This document outlines 8 steps to overcome feelings of hurt: 1. Acknowledge and accept what hurt you without numbing emotions or distracting yourself. 2. Get clear on exactly what happened without biases or judgements. 3. Try to resolve feelings by accepting an apology or getting closure by conveying you are hurt. 4. Decide whether to forgive or let go of the relationship by distancing yourself.

1. 8 Steps To
Overcome The
Feelings of Hurt
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2. Things in life, won’t entirely turn out as we expect that causes to get
hurt along the way. You may get hurt due to lying, cheating in
relationship or marriage by your partner or by a friend in friendship.
Or it can also be a breakup. No matter what the reason is thinking
about the past hurt for a long can cause a person feel stress,
depression and anxiety. Thus its necessary to overcome the stress
caused by the past hurt.
Here are 8 steps that may help you to overcome the feelings of hurt :

3. Step 1 - Acknowledging and
accepting what hurt us.
Take your time to calm your emotions and settle your
mind. Avoid numbing any emotions or distracting
yourself, it’s okay to get hurt, so understand and
acknowledge your feeling.

4. Step 2 - Get Very Clear About
What Exactly Happened
If they want to vent out their feelings, you need to show
your true support by listening patiently. Without biases
and judgments, let them talk their heart out.

5. Step 3: Resolving our
Feelings of Hurt
Try to resolve by accepting the apology of the
person who hurt you or in case of relationship, get
closure by conveying to your partner that you are
hurt.

6. Step 4: Time to Make a
Decision
Forgive the other person or to simply let go of the
relationship and distance from the person as holding on
will hurt you more.

7. Step 5: Let go of the past
Overcome the negative thoughts by
understanding that we can’t change the past.
Don’t keep thinking about the past or how we
could have done things differently.

8. Step 6: Focusing on our Good
Things
Focusing on good things like what we are grateful for will allow us
to create some positivity.

9. Step 7: Let go of the negative.
It’s natural to think negatively after getting hurt but don’t look for
validation in these negative thoughts.

10. Step 8: Not Taking Things
So Personally
Sometimes people say and do things because due
to their own personal insecurities and problems
and end up regretting some of the things they do
and say. Forgiving and understanding will allow
you to focus on your own mental peace.

11. Every hurt gives us an opportunity to
learn more about our self. And as we
learn, we grow, and as we grow, we
will make better choices and decisions
in the future, and help us to manage
and minimize our feelings of hurt far
more effectively.
Counselling for stress and anxiety can
help you learn the mindful ways to
overcome the hurt and negative
thinking.
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