A man has been trying to cut down a tree in the rain for hours, after a while his neighbor seeing that the man is facing some difficulty goes over and asks what the problem is, and the man replies “It’s hard to cut down the tree because the wood is wet.”. The neighbor replies “Since nature is not in our control, and you can’t do anything about the rain, you can surely do something about the saw and sharpen it, you’ll be able to cut down the tree faster that way”. Read more at - https://www.betterlyf.com/articles/stress-and-anxiety/how-to-focus-on-things-in-your-control/

1. A man has been trying to cut down a tree in the rain
for hours, after a while his neighbor seeing that the
man is facing some difficulty goes over and asks
what the problem is and the man replies “It’s hard to
cut down the tree because the wood is wet.
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2. Ask yourself if
the problem is
solvable
If we focus on problems where the
stressor is an external factor like other
people’s behavior then we would not be
putting our energy to good use as the
way people act is not in our hands so
we should focus on working on factors
that are our responsibility.

3. Challenge the
reality of anxious
thoughts
We often become so caught up in our
negative thought patterns that we tend
to maximize the adversities and
discount the positives.

4. Accept
uncertainty
Often our best laid plans do not
materialize and it becomes a source of
stress for us. We go over every minute
detail as to where things could have
gone wrong.

5. Focus on the
present rather
than the past or
future
We have no control over what is going
to happen the next minute no matter
how prepared we are and how much
planning is done.

6. Confine your
worrying to one
time period
during the day
If worrying seems inevitable then we
should try to limit it to a specific time
period so we don’t expend all our
energies on it and rather allocate more
time on the resolution of problems.

7. Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening; it will only stop
you from enjoying the good things. You may also take the help of
an online counselor or therapist if you feel overwhelmed by any
situation and overthink a lot.
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