interactions
Concern: Caring about others’ needs
5. #2: Your Social Triggers
Social awareness as trigger .
People and places trigger different emotions and this affects our ability to
connect.
Many times we felt excited and energized by an interaction.
Many times we felt drained and defeated after an interaction.
Goleman presents a theory on how our brain processes social interactions:
The Low Road is our instinctual, emotion-based way we process
interactions. is our instinctual, emotion-based way we process interactions.
It’s how we read
Body-language,
Facial expressions
Then formulate gut feelings about people.
The High Road is our logical, critical thinking part of an interaction.
We use the high road to
Communicate,
Tell stories and
Make connections.
6. #2: Your Social Triggers……
Why are these important?
The Low Road guides our gut feelings and instincts.
For example, if people didn’t come to your birthday parties as a kid, you
might feel a pang of anxiety when thinking about your own birthday as an
adult–even if you have plenty of friends who would attend.
Your High Road tells you that you are a grown up and things have
changed, but your Low Road still gives you social anxiety.
These are social triggers.
You should be aware of your unconscious social triggers to help you make
relationship decisions.
Knowing your Low Road social triggers helps your High Road
function.
Here’s how you can identify yours:
What kinds of social interactions do you dread?
Who do you feel anxious hanging out with?
When do you feel you can’t be yourself?
7. #3: Your Secure Base
Whether you are a cheerful extrovert or a quiet introvert,
everyone needs space and a place to recharge.
Goleman suggests a “secure base.”
This is a place, ritual or activity that helps us
process emotions and occurrences.
A secure base is helpful for two main reasons.
First, it gives us a place to recharge before
interactions so we don’t get burnt out.
Second, it helps us process and learn from each
social encounter.
It may be referred as a post-mortem.
After a business pitch, Meeting , party etc. Do set aside
time to reflect and review what went right and wrong?
8. #3: Your Secure Base…
Here are some questions I ask during my post-mortem:
What went well?
What went wrong?
What would I have done differently?
What did I learn from this interaction?
Possible secure base ideas on where you can do your post-mortem:
In the car driving home
Journal before bed
Business workbook for ideas
Brainstorming with a partner
Re-hash with a friend
9. #4: Broken Bonds
One of the biggest pitfalls in social intelligence is a lack of empathy (
Goleman calls these Broken Bonds.)
Philosopher Martin Buber coined the idea of the “I-It” connection
which happens when one person treats another like an object as
opposed to a human being.
Imagine you receive wishes are cold,memorized and insincere which you can
visualize based on circumstances.You would feel worse not better.
This interaction makes you feel like an ‘it’ –a to do list item, a
‘should,’ an obligation /coldhearted. Do not be a party to do /should list
which are perfunctory, predictable and boring.
Don’t interact because you feel that you‘should.’
Say no to obligations if you can.
Interact with empathy or don’t interact at all.
10. #5: Positively Infectious
When someone smiles at us, it’s hard not to smile back.
The same goes for other facial expressions.
When our friend is sad and begins to tear up, our own eyes will often
get moist.
These are our mirror neurons in action–part of our Low Road response
to people.
If moods are catching, gravitate towards people who will infect you
with the good ones!
11. #6: Adopt to Adapt
Our Low Road automatically mirrors the people around us.
This is how empathy works.
Our brain copies the people around us so we feel as they feel.
This in turn helps us understand them, where they are coming from and even be
better at predicting their reactions.
“Many paths of the low road run through mirror neurons.The neurons
activate in a person based on something that is experienced by another
person in the same way is experienced by the person himself.Whether
pain (or pleasure) is anticipated or seen in another,the same neuron is
activated.”-Goleman,41
Big idea: Don’t fight it!
Sometimes our High Road gets in the way.
For example, if our partner is angry at something generally we try to stay calm and
try to calm them down.
Usually this makes it worse as partner feels you‘don’t really understand’ or you
‘don’t get them.’ Because you are fighting your instinct to mirror their upset.
Sometimes you should let yourself adopt their emotions to get a new glimpse into
their perspective and stay on the same page.
12. #7 Beaware of Dark Triad
The Dark Triad refers to three negative personality traits that are different, yet
related
Narcissism - Rauthman finds it distinct from other two
Machiavellianism, and – “Malicious Two”
Psychopathy. – “Malicious Two”
1. Narcissism –But not narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) .This term came about
because of the Greek myth of Narcissus, a young man who fell in love with his reflection
after looking at himself in a pond of water. He became so engrossed in it that he fell into
the water and drowned . Synonymous with unhealthy self-love.
Narcissism is characterized by
The pursuit of ego gratification,
Vanity,
A sense of superiority and Prideful, ,
Grandiosity,
Dominance and Have a low tolerance for criticism. , and
Entitlement.
Lack empathy for others
Narcissists have no qualms about manipulating others for their gain.
People are narcissistic to different degrees.
Many narcissists only harm themselves.
Narcissists possess qualities that others find desirable, such as being more physically attractive,
charming, conscientious, and achievement-oriented but fades over time.
Narcissists are brightest of three
13. #8: Mindblind
Mindblind is the inability to sense what is happening in the mind of
someone else.
The key to mindsight is compassion.
No to following question puts you on mindblind and yes to mindsight
Can you usually guess what someone is about to say?
Are you good at predicting people’s behavior?
Do you think you are intuitive?
“In short,self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy,let alone
compassion.When we focus on ourselves,our world contracts as our
problems and preoccupations loom large.But when we focus on others,our
world expands.Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so
seem smaller,and we increase our capacity for connection – or
compassionate action.”– Goleman,54
We are wired for altruism.
We are inherently good.
However, sometimes we forget how good it makes us feel to be good.
Dr. Baron-Cohen devised something called the Empathy Quotient.This is a
quiz to test your empathy levels.
14. #9: A People Prescription
“The most striking finding on relationships and physical health
is that socially integrated people,those who are married,have
close family and friends,belong to social and religious groups,
and participate widely in these networks,recover more quickly
from disease and live longer.Roughly eighteen studies show a
strong connection between social connectivity and mortality.”–
Goleman,247
Goleman’s prescription for a long, healthy happy life is positive
relationships.
Our partner, our friends, our colleagues our kids, they support our
soul as well as our immune system.
Goleman shares studies that have found that kinds words, physical
touch, a song from childhood improve the vital signs of the
sick and even fatally ill.